#i'm so tired why can't people do their fucking jobs lmfao

[theghostofashton]

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[purpurussy]

id love to know more about your dinok au <333

thank you for asking <3 + sorry for responding to this a little late! i'm having trouble formulating my thoughts on it atm

my concept is that dan never found phil's channel, never met him, went to uni and married a girl he met there, and became a somewhat unsuccessful legal professional because he fucking hates his job. the vibe for him is that he kinda just let life drag him along, without really allowing himself to actually Live, and now he's in too deep to just come out as gay... like he's experiencing some insane cognitive dissonance dshshglk. coping through denial+alcohol has been working okay for him so far but now his career is flopping heavily and his marriage is falling apart bc he doesn't want kids (obviously) and his wife starting to suspect something is up. he meets phil through a mutual friend who he plays final fantasy with, they start talking via discord and then it's like "but wait what's this? my god it's manic pixie dream girl phil lester with a steel chair"

it's very angsty, slow burn, will they/won't they. but trust that phil is gonna see this sopping wet mess of a man and say "i can fix him" (and then dan will fix himself because i don't like that trope <3 but he needs phil to help him see that he can live his truth and be happy yk)

it's kinda hard to write because it's a bit depressing... i'm finally getting to the part where they meet irl and things start to turn around, but so far it's just been dan drinking to cope and feeling lonely :( i'm trying to go back and edit some humor into it to make it less upsetting to read lmfao. although it's fun to create a contrast between how bad dan's life fucking sucks and how much joy and whimsy he finds in talking to phil <3 it's also just really hard to write denial/cognitive dissonance if that makes sense? there's a lot to explore psychologically. and also I don't want to frame dan's beard wife as an antagonist, I feel like it would be very easy to demonize her but she's not to blame for this mess ykwim. like i don't want dan to be a "my bitch wife" kinda guy DSGSHGKG he's just scared. and the story is supposed to be about him being brave and healing, and realizing that a better life is possible. like he is his own antagonist dslskfghgjkl

I'm also enjoying the concept of the timeline roughly following their irl 2009 timeline. like they start talking around dan's 33rd birthday, meet on october 19th etc. i like the idea of some things being kinda constants even in a different timeline

anyway they just voice chat for a while and get to know each other without actually even knowing what the other looks like. and they lowkey fall in love even before they've even seen each other. so here is them seeing pics of each other for the first time and dying in a tragic double penis explosion incident

(earlier on phil tried to be like "why are you gay? you are gay." but dan just got scared and dodged the question so now he's not even out to phil . can you believe. that's gonna be real awkward when they start making out sloppy style 3 chapters later)

(also i just realized i've written [dan] like a million times while writing this LMAO that did not actually click for me until now)

sorry for rambling for ages! i'm so tired atm so i can't really be coherent lmao.

i really wanna post this once it's done, but i'm worried it'll be too sad and angsty at the beginning and people won't be into it 😭 i'm probably not doing a good job selling this but it'll be okay i promise

also shoutout to the people who helped me brainstorm dan's username! i havent decided yet but i like the idea of him picking something generic at first, and then changing it to something more meaningful as he goes on his little journey of self-discovery

[lgbtlunaverse]

I'd love to use the notes to make fun of the reading comprehension on this website but i'm on other social media and they all react in the exact same manner so this is less of a "how dare you say we piss on the poor" and more of a "holy shit people please learn to recognise dogwhistles and propaganda"

Because in the notes you've got hoardes of people saying "well this sounds like a pretty good life for a person to lead, i'd love to be in the position of the woman described here. And he did not EXPLICITLY say that he doesn't want her to work at all, just not a soul-sucking job she hates, and he also didn't EXPLICITLY say all couples should live like this, this is just for him and his wife! Why are you making this innocent tiktok about one guy about broader issues?" And oh my fucking god you people. I can't.

This is the point. They oversell you a fantasy that is broadly unattainable and not actually ideal for a lot of people (the hardworking husband who slaves away at his job and comes home to a beautiful wife who spends her days being happy and stress-free tending to the house and farm in thankfullness rewards him with lovely food and sex) and get you hooked on the idea of it. Only THEN do they go in with the second layer of "this IS attainable but modern society and feminism are trying to take it away from you." And after that the third layer "this is the proper way to live and anyone who doesn't want this is evil and unnatural"

If you look at the first layer in isolation and claim it has nothing to do with the second or third because it is not saying those parts out loud yet, congratulations, you are falling for it!

The quiet part here is "men are fit for the workspace, women are not. And women would be happier of they just left the working to the men." It uses people's very understandable exhaustion and collective burnout from being under the boot of capitalism, and the loneliness from being stuck at home because of a pandemic for over 2 years, to sell them the idea that the solution to these problems is patriarchal gender roles. Men, do you feel isolated and alone and do you struggle to connect to people on a satisfying and rewarding level? Women, are you tired of having to work several minimum wage jobs to get by and not drown in debt? Do I have the answer for you!

Why do you think the commenter immediately knew to connect it to masculinity and femininity? Why do you think the reverse fantasy is never sold like this? Men are also stuck working boring, soul-sucking, dead-end jobs. Women are also lonely and looking for loving and emotionally fullfilling relationahips. So why do you never get "I'm gonna girlboss and make lots of money so I can spoil my boyfriend and he'll never have to work a day in his life" content? Because that's not the "natural" way.

And disclaimer, no, not every couple who just happens to fit into the working dad and stay at home mom label and talks about it on the internet is part of the propaganda machine. A portion are, but some people just live their life and aren't trying to push it on everyone else. This guy, however, is not describing his own life, he is describing a fantasy, and it's sublte but from the language like "it's my DUTY as a man" and "become an ethereal feminine goddess" you can ABSOLUTELY tell what the purpose is lmfao.

Hell, even the way he described the scenario of his wife having a soul-sucking job is telling. It's not bad because it makes her miserble. It ~drains her of her warmth & radiance~ aka makes her less like the perfect fantasy wife of his dreams.

the repackaging of old misogynistic ideas that younger generations think they’ve outgrown into buzzword-filled tik toks and tweets that will be pushed towards young impressionable people is extremely dangerous. But also extremely funny like you can’t get this anywhere else