#i wanted to write a short prose but everything i wanted to convey sounds embarrassing

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[bewareofchris]

Hi! Sorry to bother you! You're one of the few authors I've followed for a really long time so I trust your judgment, and. I'm writing a sex scene with another person but I don't know how the hell to write that in a way that sounds Natural and not forced. Any advice?

I could try?  Which aspect do you need help with specifically writing sex with another person or writing sex in general? 

In general, I find it helpful to consider the following:

1.  understand the general sort of sex scene you’re going to be writing.  there’s an entirely different vocabulary depending on how hardcore you’re going with this.  There’s also a significance difference to the sort of things you want to concentrate on.  Because:

if you’re going to being writing a romantic, sweet-toned, soft-music sort of love making ala the romance novels than a great deal of what you’re concentrating on is going to be the emotions they feel for one another.  The care they use when they touch one another.  The way their voice sounds if they speak, the sort of noises they make, the closeness of their bodies as they have sex.  It’ll be soft words, gentle touches, basically everything pastel and rosy.

if you’re going for one-night stand, disconnected, you’re hot and this is all I want for you kind of sex it’s going to concentrate a lot more on superficial physical satisfaction.  Concentrate more on how attractive the other person is, how their face or hands or whatever feature that attracted them to one another moves.  This is language that’ll be a big more sharp and blunt.  Perhaps more swearing and crude language.

if you’re going for XXX Rated that’s beyond my pay grade but it’ll definitely involve a lot more bodily fluids than you’d know how to describe.

Once you have some idea of what kind of scene you’re going for/what you’re trying to convey, (Gee they love one another, gee they are so attracted to one another, gee it’s been 68 chapters and I need them to fuck now because I’m dying so get on with it already… etc, etc) some general pointers are:

 the mechanics of sex scenes are very rarely the most attractive bit about them.  If you focus too much on the very specific motions of sex it gets a bit dry and despite it being sex in all its technical glory, it’s not actually sexy.

concentrate on the attraction or emotion between the folks.  if it’s consensual than oh gee this sex is amazing, I love touching this person, I really want to touch them more, so i’m going to.  If it’s consensual but it’s angry sex, oh gee I’d really love to rip their eyes out but also fucking them is good.  I could do both at the same time!  Emotions are important.  People have them even while having sex.

also they should be enjoying it.  You can do this a lot more effectively by writing the urgency to continue into the prose than by having one of folks involved scream it.   (So use impatient words, like grabbed and pulled and smacked and clenched and basically any word that seems impatient and urgent.)

folks can talk during sex but make sure the conversation is relevant to the overall scene.  This is up to personal preference.

If you’re having a really hard time writing it, take a second, reread and see if there’s a part where the flow of the writing is interrupted and either address that awkward part by having them rearrange their limbs or go back and tweak whatever has thrown off the groove

sex scenes should definitely have a groove.  you want the reader and the characters to be moving with one another and enjoying it at the same pace.  Having things suddenly move too fast or too slow will make your sex scene awkward.  So set a pace and try to stick with it?  (Also remember that sex scenes vary in lengths and there’s nothing wrong with a very short one or a very long one.)

I found writing sex to be terribly embarrassing at first.  I found that finding music that matches the approximate tone of the writing you’re going for and concentrating more on that tone/the emotions of the scene dilutes anything that may see awkward or embarrassing about the placement of various penises.  

please for the love of god, do not use the word rectum.  i just can’t

But do know where you want everyone’s penis and/or other applicable body parts to go.  Don’t lose track of the arms and hands.  This happened to me a lot when I first started writing.  Some guys had three arms is all I’m saying.

About writing with another person just the basics apply:

1. make sure what you’re adding moves the scene forward

2. do your best to match the tone/the word choices so it’s not very noticeable when the author changes

3. hopefully having a writing buddy you are comfortable enough with to be like: “ok so they are eventually going to orgasm right?  i mean how much longer can this go on?”

Also!  It’s never a bother to ask me about writing.  I hope I helped, if not feel free to ask follow up questions and thank you!