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oh and did i mention: mom and dad are same litter siblings as well.... maybe starting to understand why kitten #3 didn't make it to their 3rd week

my biggest fear now is that the kitten is going to stay with him long enough and the kitten's dad is gonna try to impregnate her since only mom is fixed out of the 4 of them (mom/dad/2 kittens) the second kitten is going to the BIL who is my bestie's ex. god my life is starting to feel like a soap opera

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now that i think about it he probably wont be able to keep her and is gonna have to give her up at some point and i know he's gonna chose some rando he j met a couple weeks ago on a dating app

my biggest fear now is that the kitten is going to stay with him long enough and the kitten's dad is gonna try to impregnate her since only mom is fixed out of the 4 of them (mom/dad/2 kittens) the second kitten is going to the BIL who is my bestie's ex. god my life is starting to feel like a soap opera

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my biggest fear now is that the kitten is going to stay with him long enough and the kitten's dad is gonna try to impregnate her since only mom is fixed out of the 4 of them (mom/dad/2 kittens) the second kitten is going to the BIL who is my bestie's ex. god my life is starting to feel like a soap opera

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the thing that really gets me the most about this is the fact that my partner and I were very adamant about us not wanting another pet before she was offered to us. i just recently lost my childhood cat, Angel, and i didn't even want Maddie--our current cat and technically my brother's childhood cat and why i know her so well--originally. she was staying with my dad but the place we live gets mice sometimes and Maddie is an excellent mouser so we took her in.

i didn't think i could ever have another pet a year and a half ago, let alone 2. my heart has opened up so much in preparation for this kitten and this feels like the wind has been knocked out me

so my brother in law was going to give us a kitten and we've been planning on taking this kitten off his hands since before it was born. i'm telling you it's been 8 weeks of us getting pictures and me visiting the kitten and we had literally just settled on a name. he called me yesterday to say we can pick her up next tuesday

only for me to get a text completely out of the blue this morning saying my best friend, who lives with me, is a bitch to him whenever they see eachother and that so long as she lives in my house with her dog he wont let me have the kitten and that he doesnt like who i've become.

he and i have talked extensively about how he's worried for the kitten's safety because of my friend's dog. i promised to him weeks ago that we wouldnt let the kitten even meet her dog until the kitten was a year old so she'd be big enough to defend herself should the dog do anything agressive.

--i need to take a second here to say that this dog is literally the sweetest dog i've ever met in my entire life. she has absolutely no prey drive. she has lived with cats before and currently, I have a senior tuxedo queen, and has never had an issue with any of them. i literally told him i'm more worried that my cat will be a bigger threat to the kitten than the dog because i know them both so well--

he was still more worried about the dog and i agreed to his condition because i know he has seen kittens killed by dogs before and he's just being protective.

but for him to call my best friend a bitch and say he doesnt like who i've become is literally the last straw for me. my bestie (who is a different BIL's ex, which is why she's so hated by the family) and i were literally so nice to the kitten BIL cause he's autistic and gay in a mormon family. an outcast, j like us. we'd been friends for so long but he couldn't tell you a single thing about me or my bestie if you asked him. all he does when we go over to see him is bitch about his problems with his mom and his living situation. never asked us about ourselves. we'd only talk about him and his interests. she hasn't even seen or talked to him since the breakup 5 months ago! like where is this coming from???

he's also been deadnaming me and using the wrong pronouns which is fucking saying something because his entire mormon family has already fully switched over. he says he doesnt like who i've become. how can i know for sure it's not even a little tied to my identity? why is the call always coming from inside the fucking house.

im pretty sure it's gotten to the point where even when my bestie does move out--she came to live w us temporarily--i'm still not getting the kitten. he blocked me saying i'm "clearly going psycho" and that he doesnt trust me.

well maybe he shouldn't fucking trust me because he has 9 cats living in 2 tiny rooms that are never cleaned. he didn't even know the mom was pregnant until she was basically giving birth. the kittens have never been to the vet and my bestie is 100% certain, based on photos, they have worms. the mother is pregnant AGAIN (she's not even 2 btw). there is litter baked into his carpets and he walks around with fully blackened bare feet because of how disgusting his place is. not to mention his parents have 2 dogs and another cat with a total of 12 (and soon to be more) animals in the house. the dogs never get taken on walks, shit everywhere all the time, and it doesn't get picked up for days. in the main dining room. maybe he shouldn't trust me cause i could absolutely call animal control on his ass and get all of his precious babies taken away from him.

he made a fucken enemy today. we'll see how petty i decide to be going forward

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so my brother in law was going to give us a kitten and we've been planning on taking this kitten off his hands since before it was born. i'm telling you it's been 8 weeks of us getting pictures and me visiting the kitten and we had literally just settled on a name. he called me yesterday to say we can pick her up next tuesday

only for me to get a text completely out of the blue this morning saying my best friend, who lives with me, is a bitch to him whenever they see eachother and that so long as she lives in my house with her dog he wont let me have the kitten and that he doesnt like who i've become.

he and i have talked extensively about how he's worried for the kitten's safety because of my friend's dog. i promised to him weeks ago that we wouldnt let the kitten even meet her dog until the kitten was a year old so she'd be big enough to defend herself should the dog do anything agressive.

--i need to take a second here to say that this dog is literally the sweetest dog i've ever met in my entire life. she has absolutely no prey drive. she has lived with cats before and currently, I have a senior tuxedo queen, and has never had an issue with any of them. i literally told him i'm more worried that my cat will be a bigger threat to the kitten than the dog because i know them both so well--

he was still more worried about the dog and i agreed to his condition because i know he has seen kittens killed by dogs before and he's just being protective.

but for him to call my best friend a bitch and say he doesnt like who i've become is literally the last straw for me. my bestie (who is a different BIL's ex, which is why she's so hated by the family) and i were literally so nice to the kitten BIL cause he's autistic and gay in a mormon family. an outcast, j like us. we'd been friends for so long but he couldn't tell you a single thing about me or my bestie if you asked him. all he does when we go over to see him is bitch about his problems with his mom and his living situation. never asked us about ourselves. we'd only talk about him and his interests. she hasn't even seen or talked to him since the breakup 5 months ago! like where is this coming from???

he's also been deadnaming me and using the wrong pronouns which is fucking saying something because his entire mormon family has already fully switched over. he says he doesnt like who i've become. how can i know for sure it's not even a little tied to my identity? why is the call always coming from inside the fucking house.

im pretty sure it's gotten to the point where even when my bestie does move out--she came to live w us temporarily--i'm still not getting the kitten. he blocked me saying i'm "clearly going psycho" and that he doesnt trust me.

well maybe he shouldn't fucking trust me because he has 9 cats living in 2 tiny rooms that are never cleaned. he didn't even know the mom was pregnant until she was basically giving birth. the kittens have never been to the vet and my bestie is 100% certain, based on photos, they have worms. the mother is pregnant AGAIN (she's not even 2 btw). there is litter baked into his carpets and he walks around with fully blackened bare feet because of how disgusting his place is. not to mention his parents have 2 dogs and another cat with a total of 12 (and soon to be more) animals in the house. the dogs never get taken on walks, shit everywhere all the time, and it doesn't get picked up for days. in the main dining room. maybe he shouldn't trust me cause i could absolutely call animal control on his ass and get all of his precious babies taken away from him.

he made a fucken enemy today. we'll see how petty i decide to be going forward

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Shout out to aroallo transfems btw. I never see anyone talk about y'all and how the usual hatred towards aroallos is multiplied by a million for you.

To all aroallo transfems:

You are not dangerous or perverted for desiring sex without romance.

You are not a bad person for desiring sex without romance.

You are allowed to want sex without romance.

There is nothing "wrong" with you.

You are not "broken" or "dirty" for your romantic and sexual identities.

I care about you and I want you here. I want you in my community. I want to make this place comfortable for you. I want you to be happy. I will do everything I can to make sure the spaces I share with you are welcoming.

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what your hogwarts house says about you!!!!1!1!

gryffindor - in your continued endorsement of a media franchise created by the most affluent transmisogynist of all time, you are promoting transmisogynist ideals and furthering transphobic legislation.

ravenclaw - in your continued endorsement of a media franchise created by the most affluent transmisogynist of all time, you are promoting transmisogynist ideals and furthering transphobic legislation.

hufflepuff - in your continued endorsement of a media franchise created by the most affluent transmisogynist of all time, you are promoting transmisogynist ideals and furthering transphobic legislation.

slytherin - in your continued endorsement of a media franchise created by the most affluent transmisogynist of all time, you are promoting transmisogynist ideals and furthering transphobic legislation. and you're also a white supremacist i guess.

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nobody tears through library books quite as fast as a 12 yr old girl with no friends

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ough to be a cat sleeping in a dandelion field. eepy sleepy

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vaginal infections, utis, and extreme ph imbalances are no fucking joke. please wash your goddamn hands before you stick your fingers in someone

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i am gay and tired, reblog this if you are also gay and tired

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Okay, so Google Removed Pride Month and Other Diversity Holidays From Its Calendar App. There are many ways to respond to this, including leaving Google Calendar. If you can't do that for any reason, this project has something that might help.

Every year we make a calendar of dates that have particular significance to queer history. It has always been a pleasure project and hasn't made us much money, so when we made a Google Calendar plug-in, we made it pay-what-you-can. I'm grateful we did because it means anyone can access this now.

To be clear, this is more than Pride Month; this has near-daily reminders of queer history. Birthdates of people you may not recognize (though we encourage you to learn more about them on our website). This doesn't address everything. Google also removed Black History Month, Indigenous People Month, Jewish American Heritage Month, Holocaust Remembrance Day, and Hispanic Heritage Month. We have many of them on our calendar, but we can't promise we have everything Google got rid of, as this was made with no clue that Google would do this.

Regardless, we wanted to put this resource out there in response to the news. Preserving queer history is a community responsibility, and we are grateful to share any tools that we have.

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Paris lesbian club, 1934

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Are you friends with any cisgender heterosexual men in real life/not online?

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just an FYI for trans people in the US right now

[id: reddit post by user spaghettishoestrings titled "(UPDATE) Just lost my healthcare !" with the flair "Celebratory."

Post reads:

Original post is viewable through my profile. Apologies, since I’m on mobile, I couldn’t hyperlink. The TLDR: my doctor called me on Monday and informed me that their practice would no longer be providing treatment for gender affirming care as a result of a recent presidential Executive Order, even though the EO was for people under 19. Even though I’m 25.

Also, because it was asked a few times, this happened in Michigan, and I’ve been on HRT for 5+ years. It’s a practice that includes like 15+ physicians, and I think that the decision was made over my PCP’s head, given that she once told me that she literally moved states to be able to provide gender affirming care here.

First off, genuinely, thank you so much for all the replies and messages. I genuinely felt frozen after that phone call and didn’t know where to start, and you all really helped me get my feet off the ground.

A couple people mentioned contacting the ACLU, which, truthfully, I thought, “there’s no way that the ACLU will get back to me” but I sent a message anyway. They actually called me a few hours after my post and we talked about the Executive Orders and my rights. They offered to fax my provider a letter reminding them of my rights and some other legal terms. It’s crazy how a post on reddit resulted in my name being on the official ACLU letterhead.

Anyway, today my doctor’s physician assistant called me and shared that their practice is reversing their decision and they will continue to provide gender affirming care. I’m still keeping a bunch of the resources that y’all shared saved, including Planned Parenthood, Plume, and looking into a private endocrinologist.

This whole experience just reminded me how great this community is. I appreciate y’all <3"

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[id: reddit user copurrs commented:]

You should contact Chase Strangio from the ACLU, I believe he is looking for reports of folks being denied their GAC due to these EOs. He's @chasestrangio on IG and Threads.

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*it's hard to describe so i recommend searching it. 90% of the time people leave it in the tags of a post about a character they like