#i’m ovulating too though so yknow

[dovahdez]

Sex Ed.

It’s come to my attention that around four or five of my followers/friends have never received sex ed or even the talk from their parents because it’s “not appropriate for children” and that their parents just “assumed they knew the basics.”

So, without further ado...

Female Anatomy

The area that you see here is overall called the ‘vulva’, though is also informally referred to as the pussy or the vagina (though this area is not the actual vagina, as we will get into later.)

There are two sets of ‘lips’, or flaps of skin surrounding this. The outer lips, or the labia major, and the inner lips, or the labia minor. Towards the top of these lips is the clitoris and the flap of skin that covers it, called the clitoral hood. The clitoris (clit) is the sensitive nerve that creates pleasure when rubbed. 

The hymen is a small thin flap of skin that partially covers the opening of the vagina. The hymen may be torn during sex, which may hurt some but not a whole lot. The tearing of the hymen is rumored to be the official and only declaration that you’ve lost your virginity (and is referred to as ‘popping the cherry’). This is not true, as sometimes the hymen will tear and sometimes it won’t, depending on the size of the penis. 

The vagina is a tube that goes up from the vulva and connects to the uterus.The vaginal canal is on average about 3-4 inches in length but may be longer, as it varies from person to person. During sex, the penis inserts the vagina, and during your period the blood comes out of the vagina. 

You do not pee out of the vagina. You’ll notice the urethral opening is above the vaginal opening (vaginal orifice). Though, this diagram is slightly off in that the urethral opening is more directly above the vaginal opening rather than an inch or so above as the diagram shows. 

The vagina goes up and joins the cervix, which is the opening to the uterus. The uterus has two arms, the Fallopian tubes, and an ovary at the end of each tube. We will go more into how the uterus makes babies and is responsible for your period later.

Male Anatomy 

Forgive me as I know a bit less about this cause, yknow, I’m a lesbian female, but here we go

The penis shaft is the long part while the glans (the mushroom/hat looking top, called the ‘head’ of the penis) is the part at the end. The head is typically more sensitive than the shaft. When born, the head has a piece of foreskin that covers it. When a baby is circumcised, this piece is cut off to expose the glans. Circumcision also may prevent certain infections from developing under the foreskin. 

The penis only has one hole that men both pee and ejaculate semen through during sex. 

The scrotum, or the ‘balls’, is the sack that hangs outside of the body below the penis. It hangs outside because it is much more sensitive to temperature and must be kept at around 94 degrees, about four degrees cooler than regular body temperature. The testes (testicles) lay inside the scrotum sack and constantly is creating sperm, because, unlike women, men are not born with a sperm supply and must therefore continuously make it. 

Okay I don’t think I missed a whole lot in these two categories SO

How Babies Are Made (no it’s not a stork)

Lets bring this diagram back real quick:

When a female is born, the ovaries are already completely stocked with every egg you will ever produce in your lifetime (about 1-2 million). You release about 400 eggs over the course of your reproductive years (the time between your first period and when you hit menopause). 

In the middle of the menstrual cycle, ovulation occurs, which normally happens between the 9th and 21st days of your 28 day menstrual cycle. Ovulation is when an egg matures and is released from one of the two ovaries. The Fallopian tube quickly sucks up this mature egg and begins delivering it to the uterus. The egg only lives about 24 hours after it is released. If, on the way to the uterus, it meets a healthy sperm cell, it will be fertilized and begin growing into a baby. 

However, if the egg reaches the uterus without being fertilized, it dies and is either absorbed into the body or dissolves. When pregnancy doesn’t occur, the body stops producing estrogen and progesterone (the hormones that assist in pregnancy), and the thickened lining of the uterus is shed through menstruation. Yes, you read that right, your period is literally the inner lining of your uterus shedding itself. Cramping occurs when the uterus contracts to help shed the lining. 

During sex, a man’s semen will combine with around 250 million sperm cells and will project itself out upon orgasm (climax during sex). If the penis is inside the vagina when it ejaculates, the semen well travel up into the uterus and Fallopian tubes to try and find an egg. Sperm cells may live in a woman’s reproductive tract for up to five days. Despite there being millions of sperm cells, only one can fertilize an egg. 

Only a few dozen make it to the egg; the rest get trapped, go up the wrong Fallopian tube or die along the way. After one sperm cell reaches the egg and penetrates its surface to fertilize it, the egg instantly changes to prevent any other sperm cells from burrowing their way inside of it. This new embryo (the fertilized egg now developing into a fetus and soon a baby) moves to the uterus to grow, where it will attach to the wall of the uterus. However, if the embryo implants itself somewhere other than the uterus, such as the Fallopian tube, it will need to be terminated by either surgery or medication to prevent it from growing, as it may rupture the tube. 

No, you can’t get pregnant from the penis ejaculating semen into your mouth or anus. That’s not how that works. 

Alrighty! You know know how sex works, how pregnancies occur, and the anatomy of the female and male reproductive systems! And now...

Some Tips For Having Sex

If you don’t want to get pregnant, please, just use a goddamn condom. Don’t believe a guy when he says “oh my penis is too big for a condom” or “don’t worry I’ll pull out”. Don’t believe him. Ever. Condoms come in different sizes and there is a condom for every penis. And chances are the guy won’t pull out before he ejaculates. 

PINCHING THE TIP IS IMPORTANT. DON’T PULL THE CONDOM ALL THE WAY DOWN. There should be a little loose tip at the end to make room for the semen. 

There are other forms of contraceptives such as a birth control pill for women that is taken daily, female condoms, IUD’s (which release copper ions that kill sperm) and surgeries that tie the Fallopian tubes in women (tubal ligation) and cut the tube that connects the sperm-producing testicles to the penis in men (vasectomy)

SEX SHOULDN’T HURT. A little pain might be expected on your first time, but it shouldn’t dramatically hurt. Without lube, you may feel like the penis is just hitting a brick wall inside of the vagina, causing a lot of pain and discomfort. That’s why you use lube. However, if it still hurts even with lube, consult a doctor/gynecologist and get yo self checked out. 

ITS OKAY TO TALK AND ASK QUESTIONS DURING SEX. Learn what the other person likes. Tell them what you like. Experiment. It should be enjoyable on both sides. 

CONSENT. MOTHERFUCKING CONSENT. You can say “no”. Fight back the other person if they’re pushing themselves on to you. Even when you’re drunk/high, no means no. Even when you’re wearing revealing clothes, no means no. You’re allowed and encouraged to make a scene if you don’t consent and you’re allowed to completely remove yourself from the situation without fear of “hurting their feelings”. Your consent should be enthusiastic, a “YES! I’M READY FOR THIS!”, not a “....okay ... well... if you say so...” 

WOMEN. YOU MIGHT BLEED THE FIRST TIME. Bleeding is caused when the hymen is stretched or torn, This might bleed and may not bleed, when it happens it is normal. They hymen can also, though, be torn during non-sexual activities, like jumping on an effing trampoline. It’s normal, but if you’re concerned, consult a gynecologist. 

WOMEN. AFTER HAVING SEX. GO PEE. JUST DO IT. AS SOON AS YOU’RE DONE. GO PEE. Peeing after sex flushes the bacteria out of the bladder and may prevent infection. No, this will not pee out the semen and prevent pregnancy, but there is a chance that, as I said, it will prevent infection. 

IT’S OKAY IF YOU DON’T ORGASM THE FIRST TIME YOU HAVE SEX. Many don’t orgasm the first time they have sex. It takes time to figure out what you like. You aren’t obligated to moan super loudly and fake it. 

FOREPLAY IS KINDA IMPORTANT. Make sure both of you are turned on before you go at it. For men, getting turned on hardens and erects the penis, making it easier to have sex, and for women, getting turned on expands the vaginal canal, making it easier for the penis to slide through without pain. Figure out what you like and what turns you on. 

LOSING YOUR VIRGINITY DOESN’T DICTATE THE REST OF YOUR LIFE. Your sexual history has nothing to do with your morals or who you are as a person. It doesn’t make you cooler nor does it make you a piece of shit. 

FINALLY, PORN LIES. Sex is never EVER what it looks like in porn. You’re allowed to laugh, fart, talk, and even be nervous about it if it’s your first time (though you should still consent 100%). Your body isn’t gonna look like the porn movies nor is the other person’s. Its a natural thing, not whatever the fuck is in the porn. 

AND THERE YOU GO. CONGRATULATIONS, YOU’VE RECEIVED SEX EDUCATION AND PASSED IT WITH FLYING COLORS. I’M SO FUCKING PROUD OF YOU. 

BE SAFE KIDS AND I LOVE YOU.