#i was watching a video on an autistic person 'reviewing' a book used by therapists to communicate with autistic people (and for cbt as well)
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cat-madhouse · 2 years ago
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I think that me thinking I'm a compulsive manipulator for most of my "aware life" has something to do with the tism
#i was watching a video on an autistic person 'reviewing' a book used by therapists to communicate with autistic people (and for cbt as well)#(which. cbt for autistic people is not a good idea at all for multiple reasons but that's not the point)#and the person started talking about the fact that they say in the book that allistics communicate by not clearly stating their intentions#(so subtext and hidden meaning behind words)#and i was nodding along like 'yep that's how it works you have to analyze everything or you'll be ridiculed eventually'#and then the autistic person recording said *not* 'we have to analyze what they say'#but 'we have to Not say what we mean in order to communicate effectively with them' and i went wait no that's manipulative#(keep in mind i was watching that video listening in for signs that i am NOT autistic because as my only irl friend says: i am in denial)#and i think that i. started masking as a survival mechanism and imitating nt people#and reading subtext and acting 'allistically' is a big part of that and. my potentially autistic brain was recognizing that as manipulation#(as a means of survival)#like i had times as a kid where not reading subtext made me be ridiculed or ostracized or mocked#so i started doing it as well but my non allistic brain recognized that as manipulation because it wasn't natural for me#and i think maybe that's also why i like analyzing texts and finding new meanings in things so much#and why i care so much about the origins of non-literal expressions like#... i don't have an english example right now but you get the idea#that. realization is very reassuring actually#maybe i'm not as bad of a person as i thought...?#sunny
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evelhak · 9 months ago
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Thanks for the tag @lilypheria. 💙
Are you named after anyone ?
My first given name is inspired by/a sort of fusion of two grandparent's names and second one is a name that has been coincidentally popular in both of my parent's families.
What sports have you played ?
Mostly I'm a dancer. Ballet for 17 years, folk dance for 8, courses of contemporary, jazz, show etc. here and there. I did horse riding as a kid for a while, and our parents took me and my siblings to weekly track and field competitions for kids where they handed little silver tea spoons as prizes for probably like third of the competitors outside top three so our kitchen was full of them. : D I did kendo in high school for about a year but had to quit because I couldn't yell without losing my voice and the instructor wouldn't let me skip it of course. Just for fun sports that I've done semi regularly at some point are badminton, skiing and downhill skiing. Oh and bowling I guess but that was more like a sporadic social activity. In uni I went to combat classes actively and I've still yet to find anything that gives me such a good rush of like... purely hormonal ecstasy, so I'd really like to get back to that one. (It's different because there's nothing inspiring about the activity itself on an mental/emotional/conceptual level, it's just the way/the rhythm it puts your body moving that causes this insane state for me and I was quite addicted to it). Recently took barre and pilates but the groups got cancelled.
Do you use sarcasm ?
Sometimes. And miss it when other people use it, at least as often.
What is the first thing you notice about people ?
Their eyes, or possibly if there's some very attractive facial feature then that. Or possibly whether they have a kind vibe or not.
What's your eye color ?
Blue-grey.
Scary movies or happy endings ?
Happy endings, usually. But if I'm feeling numb or apathetic somehow, then scary movies, because I need something extreme to push through to me.
Any talent ?
Writing, particularly characters, dialogue and emotionally effective storylines, some say lyrical use of language, too. Visual and abstract pattern recognition. I've always been noted to have some talent for drawing and singing but technically I think I'm pretty average. I've often been called a natural therapist too, I guess that's a combination of high empathy+special interest in human mind+higher than average pattern recognition. Also improving other people's communication. It's pretty ironic for an autistic person, but yes, while I may not often be able to express myself in a way that people would get me, I'm really good at expressing other people's thoughts in a way that the other(s) will understand, spotting why people are talking past each other, and redirecting the conversation. I'm also pretty good at crafting/basically any kind of visual-tactile fooling around creating something. I guess I could say philosophical thinking too.
What are your hobbies ?
Writing fanfiction, ballet, reading, drawing original stuff, fanart and comics. Learning about whatever happens to be my area of interest in humans at the moment, by either reading, watching videos/movies or observing people. Sporadic things include anything creative/artistic from photography to embroidery to low-maintenance nail art to seeing if I can make a hat or a pipe or any prop a ballet might need, using only things that I can find in my room, so that it's a sort of a game. And sometimes I write book reviews and other random stuff, and beta-read/edit for other writers. Oh and sometimes I like to plan (friendly) pranks/practical jokes. Always had a low-key Fae soul in me, haha.
Do you have any pets ?
A cat. (Used to have three. 🥲) I'm used to having a lot of different animals around me, so it feels really quiet at the moment.
How tall are you ?
169 cm.
Dream job ?
Author. Which I succeeded at, soon three years ago! I always wanted to go for traditional publishing, and although I don't live from my book sales and likely never will because it's extremely rare in my small country of five million people, and virtually impossible if you write speculative fiction or for young people, I am happy to be with a small publisher right now. It grants me a lot more creative freedom than a big publisher would. I have published a sapphic NA fantasy novel about dreamworlds and neurodiversity, a realistic YA novel about asexuality and other aspec identities, and I'm currently in the middle of a fantasy series about a mythical music school which deals a lot with mental health, school culture, critical thinking, media literacy, formation of belief systems and a lot more, through a fantastical lens. My goal is to be published in English sooner or later, one way or another, because a lot of my potential audience doesn't speak Finnish.
Tagging @myndless88 and @wannabe-cartoonist-blog. ✨
Tag Game
Thanks for the tag @bruitdevague ❣️
Are you named after anyone ?
My middle name is after my moms dead brother
What sports have you played ?
I did gymnastics for like 10 years and destroyed my body/mental health doing it 💀
I also did volleyball, track, and kumdo in highschool
Do you use sarcasm ?
No I'd never 🙄
What is the first thing you notice about people ?
I have no idea..their vibe maybe?
What’s your eye color ?
Hazel
Scary movies or happy endings ?
Scary movies
Any talent ?
I'm really good at doing the same thing over and over again and expecting a different result
What are your hobbies ?
My all time favorite hobby is listening to music while pacing around. 11/10 really does the job every time. I also enjoy reading.
Do you have any pets ?
I have (had) my dog peanut but I didn't take him with me when I moved out. He lives with my parents 😫
How tall are you ?
5'3 on a good day
Dream job ?
I do not dream of labor
Literally one (1) minor inconvenience from quitting my current job
Tagging:
@yormuthur @crypticpuffin @punk-pandame @shisuis-left-nipple @alphadogandomega @dykekakashi and anyone else who wants to do this <3
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