#i literally cannot tolerate another week there nor can i do the communication required of me to keep this up sorry

[29121996]

the abusrd fucking hurricane in my head rn is driving me wild i quit my job.

[rpbetter]

Hey there, check out this pinned post first!

Thanks for visiting Roleplay Better, where I believe that you can fucking do better! That kind of language, however, is why it is important for you to read this post before proceeding.

This blog and its posts are meant for an adult RPing audience; be over legal, adult age in the USA, 18+. Do not interact by submitting, asking, reblogging, commenting, or liking unless you are over eighteen years of age. By interacting with RPB or me, Vespertine, you are assumed to be following this rule. If you are breaking this rule, you will be blocked.

I have that rule because this blog can/will/does address topics inappropriate for a younger audience. Those can include, but are not limited to:

not safe for work - violence, injury, sexual language, smut, substance use

“dark topics” and themes like violence, unhealthy relationships, mental illness, trauma, graphic injury, dubious consent, substance use, and so forth addressed realistically

foul, sexual, and otherwise “Adult” language

 unpopular opinions and approaches about writing, RP, fandoms

“negativity” since literally anything can be, and my whole point here isn’t about holding back; it is likely that, at some point, in some post or another, a shoe will fit you-you need to be mature enough to handle that without taking it as a personal attack on you

images and links that may contain things inappropriate for a younger audience

this blog is founded upon the idea that fiction has reflections in reality, but that fiction does not utterly equate to reality. You should write with realism, your characters should be people in their own right, and you should absolutely be addressing many popular topics responsibly, which is to say realistically. I do not support or otherwise condone purity culture, so while realism is a big deal here, fiction = reality arguments are a no

seriously, you have no idea how fucking salty I am! I try to be fair, reasonable, and mellow with everyone, but it can and does come out.

This blog tags for common, major triggers, but it is not for those easily triggered or particularly sensitive. By proceeding, you take responsibility for yourself...like a mature adult. I expect you to utilize blacklist, unfollow, and block. Tag format is simple, it is literally just the word in most cases, with “cw” and “tw” added to particularly common things. Example, a post containing a breakdown of forms of dubcon will be tagged #dubcon #dubious consent. If that was specifically of a sexual nature, since tumblr is unfriendly to using Not Safe For Work now, I will be using #notsafe for sexual topics. In the event that this needs to change, it will be posted about, the previous tag left intact, so that you may update your blacklist.

You are always welcome to send me an ask or private message requesting a particular trigger be tagged for you. I try to check blogs I see following, especially if I follow back, so that I can tag what you require. However, I’m a person, I’m an ND, ill, busy person though, I do make mistakes!

If you find yourself desirous of telling me to tag in a hateful way, don’t. You will not be responded to with an apology and kindness. Do not be rude, it’s uncalled for when informing someone of a problem or making a request.

I will run the blog largely on a queue, and will not be following many people back. This is not personal! I just like to try to provide content at many different times, have a life elsewhere, and I am so happy that you love your fandom, but it might not be something I’ve enough interest in to have on my dash.

Don’t tumblr message me. Use the inbox or submit.

Due to recent events, I am changing this rule. It’s hard for me to receive messages unexpectedly, and I hate to imply that I’ll be able to get to these quicker because it isn’t the truth. Quicker, better responses come from the inbox. However, there have been too many incidents lately in which people needed to speak privately and had to make that a request. If you’re having a problem and need to vent, request sensitive advice, etc.? It’s alright, go ahead and drop me a PM, y��all. I’ll get back to you as soon as I am able. Please, do not be angry with me if I respond to inbox things or my queue is running! You’re important to me, I just might not have the requisite social cognition and energy you deserve at that time.

Aggressive inbox messages will be responded to in kind. I don’t care if you are on anon or not, if you haven’t an ounce of polite communication skills, I won’t have them either. This is not a “we don’t publish anon hate” blog.

I highly encourage asks and submissions on any and all RP topics, and it’s perfectly alright to be salty as fuck in them, you can totally vent here, but don’t take out your frustration on me or be demanding of me. I am always happy to help with information, advice, or just a response to your venting-it’s important to know someone is listening. However, it may take me a few days to a week to get to you, be patient. 

If you are going to vent, leave out usernames. This isn’t a callout or burnbook blog. It’s fine to state characters and fandoms, but if this becomes a problem, it’ll have to change. I don’t want this becoming a salt blog for one or two fandoms I very likely can’t even stand. Practice the fine art of alluding to things, its good experience for your writing! Besides, RPC problems are RPC problems, I promise. It might feel like it’s just your fandom, but there is something relatable in all corners.

I will not overly police comments. Keep the slurs and shit out of it, though. If there is an issue going on pertaining to a serious instance of hate speech, or behavior I, personally, deem as too inappropriate and/or immature to be taking place on my post, I will step in. Otherwise, I expect everyone to be adults in the comments and reblogs too. If you want to argue with each other, that’s your business. If you want to argue with me, I’m not sorry in advance.

Addition to the above: this is not a blog in which it will be tolerated that commentators or those submitting with the URLS are targeted for callouts, shaming, or other instances of bullying. No, I cannot make those people stop bothering you by blocking them, but the least I can do is address that by shutting down their access to this blog and it’s posts by blocking on the URLs I have for them. And I will. Fuck that “we can’t be responsible for” shit. It’s my blog, it’s my content I’m putting out there, I’m not going to just ignore shit like what went down over on COAR, thanks. Not. Cool.

This is definitely not a place for:

people who think giving muses labels, including top/bottom “dynamics,” is a good substitute for character traits, personality, and development

those with no reading comprehension skills

folks dependent upon aesthetics and aesthetics-based purple prose as filler for actual writing

anti-original character/just wants to fuck a FC or canon character club, get the fuck out immediately

y’all who see writing as an obstacle to getting down to action, be that smut, drama, or fight scenes...it’s literally a writing hobby

politics, any manner of phobe or ism, violent/non-inclusive feminists, purity/rpc/fandom/content police of any manner, and exactly any manner of racism, sexism, or religious intolerance - I give not a shit if it’s popular to hate the straights, for example, I neither believe in nor tolerate reactionary classifying of any group as blanket-statement evil

people who are going to tack onto my posts shit like, “it’s okay, OP, you can say x character.” Trust me, if I were talking about one character, I fucking would name drop them, don’t bring me into your fandom drama, I doubt I know or want to know who that anime guy is who looks like 12 other anime guys to me.

About Vespertine

You can call me that, Vespertine. I’d rather you didn’t go with Vesper, but as it is unfortunately so likely to happen, I won’t feed you to the dogs over it either. RPB Mun is also acceptable.

I’m alright with either she/her or he/him, they/them is also fine. Apparently, that was big enough clue-in for the poor reading comp crowd, so while I feel it is not of importance, I’m nonbinary, yes.

Late 30′s, chronically ill but still working adult with neurodivergence. I’m both busy and Busy, and always sick. This limits my brain power and ability to be here. I have an active RP blog that I won’t be sharing to keep responsible distance. That is always going to be my priority, it is my primary hobby.

Please, don’t tumblr message me totally random things if we don’t have that kind of relationship! I’m too ill and busy, and it really fucks my nerves to have a bunch of messages/have to suddenly interact socially with people. Don’t do it. Use my inbox, use the submit, comment on posts. I cannot do random messages of “hey” and so forth.

I only do written RP, don’t expect me to understand much of anything from tabletop. I’ve RPed for the last 23 years consistently, on every platform from AOL chats to forums to messengers and here. I also don’t do RP in discord, so I’m sorry, but I can’t advise you much on anything with a word count, except to stop it for serious RP. Other than that, I promise you that I’ve seen the trends, the drama, the fandoms. I can give a lot of advice and perspective on a wide range of topics, situations, and characters! When I don’t have a clue at all, I’ll try to do enough research to give you an answer.

Do I come off as a horrible, strict asshole? I do! I’m not going to say that I am just a shy bean who is more scared of you than you are me. I’m not. I’m honestly feral, but have common decency, compassion, and sense. All of which are lacking in the general RPC. So, if you can inbox/common/otherwise interact with anyone else on this site, you can totally handle me!

Honesty and openness are policies.

And in the spirit of that, I repeat; you can fucking do better, tumblr RPC!

[chimaeracabra]

Traits men must have if I were to like them.

One of my new year’s resolutions was to stop wasting thoughts and energy about finding love and being in a relationship. I honestly feel way more focused on my ultimate career goal than anything else at this point in time. I haven’t felt sad about being single in a long time, because I’ve reached the conclusion that there isn’t a man alive that I WANT who wants me back in the same exact ways. It’s literally not possible. On top of that, being treated so horribly in the end of my first relationship brought me to realize what other things I absolutely will never again tolerate from a man. Another problem with me not being able to find the right person is that they are never all five of these things at the same time. If I can genuinely say that I’m attracted to a guy, he has to meet all of these traits (in no particular order):

Intellectual -- He has to be smart, interested in being continuously educated, and have at least a bachelor’s degree. No, he doesn’t necessarily have to have extensive knowledge in the same area, but he has to be an intellectual. I can’t take seriously a guy that has never even heard of mitochondria and things that to me should be common knowledge if you’re at least college-educated. He has to be able to actually spell. It was a complete and total turn off when I was talking to this dimwit years ago, who never texted with much consideration to how well he was spelling, and that rendered him unattractive to me.

Respectful -- I cannot and will not tolerate a man who is disrespectful. Disrespect comes in many forms, some of which I find to be more distasteful than others. Among the forms of disrespect that I hate in men are their overwhelming need to be seen as straight and as a result be extremely homophobic and/or sexist, and cheating on significant others (sexually and emotionally). It’s repulsive enough if a guy sleeps with women other than his significant other, but if he’s even talking to other women with romantic intent, he can go play in oncoming traffic.

Physically attractive -- this is one characteristic that is purely subjective. I at least know that what I tend to find attractive are guys that look nothing like me. There’s no specific eye colour/hair colour that I look for, or anything like that, but I’ve noticed that I seem to attract a very specific-looking type of guy: one that I’m not remotely physically attracted to. I don’t expect my ideal man to look like a carbon copy of Chris Evans, but he should be at least 5′8″ or so--not shorter than me--nor skinnier than I am, and not round-faced/round-headed. He has to look like an adult in the face. I feel like the men in my age group have always had faces that look much younger than they are. I don’t like that. Maybe that’s why I’ve always been attracted to guys who are 30+. I’m also not attracted to lack of care for one’s body. I work on myself every week, and I don’t think a guy needs to have a 6-pack, but beer guts turn me all the way off. In my experiences with real guys in real life, say classmates, for example, I’ve noticed that, or it at least seems like I always attract guys that are short, round-headed/round-faced, and pudgy with beards. I don’t know why that is, but those are shapes that I’m not attracted to on a guy. ALL OF THAT BEING SAID, I am not kidding when I say that if a guy is not the type of person I like, then it does not matter how physically attractive I initially believed him to be, he is rendered unattractive to me. He could be Adonis in the flesh, but if he’s arrogant, a player, sexist, doesn’t believe in global climate change, then in my eyes, he’s not attractive at all.

EMOTIONALLY AVAILABLE -- And this is the grand prize, really. I don’t believe that it is in men’s DNA to be emotionally available. On a very, very, very basic, heartless, biological level, they’re just programmed to spread their seed as far and wide as humanly possible before they die. That doesn’t require the desire to be in a monogamous, longterm romantic relationship. I don’t like emotional unavailability. It’s one trait that I cannot stand in anyone I consider myself to be in a relationship with, whether romantic, familial, amicable, etc.

Communicative -- In order for me to really find a man attractive, he would also have to know how to talk to people. Men don’t talk. Getting a man to talk (particularly about your relationship to him/where you stand) is like trying to pull teeth. I fucking despise that. I don’t think it should be rocket science for them to admit that they never wanted a relationship with you, they were just trying to sleep with you, they’re a commitmentphobe, or whatever it is that makes them not talk. I can’t stomach a guy that is so chicken shit spineless that he breaks up with me via text message. That’s straight up fuckery and disrespectful.

All of this comes from the behaviours I have observed in my experiences with the opposite sex. I’m tired of them at this point. There is nothing a man can give to me that I can’t give to myself. Sometimes I simply wish there was one that I want who was willing to do all of that. That’s part of the reason I am more determined than I’ve ever been to just make myself a boss, someone all the men who wronged me will wish they’d held onto. Screw you bitches.