#i put the post with the adult community so its fine xD !

[shokujin-art]

i hope you're enjoying DoL, it's very good.. anyways I know you said you were done w Whb, but I would like to know your opinion on asmo now that he's fully out and all his fun little quirks are plain to see also.

Zager is the first non king to get a card that will be available in the secret club! :]

Well I kinda ... Stopped again playing WHB. Was very frustrated for not pulling Asmodeus but got his artefact 3 times. I said I wouldn't get annoyed with the gay being constantly Pay2Pull but I failed 😂. Though for being absent they gave me a ticket selection for any selfie L unit... I'm retrying to see if I get it again and if Asmodeus could be in since it's a selfie too.

But I'm happy Zephyr got his card, I saw the announcement on Twitter and the can't wait to see the artwork for future S and A units !

[mrbluebeard666]

(( Admin Speaks / Blog Announcements

I hate breaking character on this blog but I do have some updates for this blog and where I plan on taking Ran as a character. So after thinking long and hard I feel like it would be in my best interest to separate Ran from the DL community as a whole and making him his own thing all together. This is great cause guess what! That means I'm not limited by anything when writing his story or illustrating him! I could confidently make his own content/comics/merchandise or whatever I plan to do with him my way!

This leads into my second decision. This blog from now on and all Ran content from here on out will be restricted. Minors and ageless blogs will be blocked in the next 24 hours of making this post. I will be deleting almost if not all asks made by minors to Ran. I tried to see if I could make his character PG-13 friendly as much as I can but honestly it's boring to me. He was originally made as a joke but has grown into something else. In my mind Ran is the worst of the worst, a completely depraved man with no morals and almost no limits. Ran is an always has been a literal and figurative monster, a stain of human cruelty. What humanity you think you see is merely the mirror of your own desires reflected back at you that Ran plays up to gain your trust. He is a coward just as all disgusting murders are. I want to continue trying to balance this fine line of writing a character that my readers are charmed by but are aware of truly how sickening he really is. I want my readers to know how hard it can be to see the snake in the grass. Randall is meant to be a cautionary tail of "be careful of who you trust", that sometimes it seems so obvious he is bad yet you feel like somehow you'll be different but the reality is- your not. He is the car ride you won't get out of. For me I find that kind of character really scary and in turn very interesting! I also in a fantasy horror-porn setting think it's hot as all hell!!! So to take away the seriousness of "be cautious of what you consume and idolize" um- I really just want to draw and write nsfw horror-porn of Ran XD That's really what this is about ngl. Also minors interacting with a character like Ran, even in PG-13/sfw ways is just so uncomfortable to me. Its something I wasn't expecting ngl. Its been bothering me and it's my blog so...I'm kicking ya'll out, sorry :/

That being said! I'm not really sure where I'll be up loading his new content, especially explicid nsfw content. I would rather put it somewhere where I can manage exactly who can and can't see it, yet I don't want to force people through a pay wall. Tumblr is also not kind to dark nsfw or horror content in general so its probably best to move him where I can go buck wild with it too. Not sure where that would be (maybe pillow fort?) But ya'll (adults) will be updated on that.

So to summarize this blog is no longer a Diabolik Lovers OC blog or has any relation to DL fandom and Minors are no longer allowed to interact with this blog. You will be blocked. This is a side-blog so for whatever reason I can't find a way to block people from this blog, this blog may get deleted FYI.

For any questions you can always ask my art blog @6reeddraws6 about it. Well, hope ya'll have a good one and stay safe! 👍💙

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[hpfannons]

Oh la la! Thats a fine choice of specimen. Thank you. :) lol. I only ask about the jealousy thing because I remember that Dick said one time that they only get to see him 2 months a year or something... I probably meant the batfam side i guess... lol but its good most Harry’s friend are okay or just roll with it... maybe I should asked some batfam moments during their stay in order hq... I really love that scene where Harry was on Dick’s lap and and the rest are just with them... I kinda want a scene with the same feeling...if you dont mind. xD thank you very much! glad to hear ur answer about fudge and umbridge. thank you so much... im really immersed in this au... looking forward to part 7. >_< thanks and stay safe y’all.

Glad you like my batfam! My best friend and I spent way too long going back and forth on people we could agree on for different characters (I think Tim and Alfred were the hardest… but it was years ago, so don’t quote me on that lol)

Sorry about the jealousy thing though, miscommunication on my part. I blame that for answering at 3 am on my phone XD

Yes, there is a lot of buried jealousy with the Batfam. Though surprisingly, most of it comes from Harry. That’s mostly because all these new family members come in while he’s at school, so it kind of feels like they’re all much more close knit with each other than with him because he’s not there for the large portion of the year.

They’re all happy to include him and catch him up with things he missed while he was at school… But there are some things you just have to be there in the moment for, because retelling the story just isn’t quite the same.

That’s not to say that the rest of the Batfam don’t have the same feelings as well, I think I’ve mentioned before that Tim and Harry especially are very close (actually best friends, on the same level as Harry and Ron) so Tim is definitely one of those people who feels Harry’s lost during the year the most.

Add on the fact it’s not really that easy to keep in touch with him while he’s at school, and it really is just hard on everyone.

As a side note, I fully believe the family would find some kind of way to make alterations to a communicator that will work at Hogwarts. Considering how many people who both use magic and have been involved with the Justice League in some way or the other, I find it hard to believe they haven’t found a work around for the whole magic screws with tech problem. At the very least, Harry would have a way to check his email from family, b/c making Headwig carry letters from Scotland to New Jersey and back is just cruel.

As far as the Batfam hanging out around 12 Grimmauld Place… They’re trying to be as non-confrontational as possible, even if there’s still some ruffled feathers from the first night. So the boys mostly go along with helping clean out the place under Molly’s orders - Jason was originally kind of prickly about it because he’s not a child (certainly not her child), so he found getting ordered around kind of insulting… Until his inner clean freak won out and yeah, this place does need a lot of work. Alfred has taught them all well, and it shows.

Tim mostly hauls himself up in the library when he can get away from clearing out pixies and de-gnoming the garden. He’s got like four notebooks full of information and Ron is a little shocked to find out Harry wasn’t kidding when he said Tim was worse than Percy and Hermione together when it came to information gathering.

Damian has less than stellar people skills at the best of times, and here he’s decided he doesn’t care very much for anybody over the age of seventeen (that’s not family anyway), so most of Dick’s time has been dedicated to keeping the youngest away from most of the Order. Not that he really blames him, Dick isn’t nearly as vocal about it as Damian, but he is also just completely done with all of them. He’s only playing nice because they’re here for Harry.

Bruce has also posted himself up in the library, reading everything he can get ahold of in regards to the history of the wizarding world trying to understand exactly what he’s son has gotten wrapped up in. Because lord knows nobody in this house is going to explain it to him… At this point he’s about one wrong comment away from telling them exactly where they can shove their ‘muggle’ excuses.

There was one notable evening though, when the boys as well as the Weasleys and Hermione were just hanging out in a parlor or sitting room or whatever it was supposed to be. Jason had been messing around with an old radio he found the other day and between him and Tim, they managed to get it working. The minute they recognized Britney Spears’s voice, there were four sets of eyes immediately on Dick who gave all of twenty seconds of resistance before he was up and dragging people along to dance with him. The impromptu party had ended up going on for hours, Tonks getting roped into the fun with them while Sirius and Remus smiled fondly from the doorway. Molly made a passing comment about bedtime, but didn’t argue back when that was quickly shot down by the other adults. Let the kids be kids while they could.

As far as soft moment’s for the Batfam… there are two that really come to mind, though they’re kind of sad though.

The first is really kind of short, but it’s after the battle of Hogwarts, and Harry’s come back from his final fight with Voldemort, and there’s just people everywhere in the great hall, but Harry knows exactly where he’s going. Bruce is standing to the side, watching while Jason’s getting patched up, and trying to keep an eye on his other kids as well. Everyone's a little banged up and bruised, but they’re all alive, and that’s the important part right now.

And then he sees Harry and there’s this almost tangible sense of relief because now all of his kids are present and accounted for, and Bruce feels like he can finally breathe again. And Harry just like collapses into Bruce who has to scramble a little bit to catch him, but then just stands there and holds him, because Harry is just completely exhausted mentally, physically, and emotionally. And all Bruce hears is “I want to go home Dad.”, and honest to god Batman almost starts crying in the middle of the great hall in front of everyone.

The other is after the Triwizard Tournament, and everything with Mad-Eye Crouch, when Harry’s in the hospital wing. Everyone’s standing around trying to figure out what the hell just happened, and Harry wakes up still kind of groggy from whatever Madam Pomfrey gave him to knock him out, and he ends up breaking down crying in front of everyone.

Dick doesn’t even hesitate, he’s on Harry before the first tear even really starts rolling and just tucks him into the crook of his neck and let’s him cry it out. Except Harry’s been traumatized and he’s like full-on sobbing, almost wailing, and that just stabs everyone straight through the heart. Tim’s next, doesn’t say anything, just sits down behind Harry and tucks himself up against his brother’s back. Damian and Jason join in as well, Damian sitting on Harry’s other side and just quietly putting his head on Harry’s shoulder; while Jason sit’s down a little farther away, reaching out to put a hand on the back of Harry’s neck. Bruce is standing on the other side of the bed, and just runs a hand through Harry’s hair while they let him get it out and calm down.

And once he’s down to hiccups and kind of stuttery breaths, Dumbledore says something about leaving him be, and if looks could kill… Jason’s still armed, and he almost, almost goes for the gun. Bruce head’s it off at the pass though, saying he’ll go with them to discuss things further and also inform the league about what’s happened, but the rest of the boys will be staying.

Madam Pomfry insists on dosing Harry again, and after some reassurances that his brother’s aren't going anywhere, they get him to drink the potion. That’s as far as they indulge the mediwitch though. Tim and Damian both try to settle down in the bed on either side of their brother, though after some jostling around and being unable to really fit two teenagers and a ten year old comfortably in a hospital cot; Dick and Jason move another bed over flush against Harry’s and Dick manages to coax Damian into it with him, as long as the younger is able to keep hold of Harry’s arm. Jason retakes the seat he’d pulled up to the bedside, kick’s his feet up on the cot and settles in to keep watch over the lot of them for the night. And that is exactly where and how Bruce finds them the next morning.

[sagittariusboyfriend]

lmao oh man. ok ive been talking to a guy who from the start knew i wasnt interested in any romantic stuff - i told him up front, he told me he wasnt either. cool cool. so we met for a coffee and yeah im not attracted to him, but he is intellectually stimulating u know. like where you can have many hours of conversation because hes really communicative and blunt and honest and has a very different view on life than me etc. which i like about him. i learn so much from direct opposites. we become friends. well, flirty friends, but honestly he is the only one doing the flirting during this entire time. ive been very specific not to as to not send any mixed signals, and have had to dodge some straight-forward sexual stuff a few times. not at all because i dont want to talk sex, we have absolutely talked sex, but not with each other, and i just really dont want him to think im attracted.

however he turned out to be a pretty... petty and unchill person. at times, anyway. as i said i like talking to him and do so quite often, or did so anyway, up until recently. a while ago he started to get very contrarian, like, edgy? rude, but at first in a playful way. i dont have a problem with rude when its in a playful/comunicative way, im amused by that and i indulge in dishing it back playfully from time to time. but it was very obvious he was doing it because i mentioned i was into "rude" guys, maybe once, when we were talking about my former love interests. and by rude i definitely dont mean as in someone whos all high and mighty, self-entitled, or stuff like personal attacks, im talking about a kind of humor, or in a charming, charismatic and mischievous way. and maybe that is my fault for not specifying what that actually meant, idk. its still kind of strange completely rearranging your personality based on something i said once, you know? it all felt very contrived to me.

but anyway, he also started to get pissed off that i would see my friends but couldnt see him (he lives in a different city...) and about how i could afford to go drink beer with my friends and not drink tea at his place (he also doesnt drink and, again, lives in a different city) and im like... ok first, im not even that into you in comparison, i will always pick my friends over others, i prioritize my money (i am by NO MEANS wealthy omfg) the way i want and on what is proportional to what i get out of the experience. im not going to put out a lot of money on a train ticket to sit at home with you, a guy ive met in public ONCE, when i have all of my biggest friend groups in this city, here, where i live, and we enjoy drinking beer, watching soccer, going to the beach, hanging out in parks, having game nights and hosting and going to parties etc etc. heck yes im going to spend my last money on being with them. and i have told him this, and also that if i had more of a disposable income right now i would obviously be freer to do whatever. ive never been against going to his place to hang out and not having it involve any alcohol, thats all cool, but right now i just cant afford it, and i would prefer to hang out in public some more. but hes not into my scene, so what am i gonna do. and i dont think its strange to think like, i know my last bucks will get me two beers at the cheapest bar, but two beers are still not the price of a (one-way) train ticket. but he just... gets mad about it. in a very childish way. and i keep a very open an honest discussion with him, and most of the time he gets it. hes not dumb or socially awkward, i know hes not, but hes kind of... hard to deal with, i guess is the right word, when there is a personal relationship. in a not so charming way. where he can come off as uncertain, distristful(!) and a bit egocentrical. a classic "ive been hurt by hierarchy for most of my life so now im always on high alert and im going to be as obtuse and snarky as possible so i can feel like i have some sort of control and i WILL take up space and society WILL give me what i feel ive been cheated of my entire life also emotionally im a scared child and really really need validation but im never ever going to admit that". most of the time hes not, but when he started "demanding" to know why i couldnt hang out, or what my expenses were(!!) i immediately got turned off. having to motivate or explain your life and choices to a person youve met once and that you, sure, appreciate, but that you dont really know? no thanks. people not trusting me or my reasons makes me angry, because i put so much value in honesty, so i got angry at him (which is VERY not my character). and he kind of took a step back.

we havent spoken as intensely since then, maybe two weeks ago, and i honestly dont mind except for i like to write and communicate with a lot of people about a lot of stuff to keep myself occupied and he is now one less person to do that with i guess. but now he casually struck up a convo on my snapchat on a post "where i looked hot". i was like heh thanks! and he went on saying "i need to remind myself of how good-looking you are sometimes... kind of stupid actually"

so im like... uhuh... why would you need to remind yourself of that? already finding it a bit cringey

and he says "because i forget about you? xD"

aaaand im rolling my eyes trying not to gag. he is obviously looking for a reaction and im like wtf are we 15

then he fucking says, all philosophical like: "sometimes we need to be reminded why we start talking to/hitting on someone in the first place" and i was just like...... ok stop... what a fucking backhanded compliment. that actually was you telling me that i havent been paying attention to you that much and you want my attention.

god.

again, so turned off by this kind of personality. and i dont mean that only sexually, i mean... i dont think we can be friends, man. youre acting kinda gross. "we" as in, people of the earth, dont need to be reminded of that. that is not a universal truth. this is cringyness, a wounded ego on a high horse.

idk maybe he was trying to be nice or trying to say hes sorry because he was out of line earlier, but i genuinely dont think he thinks so himself, but... ugh. i am not into this. i am not into him. i have been doing my best not to string him along by the way, by being veeeery open about the fact that i sleep with different people, and not just guys, and that i like being single right now and that i have many issues to take care of and heal, so i hope he doesnt feel like ive been doing that to him for some reason.

im just very over this guy. i basically answered him that it sounded more like a backhanded compliment than anything else and that i know ive been bad at ~paying attention~ to him in that way lately, and that im aware of that because im just not interested in paying that kind of attention to anyone at all right now. lets see what his response is. i bet on either a douche guy "lmao ok i was just giving you a compliment chill" or a niceguy/neckbeard "wow youre not better than me". or perhaps hell be an adult about it. i feel like i do have some faith in him still.

but jesus christ the cringe

update: this was a while ago and i dont remember what he answered but it surprisingly wasnt any of the above. we stopped talking for a few months tho and now im in love with a gorgeous person that i recently became exclusive with. this guy is still someone i talk to now and then on snapchat. he semi-regularly drops compliments on my selfies and i guess thats just fine, but his snaps are very very bitter and sometimes i can tell he wants to get my attention. 🤷‍♂️

[sasukeuchiha-eternalmangekyou]

//As an adult, not much. If anything I’d lean more on the envious side of stuff such as seeing others being able to spend time with their family. But jealously doesn’t play much of a part in his life anymore. Sasuke is capable of controlling his emotions and keeping his head straight in matters he can’t change. He has an awareness that he hadn’t possessed in the past. He no longer cares about the trivial things he once did.

Sasuke has a superiority/inferiority complex as I’ve mentioned a multitude of time when discussing his character development. So, it’s not so shocking to relate his former jealously to that of Naruto’s growing strength within the entire series. It’s obvious throughout but not articulated until the Sasuke Retrieval Arc after the hospital roof fight.

So bear with me as I probably go into way more detail than necessary to explain the type of jealously that affects Sasuke since we know he’s never been one to care what others think or the progress of others outside of himself. He does get envious of Lee’s ability to beat him prior to the Chunin Exams because it was the first time he was put in his place that there’s others out there who train harder and have more power at their disposal (minus Haku and Zabuza bc that too was an issue for him). However, I’ll address the few panels I have below that explain it from Kakashi’s point of view. 

It’s plain and simple as Kakashi said, it’s an obsession for Sasuke to be superior to those around him. He needs that form of validation. It stabilizes him. As we see later when Sasuke leaves the village it’s due to this fight, losing to Itachi, and being attacked by the Sound Four. He was always ahead of Naruto, but witnessed him beat Gaara when he couldn’t (while not recognizing all he accomplished beforehand such as learning the chidori and being on chunin level despite not being officially promoted). 

He wasn’t trying to kill Naruto at all. It was a way to release his pent up frustration with himself and the pure misery surging through him after Itachi brutally reminded him of how ‘weak’ he truly was after all that time. It was later revealed that Sasuke felt a step behind Naruto on day one when he couldn’t get himself to become friends out of fear and later resentment. The jealously grew in the cracks of their formed bond and was fiercely shoved to the surface at this moment.

Immature behavior, yes, but also not so much. It wasn’t born from thin air. It didn’t suddenly appear. It was suppressed and bypassed due to Sasuke’s character development with his team. But he had a setback no one seemed to recognize, let alone handle. Kakashi apparently had no idea Sasuke encountered Itachi (which side-note I must add bc why didn’t he know? He shouldn’t been 100% aware of this matter. But it seems as though there’s a lack of communication between them. Anyway I’ll dismiss it or end up rambling due to my Kakashi and Sasuke issue XD).

Sasuke’s jealously is volatile. The moment he thinks he’s weak, he brings his self-confidence so low it’s harmful. He criticizes himself, degrades all the progress he’s actually made and grinds it into nothing. When in reality he’s progressed at an astonishing rate (and later becomes one of the strongest shinobi in the world) but here he’s still a child, only 13 and weighs his significance on a scale. The second he gets jealous, be that towards Naruto, Lee, Gaara, Itachi, etc. he’s unable to keep it together. And it continues but is expressed differently after the time skip. Sasuke isn’t so impulsive and gained more awareness.

Sasuke has to once again question himself, wonder what made him this weak bc there has to be a source. His jealous nature digs into him. He’s always lived his life being measured up to someone else (Fugaku comparing him to Itachi). He adopted the habit and it stuck with him. He mostly feels the need to be above everyone else bc it prove he’s making progress and could stand a chance against his brother in the future. But the envy he has when Naruto seemingly gains such strength so fast is a mental kick, one he repeatedly thinks about.

Acknowledging Naruto would cause Sasuke to deny his reason for living. This is a running issue for him throughout the manga, but also so important. Sasuke is feeling threatened by Naruto’s gained strength. When it comes to jealously as a whole, Sasuke’s not one to be envious over petty things and honestly keeps himself focused/calm enough where nothing seems to outwardly bother him. He was never jealous of Itachi. He looked up to his older brother, but when Fugaku didn’t verbally acknowledge him to his face (and being only 7) it made him feel worthless. That duplicates itself here in its own manner. It’s normal to get jealous or resentful. It’s simply a fact of life. But Sasuke’s always in a sensitive mindset due to the curse of hatred. So any small act of bitterness can whirlwind into something foul.

Here we have a small taste of Sasuke’s character development. He no longer cares, realizing jealousy doesn’t give any purpose. He’s matured but is still goal oriented. It’s not really a question of what makes Sasuke jealous, but more to the point of where he started and ended up when handling it. Power has been Sasuke’s driving force, strength his confidence. When it’s threatened and jealousy kicks in, he’s set off. But here he’s absolutely fine admitting it’s insignificant.

And here we have Sasuke finally able to admit he lost to Naruto. It’s not in admission to failure or weakness, it’s expressed with a smile. The transformation to how unbalanced Sasuke is when managing jealousy to it not existing anymore is the point of this post (tangent or not). I could’ve easily kept it to a minimum and stuck with the first paragraph but I figured why not delve into it. 

Sasuke’s an emotional mess at times, but in most scenarios he’s able to keep himself composed. As an adult, he’s happy with himself and whats around him (concerning his family and all the progress he’s made). Now jealousy plays no physical part of his life. Small things perhaps, but it doesn’t cut deep anymore.

[llycaons]

well, it was both great and awful in new and interesting ways. I compare to my prediction post

no presence for jyl :( rip I’m also used to XL who looks quite a bit older, and the donghua version of jyl looks very young bro donghua jyl just straight up had no presence at all it was devastating I wanted miss xuan lu so badly. she was so stupid and so spacey and none of her relationships or personality traits felt real

wwx and lwj are like, kind of mean to each other? not in a bad way particularly but I heard their relationship is a lot different than the show. naturally im very fond of the show so idk how I’ll feel about this they're a little rough around the edges but by the end they're...fine. as I've said i think the way the romance was implemented at the end was very well-excecuted and I liked their chemistry even if I didn't like them individually

WEN BLOOD CAVE SCENE THOUGH YEAHH BOYYYYY

extremely sexy ravens? green smoke? red eyes? yllz aesthetic looks incredible true but the cgi for the birds sucked and unfortunately I didn't like the yllz aesthetic as I found it too surreal and fantastical and silly-looking

backgrounds look gorgeous THEY WERE. also the op and ed animation

the music is apparently amazing it was whatever

the robes look different I think wwx wears gray with red detailing yep

wen qing hardcore!!! she sounds really cool in the donghua hardcore yes, but cool she was not. we got four scenes with her and she was really mean for most of them. no relationship development to speak of with either wwx or wen ning. her death scene hit, but only because it was well-done. I did not care for her

I have heard wwx in the donghua steers close to the hated gremlin man xD trope. we shall see in the CR arc DEFINITELY yes. he's capable of sounding normal but in his CR days and his higher-energy days as an adult he is such a fucking annoying obnoxious asshole he pisses me off

lwj has some cool moments like w the guan in the finale but overall I hear he’s very stiff and weird and intense and angry funny story. donghua lwj is at times stiff, emotionless, uncommunicative, passive when people he apparently cares about are in danger or distress, willing to kidnap someone he claims to love, and generally a shitty dude. other times he's gentle, communicative, honest, mature, honorable, and has a lovely smile. in general s1 and s2 are worse and s3 is best. still haven't quite forgiven him for the kidnapping and shitty reunion scene and the drunk ribbon thing but he's also impressed me with his expressiveness, actions, and willingness to work with people he dislikes

speaking of lwj please hold me in the light as I bear witness to those character designs for…oh god. 17 hours. I don’t want to see him like this dear followers, it was bad. but I did get used to it

so I’m going to try to approach it as its own thing because I see those characters and im like ‘I do not know these people this was impossible. I was at all times comparing it to the novel and to the drama

the setting and clothing designs and hairstyles all look SO different so it won’t be hard to keep them distinct in my head I think it does have a distictive vibe. it made its mark on the fanbase and it's a significant adaptation with a lot of good points that puts its own twist on the story while mostly remaining loyal in essentials

I hope the romantic subtext comes through but I haven’t seen much to inspire hope abt that…I am glad not to worry about the dafan mtn kiss and ch 96 stuff tho obvs not at all in s1 and s2, butto my very great and pleased surprise, the romance came through rather wonderfully in the finale episodes of s3

jc donghua ending sounds really good I look forward to that it was offscreen but it was something different

wonky pacing? but the flashbacks were concise? that’s good bc this show is short the pacing was up and down. sometimes snappy, sometimes slow. 'concise' is a kinder term than I would use for the gutted post-sunshot plot

so I’m really looking forward to a cool Aesthetic for the show and for a plot closer to the novel and maybe these characters will charm me! but looking like that, I somewhat doubt it in fact, it is for none of those things that I enjoyed this show. I did not like any of the characters overall, just brief moments of affection that pass quickly. jin ling is fine. wwx is okay. wen ning isn't really a strong presence, but he's sweet. lxc fucking sucks. jgy is fine. jyl is like nonexistent she has zero personality

this show wasn't bad

[colorisbyshe]

I know it's old but that post u made on asexual Tumblr infantilizing itself really hit me. I've noticed the trend for a while now but couldn't really put it into words. It was an extremely well-articulated point, and I realized that I've see that exact behavior replicated by others for the same reason. Just wanted to thank you for putting what I wanted to say into words!

No problem! It really is quite insidious!

Especially in the ace community where this weird infantilization/purity thing kind of continues on in more nefarious ways. Like, yes, in the discourse it’s done to sort of avoid culpability like “oh aces aren’t stealing resources unless you mean the color purple teehee!!” but also in a lot of more fucked up ways like aces pretending like QPRs are pure and innocent therefore it’s okay for adults/minors to engage in them together and also to act like aces are so innocent that they can’t be abusive and ESPECIALLY can’t be sexually abusive (even thought they can be).

It’s fine to enjoy fandom/fandom culture that veers on juvenile and to enjoy youthful things but the way ace “culture” is primarily composed of childish, whimsical things really demonstrates how it really isn’t about sexuality (or the lack thereof) but about avoiding accountability (’cishet aces don’t have straight privilege because sometimes its HARD being ACE’), manipulating minors (look at how the adults in the community interact with minors via fearmongering and then acting like they’re the only ones who will keep them safe), and just... pretending to be pure/better than people (’EWWW allos are GROSS i’d RATHER EAT CAKE!’).

All of the imagery and humor in the community rely on a level of immaturity and also a level of isolation that mimics the “i’m not like OTHER GIRLS” mindset of your teenage years. That “other people are WEIRD and I’m just a shy introvert who knows better than them!!” culture of superwholock and those other “xD” fandoms.

It just... really highlights the divide between the LGBT community (which is based around survival and resistance and therefore has a more adult and somewhat jaded culture) and the ace community (which is based around seeming Different and therefore has... whatever the fuck is going on with dragons and cake and EWWW seX).

Like no other activist/marginalized community functions the way the ace community does and it really, really fucking shows.