#i was already deadnamed and misgendered throughout the physical for the job bc their system has no way to handle preferred names or anything
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iām going to be starting a job soon where it looks like almost all of my coworkers/bosses are going to be cis women and i amā¦terrified. especially since this is the job iām going to have to get time off from for top surgery.
if thereās one thing iāve learned over the almost ten years of my transition, itās that a situation where iām the only guy there is one where my gender is guaranteed to not be respected. it really feels like far too many cis women realize theyāre alone with a trans man and just see it as an opportunity to act out some sort of power fantasy where they get to stick it to the big bad evil men by taking out their anger on the first man they see without the power to fight back. that or they decide youāre ājust one of the girlsā and will not hear otherwise, but honestly, given where iām at in my physical transition, i have a feeling the former is more likely.
there was a time when i felt safer around cis women than around cis men, but now itās just a different kind of threat.
#a lot of them are also. letās say a very specific kind of cis woman#because of who this kind of job attracts#as a trans man but also as a disabled and mentally ill personā¦im not optimistic about how itās gonna go#i was already deadnamed and misgendered throughout the physical for the job bc their system has no way to handle preferred names or anything#so uh. not looking too great right off the bat and im sure thatās just the beginning#itās not a job im super jazzed about in general bc itās in a setting that i have Lots Of Problems With and never wanted to work in#but a bitch needs money so. gotta suck it up and deal with a few months of transphobia ableism and general cognitive dissonance#i love capitalism! itās so fun and cool and quirky! (said with the most lifeless voice youāve ever heard)#transandrophobia#transandromisia#transmisandry#virilmisia#virilphobia#anti transmasculinity#transmascphobia#trans men#transmascs
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