#i'm so confused idk what was preachy about it

[lemonhemlock]

alright, i calmed down LMAO you don’t have to post that rant. it is obviously no beef with you or anyone who is normal enough to follow you. like i said, i’m not even into the ship anymore, it is just so irritating and confusing to see this stuff. especially when the ones who keep bringing it up have all the tools to never see a single thing about this ship for the rest of their online existence.

lmfao ok i won't publish if you don't want but it was funny, what can i say 😂🙏

i just wanted to randomly add that i used to lurk on twitter in the magnus archives fandom and every morning during my commute i would check out what the girlies and the boylies had produced overnight for the jonelias ship. this was 2020, full-blast pandemic, right? so spirits were low, yet here i was reading THEE filthiest, most fucked up, most hilarious prepositions, like, ovipositor type shit, right?? hannibal-level mental trickery. and the only thing i did was log into twitter and type jonelias in the search bar and i would be cackling. laughing my arse off with tears in my eyes and having a blast. in the greencest space i have seen some real bombshells in my time, but i don't think anything truly compared to the absolute depravity that was jonelias.

now this was not a popular ship by all means and it grew to be quite hated, too + there was a vocal majority that shipped the rival canon ship. but i don't remember people being that rude or pressed about this ship or downright harassing other people or sending them anon hate? (i might be wrong idk! i'm just speaking from what i saw)

and, believe you me, the TMA fandom produced their own doozies. at some point a shift occurred and the fandom started to become more loudly moralising and preachy and there was backlash over the dumbest shit. a peculiar obsession to be morally right about everything all the time, the same trend of equating fictional themes with moral worth, but with an unacknowledged undercurrent of righteous bullying. people complaining about dark themes (this was a horror podcast, mind you, and could get genuinely scary at times. how dare there be actual horror, right?) so much so that imo it affected the actual ending of the show.

and somehow that attitude has seeped into more and more fandoms until it seems to have become the norm. i like to believe and hope that this is just a trend and that these individuals will grow out of it, but, in the meantime, we are going to have to find the tools and the patience within ourselves to deal with it on a personal level. because they're not going anywhere, but neither can we let this truly takeover and cement itself as normal fandom expectations or else we are all cooked.

[iwatoobies]

Sorry, I'm a little confused: what's the difference between a regular shipper and a fujoshi? I don't really understand pls help thank u

the definition for fujoshi is little murky tbh but to me it comes down to your attitude, like do you enjoy mlm ships exclusively for sex and/or kink (so basically. actively fetizising mlm) or just simply enjoying a ship for their dynamic and potential. and confusingly enough i don't even necessarily think including sex in your shipping makes you a fujo. it's again, more about your attitude. like sometimes. couples have sex. idk it's also harmful to desexualize gay relationships so i hope i'm making sense (this obviously doesn't apply to ace hcs those are important too for other reasons)

big part of fujo-dom is making it your identity of sorts, like calling yourself a fujoshi/yaoi fangirl/something of the sort and being almost proud of it. so essentially fujoshis are the people (usually straight women) who call mlm ships dirty and sinful and go 🥵😈 while still actively consuming explicit art and content abt them.

not to get too preachy but fandom and real life aren't as separate as some people like to think. mlm aren't. content they're real people who are usually uncomfortable with women fetizising their intimate relationships. so like there is a clear line that's hard to define but easy to spot

yeah that's my incomprehensible answer sorry nonnie

[dilf-manifester]

Well, around 2 months ago (3 months now, I think? I don't know anymore.) My best friend committed suicide. I don't know what to do anymore. I don't like bothering my girlfriend with my problems, because she has it worse than me. This girl, who I had slowly began to fall in love with, who I always who to talk to with, suddenly was gone. I don't know what to feel anymore. I feel numb. But I have to pretend that I'm happy, since there's people going through worse than me.

i honestly get exactly what you’re going through bro losing someone that close to you, especially in a way like that is just awful and i’m so sorry you had to go through that as well. :( tbh i know for a fact your gf would be all good with hearing about your problems, as i’m sure you listen to her’s and are there as much as you can be for her. as for the other girl who you were falling in love with, if she just disappears with no regard for your feelings, (this is hypocritical af but) you need to get over her, man. if she just dips and leaves, she’s not worth your time. emotions are hella confusing, and if you’re going through heavily emotional times, your brain shuts down and makes you feel numb. i hear that excuse a lot, especially from myself, that other people have it worse than me, so i can’t feel bad. if what you’re going through is hurting you, it doesn’t matter how big or small it is. it’s still weighing on you and hurting you. its perfectly fine to vent or talk about something that’s bothering you, no matter how insignificant it may seem.  hhh yk what i learned after all these years man? if you’re not happy don’t pretend to be. ik its easier said than done, but it just hurts you and everyone around you in the long run. saying how you’re feeling no matter what is extremely important, and if you aren’t happy, say something, and take care of yourself. you are the most important person in your life and the world wouldn’t be the same if you just pretended yourself to death. anon you’re a great person and i really hope you feel better soon. sorry if i got like too preachy or anything ig?? idk frnjdwsq

[gimmesumsuga]

steph, i met this guy last week and we went out ONE time and we had so much fun. he's the total opposite of me and i feel completely in love with him. and that's extremely unusual cause i take the longest time to feel comfortable around ppl. he told me he doesn't want to date for while, he had a bad breakup 2 yrs ago. i'm someone who doesn't date at all, but like.... idk i want to date him.. he's moving to LA this month, we live in boston rn. I feel so heartbroken for some reason. [pt1]

idk why I'm feeling this way. i wish i could make him happy, he's such a precious person i don't want him to feel sad ever. we talked about everything, i never laughed so much in my entire life. he's a musician and he showed me his new song, i was the first person to ever hear it! i'm someone known to be cold hearted and not give a fuck about feelings. i'm so confused. my heart hurts so bad, i don't want him to go. i wish i was good enough to make him feel the same way. make him like me. [pt2]

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Ah, my sweet anonnie *squishy hug* It sounds like you're going through a bit of a rollercoaster of emotions right now. I imagine everything feels really big and really new if you've never felt this way before, and a lot to process and get your head around.

Before I say anything more, please please don't think I'm belittling your emotions or attempting to patronise you - that's the last thing I want to do. But, take it from a person who has a nasty habit of always falling in 'love' too fast in the past, what you're feeling right now most likely isn't love at all.

You've said yourself you're not a person who usually feels like this, so I can easily imagine how it would feel that way especially the first time around - that sudden excitement and infatuation you experience when you meet someone new who just... sets something alight inside you! It's so easy to get blinded and preoccupied with it, but try not to let it take a hold of you completely.

Now, I'm not saying just ignore these feelings and forget about him! It sounds like the two of you get on well, but you have to respect what he's said about needing some time after the relationship he's just gotten out of. What you certainly don't want is to keep perusing him romantically and inadvertently ending up as a rebound. And I'm sure you already know that there's nothing you can do to make him like you if his head isn't in that space.

If you're serious about hoping for something with him in the future - despite the fact that he's soon going to be moving away - the best thing you can do right now is be his friend. Get to know him more, keep the lines of communication open, and if you guys are meant to end up together I'm sure eventually it will happen.

Be careful, though. It makes me worry slightly that despite saying he's not ready to have a relationship, he's still gone out with you regardless. I'm sure he's a nice guy - but even nice guys can be douches when they've just had their hearts broken too. Do NOT fall into the trap of offering him your heart in return for nothing, on the understanding that he's 'not ready' to offer you more yet. Don't settle for that, because even if you say you're fine with it, it sounds as though you're already getting emotionally invested and that really is a good way of getting your heart broken.

*deep breath*

Anyway, I'm sorry if this sounded preachy and you were just wanting a space to vent rather than get advice. I've just... had my fair share of falling in love too fast and getting strung along and used - more than enough for one lifetime - so I'd hate for you to go through the same thing.

Sometimes I think I miss all that giddy excitement you're feeling right now, and then I remember all uncertainty etc that can come with it and I realise how glad I am that those years are far behind me 😂

Anyway, best of luck, anonnie. Take care of yourself, and I hope however things end up with him, they turn out for the best 😚💕💕

[cripplepunk-sylveon]

Why would you need to feel guilty if you don't eat animals? i'm confused 😮 wouldn't it be a good thing if possible? I mean, since growing food for livestock is destroying the rainforest and isn't adopting a plant based diet one of the biggest things an individual can do to combat climate change?

As gently as I can manage: no, it's not that simple, and a plant-based diet as most folks think of it is not inherently better for the environment. Nothing any group of individuals from the general public can do will counteract the damage being done by big corporations.

tl;dr: A PBD is not inherently better for the environment, it highly depends on where you live and what you can/should buy, and many folks don't understand nor want to understand that. The history of food is a history of colonialism and violence and we need to address that, especially when it comes to veganism in North America and the importing of non-native foods to support it.

Full essay under the cut that I never meant to write but it sure did happen

Is it possible to go on a plant-based diet (a PBD, for future use of the term, because it will be popping up plenty here) within a localized area because it's more affordable/better for you/better for your environment? Yes. But it takes work to do so. As in, research, a willingness to buy and grow local, and an acute awareness of what the invasive species of your region are.

The unfortunate truth is that many people are unwilling or flat-out incapable of doing said research and work. They just want quick and easy access to plant-based food because they've heard somewhere that it's better and more humane than raising animals for meat/dairy/eggs. This is only possible because we live on colonized land, where we've created a massive distance between us and the origins of what we eat- and brought in non-native animal and plant species to reproduce what our colonizers eat, regardless of the impact on the land and the people. In fact, this was done very much on purpose. Native people reliant on colonial food systems are less likely to cause a ruckus, because they can just be starved out.

For an example, let's look at the Canadian North. The Inuit have hunted whales, seals, caribou, polar bear, and arctic char during the cold months in a sustainable fashion for thousands of years. Inuk people will hunt a single whale and feed their family for a year- never mind the uses for whale oil, baleen, and whale hide. They would use every part of the whale that they could find a use for, nothing was wasted. Nowadays, though... their traditional foods are called "barbaric" and "cruel", and hunting traditionally is frowned upon, while we ship fruit and vegetables that cannot be grown in permafrosted soil up to them and charge them as consumers for the cost to us. Here's a video from 2013 talking about the issue. From 2013! It's still happening now!! I would never recommend a PBD to someone living in such a situation because of both the expense and the destruction of the traditional hunting culture of the Inuit.

Before anyone tries to say I'm shitting on folks who can't eat meat- I'm really not. I get it, the lone star tick is an asshole of epic proportions, and allergies are a fuck you from the universe- I myself can't eat eggs! And they are in EVERYTHING! If we can accommodate allergies and dietary restrictions we absolutely should. I like to think there's a particularly shitty corner of the universe for people who think allergies are a joke or just someone being picky. But those are not choices. Those are required restrictions to keep the person alive and healthy.

Going vegan to "go green", on the other hand, is 100% a personal choice. Unfortunately it's also one frequently shaped by misinformation and propaganda. Vegans never really consider where their food comes from, and because the vast majority of them are city-dwellers who have access to a grocery store, they don't feel like they need to. It's not affecting them personally, so they don't care.

They should though. Many of the plants they rely on for food cause massive ecological damage, way more than growing feed for cattle, chickens, or pigs. Quinoa is farmed using child labour, and the sharp spike in price as white diners demand it- combined with the fact it's a thirsty crop that uses a lot of water that the locals also used as drinking water- kind of destroys any good it's doing by being a "superfood" (It was not a staple crop, however, and has done a little bit of good. Emphasis on a LITTLE BIT). Avocado is facing a similar situation- it was a staple food for the people growing it, now they can't afford it and they're resorting to inhumane measures to grow enough of it to meet white settler demand. (Also, if they fail to pay their cartel fees, they're very likely to have their farm burnt to the ground or worse. El Narco has their fingers in EVERYTHING, even in fruit production.) Cashews are mainly grown and processed in India, where workers suffer low pay and sweatshop conditions and caustic burns to ensure we have them to snack on. Soy products were once the main destructive force facing the Amazon rainforest, and now it's threatening the Cerrado and the millions of species that call the region home while filling local water supplies with silt and grime. There's also hundreds of reports detailing the slavery afoot at soy plantations, AND it's causing topsoil to erode faster.

No, meat and dairy as industries are not without fault. I never claimed they were. It's not hard to find things wrong with beef and dairy, and you can thank militant preachy vegans for that. You can also thank them for those horrifying ads everyone with a certain app spent their first two weeks blocking and reporting with a fervor like no other to make sure they stopped seeing them. (Or, maybe that was just me, idk what tiktok's deal is with giving me PETA and vegan propaganda videos but I'd like it to stop.) HOWEVER. The actual people producing my food, working the land to raise animals for meat and whatnot? They know what they're doing. Many of them have been studying husbandry and animal welfare since they were in middle school at the latest. I trust them to provide a good quality of life for a cow, chicken, pig, or bison that will end up on my plate one day.

Besides, they don't see me eating jerky instead of something I'm deathly allergic to and tell me a horror story about how the cow who provided it was flayed alive (yes, this has happened, more than once- it wasn't even beef jerky, it was bison from a local ranch). They just let me snack in peace and we go about both our days.

[gilberts-mango]

@kindredspiritdiana oh God this rant went on much longer than I originally intended (might post separately later!) but yessss! Thanks for bringing it up. I think we have to break this down because it says a lot about the hypocrisy of the AnnE fandom... Not to be preachy about it or anything but this Winnie hate kinda unsettled me. I mean, let's be honest - the dislike or hate (um why?) towards Winnie stems from the single-minded desire of the fandom to get Shirbert together. I mean I'm not a saint... even as one of the older ones in the fandom, I'm not gonna lie - it's sooo easy to get caught up in that web of fandom-fuelled shipping.

But! If we go back to the roots of this series and everything it stands for c/o MWB & co. (e.g. feminism... you know... how women are more than their romantic relationships with men... and that they are multidimensional complex people...), it's kinda hypocritical to dislike a female character on the sole basis that they're the third party to a 'relationship' that does not even exist yet when it's Gilbert who simultaneously flirted with Anne and dated Winnie. (@gilbert-blythe-ruined-my-life thank you for your tags! They made me realize this!!!) On the other hand, people are so ready for the male Shirbert foils (i.e. Roy Gardner, Charlie Sloane, even Jerry before the Derry ship became clearly solid) to step in, but why are people so annoyed at Winnie for just, well, existing in this story? I've read some posts on her that are not super hateful but are very passive-aggressive implying that she's just a "shadow of Anne" that Gilbert is infatuated with and is nothing but a plot device to help the latter realize what he wants is Anne... IDK but I feel kind of unsettled after that. If we slow down the SHIRBERT-ONLY-FOREVER-AND-EVER-SCREW-GOOD-STORYTELLING train a second and break down the story so far, Winnie's not even trying to get between them consciously! In the scenes she's in so far, she really is just the girl Gilbert has decided to see sooo why are people proclaiming to be AnnE fans hating on her again? She was perfectly polite, even friendly and witty, when she met Anne.

If anything, Gilbert is putting Winnie in between her and Anne as some sort of defense mechanism because he's, well, also a complex, flawed person. He's very confused, in denial, taken aback, and I assume sometimes scared by Anne's passionate outbursts that Gilbert see as her "temperamental" moments...

And I know it sucks for now to see Anne practically brokenhearted and Gilbert being the most clueless guy in the world (I bet MWB did that to remind us not to put him on a pedestal; he is a flawed human being afterall)... but if that last episode & the conversation between Marilla and Anne reminded us of anything, it's that there is a bigger world out there and Anne is not just a romantical person who deserves romance, soulmates, etc etc, she's a LOT of things! She's a bride of adventure, she's a recovering person with PTSD, she's Diana's best friend, she's Cole's confidante, she's Matthew and Marilla's adopted daughter, she's ANNE!

I'm honestly so happy they've set the next episode up for us to steer away from Anne the Romantical in favor of exploring Anne the Social Justice Warrior and I bet she's gonna put up a big fight re: the Billy-Josie thing... and I'm so ready for it. They've fed the fandom plenty with Shirbert material the past few episodes and I'm personally grateful for that. But it's time we focus on other equally important things too to stay true to what AnnE is about and what sets it apart from the other youth-oriented shows the world currently offers. I wanna remember what's important and what makes this show so special.

Don’t hate me, please

I really like Winifred. (If you agree please comment on the post, I need to know I’m not alone in this opinion.)

She’s so funny and sarcastic! She’s got great style! She’s also a nice person and she’s not racist. She’s too good for Gilbert 😂 I don’t think they’re gonna do anything at all. She views him as a puppy with a crush(?)

She was very sweet to Anne and is friendly towards Bash.

Anne used to say “it’s Anne, with an E.”

For winifred to ask Anne how she prefers her spell out her name, that’s a very considerate trait to find in a person you’ve just met.

For that, it makes me respect Winifred even more.

I’m starting to ship Winifred with Anne lol

Amybeth posted photos on her insta of her and Ashleigh(Winifred) joking around the heart ♥️ display from the fair.

[moonchild-rise]

sombody: *calls my post about namjin’s dance practice ‘a lil bit preachy’*

Me: