#i'll admit i responded pretty harshly to him and thats the main reason i think we wont be given the cat no matter what now

[alrightstartingscene]

so my brother in law was going to give us a kitten and we've been planning on taking this kitten off his hands since before it was born. i'm telling you it's been 8 weeks of us getting pictures and me visiting the kitten and we had literally just settled on a name. he called me yesterday to say we can pick her up next tuesday

only for me to get a text completely out of the blue this morning saying my best friend, who lives with me, is a bitch to him whenever they see eachother and that so long as she lives in my house with her dog he wont let me have the kitten and that he doesnt like who i've become.

he and i have talked extensively about how he's worried for the kitten's safety because of my friend's dog. i promised to him weeks ago that we wouldnt let the kitten even meet her dog until the kitten was a year old so she'd be big enough to defend herself should the dog do anything agressive.

--i need to take a second here to say that this dog is literally the sweetest dog i've ever met in my entire life. she has absolutely no prey drive. she has lived with cats before and currently, I have a senior tuxedo queen, and has never had an issue with any of them. i literally told him i'm more worried that my cat will be a bigger threat to the kitten than the dog because i know them both so well--

he was still more worried about the dog and i agreed to his condition because i know he has seen kittens killed by dogs before and he's just being protective.

but for him to call my best friend a bitch and say he doesnt like who i've become is literally the last straw for me. my bestie (who is a different BIL's ex, which is why she's so hated by the family) and i were literally so nice to the kitten BIL cause he's autistic and gay in a mormon family. an outcast, j like us. we'd been friends for so long but he couldn't tell you a single thing about me or my bestie if you asked him. all he does when we go over to see him is bitch about his problems with his mom and his living situation. never asked us about ourselves. we'd only talk about him and his interests. she hasn't even seen or talked to him since the breakup 5 months ago! like where is this coming from???

he's also been deadnaming me and using the wrong pronouns which is fucking saying something because his entire mormon family has already fully switched over. he says he doesnt like who i've become. how can i know for sure it's not even a little tied to my identity? why is the call always coming from inside the fucking house.

im pretty sure it's gotten to the point where even when my bestie does move out--she came to live w us temporarily--i'm still not getting the kitten. he blocked me saying i'm "clearly going psycho" and that he doesnt trust me.

well maybe he shouldn't fucking trust me because he has 9 cats living in 2 tiny rooms that are never cleaned. he didn't even know the mom was pregnant until she was basically giving birth. the kittens have never been to the vet and my bestie is 100% certain, based on photos, they have worms. the mother is pregnant AGAIN (she's not even 2 btw). there is litter baked into his carpets and he walks around with fully blackened bare feet because of how disgusting his place is. not to mention his parents have 2 dogs and another cat with a total of 12 (and soon to be more) animals in the house. the dogs never get taken on walks, shit everywhere all the time, and it doesn't get picked up for days. in the main dining room. maybe he shouldn't trust me cause i could absolutely call animal control on his ass and get all of his precious babies taken away from him.

he made a fucken enemy today. we'll see how petty i decide to be going forward