#i just. i said i wanna cut my hair shorter and of course allll the same people who always tell me this started complaining

[darklight-owl]

Call me a pick-me or whatever but in this modern age of "2020s pop feminism that merged with capitalism and created some chimera of female empowerment that bases your value as a woman on the amount of self-care products you own" I tend to feel more objectified by other women than I do by men.

Like my guy friends don't comment on my body in a way that makes me feel uncomfortable. But a select few of my girl friends will not stop with the "you would look so pretty with some makeup on", or "stop cutting your hair so much, it looks so good when it's long!", or "you're so sexy we NEED to get you clothes that show off your body more!". Things that sound like compliments but are really just trying to get me to present a certain way. Because they see me being more masculine as a waste, as something to be pitied because I'm not living up to my full potential.

Like idk bestie maybe I'm a real person with her own way of expressing herself and not just some barbie doll you can dress up and scribble on however you like. Maybe I'd rather be comfortable in my own skin than be an object to stare at. Stop living vicariously through my body.