#i resoundingly agree that strict definitions of romantic and platonic love put love into a box it shouldn’t be in
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Reblogging to shout out a few of the many amazing tags on this poll which i think deserve to be seen—
@goodmorninglovelies42
@eluvion
@jamietxrtt
I agree with all of this so so much and especially what all of you are saying about how the lines between platonic and romantic love are so often blurred and that reality is simply much more complex than a tumblr poll can address. He loves her period is RIGHT. And at least for me I think i also can’t separate these confessions from the intent I see behind them which is like, love without expectation. I don’t think Jamie is confessing he loves her in s2 thinking they’re going to actually get back together or to even propose that happening in any way. It’s more that he just wants her to know what she means to him (whether it be platonic or romantic or a bit of BothAnd) and that he’s thankful for her role in his life. At the end of the day he loves her, that love is something special, and it’s something he wants to be forever, I think. It doesn’t matter so much what form that takes, whether it means friendship or a relationship or what have you. After all, Jamie does know that isn’t only his choice to make. Most of all he just wants her to always be a part of his life and i think that’s what so beautiful about the two of them. <3
*the confessions I'm referring to are the funeral scene in s2 and the finale scene with Roy in s3
#I’m going to try to articulate what irks me#and probably do a semi bad job of it because i think I think I’m still working through it myself lmao#i resoundingly agree that strict definitions of romantic and platonic love put love into a box it shouldn’t be in#in real life as it is here…those lines blur and are ultimately meaningless in the face of force of the love itself#however.#i think the brand of opinion that irks me is#the ones that treat jamie like he’s totally clueless#as in the people who argue Jamie is ‘too immature’ to recognize real romantic love in s2#or that he’s just clinging onto Keeley because she’s the only person who’s ever shown him genuine romantic affection 🙄#and therefore he couldn’t POSSIBLY ‘understand’ what he’s saying and he’s just sooo confused#and its usually combined with the opinions that 1) jamie couldn’t possibly want to be more than friends with her#and 2) its ooc in s3 that jamie thinks he stands a chance with her because CLEARLY he got over her ages ago#and idk something about it feels very bad faith#and a bit infantilizing#like ‘oh poor bb jamie can’t understand his emotions and thinks he’s in love silly boy’ like ???#no Jamie DOES love her#and he means his words when he says them#!!!#that doesn’t mean it’s romantic love or platonic love or whatever. the feels are complicated and maybe he doesn’t quite know himself#i can certainly believe that#but I do think he understands the weight of holding that love for her#i don’t think he’s throwing that word around lightly#he means ‘I want you in my life forever’#and that IS important to me#idk if I’m making sense or just rambling at this point but anyway#yeah the options on this poll are definitely reductive but I’m so glad it’s spawned all its various tags :)#they’re ALL GOOD#and what are my polls for if not sparking good discussions!!!#I appreciate y’all basically#ted lasso
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