#i'm pretty disinclined to validate self-negativity beyond 'yeah i know but fuck that'

[sootyships]

of course, your f/o adores you!

look. it's always us ourselves who are our worst critics—or the people close to us who take us so much for granted they won't appreciate the good in us.

your f/o isn't like that! right? it's not very kind to think people who care about you would think so badly of you. i know that little voice in your head wants to tell you these things, but that voice is unkind to everyone.

and besides, while what your f/o gets out of your relationship isn't what's most important, they do! they do get things out of it! you can understand your f/o so well that few people could even hold a candle to you. it's not just that you care for them and know so much about them, but you are also willing to recognize their complexity. you make them feel good about themselves!

but they also can perceive you both more objectively (as someone who isn't you or a family member) and more subjectively (as themselves) and they recognize the things about you that appeal to them, even when you have difficulty recognizing them.

they adore you, and they want to make you happy.