#i just went from being an androgynous woman to an androgynous man 🤷

[sucresanguine]

The weirdest (non social) thing about androgyny that people don't talk about is not really seeing yourself very often in the very physical world. Like people often think about it in terms of oh! So you can look good in men's and women's clothing! You can hold up to both standards! When the reality is you also don't particularly fit the beauty standard or shape of either. I can wear a man's suit but my neck looks too slim, feet just a bit too small, my arms too thin. I can wear a woman's dress and suddenly my waist will be just a bit too muscular, my shoulders a bit too wide, my arms from too narrow to too muscular. Not even in a "this isn't idealized presentation" way, but in a "people will notice this and decide I'm the wrong gender for this outfit" way. I know you can't often have your cake and eat it too, and I generally like how I look! But I rarely see people actually address this in their understanding of how the world views an androgynous body in anything other than a t shirt. Sometimes you're not able to "be" any gender, you're actually just about barred from all of them.