#i think it must be the shade or smthn maybe im going too light

[undercoverangell]

updated my design for penelope a little :3

[salt-volk]

i know its a salt blog so theres inevitably gonna be some negativity & hot debates about the same things that go in circles over n over again, but srsly some of u are SO quick to assume the worst & make innocent mistakes or simple actions into being some obviously malicious scheme, when most likely is that whatevr occurred is just harmless or misunderstood. 

"never ascribe to malice that which is adequately explained by incompetence" pls remember that!!! anji is not some evil witch making the site bad on purpose to scam everyone, not every user is out to get u or secretly talking sht about u, customs owners arent all evil rich babies who want the entire site to cater to them but everyone else to fcking die in a hole, usually ppl are not intentionally trying to upset u or others, & so on... most ppl is just doing the best they can given the situation theyre in & what info they have at the time. of course sometimes eveyeone makes mistakes or look stupid, but i doubt the intent is to be as harmful as possible always.

like how some ppl take it super personall when they dont get a text back immediately & start thinking "oh my friend must hate me, oh my bf is cheating, oh theyr ignoring me on purpose to get back at me for somethin" & all of that when usually its literally just.. ur friend was busy with family stuff or they were using the bathroom or lost their phone or whatever. not actually as big a deal as it may seem with the first impulse!

good exmple is the recent talk over having private customs on wishlist, that its done to disrespect the customs owner, a show of callousness saying u dont give a shit about them or their wishes or all that. when srsly the easiest answer is just that maybe the person putting the item on the wishlist just didnt think about it that much. they saw the item, thought it looked cool, & put it there. maybe they dont even know its private since some ppl dont have obvious info about thers, or maybe its just there for their own reference or smthn with no biger meaning than that.

i personally dont give tons of thought to examining every single miniscule action i take on dv or how even just making a wishlist can possibly be misintepreted or scrutinized by others in a hundred different ways (sounds exhausting) & im sure plenty others are the same . sometimes literally ppl are just not thinkin about stuff that deeply!! the easiest answer is likely the correct one, theres no deep complicated aulterior motives, the person literllay  just wasnt thinking about it!

(& im not ssaying ppl should be let off the hook for doing genuinely awful sht just because their intentions were harmless! (like how u can be uninentionally racist but that dosnt make what u did suddenly not racist or suddenly not still harmful & something u shuld take responsibility for, its obv still bad intended or not), but on here SO much of whats beig talked about is incredibily minor stuff like someone putting a wishlist item up or pricing an item too high or phrasing a comment a little too emotionally or coloring a pet like 3 shades off or whatever & in those cases why not be lenient)

idk idk idk... really just pls just remember that at the end of the day this is just a silly web site. sometimes things get really blown out of proportion & i know its prbly all just venting stuff , but sincerely just try to be cautoius how u speak & think about others, try not to let ur negative feelings of dissatisfaction with dv overall cloud ur judgement too much to the point where everything even somewhat related to it is instantly posioned & seen in the most negative light possibel. its not good for u or ur mental health & is also not good for other ppl who end up having drama caused ovre it. sometimes just take a step away to relax before forming immediate reaction or impression, if u think u know what someones true intentions are, take extra time, think about it again later after the drama has died down & ur mind is more clear. we all as a userbase could be kinder & more undertsanding to each other, to be part of fostering that better community!!