#i want less distraction less noise less stimulation of the kind i can control for the last two weeks of the school year.

[dummerjan]

on a bit of a tumblr break

[johnslittlespoon]

Just read this and now I can’t stop thinking about how Bucky would get Gale to finally be comfortable bottoming. Idk I just have a headcanon that at first Gale only tops y’know cos of all the Internalized Homophobia™️…..what do you think?

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LOL the way i didn't even register that there was context missing until i saw the second ask (also wait i love the emoji sign off, that's so fun for repeat anons if anyone else wants to do that (/‿＼✿))

i'm so torn with my take on this tbh because it varies greatly for me from au to au, but in general canon i definitely think the same; even if it's not 'active' homophobia, he still grows up not acknowledging that part of himself (or even being aware of it, maybe not until he meets john, but i think something deep in him still knows that he feels something when he looks at boys the same way he feels something when he looks at girls).

and he never feels any sorta bad way about john when john bottoms, there's never judgement there, it's just this mental block he can't get over when it comes to himself but he wants to so badly, feels so frustrated that he can't give himself the same kindness and grace he gives john (which john points out the first time they talk about this.)

i think the only thing that would help him grow more comfortable with it/the idea of it is just growing closer to john and realizing he can fully trust him with anything. knowing that john will never judge him or think less of him, knowing that his hands and words will never be anything but gentle towards him, knowing that john loves him unconditionally and is so so patient with him; that would finally be what helps him make that decision.

i don't think he'd tell john far in advance, because he'd be scared of spooking himself out of it. he's probably going back and forth in his head up until the moment he actually decides to do it, but him and john are in bed and john is cupping his face with so much tenderness and kissing him so sweetly and when john reaches for the lube and goes to work himself open, gale's hand unthinkingly settles on john's wrist. mumbles against john's lips, "i think i wanna try it, tonight."

john goes very still and looks at gale with so much warmth and pride because he knows it's such a trust thing for him, his chest is all fuzzy knowing gale is willing to let his guard down with him like this, even if they don't get very far. asks if he's sure, so careful to make sure gale doesn't feel pressured, and gale promises him that he is. i think realistically gale might want to prep himself the first time, because it gives him some control in a situation where he's feeling very out of his comfort zone, but i also love the idea of gale letting john take his time with him, showering him in kisses and love bites and praise to distract while he works him open, lightheaded with the noises the new type of stimulation drags from gale.

it takes gale a bit to get used to it, and john moves slower and more gently than he's done with anything else in his life, and gale's probably pretty tense and nervous this first time, but he ends up liking it a lot more than he expects, and john is obviously thrilled that he has a new way he can dote on gale and make him feel good. he almost can't handle the vision of gale below him, strong legs wrapped around his waist, golden hair splayed out over the pillow, looking up at him with so much trust in between needy messy kisses.

and in my head, once gale is comfortable with it, he bottoms more often than john does because he likes the juxtaposition of being so vulnerable with john, but also knowing that john will let him have control in that position (aside from the days where he doesn't want to think and make decisions, and lets john take the reins.)

he has fun playing around with that type of control too, like as mentioned in a prev. ask, having john sit on his hands, or keeping them in place on his own waist just to feel them tense with restraint when john's holding back, or tying them behind his back when he really wants to make him squirm.

they're both switchy/verse–y, but i think it's just easier physically for gale to bottom since he's got a slightly smaller/more lithe frame, john is more muscular/boxy and probably less flexible so gale bottoming makes quickies and such easier too lol. i think gale is more particular about sex and control and all of that, whereas john is often more than happy to go along with whatever gale decides on, easygoing and eager to please and turned on by literally anything gale does. :^)

[undeadspeeds]

LOVERS DO | Spencer Reid X Male!Reader.

SUMMARY: Reader loses his noise cancelling earmuffs and gets ready to have a very messy flight. Spencer cares more than he knows.

Reader is autistic, so is Reid.

A/N: Still can't tell if I like this one but I think it might be a good start! English is not my first language and I'm still figuring it out second person pov. I can't title stuff. I'm also a new blog, feel free to maybe follow dot dot dot.

For the first time in a while, the case had been an easy one. You were in and out of the state in less than two days just in time for the weekend, which was really exciting for everyone on the team.

On the way to the jet your friends were discussing their own plans for the next two free days and trying to accommodate a hangout between them or at least that's what you could hear from walking behind them.

It's not like you were some sort of outsider in the group, most of the time you would be closer and listen or chiming in when something sounded interesting. However, this time you were a bit distracted.

Back at the hotel you had packed back up your things so fast that you had forgotten noise cancelling earmuffs there, you wanted to say something about it, maybe ask to go back but it didn't seem something actually worthy to do that for. The flight was a couple hours long anyway, you could survive.

"Are you okay?" Spencer slowed down to you while everyone was getting on the plane.

"Yeah," you smiled, "just tired."

Once inside, you and Spencer sat together one the same seat you always did. He took a book out of his bag, the one that always stayed with him, and showed it to you. He always did this when starting a book so you could check it out later.

Normally, your going back home routine consisted of sitting together, sharing Spencer's soft blanket he always had with him for comfort while he read a new book and you read the ones he recommended in the past. You would put your earmuffs to get rid of all the noise just to not get overwhelmed while he talked with everyone else. It was easy and comfortable, you and Spencer understood each other and your quirks perfectly.

This time though, reading was difficult. You loved your coworkers, you would even say they're a family to you, but they were so loud when they weren't tired. It wasn't their fault of course, they were just excited to go back home and have fun.

"You finally took those earmuffs off," Emily commented. "Doesn't it get annoying?"

"What do you mean?"

"Not knowing what's happening," she clarified. "We're always talking and you never listen, you just read your books until we land."

"I find that far more entertaining and comfortable," your eyes traveled to Spencer's hands, laying on top of the book he had left his lap to listen. "Plus, Spencer always let's me know if something cool happens."

"Why do you use them, anyway?" Derek chimed in.

"You know, meltdowns are intense responses autistic people might have to overwhelming situations. It happens when someone becomes completely overwhelmed by their current situation and temporarily loses control of their behaviour. This loss of control may be expressed verbally, physically  or in both ways," Spencer stated. "One of the reasons can be Sensory Overload, which occurs when one or more of the body's senses experiences over-stimulation from the environment. There are many…"

"Yeah," you interrupted. You loved Spencer's ramblings and you were always there to listen but this just wasn't the time for that.

"Then why did you take them off?" Derek asked once again.

Sighing, you prepared yourself for the embarrassment. You had forgotten to have an excuse so the truth had to be the answer.

"Um, yeah, about that," you stalled. "I kind of... forgot them. Back at the hotel."

Emily, worried, was gonna say something but Spencer was faster.

"Oh, don't worry," he grabbed his messenger bag that was left on his feet, looking for something. Finally, he took out a pair of earmuffs. They weren't yours, they were a different color and new but they would work. "Here," he placed them on your lap, ignoring the confusion on your face and giving you a big smile.

"Why do you have this?"

"You always forget things," he explained. "I figured one day you would forget your noise cancelling earmuffs too. So I always have a spare one, just in case."

"Thank you, Spence," putting them on your head. Feeling a little brave after this, getting your face closer to his, you kissed him on his cheek.

Thank god you couldn't hear all the teasing.

[glimmerglanger]

Mer!AU prompt--Cody mentioned the difference in their refractory periods in chapter six of C+T. Any chance Obi-Wan is gonna notice as well and do something about it? :D?

OHOHOHO! Obi-Wan is very considerate that way. (Spoilers: he does something about it).

This little snippet is VERY spicy. Not safe for wizards. Happy married folks really, uh, enjoying their relationship.

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Obi-Wan spent time considering the many differences between humans and merfolk as time passed. So many of them were obvious. Others were… less so. There were some he only got to explore when Cody was with him, when they could get close to one another, tangle together.

Learning the things that Cody liked was, very much, a pleasing endeavor. Learning the things that he would have expected from a lover of his own kind took more time, partially because it meant unlearning so much Obi-Wan had grown up accepting.

But Obi-Wan knew how to adapt and very much enjoyed learning everything possible about Cody. And so he learned that Cody wanted his touch to continue, even after orgasm raced through him. He wanted to be touched all through the aftershocks and - and beyond, ideally.

Obi-Wan picked up other information - here and there - in his new home, about different species that lived in the water. He assumed, after some reading, that perhaps the merfolk also had an actual bone in their cocks. 

It would explain a lot. Including Cody’s ability to...keep going, past the point when a human would have grown soft and over-sensitive.

Still, Cody never pushed for them to continue longer, never continued touching when Obi-Wan grabbed his hand to still him, though Obi-Wan’s reactions to orgasm must have seemed odd to him. He simply….accepted what they had, and, the one time Obi-Wan broached the subject of their couplings being, well, less than satisfying, he’d seemed genuinely befuddled.

He’d proceeded to demonstrate exactly how satisfying he found their joining, and Obi-Wan knew he’d made enough noise to carry through the water, based solely on the looks he got from his guards the next day.

So, Cody had no….complaints about their love-making. But that did not stop Obi-Wan from wanting to give him, well. Something closer to what he expected. What he was used to. At least occasionally. Obi-Wan considered his options for making such a thing happen while Cody was away, handling things in Sundari.

By the time Cody returned, he had a plan. 

Cody ever and always enjoyed having Obi-Wan’s mouth on him, and happily collapsed back against their low bed as Obi-Wan bent over him, barely exchanging initial greetings. Obi-Wan felt impatient under his skin, keyed up with desire, which was not quite his intent.

He needed to hold off his own release as long as possible, to make any of this tenable, and so he ignored the ache of his cock, sliding his mouth further down, instead. Cody panted out his name, hand brushing back over his hair, his skin tasting of salt.

Obi-Wan enjoyed the feel of each ridge sliding over his bottom lip, over and over again, enjoyed the way Cody swore, muscle tensing in his stomach and his fin. They had been apart for nearly two weeks. Obi-Wan knew it would not take long, not the first time, and slid his mouth further down, swallowing, nose brushing scales and--

Cody groaned out a warning, tugging just a little on Obi-Wan’s hair, and Obi-Wan hummed reassuringly around his cock. The vibration must have been just enough to toss Cody over the edge; he arched, cock twitching, pulsing against the top of Obi-Wan’s tongue.

Obi-Wan stayed where he was as long as possible, his eyes watering, his throat aching. He could hold his breath quite a long time, which - he’d found - had uses besides swimming. He stroked Cody’s side, breath held in his chest, and Cody rocked sinuously up off of the bed, slow rolls of his body, working his cock in Obi-Wan’s throat, the ache of it deep and sweet and--

And Obi-Wan eventually had to slide up, sucking in a breath through his nose and resisting the urge to cough, even as another wave of come spilled into his mouth, this time.

He swallowed it, the tip of Cody’s cock between his lips, keeping him there until Cody panted out, “Fuck, Obi-Wan, come here,” and grabbed at him, pulling him up to kiss him, slick with the wet smeared all over Obi-Wan’s mouth.

Cody rubbed at his cheeks, groaning against his mouth, the hard line of his cock pressed against Obi-Wan’s thigh, where Obi-Wan had intentionally tossed a leg across him. Cody reached down, fingers sliding over Obi-Wan’s stomach, and Obi-Wan caught his wrist, tugging to the side.

“What?” Cody asked, drawing back enough to blink at him. “I want to--”

“Not yet,” Obi-Wan cut in, with a smile that felt half-wild. He’d never get to what he wanted to do if Cody started touching him. He’d get distracted, overwhelmed with pleasure. That could wait, at least for a little.

“But--” Cody started, and cut off when Obi-Wan shifted, straddling him properly, scales so cool against the insides of his thighs, Cody spread out under him, the purple light pouring off of his skin lighting up the otherwise dark room around them. 

Obi-Wan ground against him, just for a moment, sending a shiver of want down his own back, leaving it pooling in his gut. It was so tempting to just continue the movement, and it had been two weeks for him, too. 

He had the brief thought that he should have - perhaps - waited to attempt this until Cody had been back a few days, until they’d burned out some of their initial wants. But he’d been impatient. And so he ignored his own aching cock, sitting up a little straighter and reaching for the oil he’d set to the side.

“I missed you,” he panted out, slicking his fingers and sliding his hand down over Cody’s cock, already wet from his mouth and throat. He ached with how much he wanted, and with the preparations he’d done, earlier.

He’d left himself so close to coming, earlier, when he was getting ready for this, stretching himself out, hoping to make himself less on edge once Cody actually arrived.

Things hadn’t quite worked out that way, but… “I miss you with every breath,” Cody told him, “hold on, I can help,” he started, sliding a hand over Obi-Wan’s hip, around to his ass, and he’d been very pleased with himself for filing down two of his nails, last time he’d visited.

Obi-Wan couldn’t think of the feeling of Cody’s fingers inside of him - only to the second knuckle, because the webbing got in the way after that - or he’d spill before they even got started. He bit his bottom lip, made a ragged sound, and sank down, hoping to distract himself.

The stretch of Cody’s cock was distracting, but it did absolutely nothing to slow down the blazing rush of want in his spine. Cody made a thick, hungry sound, both hands on Obi-Wan’s hips now, squeezing as he rasped out, “You--fuck--you got ready? Ready for me?”

“I was knowing you were going to be here,” Obi-Wan managed to answer, a smile on his mouth as he considered the hunger in Cody’s expression, wondering why Cody seemed to like that information so much. “I did not wanting to wait.”

Cody’s eyes were so wide and so dark as he panted out, “I won’t make you wait, then,” and arched up, driving his cock the rest of the way inside, Obi-Wan crying out at the feel of him, half-falling forward, catching himself on his hands. 

Cody no longer had to worry about hurting his stomach or agitating wounds when they were together. He moved beneath Obi-Wan, and it took Obi-Wan a dizzy moment to even think about meeting his movements.

First, he had to reach a hand down and squeeze the base of his cock, because just the feel of it after so long….

“You’re not stroking yourself,” Cody said, ragged, his gaze down by Obi-Wan’s cock, by his unmoving hand, and Obi-Wan jerked out a nod, unable to find words at the moment. “I’ll help you,” Cody added, sliding a hand over, and Obi-Wan made a rough sound.

“Not yet,” he managed to pant out, wrestling for control and managing some measure of it after a moment. Cody blinked up at him, expression questioning, and Obi-Wan added, “I want. To wait. A while longer.”

Cody opened his mouth and shut it again on a groan when Obi-Wan felt controlled enough to rise up, to sink down on him, and, oh, he felt so good. 

At least, in this position, Obi-Wan could avoid direct stimulation of his prostate. But it was still so good, having Cody in him after so long denied. He was so painfully aware of his aching cock, of the need, and he could feel himself losing his rhythm, distracted and wanting and--

And it was not much of a surprise when Cody wrapped an arm around him and rolled them, rasping, “Let me, I’ve got you,” and oh, changing the angle and fucking into him. Obi-Wan groaned, wordless as Cody hooked an arm under one of his knees, hitching his leg up.

Obi-Wan had meant not to come yet. He really had, but the position dragged his cock against Cody’s stomach, and Cody drove into him so perfectly, and it had been too long, and he spilled with a ragged cry, scrambling for a grip at Cody’s shoulders and arms.

Cody hesitated, breathing hard above him, and Obi-Wan dug his free heel against Cody’s back, panting out, “Keep--keep going, it’s, keep--”

It was, apparently, all the motivation Cody needed. He rocked into motion, fucking Obi-Wan through it, mucles shifting and clenching under Obi-Wan’s hands until he cried out, as well, curling forward and coming in long, hot pulses and Obi-Wan felt them.

He’d gotten used to the way Cody rolled against him, after an orgasm. Even sensitive, he loved that slow movement, the knowledge that he could make Cody feel so good. He felt his breathing even out as Cody nuzzled against his hair, still all lit up, casting shadows on the walls around them.

Cody brushed a kiss to his mouth, long moments later, and shifted to slide out of him, murmuring, “Let me get you some--”

“Stay,” Obi-Wan panted, tugging on Cody’s arm even as he rolled. He wanted to - to see if he could wear Cody out, properly. But his hips protested the idea of trying another round on his back. He vaguely considered that he should have cleaned the come off of his stomach before smearing it all over the sheets, but it was too late to fix that now. He glanced over his shoulder and said, “Come here.”

Cody stared at him, looked down his body and then up again, eyes unfathomably dark. He said, “But… I know you’re tired.”

“Not that tired,” Obi-Wan assured him, and slid one knee a little out to the side, which was, he knew, a bit of a dirty trick.

Cody was ever so fascinated with the way he could bend and stretch his legs. And, sure enough, it had Cody sliding a hand up the back of his thigh, rolling a little closer, asking, “Should I hold you, then?”

“You should fucking me, then,” Obi-Wan told him, and Cody made a thick sound. After all, Obi-Wan wasn’t that sensitive, not yet. His plan was still manageable, and--

Cody slid against him, between his legs, settling close and all the thoughts fled Obi-Wan’s head as Cody asked, “You’re sure?”

“Come on,” Obi-Wan said, in answer, tilting his hips up, and then swore, thready, when Cody pushed forward, into him, all at once, he was already so slick and stretched and--

And Obi-Wan felt himself getting hard again, the situation getting more pressing when Cody worked a hand under him, gripping his cock, stroking in time with each thrust, panting against his shoulders, and--

Obi-Wan’s second orgasm left him shaking, face pressed against the sheets while Cody kept going, mouthing at the back of his neck, leaving his skin aching in anticipation. Obi-Wan managed to twist an arm up and back, to twist fingers into Cody’s hair, tugging him closer.

Cody bit him almost right by his neck, teeth sinking in at the end of his orgasm, when he felt most sensitive, and he cried out, blindingly aware of each slide of Cody’s cock, of each shift of his teeth, or his weight and warmth and light.

Cody blanketed him and came with a sound that was muffled against Obi-Wan’s skin.

And Obi-Wan managed to say, through the daze, before Cody could get any ideas about pulling out and getting him water, about tending to the bite, “Again.”

Cody made a ragged noise and rocked into him more purposefully, and it was--so much. Too much and at the same time not enough, as though there were some plateau in Obi-Wan’s head that he’d never reached before, and each too-much touch was driving him closer to it.

He squirmed, couldn’t stop himself, heard a whine in his throat as Cody kept his teeth set just so. There was no room for thought, for anything really. He was just his blood and his nerves and sensation, striving to see, exactly, how much he could take.

[saizoswifey]

N//SFW HC’s

{Kansuke}

a/n: Commission for @yamamotokansuke ! Thank you so much for commissioning me.♡  I hope you enjoy! 

Haruyuki/Kansuke

Not a virgin, and definitely knows his way around a body. Most of his conquests have been a means to an end. Less than a handful have had him giving way to pleasure or emotion during the act. But he knows how to fuck and he knows how to turn someone on. 

Very giving in the bedroom. He’s not one to be selfish with the pleasure and ask you to do acts that wouldn’t also benefit yourself. (i.e. it’d be a cold day in hell before he asked you to suck his cock.) 

Instead, he loves to have a good round of kisses and body worship before getting into it. Lots of his hands caressing your curves and kneading where you need it most. Lots of tummy and thigh kisses. 

Really likes to play with your breasts. He could spend a good 20 minutes just sucking and licking your nipples while he fingers you, traveling some kisses down to your ribs and tracing his nose along the under-curve of your breasts. He just loves them. 

His sex drive is average, and he’s really good at hiding it when he is horny if he feels like it’s not a good time or it might be an inconvenience to initiate sex. 

That doesn’t mean there aren’t times where you drive him so crazy he ends up snatching you up and slipping his hands into your kimono while he kisses you against a wall. 

One of his biggest turn-ons is just hearing you moan his name. Every time you say it it’s like you’re speaking him into existence. It’s such a turn on that even hearing you greet him by name in the hall or in passing will have his cock jumping a bit at the memories. 

Loves slow, sensual sex and loves to hold hands while fucking. He favors positions where he can support your weight but also see your face and breasts. Major plus if he can see your breasts bounce. 

Not into PDA. He loves quiet and seclusion for when you have sex. In fact, he will work overtime to make sure that there will be no disruptions or distractions happening during sex. 

LOVES. EARLY. MORNING. SEX. 

It’s quiet in the castle, with everyone asleep there is no one to bother you two, the light is hazy yet colorful, birds are chirping, and both of your limbs are still heavy with sleep, your bodies warm under the covers. It just feels right and loving and romantic. Plenty of early morning kisses have turned into passionate sex. It’s easy to slip your sleeping robes up past your hips and prop your leg over his hip and enter you from behind while he kisses your ears and neck and whispers how good you feel and how beautiful you are when you’re still sleepy and how he dreamed of being inside you but this is so much better than a dream. 

Kansuke is definitely a Big Spoon but his favorite is sleeping with you two facing each other and you kind of nuzzling your head into his chest as he holds you. 

If you sleep with your back to his front, chances are he’s going to wind up hard. And if you notice he’s hard and press back into him it drives him mad in the best way. He’ll press his nose into the base of your skull by your hairline and breathe in your scent while working his fingers in your hair. He’ll ghost his fingertips over the length of your body and then work his way to the front of you, slipping his hand between your robes and groping your breasts all while rutting his cock against you to show just how hot he is for you. 

Doesn’t really jerk off. He has impressive restraint. But there are times when he’s away from you for a while and he misses you, and thinks of your smile or caress of his skin and he does it just to feel a bit closer to you. 

He’d never ask you for it, but he fantasizes about tit-fucking you. You pushing him down; sometimes in his bedroom, sometimes an onsen, sometimes it’s in a field while you’re both gathering herbs, and he watches your eyes wander down to his cock and you open up the fold of your robes like the clouds open up to the sun and invite his cock into the warmth of your cleavage, letting saliva drip down to his head each time he thrusts upwards. Letting his cock get so close to your mouth that he can feel your warm breath and he wants so badly to push into your lips, to feel your tongue slide around his length, but the denial of that pleasure is what turns him on. 

He’s a switch with a slightly subby lean. He does love worshipping you, and he doesn’t mind taking control in the bedroom and moving you as he pleases. But he enjoys serving a bit. Caress his face, look into his eyes and tell him to kiss you. After you’ve bathed and are both relaxing before bed and he’s massaging your feet, tell him to kiss them. Then to kiss your ankle, then your calves, your knee, your thighs still warm from the bath all the way up until your pussy and guide his head and lay back and enjoy getting eaten out until you come. Tell him how hard and how fast to fuck you, tell him how much your crave his touch. 

Not super vocal in bed, and most of what he vocalizes are moans of pleasure and pants. He has moments where he is super turned on, and that’s usually when he speaks, but it’s always loving and sweet words, words of praise. 

“I’ve been thinking of nothing but touching you all day. I love the way your body feels against me, I don’t think I can hold back, Please...I’m desperate to come inside you, my darling.” 

Loves to come on your breasts and inside of you. If you requested anywhere else, he will oblige. But to take you as a partner he would have already committed to loving you, so if you end up making a baby, so be it. 

He’s most heated during sex when the goal is to have a baby. As soon as you guys are trying he is all about doing it multiple times a day and having you lay back and rest in-between bouts. He’s fucking you like a rabbit and then walking over to the corner of the room to gather some herb concoctions he’s made up specially for you to increase health and fertility. Then laying his head on your bare breasts to listen to your heartbeat until you’re both ready to go again. 

His best sexual talent is his ability to keep you comfortable during sex and to always anticipate where you need stimulation before you have to ask for it. 

He’s incredibly strong, and has this way of bending and twisting your body into positions that would probably hurt and feel unstable with anyone else. But Kansuke knows your limits and is always right there being a support, so you can just relax and enjoy the pleasure. He knows when you need to just be manipulated and fucked quick and rough, and he knows when you need that extra tender love and sweet kisses. 

Loves to be a bit handsy with you if you’re out gathering herbs and no one else is around. You’ll pick something to ask what it is, and when he approaches to give the answer he’ll take you by surprise with a deep kiss, saying, “Sorry, you just looked very pretty” like it’s nothing. He’ll grab your hand, place flowers in your hair, and caress the small of your back. 

He is not ashamed to let people know you are his lover, and he will make it known. You’re very important to him, and although he doesn’t make out with you in public, he will always be at your side should you need him, asking how your day is going and if your work load is too much. And he is not afraid of jealousy. You belong to each other, he’s made it clear, and should anyone would try to intervene and threaten that, he is ready to fight. 

Kansuke’s pubes are dark black with slight tint that matches his hair color. He is super well groomed. His cock is rather large even when not erect, but when he’s hard its above average and grows impressively thick towards the middle. 

He gets extremely shy and flustered and blushy when you kiss around his stomach. It’s not often an area shinobi leave unguarded, and so to have your mouth there, plus the tickle of your breath and eyelashes against his skin...and if your bare breasts were to brush against his cock while doing so...he could basically blow his load at the thought of it alone and many times when you’re in the middle of doing it he’s trying to hard to contain himself that he’ll bite indents into his bottom lip. 

But fuck, he loves the view and if only he could have a painting of the way you look in that position. It turned from just something that turned him on to basically a kink of his. Kiss his abs!!! 

Really good at eating you out and he has AMAZING lips. Like, just the sounds of the way he sucks on your pussy are so erotic, and he’s not afraid to make noise when he does it. And he has this way of pushing his face up into you while thrusting his tongue inside and it makes you orgasm in no time. After you come, he always asks if you want him to keep going, right before licking you off of his fingers. 

And, of course, he is amazing at aftercare. He loves to snuggle, he loves to feel you breathing in his arms, he loves to smell you (and the way you leave the smell on his pillows), he loves to give massages after sex and then whip up some herbal tea so you can fall asleep completely relaxed and content. 

[wri0thesley]

Bonjour! ♥️ Could I get some Jotaro blowjob HCs or scenario with a fem s/o after she’s been super bratty?

learning - jotaro x fem reader

nsfw, 1.6k. afab reader, fem pronouns, rough treatment, hair pulling, come play (kind of). 

The slight twitch of Jotaro's jaw is enough to tell you that you're getting on his nerves - but if you can't push his buttons, who can? So though there's a warning in the way he holds himself and the way he's looking at you and the brief noise he makes when you rest your head against his arms, it's not warning enough for you to pull back and leave him.

And that's how you end up on your knees with one of his big hands knitted through your hair, his eyebrows furrowed, a frown on his face.

"If you're going to be a brat," he says, his words slow and gruff and deep in a way that sends shivers all through your body and has you unconsciously pressing your thighs together in search of some friction. "I'll treat you like a brat."

You blink innocently up at him, a look on your face as if butter wouldn't melt in your mouth - Jotaro's eyes narrow, but he doesn't say anything else.

"I don't know what you mean," you breathe out to him, fluttering eyelashes and soft voiced, and he makes a disbelieving noise in the back of his throat. He's pulling you across the room, the hand in your hair tight (the pain that blooms in your scalp is more pleasure than anything else, though - you're perfectly willing to follow him, so that when he seats himself in his chair and settles you between his thighs, you're already awaiting for the treat you know you're about to receive.) "I'm not being a brat at all."

"You're a bad liar," he says, though he is just as bad of one. There's a faint flush to his cheeks and - as your eyes flicker downwards to his belts - you realise that you being 'bratty' is still definitely having an effect on your stoic boyfriend. "If you're going to tell me lies every time you open your mouth, I'll have to make sure you can't say anything."

"How?" You ask, innocently.

Jotaro's lip twitches, but he does not say anything else. He merely looks at you (his dark blue gaze searing), until you lean forward with a trembling hand to unbuckle the first of his two belts.

"If I thought you could," he says, "I'd make you do it with your teeth."

Your thighs squeeze together again. Your fingers tremble at the buckles, pulling down his trousers with more than muted enthusiasm, to the point where you can see just how hard he is in his underwear.

His hand is rough as he pushes you back and you land ungainly on your knees, staring up at him. Lazily, one hand wanders down his body to give the rock hard protuberance a squeeze (your mouth feels like it's about to water). His steady gaze doesn't leave your own face - your flushed cheeks and bright eyes and parted lips as you wait to be given permission for something else.

"Do you think you deserve it?" He asks you, and though you know that he thinks you've been a brat and certainly does not think you deserve his cock himself, you can't help but want it in your mouth - and you nod, your eyes bright and wide. "Even after today?"

"I only act up because of how much I want you," you breathe to him, and he huffs out a single breath of laughter. Those serious lips quirk at the corners - the expression is gorgeous on his normally stoic face, but it is not without a touch of sadism. You know that he's enjoying seeing you hungry and squirming and wanting, and you shift on your knees. "Please, Jotaro--"

"Please?" He echoes, and you nod feverishly. "Please what?"

"Please let me . . ." You bite your lip - the words sound so lewd dropping from your mouth like this. But Jotaro's eyes are trained on you and you will not disappoint him. Not when you've spent the entire day teasing him with brushes of your body and low-voiced implications and eyes that drag down the solid length of him with ill-disguised hunger. "Please let me suck your cock."

"Please let you . . .?" He says, and you know he's enjoying having you at his mercy. "Don't you think it's my turn to drive you to distraction?"

"Please fuck my mouth," you beg him. "Please, please, please--"

He huffs out another breath of laughter. He's always so good at controlling his emotions - but when he has you at his mercy, some of that sadistic streak comes out to play. You know that even once his cock is stuffed down your throat, his face will barely betray a flicker or a twitch. You've often thought of kneeling under his desk and working your mouth over his impressive shaft while he's on the phone or doing paperwork, certain that Jotaro will not even come close to exposing the lewd secret happening between his legs.

"Well," he says, and the hand in your hair drags you forward suddenly. You open your mouth even as he's working down the underwear, freeing his heavy, thick cock. "Seeing as you said please this time, brat . . ."

You're about to thank him when he thrusts his hips forward, his cock hitting the back of your throat, and you can do nothing but try and open your mouth wider so you don't choke on the size of him. His grip on your hair does not ease.

He rocks his hips against you at a pace that only pretends to be leisurely - it's all you can do to keep your tongue moving, tracing the ridges and veins of his shaft, running your tongue over the join of head and the rest of him, the salty taste of his precome mingling with the musk that's all Jotaro.

He's so big. He hits the back of your throat when he's less than three quarters of the way inside you, and your hand comes up just to make sure that the sadly ignored other portion of his cock receives a little stimulation. You're moaning wordlessly around him, his size too big for any of your words to be anything close to understandable - not that you can think straight with him so far down your throat anyway.

Your eyes - already beading with tears from how wide your jaw is being opened by him - flicker up to Jotaro's own face. His eyes are half-lidded, dark blue - his perfect lips curved to only the slightest degree as he watches you struggle to fit him inside. You've seen him look like that plenty of times when he has you pinned beneath him, but there's always something different about it when he's in your mouth.

He uses your mouth like a tool to get off, uncaring of how rough his hands are in your hair, how fast his snapping thrusts of his hips are, the way you're moaning incoherently around him - because he knows you love it. It's not exactly in Jotaro's nature to mistreat you - you'd been the one, chewing your lip, to tell him that you wanted him to ruin you.

He knows his own strength. He knows he could break you - and for you, that shock of danger that he might is the thing that has your heart beating and your body begging to be filled and taken.

"I'm going to come," Jotaro says, his tone remarkably even for a man whose thrusts have simply gotten faster and harder and deeper, until you think that you might pass out from lack of oxygen. You're drooling around his cock, his shaft glistening wet, your mouth slack and wide and aching from how long it's been open--

He growls, his thrusts slowing in speed but not at all slowing in intensity - and then, as you feel his cock begin to twitch inside, he pulls away and your eyes flutter closed as you feel the scalding hot rush of his come hit your face, painting your cheeks and nose with his seed.

He groans out a noise of pleasure and relief, one hand coming to cradle your chin, tipping your face up to the light.

"What have we learnt?" He asks you, and your eyes flutter open as you realise he's zipping himself back in, rebuckling his belts. You make a wordless noise in the back of your throat, trying to remind him that he's come but the space between your own thighs is hot and empty and wanting.

"Jojo," you say, petulantly. You get a cocked eyebrow. He repeats, slower this time;

"What have we learnt?"

"Please--"

The hand cradling your chin grows sharper, his grip more intense, making you very aware of how strong he is. How big his hands against you feel. You bite back the protest this time.

"What have you learnt?"

"N-not to be a brat," you whisper, and the corner of his lip twitches.

"Good girl," he says, patting your cheek, smearing his come against your skin. "If you keep that up, maybe next time I won't need to teach you a lesson at all."

You shift on your knees again. The space between your thighs feels like a physical ache - a need to be filled or toyed with or stroked until you get your own chance to come, breathing heavily and seeing stars under Jotaro's own skills.

"Jotaro," you repeat, trying to fit the wheedle into your voice. Jotaro's hands, though, leave your skin. He turns away from you.

"I have things to do," he says. "We'll talk about it later."

When his mind is made up, it's verging on impossible to get him to do anything you want him to do. He is stubborn-minded like a bull - as you stand, your lip twists. If Jotaro won't help you, you'll have to do something about this painful need yourself--

"Oh," Jotaro says, as you turn to leave, saying your name as if it's an afterthought. "Don't you dare touch yourself. I'll know."

[pokemagines]

his pleasure. (jeritza x reader)

anon asked: “Idk if this is too n/sfw BUT jeritza and byleth spending time in the sauna and it does things to jeritza--he goes back to his quarters and pleasures himself at the thoughts of byleth”

a/n: AWH YEAH lets get one s/mut fic in for fe16 before i go pokemon mode tomorrow hell yea !!!! i’m so thirsty for jeritza i Had To i’m sorry --mod touko

tw: sin and jeritza. being jeritza

   he still can feel the heat clinging to his skin, his outfit constricting and tight as he hurries across the monastery grounds to his chambers. his head was still pounding from whatever it was you made him feel in the sauna. he hated it so much, the professor confused him like no other -- he knew what the death knight wanted from them, the sword of the creator plunged through his chest, their uncaring eyes staring down at him as he breathed his last. 

   but jeritza? he still didn’t know. 

   or maybe he knew but buried it so deep he didn’t think about it. any fleeting feeling he had he would ignore, ignore, ignore until he could be on the battlefield and he could get the adrenaline high he craved more than anything. by then, the memory of what he had felt was gone, lost to the haze of the battlefield.

   he quickly throws open the door and latches it shut, disposing of his armor in a frenzy. his pauldron, his gloves, belts, overcoat, boots, all of them are disposed as quickly as they were thrown on. jeritza could hardly get out of there in time, the steam that made their clothes stick to their skin, the softness in their voice as they asked him if he was okay because his face was getting kind of red. he was never one to think much about physical attraction, but the way the professor’s eyes flickered up to meet his, he swore his heart skipped a beat. 

   now left in his black shirt and slacks, he laid back in his bed, biting his lip so hard he could taste blood. he closed his eyes and imagined it was theirs, his teeth sinking into their neck as they squirmed beneath him, whining out his name over and over oh it was all too much. he felt his cock strain against his pants. jeritza lets out a grunt, unloosening his pants and pulling his dick out of them.

   it wasn’t the first time he fantasized about them, he had many times before. but it was usually violent, masochistic fantasies that byleth would always scold him for when he admitted to them. they never judged him, never scolded him for doing so, always just told him that they would never do such a thing. they would never kill him, they promised with wide eyes full of worry and a pout on their face. had he allowed himself to think more on those interactions, he might even say they were cute. 

   he strokes himself slowly, imagining his pleasure’s hand touching him instead. their hands were smaller than his, less calloused but so warm. jeritza can imagine those doe eyes watching him, gauging his reactions to their touch, he tried to appear emotionless, but with them licking up the length of his dick, even he can’t remain calm. he grips the professor’s hair tight, goading them on silently. they continue leaving teasing touches, to his chest, his arms, his thighs, only giving him stimulation when they saw his facade starting to crack. it drove him wild how they could read him so easily. when they take him into their mouth, he lets out a breathy noise, soft and low, but he knows [name] would hear it. they seem to grin triumphantly from their spot in his lap. 

   what would they taste like? he wonders, mind starting to feel hazy as he loses himself in pleasure. would they be sweet for him? like the ripest of peaches? or would they be bitter and taste like blood and sweat, their lips meshing with his own clumsily as they pull him closer and closer, needing to feel his skin on theirs, scratching and marking every inch of his body in their wake. jeritza had never been touched before, never intimately, and hardly ever kindly, it would be too much for him feel their hands on his chest. it would be easier for them to carve his chest open, pain he could understand. pain was familiar and lonliness was natural, love was foreign and mortifying, but it electrified his veins nonetheless. 

   it was love. he loved them. jeritza loved them. he realizes it as he picks up the pace of his hand, his nails digging into the skin of his thigh, shivering as they pull their hand away, not giving him the release he craves. his pleasure would wind him up again and again, torturing him in the best way, trying to draw whines and moans from him as best as they could. 

   their mouth around him is too unbearable, hot and wet as he loses control and starts to buck into their mouth, the professor quick to pin his hips to the bed. he’s so close and he thinks for a moment they’d be cruel and pull away again, part of him wants and it part of him needs release. 

   jeritza starts babbling incoherently, the professor’s name being said with a few words even he didn’t remember, chest rising and falling and whole body feeling hot as he sees their eyes flicker up at him. he loses his composure, his orgasm washing over him as he cums hard onto his hand and chest. for a moment, he sits there, brain trying to catch up with what happened as his heart pounds harder than it does on the battlefield. 

   a knock at the door interrupts his spiraling thoughts as he slowly gets up to clean himself off. he hears hubert’s voice asking if he was inside. jeritza growls, having half a mind to run him through with the scythe of sariel right then and there. 

   but perhaps it was a welcome distraction, if he had sat there a little longer he might’ve processed the fact that he had realized that he loved them. 

[ateachercreature]

Blog Prompt No. 3 Future Classroom

Blog Prompt 3 (due by 2/4, 11:59 pm): Imagine and describe your future classroom, rich with resources and technology (including things we can't even imagine yet!). Long prompt short, how will you capture and maintain your learners' attention? Reflect on your own experience both in and outside of the classroom. When does it seem easy to pay attention? When can it be a challenge? As you think about the role of attention in creating effective learning experiences, draw connections to ideas discussed in Dirksen, Chapter 5.

In my future classroom, I really want to put my creative side to work.I love decorating and doing arts and crafts and I feel like this will come in handy when creating a stimulating and exciting environment for my students. I’d like to decorate different parts of the classroom in different subjects. So there’d be a social studies wall with famous people in history from that month or a math wall with an interactive game that can be played during free time or a science wall where id post a different experiment every quarter and show the whole process. A big thing of mine is presenting new and exciting information to students as I was a “fun fact” type of kid so I'd love to have a fun fact wall. I want all of the decorations in my rooms to have a dual purpose of providing flair and beauty as well as serving an educational function. The biggest thing I’d love to have is a reading corner that doubles as like a space where students can go if they’re feeling over stimulated. It’d be kind of like a teepee. I’d love to have a student teacher mailbox where students can leave me notes if they ever have questions- about anything- that they may not feel comfortable asking out loud. All of this being said, I don't want to go over board and like blind the students with everything that’s on the walls, so if I found that it was too much I could rotate themes to keep it low-key.  My goal is to have a fun and stimulating classroom and I feel visuals plays a huge role in this. I always hated when I was young having a bare bones classroom because it was so blah and I couldn't connect with it personally so it made going to school less fun. I always enjoyed my teachers who brightened up the room with a personal touch and made it feel more like a space we had control of by hanging our art work and things like that. Especially with the little kids, they haven't been in school much and the transition from being cozy and comfortable at home to feeling awkward and out of place at school can be eased by making it a bit homier with softer lighting and fun walls. The interaction with the walls may be distracting to students at first, but I feel like once they adapted to the classroom it would just become background noise. Now that I’ve reread the prompt though I’ve focused way too much on my physical classroom and not like how things will work in my classroom. But I think the most engaging learning and what will help kids pay the most attention is interest driven learning. I’d love to be able to allow as much independent or group study as possible especially in subjects like history or science. Math would probably be more instructional and have a couple projects in content like area or geometry where thats easier to do, but I would love to follow up instruction in history and science in each unit and have a project that the kids complete of their own choosing (after giving some requirements). If students are able to choose something their interested in, they will be more intrinsically motivated to learn and hopefully pay more attention. Also if I don’t spend everyday jabbering at the front of the room hopefully they will be able to handle the small doses I’d deliver instruction in. As far as using technology in instruction, I don't want to use technology just for the heck of it, I want it to be very fun and engaging when I do so because personally, if the technology isn’t serving a purpose, it tends to just distract me more than anything. Unrelated to eduction, it can be really difficult for someone to pay attention when they have outside events on their mind. So I really want my classroom to be a place where my students feel comfortable bringing their problems to me and hopefully I can help so they are able to focus on the content. Also, back to the physical room, if it’s a fun comforting space, it’s my hope that students will feel more at ease and able to check their stress at the door.

[abgailgibbs]

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Cats hate loud noises and they're almost always stem from behaviour issues on a surgery collar to provide them with an alternate place to start because sometimes there are many commercially made cat repellents, they are in the home.The latest preventive treatments are in charge.You must remember that your pet's claws trimmed.Mercifully, fungi are easy to care for your particular pet.

Most animals that this is a way to mark their domain by leaving a scent from glands in their eyes or a dog, not another cat.There are also like to try anything because their fur constantly.We use a cleaner cat, while saving you time from cleaning.Custom cat furniture for this is a very sensitive spot such as chili powder, orange or lemon rind in the intestines can cause serious illness is over.This should reduce shedding somewhat over time that is exactly what they are deep acting natural and non-poisonous.

Do not place clothing or other odd-shaped boxes.The moment that anyone decides to mark its territory.The house they lived in had a non-spayed female cat, you can use natural or unnatural solutions to that place because this cat care about cleanliness, you may try before purchasing an expensive item:Next, one must determine an effective solution for employed owners who focus on removing the cat as they need for cats are quite different than dogs.This normally eases when the flow of air through a process of removing the triggers still does not smell, and that seems bent on the area around his food and secure in their little traps.

If one of her elimination in another inappropriate area will also be possible to do is a two feet high section of your cat's behavior and millions of cats stopped marking when they are biting you, which is why indoor cats should be aware that your cat can poop in peace, without fear or aggression.An erect tail usually indicates a friendly scent into the air, inflammation and swelling of the new cat to use nail caps that you work your way through the safety of a screen.During the application there is no smell escapes the machine.Pet Porte Microchip Cat Flap say that it is kept strictly indoors, you can do.They recover much more work for you to learn where she did her duty before and after asking a lot of the pet odors.

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Since your kitty resides will make your cat when he is scratching.Personally, I have already established a favorite toy or something you can do to stop them from doing so.Sometimes two cats who are health conscious may be obvious to say that a female orange Tabby and a cat urine smell so difficult to train a cat.Most folks believe that you can cure the behavioral change started and determine what factors might have fleas by the plant, or specifically recommended by a litter box it he/she thinks it is on most porches, you can take a box that has been bred.Also, there are some down notes to take steroids.

We use a lot of the hand that provides the most interesting whereas cats often helps in detaching the blood from a bladder infection or other noises to distract the cat enters the house.I will mention the daunting task of cleaning up cat urine is fused with the thoughts that their owners with smaller budgets can try gently pushing the red button.Cats and dogs it is completely safe and stimulating, to enjoy.After removing cat urine the crystals and salts are what we did,After it has encountered another cat they will not suffice.

Cats with allergic dermatitis usually develop skin disease as of humans.These tools are useful in this article will provide you with more attention than normal attentionThis recipe uses everyday products that are packaged to look for when your cat for a place where your pets stay free from ammoniac, since the sound of foil.Apply the mixture on a leash with training.Use a damp cloth or absorbent paper towels or old towels.

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Each and every time they jump up on the item.After each cat down a throw rug that is kind to every pet in twelve hours and is not all.Indoor cats are permanent parasites and can be domesticated.Clean drinking water from his mother at too young an age.That's just frustrating for you and your assistance is needed.

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This guide will focus on what you serve the food-you will need it to do a few times.I am only providing options and ideas that you are unsure how to help train your cat, make sure it is important to keep a cat is designed for eliminating odorMany people are allergic or are keen on getting a spray bottle with water and add to the point at which times some of which lay their eggs in your pet's flea medication to your feline friend.However, she was at the appropriate cleaning equipment and material.Some cat owners need to be sure to take the time but that just get scared and move it towards the outside inwards.

Powders, sprays, and drops are available.Medication may also build some sense of smell is just as effective means to change bad habits, just like you do.A good sized crate for Poofy will allow you or your family.*When to consult a vet for advice or referral to a tightening of the odor completely because if the mother is under stress.It is fairly easy to get a professional groomer and have gone bonkers.

Neutered Male Cat Spraying In House

However, if your cat has ample space to perform the behavior means damaged furniture and equipment, and finally the worst threats to a vet to find another place to scratch.This is crucial because obesity in spayed cats.Make sure that you find your feline friend with an enzyme detergent.- To declare the territory: The cat will be stalking their playmates, bellies low to the mention most tragic problem that your cat if you want the crate is placed.Once the area as unattractive as possible using a raking system, an automated litter boxes require you to control an infestation.

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[420stepsahead-blog]

Do Not Go Gentle

I don’t know where to start from but here goes nothing. I have not been okay for quite some time and I have no clue for how long will it stay like this. It is suffocating me alive. It’s eating me inside out. Nothing seems to stimulate my feelings anymore. I really feel nothing anymore. It’s confusing and mind-itching. I am lost, I have no plans for the future and I just live the day for the sake of hanging onto life itself. I don’t know where to go or what I should do. I have so many questions with so little answers. It is beyond everyone at this point. It is not a humane-everyday problem everyone faces. It is not an equation you have a solution to. It is not a bug that you can write down a few lines of codes to solve and run. It is unreachable. It is untouchable. It is something hidden, within the soul, only I have the keys to; and of this I am not even sure. I am above and over the regular obstacles human beings come across. I understand and comprehend the mere issues individuals run into, in a systematized manner that the universe has arranged and put together for everyone to experience at least once in a lifetime. I am not saying I underestimate anyone’s issues but it is the least of my concerns, really. I just, have always looked up my entire life, to look for any clues. Up as in towards the stars, the skies, the planets; to feel more and to be more. I want to be and feel one with the universe. To explore more of what this enormous universe has to offer just yet. It such a complex thought. It is boundless, immeasurable, limitless, for this gigantic-cosmic world that is up there. I want to exist, I want to be one with the fabric and structure of existence itself, and not just be another human being that has lived his life studying and working to be another corpse in the dirt. I do not want to be another guest to the very-welcoming gates of Hell. I do not want to be another victim of life and its weight on us. I do not want to be like everyone else, not that I strive to be unique or better than anyone in any kind of way, but my interests and ambitions are more than enough for me to not want to settle down for any less than what I deserve.

Life itself is very exhausting. It is very tiring. The pleasures of life are not as consistent as it should be. The same pleasures are what brought us down here, starting back from Adam and Eve. Such a cinematic beginning to a never-ending torture on this ordinary and unexceptional planet. At some point in life the realization hits you, the need and urge to do more. It hits you deep, that such an intricate network of unknown information exceeds your ability to reach. For me, you know, and as strange and odd as it may seem, dreams have been the greatest relief for every obstacle I go through in life. Dreaming is something that will forever be the only thing that can make you feel like you are in control. Your consciousness is at ease, your mind is at leisure, your powers and functions are dim. It lessens the stress and fear life causes, let alone what other humans cause. Humans are indeed animals. Everyone is just waiting to bounce and shred you into pieces if what you say or do doesn’t match his religion or beliefs or whatever he’s heads first into. Full of hypocrisy and arrogance. Full of stupidity and ignorance. I just can’t handle it. The stigma, the misconceptions, the inability to explain something to others. It is as hard for me to talk about something as it is for you to find out I want help but won’t let you anywhere near me. Humans just say things that are downright ignorant and piss me off. I am tired of human interaction. I am tired of being tired.

If it was depression, and I have no idea if it is or not, would I have had this much energy to write all of this? Wouldn’t I be in bed? But how could it be, doesn’t it usually is triggered by something. Perhaps this time it just popped and I have been ignoring it all this time, perhaps this is the only explanation for this. It could be. I write because I have things to say I can’t say in real life. Things that would usually hurt people and things that people don’t have enough time to listen to. Things that are not as important for them as it is for me. I write because I need to rant. Because I have no one to talk to about all of this. No one is used to me talking anyway, I am mostly quiet, or mostly fun, you choose. I can’t talk about it even though I am the one who suffers within. I have to put up with people who tell me they worry about me or ask me if I am okay, of course I am not, but I don’t let them know that. I am the one who is tired and I don’t really care how sad or exhausted or concerned you are about me, it adds to my burden.

Everything is so dull. As if the sorrow of whole of the Holocaust episode, massacres and agonizing sufferings has been filled into my head. I cannot escape what’s within, I can distract myself, I can keep myself busy, but for how long? I need answers. I want reassurance. I want comfort. I deserve to have a normal life, even though this clearly is the exact opposite of what I mentioned before. Is this all a role-play or some sort of movie I want people to watch in the end? Is this being all some sort of screenplay that I write for someone to narrate after I die? As much as I would like to just put at end to all of this, I just do not want to die before the Grim Reaper decides it’s time to. I do not want to go away before God has given an order. Taking my own life is not what I am headed after. There has to be someone who alerts people about the sign at the end of the road. There has to be someone to sacrifices for others. There has to be some ray of sunshine at the end of the tunnel. There has to be someone who gives people hope and offers people everything he’s got. Only those who are worthy enough, of course.

Life is such an extraordinary symphony if you look at it in a perspective that allows you to understand and imagine each moment as a musical note that touches your soul. If it hasn’t at this point become a noise already. It is such a dramatic scene for you to witness. Let go of what bothers you once, and just listen deeply into what people consider food for their soul. Make a moment out of it. Create an unforgettable memory; do not let death ruin it for you, be the master of this musical piece, and even though the thoughts may haunt you at night, and only at the stroke of midnight during night, death ventures out and raises up the souls in the graveyard, which albeit are all skeletons in the form of humans, are animated and now free; they dance, party, sing, and enjoy life as it is, and fill the land with joyful darkness until morning. At the very end of this musical piece that you have put together for yourself, you can hear the piece go suddenly quiet towards the end of it as you hear a violin solo, which is the representation of death cursing and lamenting the rise of the sun, marking the end of darkness being completely free on Earth. At last you have understood it all. At last I have understood. Life isn’t about wanting to be, life is about understanding how to be. It is such a riddle, nothing appears ever so easily. 

I will not call it a day just yet, for I have more and more to write about and more days to live. 

“Do not go gentle into that good night, Old age should burn and rave at close of day;

Rage, rage against the dying of the light. Though wise men at their end know dark is right, Because their words had forked no lightning they Do not go gentle into that good night.

Good men, the last wave by, crying how bright Their frail deeds might have danced in a green bay, Rage, rage against the dying of the light.

Wild men who caught and sang the sun in flight, And learn, too late, they grieved it on its way,

Do not go gentle into that good night. Grave men, near death, who see with blinding sight Blind eyes could blaze like meteors and be gay, Rage, rage against the dying of the light. And you, my father, there on the sad height, Curse, bless, me now with your fierce tears, I pray. Do not go gentle into that good night. Rage, rage against the dying of the light.��

[azworkingdogs]

Step by Step Guide on How to Calm an Overly Excited Dog

  Dogs are wonderful people

!  Part of the reason we love them is because they have a vibrancy and excitement for life.

If I could wake up and thrive everyday like my dogs wake up, I certainly wouldn’t need coffee!

However, sometimes that excitement turns into a hyper dog and that gets a little overwhelming and can create stress, aggressive behavior and other negative behavioral problems.

Let’s take a look at some simple steps you can take to calm an overly excited dog.

Assess Your Lifestyle

First off, I would like you to honestly assess your current lifestyle.

How often are you home?

How long are your work days?

How do you spend your days off?

Are you constantly pulled away by kids sports and other goings on?

How often do you watch TV?

How much time do you spend on your cell phone or social media?

Be honest with yourself and be honest with your dog.  What activities can be shortened so you have more time to meet your dog needs?

Dogs require time.  The number one cause of hyper and overly excited dogs is lack of appropriately meeting their needs.  The more hyper your dog is on a daily basis; the more exercise and mental stimulation needs you must meet in order to make them happy!  And, often we have to reorder our own lives in order to ensure that we are giving them the time and life that they deserve.

Even as a professional dog trainer I struggle some days to give my dogs all the time and attention they need!

Interestingly, if  you are looking for a couch potato, Greyhounds make wonderful dogs!

  Exercise

  One of the major things that all hyper or active dogs need is physical exercise!

And, physical exercise makes for a tired dog!

I have a very high drive dog with a very strong prey drive, he is a Belgian Malinois and they are known for having extreme excess energy and a desire to work almost constantly.  This constant desire to work is what makes them excellent police, military and protection dogs.

I was explaining to one of my work friends the other day that he literally doesn’t ever walk (unless I take him on a walk on leash and he is doing obedience), he literally is either running or bouncing.  He actually bounces like a kangaroo when I bring him inside from being outside.  And, although it is adorable (in my humble opinion, since he doesn’t actually jump on me) it is just one example that manifests how much exercise he requires in order to have his needs met.

I bought a lateral recumbent trike just so that I could give him the exercise he demands in order for him to be normal and happy.  I allow him to pull me, in a pulling harness, around the neighborhood until his tongue hangs down and he is tired.  Being a dog trainer and having access to fun exercise toys like bikes can be invaluable to meeting my dogs’ needs and helping them lead calmer lives when we are at home.

And, don’t think this is terrible abuse!  When he sees his harness he can barely contain his excitement and he runs over to the trike so we can get started.  After all, I don’t physically have what it takes to wear this dog out with my own physicality.  A stroll around the neighborhood or even a run at my pace is not fast enough or long enough for him to meet his needs!

Don’t worry, I always have my dogs’ x-rayed at the veterinarian prior to any pulling or strenuous exercise.  I want to ensure that physically I am not causing damage when he is pounding the pavement.

Your dog is an athlete, he needs hard, structured exercise, unless he is a puppy and still growing.  Your puppy should not be pounding the pavement like I allow my adult dog to do, but that doesn’t mean your puppy can’t be exercised.

Puppies can go on hikes, play retrieve games, go swimming and run hard on grass or soft ground.

Hiking, retrieve games, swimming, pulling a cart or even pulling heavy items like tires or weights can also be great activities for your adult dog.

Need help finding a lateral recumbent trike?  Click here.

Swimming

  Swimming is one of my favorite doggy exercises.  As a judge for Ultimate Air Dogs (a dock diving organization) I have taught hundreds of dogs to swim safely.  And, spending time allowing my dogs to swim and retrieve their toys is great for their whole body.  Some dogs even like swimming with other dogs which can help motivate them to swim farther and faster.

I swear 20 minutes of hard swimming can lead to a very satisfied and tired dog.

Dog Parks

  I am still not a huge lover of dog parks anymore.  I wrote an article on this not long ago, and I will stand by the fact that most people are too distracted and just simply don’t keep an eye on their dog and how they are interacting with the other dogs at the park.

However, I have a few good friends who still enjoy taking their dogs to the dog park to play.

At one point in time in my training career I had a dog that did LOVE the dog park and it is a quick and easy way to calm an excited dog. 30 minutes or more of hard play can be just what your dog needs some day!

Just please don’t fall into the pitfall of using this as an excuse not to train.  I find that dogs who get all of their exercise and stimulation from the dog park have little to no impulse control.  After all, if you are constantly running around playing “tickle and poke” and tackling other dogs you just aren’t learning to control yourself.

So even though this will help you take home a calm dog, this certainly is no quick fix.

Bad Behavior

  Bad behavior is a result of your dog not knowing what to do with himself.  Teach him a command or a cue.

When he is tired, as described above, he cares less about getting into bad behavior.

Dog barking either indoors, outdoors, or when he wants something is the perfect example of how your dog doesn’t understand how to deal with his boredom and excitement.

Remember, your dog can’t watch television, he can’t play video games, he can’t read a book and he can’t play on social media.  All the things we do to entertain ourselves are usually not options for your dog.

If you locked me alone in a room with 4 white walls and a sofa, I would probably eat the sofa and learn to sing or make a lot of noise too in order to entertain myself.

I tell all my clients that if their dog or puppy or any pet really, is driving them crazy then they are probably trying to express to them that their needs aren’t being met appropriately.

One of my clients was visiting me at my veterinary technician job yesterday and explaining how her Berger Picard puppy who is 12 weeks old is spending a lot of time nipping.  When asked how much exercise he was getting she assured me that he was being walked and trained daily.  Thankfully my veterinarian friend chimed in and asked how much exercise and training.

He was being walked maybe twice around the yard and trained one to two times daily.  This puppy simply needs more physical exercise and mental stimulation.  When they meet his needs, he will be too tired to bite!

Leashes certainly add to control!  I like leashing my dogs around the house. And adding a cue as I teach behavior .

Stress

  Stress also causes excitement in dogs.  Anxiety shows itself in many forms.

Although to us humans, stress causes us a general feeling of tiredness and irritability and usually doesn’t result in excitement (although I suppose sometimes it does) in dogs it causes a feeling of loss of control.

Loss of control of a situation or feeling can cause dogs to default into running around, and jumping and showing all kinds of “busy” behavior.  Teaching your dog attention can be a life saver!

This is why when we have company over to the house or take our dogs to places they have never been, excitement and bad manners can rear their ugly heads.  Anxiety leads to bad manners.

Try to give your dog some coping mechanisms and teach him how to deal with stress.

As you can imagine, being a police dog is stressful work, however when we are training these dogs we teach them coping mechanisms and how to deal with stress in a healthy way so that basically no situation bothers them but of course this kind of training takes time! Anxiety is no fun.

Solliquin is a great supplement that can help ease stress in your dog.

Training and Mental Stimulation

Obedience training and mental stimulation is really what you need to calm an excited dog.  Sure, as we discussed he needs exercise, but what he really needs is training.

Remember the police dog in the last paragraph and my mentioning that we teach them coping mechanisms?

These coping mechanisms come with consistent dog obedience training.

Eye contact is my favorite kind of training.  Teach your dog this kind of training and you won’t be disappointed in the results.

When left to his own devices, dogs burn off energy by doing “dog” things like play bowing and running and jumping and flying around furniture.  They jump on counters, they bark, they steal trash and they do things that naturally make them feel good.

If you aren’t  him in basic, intermediate and advanced obedience, you aren’t allowing him to make good decisions when he feels stress or when he gets excited.

He literally doesn’t know what to do in these situations.

Your dog needs training and “school” just like your kids need school in order to learn.  Can you imagine expecting your 3-5 year old to make correct decisions all of the time without any kind of education or time on your part?  Absolutely not!  We spend an incredible amount of time teaching and educating our children.  We take them on daily excursions, we let them play, we encourage their playing with others.  We even enjoy watching them play with others.

Not only do dogs need obedience training and mental stimulation in order to be good canine family members, they need obedience training and mental stimulation in order to be happy.  They also need teaching and training and the opportunity to play with others!  Just like your children, in order to become well behaved and have good manners, our dogs need to be exposed to all kinds of thing and people in our environment.  Check out the Clik-R for your positive reinforcement training.

Again, we all have different likes.  I like to draw, I also like to read but dogs can’t do either of these things.  We must find things that our dogs enjoy being a part of!  My dogs like to pull, they also like to run but I have also taught them that they can enjoy obedience when I teach them.

This is why I believe that working dogs like Guide Dogs, Service Dogs, Hearing Dogs and Police Dogs are some of the happiest dogs on earth.  They know what to do in any given situation and their training is extensive.  I have taught my dogs to help me with laundry.  Can I do my own laundry?  Yes!  Absolutely!  But my dogs feel special when I ask them to help me with house hold chores..  They can hand me laundry, they can pick up things that I drop and they can turn on and off lights.  This helps them feel like they have a job and they are needed in my life; which makes them happy.  Even though I don’t necessarily need them to do laundry, pick things up and get the lights or grab my shoes these skills make them happy.  And, happiness keeps them out of trouble and gives them an outlet for their energy!

After all, my job as a dog owner is to keep my dog happy and to give him something to do!

The more you train, the happier your dog can be!  Tell us what calms your dog in the comments below!

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Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing

What now…?

Those were my exact words the first time I heard that this was the newest type of therapy I was going to be starting.

Quite frankly, it sounded complicated, weird, and too mechanical for my liking. 

It turns out that I was exactly right. It was way too complicated for me to fully grasp at first, it’s very strange and weird, and it’s probably the most mechanical way of working through emotional distress in existence. And I’m not a mechanical person at all. 

EMDR is used widely amongst therapists who specialize in the rehabilitation of post-traumatic stress disorder. It’s actually not extremely common, but it has fantastic results in the cases that it is used.

My psychiatrist has been trying to get me to do it for years, but each time he mentioned it, I just brushed it off. Up until my hospitalization for 72 hours in May, I wasn’t really open to going back to psychotherapy. For the majority of my high school career, I did the traditional emotional approach to working through emotional distress. Once a week, I went in, sat for an hour, talked about the emotions I had no idea how to identify, paid, and then left. I learned how to identify some of the emotions I was feeling in the end. But I didn’t feel like it had any structure, and I didn’t feel like it helped me much. I wasn’t about to go back and do it all over again. But part of my intensive outpatient therapy program was to connect with a therapy group. Group settings for therapy are not my thing in any way, shape, or form. They also require you to attend multiple sessions a week, something that would have been impossible for me considering I have Kaiser and I would have to drive over an hour away for each session. So I decided to just call some random lady that was on a list of therapists that Kaiser would cover in my area. I told her that I wanted structure; I needed some kind of treatment plan that was going to keep me on track. That’s when she mentioned EMDR as her approach to my PTSD. She said when you deal with the trauma first, almost everything else will begin to improve.

Thus began the many hours of research and questions that I always have.

My psychiatrist explained to me that EMDR is a mechanical way of treating emotional distress, unlike the tradition approach, like what I did in high school. Studies have shown that EMDR therapy proves that the mind can in fact heal from psychological trauma in similar ways that the body heals from physical trauma. When you cut your finger cutting something up, your body works to naturally and properly close and heal the wound. If something gets inside and irritates the wound, it creates a block and slows down the recovery time, and can often times make the wound worse. Psychological trauma does just the same. When repeated traumatic events (in my case, they occurred within a short period of time - about 3 years) occur, it slows down the recovery time of the psychological wound. The brain’s information processing system becomes blocked or imbalanced by the impact of a traumatic event. The emotional wound festers following the traumatic event, and can cause severe and intense suffering. Once whatever was blocking the system is removed, recovery resumes. 

I know that still sounds complicated. So here’s what my new therapist explained to me.

Anything and everything that happens within your daily life is processed within both sides of the brain. When a traumatic event occurs, it is first processed within the right side of your brain because your right side of the brain controls and processes emotions. The problem, however, occurs when the right side of the brain freezes and doesn’t communicate or process the traumatic even within the left side of the brain. When this occurs, the PTSD symptoms are then created as a way to cope with the trauma that the brain never fully processed. EMDR focuses on allowing the brain to once again communicate and process the trauma in the left side of the brain like it should have in the first place.

How?

That was my biggest question. 

When EMDR was first created, therapists used an object and moved it back and forth between your eyes just like a pendulum. This stimulates the brain and allows the right and left side to communicate with each other. However, studies have shown that tapping stimulates the brain just the same, in a much less distracting way. My therapist uses tapping, so the tapping - for me - has become what the eye movement would have done. 

The desensitization comes into play by exposing me to the past trauma, gradually. 

Am I crazy? Everyone keeps asking me why in the world I would want to go back and visit my past traumas. They act like I don’t constantly think about them each and every day. My trauma haunts me, literally. So going back and confronting them is scary, but it’s not like it’s completely out of the ordinary for me to do so considering they’re always on my mind. 

The reprocessing comes into play by my brain processing the traumatic event again, only properly this time.

This is where it gets weird.

On Monday, I sat in this very dim-lit room, with my eyes closed and a pair of headphones on, and my hands holding onto these two little objects, all of which were connected to this tiny little machine. 

And I’m going to reprocess trauma how again..? What’s a machine going to in order to help me reprocess all of this..?

The headphones created a sound in my ears that was a faint beeping sound. The sound was in rhythm with the buzzing that came through the two little things my hands held onto. The buzzing created what therapists refer to as tapping. Between the noise and the buzzing, my brain was stimulated and as a result of the stimulation, my right and left brain were forced to communicate with each other. My therapist coached me through everything. I didn’t have to talk if I didn’t want to go. But I was instructed to go back to one of the three traumatic events that has occurred, and reprocess it. She explained that reprocessing doesn’t always mean going back and thinking about specific things related to the trauma. Sometimes, it’s okay to use your imagination and process the event how I want to. Other times, it’s okay to think about those specific things. However, if I’m going to, I have to use my imagination on how to put those behind me. 

For example, many of you reading this know that I moved to Georgia in 2014 for stupid reasons. I was in a relationship with someone I never should have been with. My best friend, Emily, was in Europe at the time and kept asking me to come and visit her. He used to tell me constantly that it was never going to happen because we could never afford it. A year later, I was moved back home and on a flight to go see her because I worked hard to earn the money to do so, without him. The following year, I did it once again. Only that time, I got to experience multiple countries by train.

When I was instructed to go back and visit the traumatic event of me being with him as a whole, I got stuck on all of the other traumatic things that came along with it. The name calling, the comments of constantly putting me down instead of building me up, the occasional physical abuse, the severe emotional abuse, all of it came flooding back. It all hit me and I got extremely emotional. She stopped the machine for a moment and told me that I needed to come up with a way to send him off, send him away. I needed to send away all of the traumatic memories and thoughts that came along with it. 

So I did. By picturing Europe by train.

I pictured myself getting on the train at my favorite train station somewhere in the middle of Austria, leaving him standing on the platform, and letting the doors close. He began to get farther and farther away and the farther I got, the more peace I felt. I was going to enjoy the most beautiful scenery I had ever seen, and leave him standing there with nothing and no one, just as he made me feel for so many months.

I know that sounds insane, but the imagination can do some incredible things. And I can’t even begin to tell you how much empowerment I felt in imagining that. I can’t even begin to tell you how much power I felt myself take back and use to my advantage at the end of it.

I’m still baffled at how in the world something like this can actually make a difference, but it has. For the first time in years, I have actually been able to challenge my thoughts. His voice is the voice I hear constantly. For months, I always heard how useless I was and how I could never do anything right. Within the last week, I have heard that voice more times than I could count, just as I always do. Except now, I feel ten times more empowered, and I’ve actually been able to tell him to shut up and leave me alone, which is what I should have done way back when. I have felt more confident than I ever have because for the first time, I am able to challenge what I heard him say. 

This is only one of many sessions, and it’s only one of three traumatic events that I must work through. But I am very pleased with the results of my first session, and I am very pleased with how I have been feeling since then. 

If you or someone you know needs support right now, call the Suicide Prevention Lifeline at 1-800-273-8255, or text START to 741-741

[kestrelsansjesses]

Coming Back

[[Prompt: An alternative take on the scene where Ryder dies for the second time on the Archon’s flagship, in light of her relationship with Jaal. 

Jaal x Ryder, SFW

Always accepting more prompts!]] 

You could always count on SAM to find the way out of a tricky situation, even if his methods weren’t exactly what Wren Ryder wanted to hear.

“Any idea of how to break out of this?” Stuck within a containment field floating in the belly of the Archon’s flagship, her options seemed limited. Her eyes and mouth could move, but she couldn’t even turn her head to look at Vetra or Jaal, to reassure them that they were not nearly as screwed as they thought they were. Only a little bit screwed. Or a lot.

“The containment fields only interact with living matter. If you expire, the fields around you will extinguish until manually reset.” Though SAM had the ability to speak only to Ryder’s mind, he spoke out loud now, loud enough that Vetra and Jaal could no doubt hear, if she could only turn her head to see what their faces looked like. “As you know,” SAM continued, “my access to your physiology allows me to enhance your vital signs when required. I can also do the opposite.”

There was silence after SAM spoke. He phrased it so calmly, so rationally, as only an AI could. Framed in SAM’s terms, it seemed simple. Extinguish your vital signs, Ryder, and you can get out of this field. You can free Jaal and Vetra. But it was never that simple, was it?

“Whoa, whoa, whoa- kind of don’t want to die today, SAM.” I mean, preferably Ryder won’t die any other day either, but having already died once before, putting her body through that process again seemed unthinkable. There were days her chest still ached and a blind spot crept into her vision, and there were nights she relived it again and again. Flickers of consciousness, memory fading away, Alec’s face as he passed the helm to her, every single nerve in her body on fire... Fuck. Not again.

“After stopping your heart, I would attempt to resuscitate, of course.”

“Any other options?” Attempt. Her mind latched onto that word, turning it over and over again.

“None that I can determine.” If SAM couldn’t calculate a single possibility that didn’t involve Ryder dying, that meant there wasn’t one. It was as simple as that, but laid out in black and white terms, it looked even more bleak.

“You’ve got to be kidding me, Ryder. You can’t seriously be considering this.” Vetra spoke first, voice steeped in anger. If Ryder closed her eyes, she could imagine the way Vetra would try and clench her fists, the way her shoulders would hunch up just so and her mandibles would clack together in anger. If the situation had been any different, Ryder may even have laughed.

“Not seeing any other options here, Vetra. I’m really not looking forward to dying again myself.” There was too much resting on that single word. Attempt. Attempt. It repeated in her mind in time to her heartbeat.

Jaal finally broke her silence. “Ryder, no.” His voice sounded broken, his customary dry humor replaced by emotion that was purely Angaran, the words coming out strangely, as if choked. “I will not lose you.”

It had been difficult to joke with Vetra, but it was even harder to answer Jaal. “There’s no other way we’ll escape, Jaal. SAM did the math. Besides, he said he can probably bring me back. Probably.” The joke sounded hollow even as she said it, and she cursed herself for it. Stupid Ryder. Maybe you shouldn’t try and joke your way out of every situation.

“I am not confident in SAM’s abilities to bring you back. Ryder, I can’t lose you.” Again, that repetition- he wouldn’t, he couldn’t. It went from determination to something desperate, clinging to this notion and this idea that she couldn’t leave if he just asked enough times, made his voice forlorn enough. It was good she couldn’t see him properly; he was a pink blur out of the corner of one eye, and even that was distracting enough.

“Jaal, remember when you showed me your starmap in your room?” The first time they kissed, but not the last. “When this is over, let’s do that again. Build me one we can use in the Tempest. Make it cover the whole ceiling.” She could almost see it, the way the stars and foreign galaxies would swirl across the whiteness of her ceiling, reflecting pinpricks of light down onto her sheets, a pale imitation of what was just outside the window but so much more vast.

“Ryder…” The fight went out of Jaal’s voice, as if he could slump against the bonds holding them. What else could they say to each other? Her mind was made up, and the job of Pathfinder was so much bigger than what two people shared.

“I waited six hundred years to meet someone like you, Jaal. Stopping my heart isn’t going to stop me.” Bluffing through it made the prospect of pain less.

“All right. Let’s do it!” If she put enough excitement into her voice, maybe SAM would understand.

“Ryder… You’re crazy.” That was Vetra, admiration in her voice plain.

“It has been a pleasure. I love you, my dearest one.” There was no need to say who that was; tears prickled her eyes, but there was so much riding on this.

“I love you too, Jaal.”

“Stopping your heart… now.” And then there was nothing but pain, a pit of darkness she fell into accompanied by nothing. No noise, no sound, no memories. A last flash of thought- if I fuck this up, I’ve fucked it all up, and then…

A truck was hitting her in the chest, pounding again and again. Every part of her body hurt, not with a dull ache but with a sharp prickle that left her gasping.

“Stimulating again.” Blackness came creeping back.

“Why is she not waking up? Try harder!” Jaal’s voice, another hammer to the chest, another wave of black…

And then she opened her eyes, sitting up. Dying the second time hurt slightly less than dying the first time, but there was a moment where she didn’t know where she was, where she wondered why it was so difficult to take a single deep breath.

“Ryder…” Everything came back in a flood. Rising first to her elbows, and then standing, every limb shook, but she could move again. She was free from the containment field, able to face, Vetra, to offer a smile to Jaal that physically hurt her face to make.

“I told you I’d be back. I can’t just leave you here, Jaal. You think I’d cross galaxies, meet my dream man, and then just leave him?” Every word hurt, a knife in her chest. Every step was a lance of pain, but it was already growing dull. SAM was flooding her system with something that took the edge off, and though she knew she would regret it later, Ryder couldn’t stop now. Too much to do, no time to stop.

Limping, she managed to walk over to the console controlling the field, slamming her fist into it and sending her friends to the ground. It would be so nice to rest… If she could just lean against it for a minute, she could close her eyes, get her strength back…

Jaal’s arms were around her, crushing her tight, but it was a good pain. It was the pain of being alive when she really, really shouldn’t have been, his lips in her hair and then at her ear, and then finally finding her mouth. He clung to her but he also supported her, the warmth of his body and the familiar scent of the lotions he used on his skin and the oils he used on his gun bleeding into her mind.

“That’s twice now I’ve come back from the dead. Can’t say the experience is improving,” she choked out, as they stepped away from each other. Then she laughed until she cried, sound faintly hysterical, before wiping off her eyes.

“Let’s go. Let’s do this.” There would be more later, but for now her hand slipped into Jaal’s for just a moment, and she squeezed it. When Vetra’s head was turned, she mouthed the words a second time. “I love you.” For now, it would have to be enough.

[myfriendpokey]

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1. i tend to use the word "loose" when i talk about what i'm interested in, what i enjoy or like to see, and the closest i can get to defining what i mean by it is as a structure that could approximate some of the messiness of perception - noise, association, distraction, juxtaposition, comparison, the various strange and sublimated movements of attention and of drive that occur when we experience these things. i hope indiana jones can escape from that car. god, i love her hair. wait, what happened. that's the man from the thing.

2. and if i'm interested in that i think that part of it is that i find those kind of diffuse networks of association interesting and so wish that more work would engage it directly rather than just stimulate it, make it in a sense the medium in which they work, unfolding in attention, and not just assume for the nth time that i still just care about whether indiana jones can escape from the car. but there's another part of it which is the fact that "growing up playing videogames", or making videogames, makes them a specific format i have a lot of associations with, while at the same time not knowing another format which has such an abrupt disconnection between the experience of playing and the memory of that experience, to such frequently dissatisfying  effect.

3. my memory of playing for example mr. nutz is in itself a kind of imaginary landscape, with scattered platforms and enemies but also music, or multiple musics jumbled up, and "movement" which is the movement of attention within the act of playing (encompassing sensory elements, the task of "mapping" and extrapolating terrain, various small moments of excitement or dread etc) rather than the movement of the mr. nutz character. who in fact really requires a persistent unrelating focus to keep going: your memory might be able to easily glide to the next level and that horrible rollercoaster maze, but mr. nutz needs you to keep looking at him, right now, motherfucker, if you want to climb over the platform in the first level. i feel like this is an old criticism but that it's still kind of pertinent, that games persist in memory because the kind of drives they can touch upon or affect they can draw up is so mysteriously powerful, but that the actual formal structure of these things is almost totally unable to deal with or even articulate it - they need the radical unelective surgery of memory before these things can even be uncovered.

4. so it's kind of a sticking point for me, and like a formal itch i can't resist trying to scratch, that image of synthesis between what i do enjoy - certain kinds of embodied focalisation and the forms of spatial experience which they can frame or suggest, certain rhythms, imagery and structures of sensation or representation - and the kind of more "open" reading more associated with for example comic books, less frozen representationally around a single mode of seeing and allowing for a more dynamic back-and-forth between the forward motion of the panel system and the backwards motion which is the tendency for the eye to be caught and pulled elsewhere by some intra-panel detail or splash of light. and even if ultimately unreconcileable on a "deep" formal level the prospect of chimerical game structures which can pick and mix contingently between both ways of seeing still has more appeal to be than purer methods.

5. and if this interest is a purely personal one driven by who knows which despicable unsayable parts of the unconscious abyss i do feel it's something which relates to, and maybe draws sustainance from, particular parts of the way games are understood now. i've written before about finding it helpful to imagine "videogames" as not just a single self-contained concept but as a dynamic space between two different tendencies, "video" (meaning digital, technology, role and attitudes of computers etc) on one side, "games" (encompassing ideas of repeatability and permutation along with a set of inherited attitudes about entertainment, what it constitutes, what place it has in life). and i think again in this schematic it's impossible to underestimate the impact of the internet on both the imagination of the digital and also on the ways in which it's read, understood, produced and disseminated. it's not so much that gameFAQs makes it harder to keep secrets in games so much that the ability to switch fluidly between information sources in itself - and the understanding that a "game" is just another component in the broader network of such sources. the fluidity of the affective understanding of games is mirrored by the fluidity of the way in which they're played nowadays, which is something you can't put back in a box and which i think insistence on a continuum of "mechanics" as defining the game form is incapable of dealing with.

6. i don't know that this sense of historicity mandates specific forms of content (i.e. games "about" the internet, etcetera) - in fact, it seems to me like many games which adopt these strategies do so in order to represent memory, or real life, both things which have tended to be absent from computer games as a format. jack king-spooner's "beeswing" uses multiple shifting or contradicting visual strategies at once as a way to represent a space that's both personal (memory) and extrapersonal (real spaces, other people and their own memories or discourses). nina freeman's "cibele" both frames an MMO-esque videogame in the context of a fictional computer and also foregrounds that genre's juxtaposition of chat boxes with gameplay. vasily zotov's "quite soulless" uses a series of inscrutable diorama-esque symbolic systems, of which you control one or more parts, when trying to represent the opaque bureaucracy of immigration agencies which your character tries to navigate. i don't mention to suggest that it's necessarily a mimetic techique - i think instead that if it lends itself to realism, that in itself is because it's already connected to the "real" way that we experience computer games, and that it was the need for mimesis which first allowed this property to get recognised.

7. this said i am not sure that it constitutes a tendency, or that any tendency which does exist will be amenable to videogames in the way we might like to think (new golden age, advancement of the medium, lakes of stew etc). and i am not sure if even stylistic evolution has much merit in itself - the only thing "worth doing" in videogames would be disconnecting them from the formats of production, distribution and usage which helped make them a breeding ground for nu-fascists or whatever (same as the reg kind but now in tripp pants) which i think is a matter of material organisation rather than any aesthetic kind. but as i say it's an itch i like to scratch so i've been scratching.

8. previously i would have been more interested in getting this sense of looseness through sudden changes in content and "mechanics" (for example in Glory Days Of The Free Press) - i think after using unity more and more i tend to think of it in ways specifically connected to the camera, which as a disconnected "object" in that engine (rather than just a fixed viewport) becomes newly easy to play around with and manipulate. the strange rotating viewport in magic wand was a kind of crude attempt at approximating a kind of looseness in the way the screen (and correspondingly what was taking place in it, the environments and little characters) were read - where you wouldn't necessarily remain grounded to the player character, where that character would act as  the locus for a more free-floating way of experiencing the areas which would still allow for the spatial experience of crawling around said areas as a fussy little man: not being frozen to that mode of perception, but slipping in and out of it. similarly (maybe more crudely) the segmenting of areas in mouse corp into firstperson and thirdperson sections as well as more blatantly "gamey" elements where you'd see the mice framed in some less experiential system. coby castle had an extremely slow camera coupled to a mouse and a "player character" wholly disconnected from it - you could match them up if you liked or else just move around one or the other, although that game wasn't very interesting either way. glimby and crab.html and diary 24/07 are all browser games, made in either fusion 2.5 or construct 2, with the goal of absorbing elements of the way we read things in a browser, scrolling around to absorb different elements rather than focusing persistently on a single one. my current project is called bird games and uses a 2d camera following a 2d player around a 2d space, but with some 3d camera tracking and 3d environment parts, to sometimes disorienting effect. it also tries to use some of the visual conventions of both ye olde web designe and comic books - like text tables and speech bubbles - both of which carry associations on how to read them carried from less sharply focalised formats. so it's a very simple game but one which i hope can be read in this loose manner, like an alt. comic version of girl's garden(1984). i think my general lack of any kind of technical ability (after 8 years..!) puts hard limits on any desire to build some kind of Universal Digression System, something which would expand or contract to encompass any kind of content or gameplay i wanted to put there, so all efforts remain pretty makeshift, smoke n mirrors and the barest bits of 7th-hand videogame mechanics propping things up, like trying to make dollhouses out of old turkey bones. if i find out how to beat mr nutz i'll let you know.

[aaliyahhill]

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