#i'm so real abt not caring abt picking battles. but if your parents are loud n crazy. get louder and crazier

[neonstatic]

re: housesitting at my ladyfriend's. i told my mom and she seemed resigned at first but then later started praying and crying abt it??? which is so... i've always known her to be the dramatic, emotional type, but oh my god, that is a new record. and then she called my dad to tell him, which prompted a sermon from him abt trusting ppl and their intentions (which may or may not be malevolent and involve spirits) and like ohhhhh my goddd!!!! oh my god why this it always gotta be evil curses and mean ppl w these ppl!

trust me, i know how uncommon that is. i'm aware that i don't go abt relationships like your average person and that this proposal is quite unorthodox between ppl who aren't related or long-time friends. and i can think of a billion ways that it can go wrong but i don't want to let fear stop me from trying things, however rational that fear sounds. i'm already living a life ruled fear as it is.

"it's ok if she gives you the keys so you can feed the cat or water the plants, but she can't offer you to sleep over" why not. it's her place why tf not. ohhh my god. and sure i don't know her as much as i know my high school besties, but why must i wait to know ppl for 10 yrs before i can just go over to their house and sleep over? how is it any different from moving out on my own or living w roommates

it's also a big deal for them that she's not family. they're v family-oriented and they don't understand how i could feel closer to "strangers" than a blood-related relative. to them, it would be more natural to fly me to haiti for a week w cousins i've never spoken to. i get it, right, but i disagree. my sister says my frustration w my parents' reaction shows that i don't understand their concern but no, i do. i see where they're coming from. i can rationalise all of it. i'm just choosing not to let their fears decide how i live my life. they're the ones who don't get it and think i'm weird for it.

she also asked me if it was worth fighting over and i mean, no, it's not a big deal. i don't need to go. i could go next year. but i'm starting to think there is no small or big battle to pick when it comes to overbearing parents. you gotta wear em down even for insignificant stuff, until they learn not to have their noses in your business. if it makes me a stubborn, crazy-looking person, then so be it.

(MIND YOU, i would be gone for 1 day and 1 night. just 30 minutes away. i've been gone for longer in farther places than that, including a religious camp where a man in authority was later arrested for possession!!!! hello!!!!!!)