#i just wanted to also highlight some japanese plus size options because they do exist and i really want the creators behind rosina blue

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Lovecraftian-lolita has a really great guide on where to find plus size on a budget and I highly recommend their resource. I'm not entirely familiar with standard sizing but I think you might be able to fit into the below brands, especially if they're fully shirred.

I also recommend the following Japanese brands:

Maxicimam (cdjapan/site) - a Japanese lolita brand with plus size line (Lovely Maxicimam) with old-school/2010s sweet era style

RosinaBlue - a very small Japanese indie brand for plus size lolitas. i recommend a shopping service

Atelier Pierrot - a Japanese select shop for gothic lolitas (and some classic leaning items). some of their items have very generous sizing and they have a size 2 & 3 for some items. i recommend the Douceur Cutsews in sizes 2 & 3 and their fully shirred blouses.

Enchantlic Enchantilly (jpn site/wunderwelt retailer)- another Japanese indie brand with fully shirred pieces

Here are some more Western Indie brands:

The Black Ribbon - some items have a bust size up to 50'

Sleepyland Shop -

A. Gato Designs

Dearest Victoria - occasionally, she'll make skirts or JSKs for sale. I'd follow her insta to see when she drops one

Night Whisper Lolita

Haenuli

Eat Me Ink Me - custom sizing for garments

Duchess Milianda - custom sizing for classic lolitas, especially if you like JetJ. some items are more historical than lolita

Fluffy Tori - some items go quite large

For Taobao, I mainly use resellers to get items from Chinese Indie brands but I use 42 lolita. I recommend Hard Candy, Sakurada Fawn, and NanShengGe. Some brands also do custom sizing.

For more help, I'd join the Plus Size Lolita comm on Facebook for even more help and resources. I also use lolibrary religiously when buying any of the brands mentioned above secondhand to make sure that items will fit.

Here im midsize-ish (XL and XXL for comfort) but in Asia im obviously. A lot bigger (6XL) according to a size chart (I know my sizes in cm I got measured today) Where could I find a good lolita shop that supports the not really petite and isn't not frowned upon ?? ^_^ I'm new to this also sorry if you said this 10 billion times I'm also not sure what 2 search T_T

i do have some tips on this topic that i've picked up here and there! though i don't have personal experience with this, so admittedly my knowledge on this is a bit limited and not as fleshed out as i'd like it to be..

i would generally recommend looking for pieces that have shirring. (the stretchy material often found on back panels of dresses, tops and sometimes waistbands) the stretchiness of the gathered fabric allows for a more "flexible" sort of fit, rather than just fitting the base measurements. for most brands, i believe JSKs are often a bit more forgiving than OPs due to the shoulder measurements being a bit narrow for some releases.

now, i don't know your exact measurements.. so be sure to double check the size portion at the bottom of the pages for each product (not sure if it differs from item to item) but metamorphose carries plus size friendly items here. i don't know your exact tastes, but the flower print mary ladder lace is a particularly cute JSK that's in stock now!

glitter tale is an indie brand i know of that offers custom sized lolita, which will be great since you just got measured! the tartan old school JSK they make is beautiful!

sellers on lacemarket will indicate if an item is plus size friendly, and some items that have been altered will pop up occasionally! here's a link to a search for plus size items and one for altered items. i recommend to always check if the alteration is suitable for your measurements and if it's been altered by someone with an understanding of lolita pieces, as they are quite different from regular alterations.

@lovecraftian-lolita offers a very helpful resource, (and a lot more thorough than this answer!) an archive of plus sized brand items along with their measurements if you'd be interested in checking that out!

and as always, if anyone has any advice, please feel free to help out!!