#i just wish i could trust all of those sake ppl to take the aphobia with the same legitimacy. to make fhe same effort to learn the

[toytulini]

I just feel like aphobia is constantly treated as a lesser, more minor concern than other things. Like it's still very acceptable on this site to just...ignore it. To not actually give a shit about it. Even on my last post i could feel myself internally dismissing it as a concern because i know its not something people care about, you can see it in the way i tack on things like violent and vicious and hateful aphobia bc i know to a lot of people, its not enough if its just someone laughing at us for being cringey, or making virgin jokes, or reblogging posts where the entire butt of the joke is either a young ace person being cringey and loudly ace OR literally a fucking troll blog run by an aphobe to make fun of us. We might get some ppl giving half a shit about it, when they cross that line from infantalizing us and mocking us for being weird and cringey, (largely still acceptable to the wider tumblr community) to straight up rape apologism or sexual harassment, that maybe crosses a line for some people.

Then again, depends how quippy they word it. Id say,

going onto ace headcanon posts by minors about their favorite characters and describing in graphic, extensive detail, how much that character FUCKS, they love [graphic description of sexual acts] and [more graphic description of sexual acts, sometimes including the most vulgar possible way to reference different genitals being acted upon], counts as sexual harassment. Just because its fandom related and hyperbolic doesnt make it suddenly acceptable, and yet.

Idk its just. Exhausting. The fact that its gotten to me, even, and the way i word things when i talk about it, is especially frustrating. The fact that when i bring up aphobes, i dont feel its sufficient to Just bring up aphobes, i feel the need to specify that im talking about the REALLY hateful ones, the ones that make posts about graphic violence they wish to enact upon us for. Existing. Not bringing up the ones that are just idk mocking us or whatever, because I know people dont care about us enough for that. Thats not a concern. Its really frustrating.