#i think razor would like how formalwear LOOKS.

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formalwear

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Amor Fati, pt. 3

Title: Amor Fati, pt. 3

Pairing: Hoseok x reader,

Type:soulmate!au, angst, fluff

Rating: PG-13: language, a pinch of self-loathing, crying Hobi (I love when men cry when they need to).

Word Count: 1,356-I guess it’s short but it feel like a lot happened? I could have dragged out the angst but I hate when tv shows/movies/ books drag out the miscommunication.  Let me know your thoughts :)

Listening to: The quiet chatter of conversations around me and the “This is Marian Hill” Spotify playlist on super low volume.

A/N: Wow, apparently I’m a die-hard, sappy romantic. This part was hard to write because it had so much more to do with interpersonal relationships and so little to do with the timer/sci-fi/soulmate part of it. The dialogue section in particular was killing me. Handwrote this part in a notebook that I carry around, so I had a fun time deciphering my atrocious handwriting. Without further ado, please enjoy the final part of Amor Fati....

But what can be done, the one who loves must share the fate of the one he loves.

― Mikhail Bulgakov,The Master and Margarita      

Part 1, Part 2

(The Snickers are weird, yes, but it’s a mood lol) 

It has been over a month since you literally ran out on Hobi. It had been surprisingly easy to “ghost on” him, at least physically. You had simply avoided the park the two of you had long shared and ignored his increasingly infrequent text messages. On the one hand, you were ashamed of your Immature behavior, but on the other, the timer had been a cornerstone of your identity for so long.  You were having a hard time just throwing that away.

The emotional separation, on the other hand, was much more difficult to manage. Recently, and perhaps too late, your conviction had begun to waver. You had always been the strong, independent friend as you watched others in your group pair off, despite longing for a soulmate of your own. But you miss one friend in particular in a way that borders on pining. You’re constantly reminded of him through myriad tiny triggers: a clear day with puffy clouds that would be perfect for a picnic date, the slightly nubby pair of pajamas you wore on the last lazy Saturday, a glowing smile from a stranger that is a cheap imitation of his. Usually you try to stop yourself from getting too melodramatic, but today you’re finding it more difficult than usual since it’s one of those aforementioned irritatingly beautiful days.

Surely, after a month, it would be safe to go back to the park?You think, justifying  it with the fact that he hasn’t texted you in six days, almost a week. You further rationalize that if you can feel comfortable in the park again, reclaim the space as “yours,” it might help you to move forward and carry on with your life as planned.

With it decided, the rest of your day flies by. There is almost a slight bounce in your step as you grab your lunch from the shared office refrigerator, head out the main entrance, and down the corresponding stairs. You feel a moment of slight apprehension as you pass through the gates of the small park, but the metaphorical coast is clear. Feeling bold and empowered by the success of your choices thus far, you impulsively decide to take it a step further, and head directly to the bench where the two of you first met, wanting to clear it of any of the symbolic sway it holds over you. A concerned voice in the back of your mind nags that it might be too soon, but by the time you have understood what your intuition is reminding you of, you have matched gazes with the one person you had convinced yourself wouldn’t be there.  Determined not to look away first, though you realize you’ve already been caught, you are surprised by the emotions you see reflected there.

Hurt-yes, you expected and shared that feeling. Surprise-also expected. But also happiness,  unsteady hope, and if you weren’t mistaken (or projecting), something akin to adoration. This emotion confused you more than the suddenness of the interaction. How could he still think of you positively in anyway, when you’d been responsible for the rift and pain in the relationship? He spoke before you could wallow in self-pity for long, a reminder of why, in so many ways, he was right for you.

“Y/N?” He says slowly, eyes scanning your face, as though to verify it’s really you.  Your throat feels tight, and you wonder for a moment if your brain is still regulating your breathing.

He looks as radiant as always, if a little tired under the eyes. Seeing him after so long has your heart hurting, and you realize that this is what heartbreak really feels like. Being physically close but emotionally far from someone. Everything you’d been feeling previously was just a shadow of the true emotion.

“I never thought I’d see you again,” he says and you notice wetness pooling at the corners of his eyes. Somehow, this pains you more than your own heartbreak. “ I kept calling and texting with no response- I was about to give up. I came here today to try to finally forget you, but here you are.” His voice sounds tighter than it usually does, and you realize belatedly that he is trying to keep it together just as much as you are-and apparently doing a worse job.

Before you can force your mouth to shape words, he’s continuing, the words spilling out of him in a way the tears at the corners of his eyes won’t. “Fucking fate- I’ve been trying to outrun it and control my own life. I thought I was doing a good job- removing the timer, pursuing whatever I wanted in the meantime. I was distracting myself endlessly.  But then you showed up, and it was magnetic. There was nothing I ever wanted more than I wanted to be with you.” Despite the impact of his words, he’s no longer looking at you.

“I told myself I was choosing you over and over again. But if I were really choosing the relationship, would I chooseto stay with someone who believes the exact opposite, and embraces a preordained fate? Would I choose to stay with someone who would throw it away when things are finally progressing? Would I waste time figuring out how to reassure the person, when they’ve already left because of something I can’t give them?” He is openly crying now, and he is unable to continue. People are looking over, but you could not care less.

He’s right about so many things, but one thing in particular is true in this moment: The two of you are magnetic. You drift closer, and before you know it, you are seated next to him, rubbing comforting circles on his back as he cries. Even though you should feel angry or hurt, you are only focused on his pain at the moment. None of the his venom is directed toward you, but rather the situation.

You had spent so much time trying to wait for someone perfect: essentially, Hobi, but with a timer. Seeing him here, struggling to wrap his head around whatever is (or isn’t) happening between you, you realize that it was all wasted effort. Even if someone had a timer, they could never be him. You would always be benchmarking them against his smile, his openness, his jokes, how comfortable the two of you felt together, his determination at seeing whatever this is out.

You hate yourself at the moment. You had come so close to throwing this away. He’s struggling with meeting you halfway, and you’ve been struggling with meeting him. But you no longer care. Even without the timer, you knowthat Hobi is your soulmate. You might never know for sure,but you know.

*Months later*

Your tale hadn’t been the normal one of soulmates-the two of you would be forever reaffirming your commitment to each other in ways that other couples could take for granted. But even though that may be true, you no longer felt like it cheapened the bond that you and Hobi shared. You had a prettier way of expressing what you were feeling written on the piece of paper somewhere in the folds of your formalwear, but you were feeling it so clearly, the adrenaline of your wedding day bringing everything into razor-sharp focus.

Maybe your tale hadn’t had the most auspicious start, but it would have the same ending and continue on the same footing as all the others. That was something that comforted you-the universality of the love you were feeling, even if the details were different. Surrounded by your friends and family, hand in hand with the love of your life, committing to be the last one the other would love. While they may have raised their eyebrows at his decision to remove his timer, or yours to continue regardless, they certainly would have understood the emotions that brought both of you here on this day. As the officiant encouraged him to lean in, you saw every assurance you needed written on the map of his face.  

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Why Tonal Dressing Is The Easiest Way To Look Stylish

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Why Tonal Dressing Is The Easiest Way To Look Stylish

You don’t have to be a fashion victim to try out tonal dressing. Once upon a time, wearing the same hue – or variations of it – from head-to-foot was seen as an overly simplistic way of getting dressed. These days, it’s a tactic often used by guys-about-town like David Beckham, Ryan Reynolds and Nick Wooster. And it’s so slick you probably haven’t even noticed them doing it.

Wearing a solo colour top to bottom sounds easy, but it requires some thought if you don’t want to look like the Man from Del Monte. The catwalks have been overrun in recent seasons with tonal looks, so you can always head there for inspiration (everyone from Billionaire to Bottega Veneta are at it). Then, to make it your own, just follow our guide to one-colour dressing.

What Is Tonal Dressing?

It sounds pretentious, but once you’ve got over the terminology, tonal dressing is menswear’s best-kept secret. The bad news: it’s not quite as easy as just taking a colour and going to town with it. Tonal dressing, done well, is about mixing up textures and same-y tones that look like they were almost made to sit alongside each other.

“Tonal dressing is probably one of the most fail-safe ways for men to dress – and one that not enough men take advantage of,” says Chris Kyvetos, Stylebop.com buying director. “Aside from the ease of it all, it’s a seriously modern look.”

If you already wear the same colour on repeat, you’re halfway there in joining the Tonal Club – just switch up how you combine your pieces in the same get-up. Once your one-colour outfit is sorted, you’ll instantly look and feel your most put-together, even when you’re getting dressed with the darkest of hangovers.

Finally, tonal’s ultimate party trick? Its power to streamline and trick the eye with a continuous line of colour – beer bellies become virtually undetectable. (Disclaimer: probably.)

Tonal Dressing: The Rules

Pick Your Colour Wisely

The linchpin of any tonal vibe is the colour (obviously). But it’s not a case of sticking a pin into a tube of Smarties and rolling with it. You need a colour that a) complements your skin tone and b) doesn’t look ‘novelty’ when you’re walking down the street. N.B., The Mask-style yellow is a definite no-no, and millennial pink is only for the brave.

“It’s best to keep things muted if you’re a tonal novice,” says Kyvetos. “In my opinion, tan and navy blue are the best options – not just because they’re safer, but these colours tend to look strongest as an overall look. For most of us, all-over bright colours are best avoided.”

Mango Man

Mix Up Your Tones

Tonal dressing may look like a wardrobe art form but it’s all about creating subtle variations on a theme. Think mixing up dark and light tones of the same hue.

“The number one thing to keep in mind is not to attempt wearing one block colour head-to-toe,” Kyvetos says. “Tonal dressing is best approached with varying shades – that way you avoid looking like you’re wearing a uniform.”

Aquascutum

Neutral Back-Up

If one-colour commitment all feels too much, don’t sweat it. You don’t have to wear the same hue throughout your entire look. If you’re a tonal newbie, adding a white T-shirt or Oxford shirt for contrast can be an outfit saver, breaking up the feeling of colour monotony or overkill.

Wearing a casual summer suit in a bold tone like powder blue suddenly feels far less daunting with a white tee to pare it down. Likewise, an otherwise all-black-everything look is given a little depth.

Burton

Play With Texture

Texture (or lack of it) can make or break your tonal outfit. Throwing different patterns, fabrics and finishes into the mix makes your look less uniform-y, more visually interesting. For example, try combining unexpected fabrics like cotton with leather, or woolly knits with silk.

Nick Hammond, head cutter for Savile Row tailor Norton & Sons, says: “Texture can really heighten the effect and impact of tonal dressing. Using different textures will emphasise contrast and add depth to your overall look – especially important if you’re carrying the same colour throughout.”

Reiss

Shoe Game

Tonal doesn’t have to mean literally top-to-toe. Sometimes, matching your shoes with the rest of your look can be overkill for a tonal look. The same applies to accessories like hats and scarves. Instead, reach for a neutral tone, which won’t look weird placed next to a colour.

“Keeping it as simple as possible is key for a tonal look,” Hammond explains. “There aren’t a lot of bells and whistles or accessories involved – this is way more about the clothes and keeping it cool and straightforward.”

Defursac

Key Tonal Dressing Colours

Black

Surprisingly tricky to wear top-to-toe because it can look too harsh against most skin tones. But if black is resolutely your no.1 hue, playing with different textures really comes into play to add variation.

It’s razor-sharp for formalwear, but when you’re pulling together casualwear or a weekend outfit, try adding in dark charcoal to lift an all-black outfit.

Blue

Meet your paint-by-numbers, fail-safe colour to tonal dressing. If, like the average man, you have an insane amount of blue and denim in your wardrobe, then it’s the obvious colour to try first. And it’s hard to mess up.

An ideal intro? Try a pair of stonewash jeans teamed with a darker blue shirt and jacket for some subtle tonal action. For a more dressed-up take on blue, check out our Go-To Tonal Outfits section below.

Green

Admittedly, lime green isn’t the easiest colour to pull off, but khakis and forest greens are where it’s at when it comes to tonal dressing – both behave more like a neutral than a ‘colour’.

If you need any more arm twisting, see how often street style god Nick Wooster nails tonal looks wearing green suits, camo print and casuals. When it comes to formal events, a rich green dinner jacket can also make you stand out from the penguin pack.

Neutrals

Unpredictable weather means a white-out outfit is all kinds of tricky to pull off convincingly. Mix light neutrals instead for a more wearable option (that’s also less likely to be ruined with a dirty puddle or lunchtime spills). Think cream, ivory, eggshell, beige and putty for a versatile combination of tones that all work well together.

Still into the idea of all-white? Save it for your Amalfi vacation suitcase and keep it crisp and fresh.

Grey

No 50 Shades references here (sorry, Christian) but the grey spectrum is pretty vast – and surprisingly wearable. Choose from charcoal, marl, dove, silver or slate for effortless cool.

Contrast is key so you don’t end up looking like a slab of granite – remember to add variety via different tones and textures. Mix up items like flecked coats, flannel suiting and woollen sweaters in winter, and cotton tees, seersucker suiting and canvas shorts in summer.

Go-To Tonal Outfits

Smart

Nothing says ‘I’ve-got-my-shit-together’ like a smart tonal look. This is more head-to-toe so needs to be fully curated, rather than thrown on. Hammond has this tonal outfit inspiration: “I would wear a midnight navy dinner suit with waistcoat, blue shirt and navy bow tie for a twist on formal black tie.”

Tread carefully if you’re going tonal with shirts and ties and steer clear of shiny finishes, which could come off a bit cheesy gameshow host. Instead, try subtle complementary contrast accessories to make your suit pop, like a pocket square or silk patterned scarf.

Smart-Casual

Tonal is your need-to-know shortcut to looking sharp in smart casual pieces that work for boardroom to bar.

For autumn/winter, Hammond suggests adding a roll neck to a suit: “I don’t think you can go wrong with a silvery grey flannel suit teamed with a light, heather grey turtleneck. I also love mixing up blues, so a navy suit with sky blue shirt and royal blue necktie.”

For summer, switch out the roll neck for a crisp T-shirt. Pair with breathable linen, cotton or seersucker separates for a look that’s ideal for business casual offices.

Casual

Weekend and vacation gear is done best in an ensemble of two or three pieces in same-y hues – beige and camel tones, greys and taupe, or navy and mid-blues. Because there’s less structure in casualwear, taking a tonal approach makes your outfit look more put-together.

Avoid mixing summer fabrics with winter fabrics when you’re contrasting finishes, e.g. linen with corduroy is a no-go, but linens, cottons and canvas all combine well together.

For casual scenarios, soft greens and khaki lend themselves to layering and work all year round. Use some workwear- or streetwear-style trousers as your starting point and build from there.