#i would 100% undergo top surgery and even a phallo

[butchyena]

people who are willing to undergo surgery are so fucking strong lol surgery terrifies me for having had. way more surgeries than some ppl i know

[genderkoolaid]

if most trans men will never actually get to live as men or undergo the bodily changes that would alleviate dysphoria does transitioning actually do anything other than invite transphobia into my life

I would not say that most trans men never get to live as men (both in terms of passing as a cis man & in being recognized as a man by others), and it really depends on what bodily changes you are talking about. When it comes to things like bottom surgery, phallo and meta are a lot better in quality than most think, but the cost (and for phallo, the recovery time + multiple stages) can be prohibitive (as can top surgery ofc). When it comes to T, while the effects vary a lot more than most discuss, that does not mean that most trans men do not see some impact that improves how they feel about themselves.

Still, even a life that does not include always passing, always being respected, one that includes dysphoria and potentially transphobia, can still be worth living. There are many trans men who do not ever achieve their transition goals and still live meaningful and enjoyable lives; Pauli Murray comes to mind. Whether or not transitioning is worth it for you, specifically, is not a question I can answer. You have to decide for yourself what it means for you to live a meaningful, enjoyable life, especially if you feel that transphobia could severely impact your quality of life.

But don't make the decision off of a fatalistic understanding of what it can be like to be trans. And don't assume that it is all-or-nothing: some people don't ever publicly transition but do in private or online, or only in certain social situations, and are able to find happiness in that even if they would prefer transitioning full-time. Its also not a decision you can only make once, now. Life is not all-or-nothing, and your options are not "be 100% happy with my life, or be sad and miserable forever."