#i think some people have a much more romanticized idea of what the si-5 is than i do. tbh.

[commsroom]

Sometimes I think about that post about how, in another life, Eiffel would have made a good SI5 agent due to his out of the box thinking and quick reaction time when things go wrong (see: all of Mayday). Can’t remember if it was you who made that post or not, but if it wasn’t you, do you have any thoughts on it?

haha oh, no!! that definitely wasn't me; i have the opposite opinion!! i think that's a misunderstanding of what qualities are most important for an si-5 agent. they're paramilitary spies and union busters. out-of-the-box thinking is only useful to them if it can be trusted in service of their goals, and eiffel is not reliable, driven, or morally flexible enough for that. i've spoken to people who think that his loyalties could've been won at a worse place in his life, but i firmly disagree. eiffel at his worst is self-focused and entirely indulgent. he made the mistakes he made out of selfishness and short-sighted personal desire. he isn't ambitious, he can't hold a job, he has issues with authority. he has very firm morals and can't compartmentalize; he hurt people and the guilt of that, his inability to reconcile those actions with what he believes in, weighs him down. he doesn't need direction or purpose the way someone like jacobi does, and he's perfectly okay with closing the door on something because it's scary.

eiffel is honestly fine just being a nobody, so that's not something exploitable - getting eiffel to do anything, even some things he wants to do, is like pulling teeth, nevermind trying to convince him it's necessary to harm innocent people in service of a nebulous corporate goal. he has a lot of flaws, don't get me wrong, but they're the wrong kind of flaws for this, even at his worst. i really don't believe he'd ever be sought out for something like that when there are people who are quick-thinking survivalists who are also ambitious, and willing to hurt people in service of that ambition, out there.

and eiffel is pretty good at his job, but he's just an average person with a particular skill-set, who could do that job well enough and still be marked as disposable for other purposes. he's not si-5 level good; everything else aside, they are some of the best of the best in their respective fields. i honestly think that's an important thing to remember about the si-5, too - they fundamentally consider the hephaestus crew as targets, not as coworkers; minkowski's crew is made up of people with a moderate skill level, not geniuses - even hera was selected from a list of people who otherwise didn't make the cut. hilbert being relegated there for his final mission is a mark of cutter losing faith in him. they are not operating on the same level.

(i would believe, to some extent, that kepler was curious about eiffel after what he accomplished in mayday. i think he was trying to test eiffel's loyalties and see if he could be swayed - among many other motives - but i think he gave up on that pretty quickly once he realized what dealing with eiffel is like, and i don't think he ever intended to "recruit" eiffel in any official sense; a lot of the si-5's early actions are, again. union busting. they're trying to divide the crew. and speaking of that: being a good si-5 agent also requires a lot of lying to people's faces, which... um... well.)

[kaypeace21]

I believe that byler is an endgame

but why would they spend 3 seasons winding up with mileven?

People REALLY need to pay attention to the shows the Duffers cited as huge inspirations to them. Cheers,dawsons creek, freak &geeks did exactly what the Duffers are doing (and the Duffers said these shows inspired them)

. Cheers for over 5 seasons built up the pairing of sam and Dianne- had them break up in the s5 finale and then in the last 2 eps of the 11th season have them get back together and once again break up explaining for the 100th time they were wrong for each other and brought out the worst in eachother . Cheers would build up multiple pairings (Frasier /Lilith (s4-11/broke up in s11) , sam/Dianne (s 1-11, broke up in s11 permanently) , rebecca /sam (s8-10) Rebecca/robin (s8-9) -these pairings lasted for multiple seasons and they all broke up! They built pairings up for multiple seasons but showed throughout the show why those pairing in cheers could never work out in the long term. The same Thing happened with almost every pairing in Dawson’s creek (they’d build up multiple pairings up -sometimes for multiple seasons- sprinkle in good but also dysfunctional aspects of those relationships- and then break them apart for good ).

Also in Dawson’s creek 2 characters (a rich girl and poor guy with daddy issues) date and breakup- but both of their gay brothers get together and are endgame instead of them (cough jancy vs byler). One of the gay guys (the rich one with the book smart sis) even dated the main girl (Joey) for a while before admitting he was gay and that he was in denial (while dating the main girl for more than a season ). In D.C even the main guy(Dawson) / girl (Joey) don’t end up being endgame (despite teasing it for all 5 seasons) . They did this with a lot of couples in the show. Honestly, the Duffers pretty much borrowed this idea of showing pairings with issues and breaking them up -but toned down how long they’d bait them . Like 11seasons of showing dysfunctional couples date -ick. And Dawson’s creek ... my god it had a literal love octogon/ love webs (so many love squares/pentagons/ and on and off relationships). The 1 adult couple broke up and I’m not exaggeration 4 times, and Dawson got back with 2 of his girlfriends like so many times. And ugh I’d say each (of the 4-5) main characters dated at least 4 people -and each of those relationships lasted for like 20+ eps each... and then after all that build up -break up ). That’s not even including the people the main 5 or so characters would date for like 5-6 eps . Thank god it was toned down compared to Dawson’s creek or cheers. i can’t imagine the frustration watching those shows during its airing 😂

Freaks & geeks (set in the 80s)was also inspo.14 y old Sam who is bullied and called “homo” “queer” etc throughout the whole series - he also obsesses over a cheerleader girl for the whole series and in the second to last ep of the series- they finally start dating  and he realizes they have nothing in common and says “it’s boring. all we ever do is makeout.She likes nothing i like. We can’t talk to eachother. We never have fun.” And he admits he only keeps dating her cause everyone would call him “crazy” to not date her. sam and her are also said to be “from different planets” and “different species”  just like mileven in s3 lol.  The gf of  sam also says before they dated she saw him ‘like a sister’ (like El asking mike if he’d be her brother in s1, before they date). And after this sibling comment various characters -encouraged the couple and said they would be good together (before they dated-like what we’ve seen in st with mileven and other ships ).Sam eventually decides to not cave to peer pressure- and breaks up with her. Meanwhile sam’s sis (is a straight A student, who is initially into a popular guy and starts hanging with the cool kids).  After getting over the first (popular) guy, she later dates another guy- a music-obsessed-stoner-guy  with a cruddy dad...and she breaks up with him (like jancy?). That couple was even called ‘romeo & juliet’ before they broke up-similar to mileven being called “romeo & juliet’ before their breakup. plus r&j were never in love... just like mileven.

All 3 shows had the main guy/girl date but not end up with eachother in the end . And both shows -would build up several pairings that looked like endgame but would show faults in those relationships and would have them breakup (because those pairings were never that healthy together). Which I believe is what they’re doing with jancy, jopper, mileven and lumax (explained in my analysis here all the evidence for why I don’t think they don’t end up together). I mean there’s many reasons I listed in the analysis but you think it’s a coincidence - jancy, lumax, mileven , and Steve/rando girl who rejected him in s3-all incorportated spying on their love interest ? you think the duffers think that’s good to have all these romantic pairings spy on eachother? When in the show they canonically have the us gov (villains) spy via phone taps, and hidden recorders, and cameras? Brenner used El as a spy for his own gain ? they even call the mf a ‘spy’ (which the characters perceive as the  main villain)... i don’t think the mf is  actually villainous but that’s off topic).The point is narratively equating spying as something ‘wrong’ by characters our main cast of heroes is against. But having that same cast of heroes partaking in spying themselves … specifically on to their romantic partners- and not also showing it as a negative. But romanticizing it? Would be quite hypocritical. And a HUGE narrative oversight.

Also build up?

S1- mileven kiss right after el asks if he’ll be her “friend” or “brother”. Has others compare el to mike’s sibling /cousin. Hint Will is gay . Have hints mike is queer too/ and cares deeply about Will. Constantly mention how el physically resembles Will/a boy. Parallel mileven to ted/Karen who were “never in love”. Have Nancy and mike verbally compare the jancy/stancy love triangle to mileven/byler . And at the end of the season mike writes a story for Will that likens the 2 to han/leia. Flo says about jancy/Jon “ only love makes you that crazy and that damn stupid”. (Which flo wasn’t entirely right about since jon punched Steve for insulting his family- for Jon it was familial love -not romantic love. But put a pin in that phrase)

S2- was pretty much byler season (and mileven barely interact that season). Byler say they’d go “crazy together”. But el’s new catchphrase is she’s “not stupid.” They Compare mileven to luke/leia (siblings that kissed) . Ref ghostbusters and parallel byler to the romantic pairing of Dana /venkman (but have el just be a ghost and mike a ghost buster which isn’t romantic but the opposite) .parallel mileven to hopper/el. Have el spy on mike, el hurt a stranger cause of unhealthy jealousy, have mileven dance to a song about a possessive spying/Stalking ex gf . Throw in mileven burns like “they’re not in love they’re not even from the same planet.” (El being et ref) . Have mike say annoyed “a bond ?! (Scoff) cause you shared nougat?! “ (egos like s1 ) “. Mike saying after knowing max for a week “hate you? I don’t even know you?” (He knew el for a week too so no way he loves her -cause he doesn’t know el , just like max ) . mike even criticizes his friends’ instant attraction to max saying “you haven’t even spoken a word to her.”Dustin saying “ I don’t have to . I mean -look at her.” Which makes it even more suspicious that mike was into a girl who multiple characters said looked like a boy (specifically Will) in s1. Have El watch a soap opera (all my children) and mimic the scene of  erica kane and her love interest michael. Which in the soap opera-isn’t endgame, and ended with some stalking after their breakup.

S3- mileven is finally dating : multiple characters (lucas, Will, Hopper, dustin,Max, etc) in the show dislike and verbally complain about them together . In cheers all of sam’s friends hated him dating Dianne and would vocally complain about it (similar to joyce they even clapped/cheered after 1 of their many breakups) . Mike is horrified by the spying(that mileven fans romanticized in s2) , el is happier single and neither is heartbroken over the breakup. They date for 2 eps and then breakup . Mileven being together inhibits El’s character arc from s2 (aka she went from wanting to explore the world and leave the cabin in s2 to see her friends, to ignoring her friends and cutting herself off from the world in order to stay in the cabin all day to make out with mike for 6 months - she would literally lie to her friends about curfew to return to the cabin and kiss mike -going against her ‘friends don’t lie’ mantra from the past 2 seasons too ). Mike canonically doesn’t trust her / doesn’t believe in her ability to make decisions and lies to her and never apologizes for lying. And el doesn’t apologize for spying . They throw in more gay hints of mike & Will. Mileven is called “bullshit” like s2 stancy . And Both pairings in the show kissed a bunch and said “I love you” (but they weren’t endgame). They also contrast s3 mileven scenes to s2 byler scenes and have byler win out. And once again parallel mileven to hopper/el and Karen/ted. As well as paralleling and likening Mileven to stancy in numerous other ways (besides the “bullshit “ line) . They also parallel mileven to stobin (both are straight baits) .They parallel the stobin confession to the mileven one -both confessions have them sitting on the floor, both girls have bandages on their legs, and both confessions are interrupted by dustin. Also both Steve/mike use the terms “crazy & stupid ” to confess to robin/el. But unlike Will who agrees to be “crazy “ with mike .El confused , asks “ what makes you crazy?” And robin says she didn’t have a crush on his “stupid hair”. el even says in reference to mike “there’s more to life than stupid boys.” Showing how el/robin don’t have romantic feelings for the boys-like the flo phrase of s1. Unlike Will who after fighting with mike calls himself “stupid” over and over and rips up the photo of him and mike where they promised to go “crazy together.” Even Steve says in s2 stancy should should “pretend to be stupid teenagers” in love. Emphasis on “pretend”. And when el says she loves mike “the first I love you” plays -the only other time that song plays in s3 is when robin rejects Steve (cause she’s gay.) cough cause mike is gay too.

There’s a lot more in each season (that illustrates mileven was built up -but not as a positive couple but a problematic one that was never was in love to begin with ). But I’m trying to keep this short . You can read this post here where I go in more depth about all of this .

S1-2 builds up the problematic ships (but showed good and bad aspects of their dynamic) . like the spying of jancy, lumax, and mileven or the jealousy. of Hopper in s2. In the s2 finalie they have them kiss or hug/exchange romantic glances. And in S3 we see the after math of this with all the couples officially dating - and they show all the couples issues at the forefront . I already talked about mileven. But, Lumax broke up 6 times (they dated for 6 months- and every month they dated max dumped him ). Jancy fight in the opening of ep 1 and don’t understand each others issues (sexism/poverty-and Jon’s issues with his dad) . And neither supports the other in their passions of journalism & photography.Nancy is also called “nancy drew” who in 1986 (year of s4) before going to college dumps her long term highschool bf (who helped her in many of her past mysteries/novels ). Their relationship was also shown as complex and somewhat dysfunctional because of both parties -before nancy drew dumps him. And (even if not dating like the other pairings) jopper almost go on a date in s3. Joyce was trying to hide the fact she was moving, Hopper was horribly jealous, and all they did was yell and argue.Murray says to joyce regarding hopper “he’s a brute... probably reminds you of a bad relationship” (aka lonnie/Joyce) . They even have Joyce watch a cheers ep- which directly compares jopper to (dianne/Frasier) who weren’t endgame in cheers but a rebound .  Hopper /fraiser both drink chianti . Fraiser asks dianne to marry him/Hopper asks Joyce on a date-both women stand them up. Or when Joyce asks Hopper out she calls her self ‘detective byers ‘and Hopper name drops miami vice. Which had an on and off again relationship for several seasons- of the male /female detectives.The relationship faded out as Gina realized they mainly got together when one or both needed someone. Crockett was very protective of Gina, and had some jealousy when Gina was involved in relationships , but was the first one to be there for her when things went wrong. And they realized it was better to not be together romantically. Heck seems like all these couples have negative film/tv parallels... lucas in s2 mentions not liking winston in ghost busters cause he came ‘super late’ (like Max). in s1 disses michael myers (which Max dressed as). And at the end of s3- lumax dress identically to eric/donna from a ep of that 70s shows (in the ep  eric/donna were broken up).

 (s3 was marketed as the “summer of love” and “summer love” is a euphemism for flings that don’t last.) s4-5 Will probably show good healthy ships/break up the problematic ones from past seasons .

So first 2 seasons focus on the unhealthy ships / and the last 2 seasons focus on healthy ships. S3 the middle season would be considered the turning point -and why none of the popular ships (assumed to be endgame) came off looking that great (compared to how they were presented in s1-2) .

[bnha-mha-imagines]

Rules

Heyo boios, girlies, and everyone in between! This is Kaitlyn and welcome to the new blog! But you don’t care about that so without further ado! Rules are boring oops but here we go

DO’s:

1. Send in requests for matchups, imagines, headcanons, or share your own ideas and concept questions! I’d love to hear from you.

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1. I’m much more skilled with reader inserts so I’m probably just gonna write those over pairings since its more my territory. However, if in the future I feel like testing the waters I’d be open to it. 

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[itsmetiinn]

So every now and then we get to see local celebrities / 'influencers' get involved in cheating scandals...

And in every disgrace we see exactly the same kind of response or reaction that goes viral and believed by the masses (especially the younger generation).

It goes something like this:

1. "And that's why people are afraid to fall inlove."

2. "baka yung taong pagcocommit-an mo hindi naman pala totally commited sayo. Nakakatakot na maging sure ka sa isang tao tapos siya hindi naman pala sure sayo."

3. "People nowadays ipaparamdam sayo na commited sila sayo (sa una) pero kapag tumagal, wala na. Nakakatakot yung Idea na baka yung taong nakikitaan mo na makakasama mo in the future will be someone's future pala. :))"

These are all wrong.

The fear of a heart ache is valid, but it is often unfounded.

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Here's some practical, no-BS, no kitchen talk, no senior high level advice, tips on how to avoid being the woman in this situation.

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1. COMMITMENT IS NOT A FEELING

Reading posts and comments about relationships, breakups, cheatings, it's hard not to find people discuss their fear about the other person not being committed to the relationship.

First of all, if your relationship is founded on fear, but you still kept going on with the other person, you probably deserve what's about to come. No, but seriously.

You can't say you 'committed' yourself to someone who isn't 'committed' to you...

As long as you are NOT married, your commitment means NOTHING.

It's just a feeling of devotion or faith that you have. It has its own hints of loyalty, but you are just as vulnerable to cheating and to breaking off that 'commitment' with that other person.

Which brings us to the second point:

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2. COMMITMENT IS TANGIBLE

Part of the reason why relationships work so well back in the days is because they actually discuss things...

Yes, of course, they are in love. But they still use their brains as they plan out the tangible steps in their commitment for each other.

- Are we exclusive?

- When are we going to get married?

- If not in 6 months, how long should I wait?

- How many months is your deal breaker? (if you won't marry me in 2 years, I'll leave)

If you are 18 years and above, you are already an adult.

If you, as an adult, find it 'awkward' or weird, or cringe to talk about marriage, you deserve to be slapped so hard back to your mother's womb.

The problem we have today is that people fall in love but remain fallen. Literally, they're crippled in to advancing on to the more important parts of the relationship.

They would go into a relationship, be a boyfriend and a girlfriend, and it seems like their brain stops working there.

They lose sight of all the higher goals in their lives. And they even romanticize this inability to commit by saying stupid c’est la vie things like “I like the way we are now...” or “0% labels, 100% love”.

Stop. Di pwede yan. You ever see “joy miners” sa mga online shop - mine ng mine pero di kayang bayaran yung item? Pareho lang yun dito. Bogus buyer yan. Check the label, mommy.

A lot of guys won't even touch the subject of marriage.

A lot of women are afraid to even open up that topic, fearing that it's too soon for the guy.

A lot of guys would release a very cryptic "Yes" but would insist they'll talk about marriage later...

... and 8 years later he's still saying that you'll both get there.

and then one day you wake up, open your phone, and find yourself Jayzam-zoned:

"Nawawalan na ako ng pagtinging sa kanya (you) na sya yung future ko..."

You wonder with special drama effects,

"San ako nag kulang?

San ako nagkamali?

Minahal ko sya ng totoo.

Binigay ko sa kanya lahat."

Sis, that's the problem right there...

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3. IF YOU WANT TO SPEND YOUR FUTURE TOGETHER, THEN TRY TO LITERALLY RESERVE YOURSELF FOR THE FUTURE.

You give your man all his needs and wants in life

- companionship

- loyalty

- sex

- status symbol

and you give it for years.

Then you wonder why he fell out of love? Why he doesn't see you in his future?

Malamang. Ginasto mo na lahat.

In short, laos ka na. Ubos.

Be exclusive.

Never give the man who is not your husband the benefits of a husband.

You've once thought "Wow 4 years na kami in a relationship, di pa niya ako niyaya mag kasal."

As long as he's already comfortable with your dynamics (how your relationship works) and he's benefitting from it, don't worry, it will last 6, 8, 10, 12 more years.

You've literally completed his comfort zone. And people who are in their comfort zone are obviously comfortable enough to not make any move.

Don't even think about naming him "future hubby" - there is no such thing. If you do, you'll start justifying your giving in to him by telling yourself it doesn't matter, you'll marry in the future anyway.

Be smart sis.

What must you do?

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4. ALLOW HIM TO LOVE YOU FOR YOUR INNER BEING -

or - ALLOW HIM TO FALL OUT OF LOVE

The reason why exclusivity works so much is because it acts as a filter.

It filters out inauthentic love. If he could stand being with you for years without receiving any benefits at all, it shows greater reason to believe that he's not with you for what he can get, but for what he can offer.

But what if he starts acting out? What if he starts to see other women for sex? What if he loses interest?

All good sis. Kalma. Understand that this is a win-win situation because you saved yourself from a superficial / immature guy, and you get to find someone else who is authentic and better.

Granted na you're not following your heart, because if you are, then you will surely cave in, start giving him benefits because you fear being 'lonely' again...

Which brings us to our 5th point...

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5. HIS DISLOYALTY, DISHONESTY, TOXICITY, (or whatever it is) IS NOT YOUR ENEMY... YOUR HEART IS.

Yes, I said it right.

You actually don't need to worry if he is disloyal, or toxic, or a cheat. In fact, that should be the last of your concern.

The main problem a whole lot of people have in this generation is that they cannot overcome the lies of their own heart.

Quite a lot of people actually admit to seeing "signs" of their partner being toxic, having tendencies of cheating, or saw them flirtxting with other people.

It all goes wrong when they tell themselves "oh it's nothing." "oh he will change" "oh it's temporary".

They give so many excuses for the other person because deep within their hearts the idea of breaking up, being single again (at their age), having to explain to friends and families the reason for the split, giving themselves to a multitude of strangers, finding another partner again, is not something they can mentally afford to imagine... how much more to actually do those things.

So they make up all sorts of things because it's easier to let these things pass by and hope it goes well, than to confront the problem and act out a solution.

So sis, stop giving yourself away and find proper guidance.

1. Find a decent guy. Background check. Past relationships. Problems. Family problems. etc. How does he view commitment?

2a. Ask for intentions

Is this for real? Is this towards a soon marriage? If yes, then spend time and get to know each other.

If he says something like he's "discovering himself" tell him to go explore without you.

2b. Ask the questions

When? What's the timeline? "It will come..." is not a right answer. Must be a range of months to years, with a contingency plan if unmarried after the deadline.

Does this sound hard or technical to you? It is. But it's love, and love has plans. Better struggle with this and have a lasting relationship, than to go with the waves and end up dry on the shore.

3. Reserve yourself. Don't spoil the BEST for something that's only good. Don't give yourself away. It's your dad's job to give you away during your wedding, not yours on your first date night.

4. Filter out the fake love. Let him wait. See if he's there to give or there to take.

5. Don't follow your heart. Follow what is right and what is true.

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The Imperial Patriarch