#i know it's parasocial but i feel deeply betrayed and upset l

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Why is it that everytime I join a small creator's server it's either empty, or the person has a rancid take on systems or the pluralkit bot. (Or both)

Joined a server for a reaction YouTuber I've been watching for years, searched to see if they have pluralkit. They don't and there's a message from him specifically saying that they never will because "I don't want to add something that could result in people roleplaying mental illnesses."

WHAT THE FUCK. WHAT THE FUCK. And all from a supposedly progressive guy??? Jesus fucking Christ. I don't even know if I'm going to be able to watch his videos anymore!!!! I'm so hurt

Brother in Christ that's the same shit as saying we shouldn't have disability benefits because "what if someone fakes the disability and actually COULD get a job :(" you're going to refuse an accommodation because someone somewhere might hypothetically misuse it??? I'm so mad.

"roleplaying" is such a weird way of putting it too like what is this, fucking system cringe reddit? Why are you talking like that. Excuse me?!! ROLEPLAYING??? I hate it when people accuse people of faking in all contexts but for some reason calling it roleplaying feels way worse. It feels so...like...icky? It feels like it's making a correlation between the random XD "cringe" of roleplaying and faking disability, which is inaccurate, or suggesting people fake disabilities for no reason but to have fun which is also inaccurate (normal people don't just DO that. It's a sign of serious problems and also not some lighthearted hobby, if someone was to do that it'd be a serious and very manipulative undertaking and one a person would have to seriously dedicate themselves to for some reason or another, stacking lies and shit over and over. It's not something someone would just pick up one day for funsies, it's not just deeply fucked up but also genuinely hard to do? Lying all the time is hard? Which ties into NORMAL PEOPLE DON'T JUST DO THAT)

He did add the caveat that he doesn't have the right to say who's telling the truth or not, which is true, but that's the bare minimum dude. "I don't get to tell you you're lying" is the BARE minimum.

At least it's not as bad as last time but seriously dude what the fuck. Crazy behavior to prop up some strawman and be like "nah sorry boys, can't give you this accommodation that would take me barely any time to set up because someone somewhere someday might happen to be a disorder/disability faker and join my server and use it to fake being disabled for some reason" like .... I'm sure he wasn't thinking it through in that way and probably did have good intentions. I'm sure he thinks this was the right thing to do. But if you pause and really LOOK at it, especially compared to similar situations with other accomodations, it's very....bad.

Not building a ramp, or not giving people disability benefits, or not letting people wear headphones for sensory reasons, or WHATEVER, is garbage even if the person claims it's because they're trying to stop other people from using it. This isn't different. People asked you for an accommodation and you said no because "well what about people who are faking it", it's the same underlying bone structure with different meat on it.