#i just think it's kind of funny that I thought I was allo for so long

[acemdzsfan]

I have had exactly 3 "crushes" in my entire life.

Each and every single time it was a Lie.

One time it was because my cousin had one and I was accidentally using her as a measurement of growth in comparison.

One was a "I don't even know this person so it's unlikely they'll ever talk to me". Spoiler, they never did, and I moved away like two months later.

And one was just a straight up lie to pacify my family and he had a girlfriend. (Which is how I justified never making a move).

[enihk-writes]

[rotbb headcanons_001]

anon asked: How would Chung myung react if someone declared love to him? Like someone he doesn’t have feelings for or barely knows, would he just be like “get away from me” while being considerate, or “get away from me” while openly hating that person

character: pbss!chung myung (AND) mhdd!chung myung

summary: chung myung rejection headcanons

author's note: honest to god i didn't see this ask until like today,,,

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CHUNG MYUNG would probably respond to the confession differently based on the person who's confessing to him. like his attitude will range from disconnect to hostility depending on which of the categories the person would fall into.

STRANGERS

CHUNG MYUNG would try to get this over with as soon as possible. honestly, he might not even look at that other person in the eyes as he's turning them down.

oh. uh... sorry? i don't feel that way about you?

CHUNG MYUNG would feel really awkward at that moment and after he's done saying his part he would get out of that place quickly before the other person can respond. his philosophy is — the fewer headaches you have the better.

ONE OF THE OTHER MT HUA DISCIPLES

PBSS!CHUNG MYUNG would find it funny. this is probably someone he's grown up with since childhood so no matter what, he just can't see that person in a romantic light. for the shits and giggles though, he would remember this and proceed to tease that person for years and years until they are sick of this guy.

MHDD!CHUNG MYUNG would be appalled. what do you mean you liked him? before he rejects them he might ask if that person has brain damage from the training he's put them through. when he sees that there really isn't anything wrong with them, he would turn them down, it's not harsh but it is direct and blunt.

MHDD!CHUNG MYUNG can't see that person as anything other than one of his kids, if only they knew he wasn't as young as he looked. he can't really fault them for feeling this way, he knows he is easy on the eyes in his second life and at their age, it was common to have crushes or fall for a good-looking face easily.

ONE OF HIS ALLIES

CHUNG MYUNG would give it a few seconds to pretend he was considering his options before he rejected the person. human emotions were so fickle, that he couldn't be certain his ally today wouldn't stab him in the back tomorrow — all because of a broken heart. though, if that person handled his rejection with grace, he would view them a little more favorability than before. even if he was doing his best to avoid crossing paths with that person.

ONE OF HIS ENEMIES

CHUNG MYUNG has to be held back from pouncing ahead and trying to rip off the other person's face. what the hell? wipe that look off your face! he would let loose a string of curses, he wouldn't hide his utter disgust with the person. he thinks that this is most certainly some sick, sick, joke getting played on him at that moment. and he swears up and down that he just saw a smug look so let go of him and let him clean up that person's attitude!

CHUNG MYUNG is not a kind man to his enemies, so the moment he gets a chance to get rid of them — best bet that that's his first order of business.

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end thoughts: personally, i think that chung myung might lean deep into the aroace spectrum and i do think he is the type to love his friends and family so deeply that there just isn't room for anything else. on that note, i believe he loves tang bo — just not in the romantic or sexual way that allo relationships are... i don't know how to explain it tbh but i just know? i mean it takes one aroace bitch (me) to recognise another like we're pokemon in the wild.

[vintagetvstars]

Rue McClanahan Vs. Barbara Stanwyck

Propaganda

Rue McClanahan - (Golden Girls, Maude, Mama's Family) - Listen to me. I have never understood celebrity crushes until I first witnessed Rue McClanahan. She's the most beautiful woman I've ever seen - just look at her!! Gorgeous eyes, the cutest nose, a SPECTACULAR smile - she has this adorable, princess-like quality about her AND she's also a complete hottie AND she's aware of it: she HAS THE RANGE, people!! Her two most famous roles are polar opposites, in fact: she starred in the role of naive, gentle Vivian Cavender-Harmon in Maude (and I mean. Just look her up and tell me that's not an angel!), and then went on to gain even more well-deserved fame and success as the seductive, extroverted Blanche Devereaux in The Golden Girls (a role for which she won an Emmy in 1987 - her amazing, hilarious acceptance speech can be found here: . I should also point out that both of these are comedy characters and she is HILARIOUS as them both - the comedic timing, the delivery, the expressions, she was a comedy queen!!! As for her personal life, she was just a darling - and also very funny in person, not just in her acting roles! She was a staunch supporter of gay rights and a big advocate for same-sex marriage in the US, as well as a vegetarian and a big defender of animal rights. She suffered from illness in her later years which greatly impacted her health, but she was still very active up until her death in 2010, and she even released a wonderful autobiography in 2007 titled "My First Five Husbands... and the Ones Who Got Away". In her interviews she's always gentle, soft-spoken (her voice. dear god. sweet mother Aphrodite I cannot weave I am overcome with gay thoughts), and kind, but also sharp, witty, and just a delight to watch. I could go on forever talking about her honestly. I am actually in love with her and you should be too. She's just the best! Here, have some additional pics: (pics below the cut)

Barbara Stanwyck - (The Big Valley) - she was my favourite character in the entire show when I was little and I just think more people should see that she's one of those actresses who looks even prettier as they age

Master Poll List of the Hot Vintage TV Ladies Bracket

Additional propaganda below the cut

Rue McClanahan:

The Hottie™️ of the Golden Girls, she was definitely a GILF. And her character's shenanigans were Emmy-winning but no less fun and her outfits were always on point and gorgeous, befitting her perfectly.

she!!!

as Vivian, with her fellow hottie Bea Arthur as Maude

as Blanche - look at those eyes!!!

come on, tell me you wouldn't do anything for that smile, I dare you

in her contract she specifically requested to be given all of Blanche's clothes and SHE WAS RIGHT

Okay so first of all. Rue has this way of moving around and looking at you that just-- I mean, I'm ace, but I *get* the allos. She's hot and she knows it (and she plays a character in The Golden Girls who's in her 50s, hot, and knows it as well. Which, talk about perfect casting??) But I'm mostly here to talk about the fact that she said this in her Emmy acceptance speech (paraphrased because I'm sharing the video with the right timestamp, and you should absolutely watch up until 3:40, because her delivery is UNMATCHED): "My mother said to me once [...] 'Oh, Eddi-Rue, for heaven's sake. Don't you know every kick's a boost?' There've been a lot of kicks, and there've been a lot of boosts. I'm not going to mention the people who gave me kicks... but you know who you are. And you'll be in the book." (Seriously though, do yourself a favour and watch that video. She's amazing!!) She said this, and proceeded to WRITE THE BOOK, titled "My first five husbands, and the ones who got away", which is *incredibly* funny, and such an earnest look into her life. She opens the acknowledgements with "This book is about my life and experiences as I lived them, and anyone who doesn't like it can jolly well lump it." And I mean... she's awesome. I could go on.

Rue McClanahan @ The Emmy Awards 1987

[wuxianxkexing]

I love Mu Qing so much but I think his story arc would be way more interesting if he was canonically allosexual. Gay, bi, straight, doesn't really matter to me. I just think it would add even more complexity to his character. Like it's hard for a lot of monks and nuns to keep their vows during a normal human lifetime, Mu Qing's will power must be absolutely insane if he's 800+ years old, still experiencing sexual attraction and still choosing to uphold his vows. I don't know if he was just being catty when he called Xiao Ying ugly or if he felt the need to comment because he is attracted to women like that but my head canon is that he is at least bisexual. We know that both Mu Qing and Feng Xin act more freely in their disguises so I feel like he probably only made that comment because it's the only time he can actually admit to anyone that yeah, women can be pretty like that. Maybe not this particular one, but since Xiao Ying was the focus in this situation I feel like he probably would've complimented her instead if he actually thought she was really pretty. Like yeah Mu Qing is known for being a bit of a bitch, but even bitchy people are only bitchy about things that they at least somewhat care about.

I think another hint is Mu Qing's reaction in the women's bath house. Our boy hid his face in his hands and screamed. We know he isn't scared of women like Feng Xin is. He was obviously overwhelmed by some kind of emotion though. He was shown having a look around before he realized he shouldn't be doing that. Mu Qing canonically easily blushes because his skin is so pale, but he didn't blush in this scene. Which leads me to think he didn't scream out of embarrassment. He didn't have the typical pervert reaction to it, but he wasn't exactly chill about it either. He could've easily sneaked out without drawing attention to himself if he didn't scream, so why did he do that? I think he screamed, hid his face in his hands and started mentally reciting the ethics sutra. Xie Lian is funny because he started reciting the ethics sutra when Jian Lan tried to hit on him even though he definitely didn't need to. 😂 But because of that we know that is what they were taught to do when faced with "tempting" situations (Xie Lian was just still operating under the assumption that he was straight). So Mu Qing didn't blush out of embarrassment, he had a look around but not in the stereotypical pervert way, and then he screamed. I think the scream was probably induced by intrusive thoughts. Like he has been following the same cultivation path for 800 years, he obviously doesn't want to have thoughts like that, and since intrusive thoughts are by definition unwanted that is probably why he didn't blush and probably why he screamed.

Plus it would be a nice foil to Xie Lian who was able to uphold his vows seemingly without any trouble, minus the one time he was literally poisoned. I feel like Mu Qing's internal dialouge would be like "Oh she's pretty. Too bad my dick don't care. (It definitely cares)." I just think it would be interesting and probably kind of funny. Plus if it was canon it would add an extra hint to his true character if it was revealed earlier on in the books. It's really easy to assume that anyone who's a virgin for 800+ years is on the ace spectrum because most allo people just don't have it in them to be celibate that long.

[lady-phasma]

Do you understand aro-? I don't, but I would like to. Google is only so reliable explaining stuff like this. I've noticed when asking anyone about something one doesn't understand, they need to be careful who, what, and how they ask, because people get easily offended.

If you do know, that would be great, but if you don't or don't feel comfortable answering, I understand.

Thank you.

Hi anon!

If you decide to come back you can have 💘 anon (funny little bit of irony with that one).

If you follow me for long you'll eventually learn that I'm aromantic and allosexual (I'll discuss that below). My sexuality is omnisexual. So I am totally comfortable answering. Asking someone is often the best way to learn!

One of the most important things to know about aromanticism is that it is a response to one's cultural definition of romance. Let's use a pretty well-known example from Western media: buying flowers for your partner. That's not universal, but since I was raised in American culture that's often a gesture used between romantic partners. So, for this intro to aro, think of romantic comedies or things you associate with expressions of romance.

Aro is a spectrum just like anything else and sometimes an aro person might feel romance-adjacent feelings or they may never feel them. Here's some notes from my experience: I do not enjoy or want to cuddle or have someone hold my hand as we walk in public; I do not enjoy "dating" with dinners and movies and all that (I've tried it, not for me); I have said 'I love you' to a partner or two and tried to deny I was aro for many years in a relationship that appeared outwardly romantic.

However, I feel love. Here's the most important bit: aros can feel love. We just don't usually feel the kind of love that is romantic. I find it off-putting and a little co-dependent but that has been my experience from an aro pov. To someone who enjoys it, craves it, feels it, maybe that doesn't feel like co-dependence to them. It usually feels like the person who feels romance towards me becomes clingy and needy and a bunch of adjectives I hate to use because it makes me sound judgmental and I don't judge them! They just naturally had those feelings when I didn't.

When I think about what arm means, I think about all the things I don't want in my life: a partner who would want to move in/get married, being felt pressured to tell someone I love them when they get those feelings for me, but this isn't true for all aros. I do feel love, and deeply, for friends and family and for humanity. I just don't feel the natural urge to "fall in love" and when I thought I had in the past it was more to please the other person (before I accepted I was aro).

However, I love to have sex. I don't want a romantic sexual partner at all. I have tried and it isn't worthwhile for me. That's why we can add "allo" like ace's can add "ace" after aro. So on to allo...

Aro has nothing to do with ace/asexuality. It's more common to hear about aroace, but I'm not and can't speak to that experience. I'm aroallo. I don't like to send people to Wikipedia, but sometimes it's helpful. So check this out if you want. I put the compass from that page below:

So my sexuality, omni, has nothing to do with my allosexuality. You can sometimes see aroallo or alloaro but I like the first one better (just easier for me to say, actually). And it basically means I'm on the opposite side of the spectrum from ace. I love love love sex!

I know this was long, but still didn't cover every question you have. Please do come back if you want to! I would love to help you, and others, learn more about aro.

Little note about this post I made earlier: it may have prompted this ask. I wrote that post because aroallo charac was ters (and people) are often characterized as "sluts." (I call myself that proudly but that has nothing to do with being aroallo!) There's a stigma in many Western cultures that just won't die: sex without romantic love isn't honorable or worthwhile or is outright immoral.

[metalandmagi]

The differences in Aspec representation

(and why variety is important) I didn't know what to title this, but since it's pride month, I wanted to talk about two books that I just read and the different approaches they take to aspec representation....mainly because no one I know would read these and I just wanted to talk about them lol

Book 1: Attached at the Hip by Christine Riccio.

This is a New Adult romcom where our main character, an extremely co-dependent 23 year old woman named Orie competes in a Survivor type reality TV show to prove to her family that she is totally not co-dependent (and you know, to win the prize money and stuff).

This book is what I like to call "accidental" or "sneaky" aspec rep. What the fuck does that mean, you ask? I call it that because the author includes a scene in the book where Orie is talking to another character about her view of romance, and the other character makes the comment that it seems like Orie is demisexual or demiromantic or aspec. And since Orie is not the kind of person who thought to ever google her sexuality, we're kind of just left to sit with that. So even though the main character never calls herself demi, the readers know that she is. And more importantly, the themes in this book are so attuned to the aspec experience it's not even funny.

Remember how I said Orie is co-dependent? Well, the main conflict of this book is Orie coming to terms with being able to do things by herself and struggling with the fear that her family and friends will all abandon her one day because she feels like a perpetual burden or third wheel. She wants to find her perfect fairytale romance, but she has a hard time connecting with people that way, so for a while she thinks it's best to stay with her boyfriend that she clearly feels nothing for, just because she feels like she's supposed to. By the end of the book, Orie feels like she must pivot into being able to do EVERYTHING by herself because she might be forced to eventually. Sound familiar? I can't speak for everyone, but this is something most aspec people struggle with their entire lives. Yes allo people can have this fear too, but I feel like it hits us differently. Because the world doesn't treat platonic friendships as importantly as it should, and because we don't view romance or sex the same way as most people, we are left with that fear of exclusion all the time!

This book is the aspec experience, whether the author intended it to be or not, and it actually hit me much harder than I thought it would because I was completely blindsided by it. It's a super funny, heartwarming romcom, especially for fans of Survivor. I loved it because it made me feel even more seen than a coming-of-age grapple with sexuality like Loveless did. And I don't even know if it was on purpose. I've followed Christine Riccio for a very long time, and idk if she is some form of demi, but her characters and themes (even in her other books) make it seem that way.

Book 2: Aces Wild by Amanda Dewitt.

As you can probably guess, this book is completely, unapologetically ace in its representation. The plot revolves around a group of aspec teenagers who rob a casino in Vegas. Which means that yes, it's basically a modern AU Six of Crows fanfic where the author wondered, "What if Kaz Brekker grew up as the rich heir to a casino empire?"

I promise I don't mean that like an insult, because I actually liked the book a fair bit, especially the writing style. It's hilarious and fast paced, and as someone who is extremely familiar with casinos, this is the kind of book that makes me angry because I should have written it first.

The thing about this book compared to Attached At The Hip is the fact that the characters are aspec is completely irrelevant to the story. AND THAT IS TOTALLY OKAY! AUTHORS DO NOT OWE IT TO PEOPLE TO MAKE EVERY QUEER STORY A COMING-OF-AGE STRUGGLE WITH SEXUALITY! This book is a fun romp, and the fact that the characters are aspec doesn't really make a difference to anything at all. The main character still has a crush, and there is still romance just like any typical YA romcom. HOWEVER, my only real problem with this book stems from the side characters feeling like cardboard cutouts with no reason to feel like they're all friends. Their interactions aren't bad, but the book relies on the fact that our main group is all aspec to convince the audience why they're friends. We get a little bit of backstory about how they're all nerds who met in a chat room, but not much depth to them. There are too many side characters and too few pages for anyone (except the main character) to feel fleshed out. It's because of this that it feels like the aspec rep is sort of...an afterthought. I don't know if the author is aspec (and it shouldn't matter either way) but I don't like it when characters (especially ace characters) feel like afterthoughts. We get enough of that in real life.

But that doesn't change the fact that this is the only book I've read (or media I've encountered in general) where the majority of the characters are aspec. It's a hilarious good time, and this type of low stakes representation is just as important! It's important to show that aspec people exist without needing to fit a "coming to terms with your sexuality" kind of narrative.

So yeah, this was just my excuse to get my thoughts in order, and to try and convince people to read these 😅

[bloggingboutburgers]

Hi again, it's the crunchy fish stick! (oops, late reply...been busy lol) You and your QPP are really cute and I'm happy for you guys!!

Honestly I reached out to begin with cause at the time there was this online friend who I wasn't sure if I was squishing or crushing on or not at the time (he felt similarly, but without the squish part) and we agreed to give it some time to see if we should try dating or just leave it as is...and I felt like I should research because of that to find out if a) maybe I'm arospec, b) maybe we should QPR, c) is it really that difficult to be long distance.... After an evening of research and some thinking afterwards, it turns out that I feel aroflux! (and if you feel aroflux then that means you are one, like with everything else) Soooooo we had a conversation and now we've been dating for almost a month despite being half the world apart/having a 10 hr gap (funny how that's kinda similar to you and your QPP lol) and it's nice

He's allocishet (is that actually offensive?? I still don't know ^^;) but it felt great that he actually listened to my idea of "should we QPR" (even though we didn't go with that) and he didn't mind that I'm aroflux and yeah, it was a good feeling. Hopefully we won't miss each other too much cause we're both kinda busy people and also unable to travel for some years...though I guess ping spree-ing (spamming) each other on Discord in our spare time helps lol

Ummm idk if it's okay to be prattling on so much with technically irrelevant stuff ^^; but it felt right to share. Tbh I feel like that other anon who said sex was like donuts to them, but for me it's romance--it's good and fun, enjoyable when it happens, but I could see myself living my life without it just fine. (though I've only been in an online situationship that ended badly before, until recently with my now-bf...) I think the idea that being without a romantic partner for life or being a forever virgin is the worst thing ever to happen...I think people who have that idea and mindset stuck in their heads are kind of silly tbh--there's so much to life outside of romance or sex! (I'm sure you know that fully well too lol, this is me agreeing) Although I'd like to try kissing and other romantic gestures or maaaaaybe sex in the future, they don't seem like goals to me atm--is this something allos could think too?

Now that I've started "the thoughts" and prattling, I think I could talk even more but I should stop now lol

Hope you feel awesome--cause both you and your work/comics are awesome--and this is the crunchy fish stick signing off for now because she has a tendency to go on too long!

(one last thought: QPRs are like super customizable t-shirts?? how's that take?)

Aaaaaaa hello!! Thank you so so much for sending news and sharing your experience, this was super heartwarming to read TwT I'm so glad it turned out well for you guys and I wish you the absolute best!! And good luck with the distance too! Though hey, if you're giving it a try it means you're confident you can deal with it, so I have faith in you guys^^ May you be happy and vibe the way you want to vibe!

(Also I quite like that take! My godson when I explained my QPR to him also used the word "customized" to sum it up in his own words, so that definitely resonates with my experience as well)

[sflow-er]

You ask and shall receive

Question 1 till 21 please 😇😇😇

(Aka: pick the questions you actually want to answer 😂)

Thank you, friend, for this carte blanche!! 😂

I saved it for last because I really am going to answer all the ones I want to answer but haven't yet. Also, I can use it to link all my previous answers! Yay!

I'm putting a cut here because this got ridiculously long (as you can probably imagine).

1. Favorite secondary character

As 'secondary character' was used in this ask game to cover all non-Wilmon characters, I'm going to make a top four:

August because he is, to quote my answer to 21, "easily one of the best-written and best-acted characters in the show. It's rare to see an antagonist with such deep, complex emotions of his own, and casting a sweetheart like Malte to play him was an incredibly successful choice." Personally, I relate pretty hard to his perfectionism, and I also can't help connecting some other stuff about him to someone I know.

[Obligatory disclaimer that this doesn't mean I condone the things he did very wrong.]

Sara because her arc is one of my favourite things in the show and Frida's performance is phenomenal. As with August, I also have a personal point of reference: I too was bullied all through secondary school, and while my experiences weren't as extreme as Sara's, they did leave deep scars and a fundamental feeling of "nobody likes me for real and they never will." So yeah, I do relate to her quite a bit despite not being ND myself.

Henry because he was my inspiration to start writing again after more than ten years. I've always had a tendency to fixate on background characters, and S1 Henry was an intriguing mix of things that felt very foreign to me (his background and political opinions) and things that really appealed to me (his rudeness to Simon vs. kindness to Wille, and of course the vibe that inspired me to read him as ace). I do also enjoy him in the later canon where he is more of a funny mess, but yeah, it's definitely his S1 self I hold the most dear. Also, see everything I wrote about him and Simon here!

And finally, I also want to mention Ayub because he is just a very sweet guy whose friendship with Simon I really enjoy (he does make some mistakes, e.g. by pushing the Marcus rebound, but don't we all). I don't necessarily gush about him much, but I do like him very much. Even tried to write fic from his POV once.

2. Favorite secondary romantic and/or sexual pairing

Out of the canon pairings, Sargust. Their chemistry is amazing, and I love that their romance is absolutely integral to both their character arcs and the show as a whole. I do think they had to stay broken up in S3, but I'd be lying if I said I didn't ship them. I hope they get a second chance later in life when August has grown as a person and things between him and Simon have been resolved as well.

Out of the non-canon (or semi-canon) pairings, I'd say Walty, but I also really enjoy them as a platonic or queerplatonic pair. My ace hc of Henry is strong enough that I don't actually read many fics where they are both allo (although I do have a couple of faves, e.g. Change It And Say which is on my fic rec list linked under question 18).

3. Favorite platonic friendship

Answered here.

4. Favorite triad or polyship

Sorry, I don't really have any thoughts on this! I have enjoyed reading others' answers though.

5. Favorite familial relationship

Answered here.

6. Character(s) you have ace, aro, or queerplatonic headcanons for

To start this off, I want to say I'm really coming around to @bluedalahorse's aroallo Fredrika! Her occasionally rosy and perpetually normative ideas of romance certainly do seem very "this is romance, right?" rather than something she has personally experienced.

But as you know... Ace Henry is the hill on which I will gladly lay down my life. It started back in S1, when it felt like everyone else saw sexual attraction from him towards Stella in the exam scene, and I just couldn't. I guess that just sparked something in me and inspired me to put him under an ace lens haha.

I used to think it was just for my own fics, but then when S2 came out, all I could see was more "proof" (most notably, his very "yikes I forgot that hookups were a thing" reaction to Wille and Felice, as well as his fed-up response to Vincent's "advice"). The poor guy just wanted to live his best dorm life and partake in silly traditions to egg Sprucewood and write cringey Valentine's letters, and everyone around him kept making it about sex for some reason.

[Arospec sidebar: Also, his question on how the protagonist in Kris can be in love with someone she doesn't know can easily be twisted into a rather demi thing to say. I sometimes think demiromantic ace would suit him well.]

And yes, I'm aware that Henry implies that he's straight in S3, but that's because a) he hasn't figured himself out yet or b) he's just saying it to mess with the teacher without actually meaning to imply anything. (Or both. This is messy post-S1 Henry so it's probably both.)

7. Character you didn’t initially like/love but have now warmed up to

Also answered here.

8. Pairing you didn’t initially like/love but have now warmed up to

This is a tough one because I can like almost any pairing if it makes sense in a specific fic, but that doesn't mean I'm going to like them in every context.

Maybe Stedrika? I never disliked them as a couple, but I did dislike them as individuals and wasn't super interested in their romance when it was introduced in S2. I do like them a lot more now that I've warmed up to Stella. Although I still think it would be more interesting if they broke up in uni and had to get back to being friends so... Yeah, this is a tough one.

9. Favorite non-Edmar actor

Malte, Frida, and Pernilla. They give so much depth and allow us to understand these complex characters, even when they make bad decisions. August, Sara, and Kristina are all very challenging roles, and the actors would have deserved to win some awards for how amazingly they embodied all their different sides.

10. Favorite s1 scene centered on a secondary character

My very favourite one is August's talk with his mother on Parents' Day. There's so much meaning loaded into every line (words and delivery) and every expression. Parents' Day as a whole was when August really clicked into place for me on my first watch, but his altercation with Louise was the crowning moment. It was also a major inspiration for how I wrote his messed-up family situation in Årnäs, February 2016.

My runner-up is the scene where Smysan tries to force Felice into the Lucia dress. It makes me so fucking mad and uncomfortable on every watch.

11. Favorite s2 scene centered on a secondary character

Answered here.

12. Favorite s3 scene centered on a secondary character

It's impossible for me to name a single favourite - both because I haven't rewatched S3 much and because there are so many amazing scenes centred on both Sara and August! But my top five (not necessarily in this order) would be 1) Sara and Micke in the car and the subsequent talk with August, 2) August reading his first-year letter to Sara, 3) August and Nils talking about their initiation, 4) Sara's driving exam, and 5) August breaking down at the table and Nils and Vincent comforting him. These are all stellar scenes that tell us so much about the characters involved and their relationships.

13. Secondary character you think should have had more screentime

Answered here.

14. Any ships (crackships included) involving Simon or Wilhelm that break up Wilmon? We won’t tell!

This is also a question I don't really have an answer to. I guess maybe Simon/Ayub as others had made very compelling cases for it, but I just love their friendship so much that I don't know if I could truly get behind a romantic take.

15. Adult character whose teenage backstory would make the best spin-off series

Answered here.

16. A song that reminds you of a secondary character or pairing

Answered here.

17. Secondary character or pairing that needs more fanart

All of them!! There are far too few pieces of fanart centred on characters other than Wilmon.

18. Favorite fic centered on a secondary character or pairing

Answered here. My number one favourite is @bluedalahorse's August fic, Swell the Numbers.

19. Shout out a fanfic author for their writing of a secondary character (or characters) in a subplot

Here, I must admit that I haven't read too many fics with subplots focused on the secondary characters. That's because most of those are multi-chapter Wilmon fics, which I haven't read very many of in the last few years. I did read more of them in my early days in the fandom, but I don't think there were any such subplots in those fics that really stuck with me.

However, I did very much enjoy your take on Henry in the dark vampire fic, @willedeservesbetter! His friendship with Simon was wonderful, perhaps my favourite dynamic in the entire fic. His characterisation was also very fitting for the fic, and it really felt like you let him be a character in his own right instead of just Wille's coven member/Simon's friend.

20. Dream fanfic about a secondary character and pairing that you’d love to read but don’t want to write yourself

Answered here.

21. Most underrated character/ship/actor overall

Answered here.

Phew, that was all of them! This was so much fun, thank you again for giving me this opportunity to ramble.

[drop--pop--candy]

THATS OK!!! take as long as you want!! if talking feels overwhelming to you or smth just like. gimme a 🛑.

anyway. yeah like i kind of get it but also. i question what’s genuine and what’s being dramatic to be funny akjshgjfjfg. need to study allo brains mad scientist style /silly

marlo did u know ily. you're so cool waaaaaaaaaa i'm going to hit u with my Beam Of Affection and accidentally beam u thru a wall /silly

AS FAR AS I KNOW THEY'RE USUALLY BEING SERIOUS???? like the only ppl i've seen say crazy shit abt cards i thought were innocuous and then later be like "oh no i was joking lol i just think the card is cool" r my aspec friends,,,, every othee time i've asked someone if they're serious usually they're like. exaggerating a little bit but also genuinely attracted to the card?????? it's very confusing to me

[dungeons-and-dragon-age]

ohh for the pride themed ask maybe maybe 3 + 5 for Liam and Ari, and 16 :D

[ask game]

Hi!! Thanks for the ask :]

3. How did your oc discover themself? Did something cause them to question, or did they always know?

Liam:

Oh this one is fun LMAO because in a way he always "knew" he was attracted to men but he was. a little bit silly about it. Basically he knew about gay people existing well enough, however he did not register that being anything but straight or gay was a thing. So he knew he liked girls first and figured, well, guess that means i'm straight. Kind of a shame though cos sometimes boys are also really cute.... Anyways, it comes up with a friend at some point in his late teens, and when Liam told him his friend was there like "buddy i've got news for you" As for being probably-acespec, that's not something that he ever really considers? Defining that just never occurs to him and doesn't really matter to him either

Ari:

He's always found it a bit hard to relate to his peers in a lot of things, so his perception of gender/sexuality in relation to the others/ the norm wasn't something that stood out to him as Specifically Noteworthy. As far as gender goes i think it was less "figuring himself out" and more.. the circumstances in which he grew up automatically influencing his perception of gender? The Qunari system makes more sense to him but he understands the human categorisation enough to know how he relates to it. The first time he had a strong opinion on gender in relation to him was once he was inquisitor; he was fine playing along, but would not accept any female/feminine gendered terms for himself as a rejection of the religious aspect of being Inquisitor. Sexuality/romanticism wise he never had much of an interest but never bothered to question or think about it deeply? It is what it is and what happens happens.

5. How did you figure out your oc's identity?

Liam:

It was clear pretty quickly that he is bi and also that he is alloromantic lol. The ace-spec thing is still vague/undefined but i figured that his attraction/progression of attraction is probably Not Quite Allo (?)

...Honestly i can't assure you that his romantic feelings are 100% allo either but like. Idk how allo attraction works so don't ask me lolol.

Ari:

It went hand in hand with getting into HCs about Qunari and their relation with gender with friends :) Once that started to brew and i started playing Ari more (had a biiig pause in his playthrough) it was pretty clear that him being cis or het didn't make much sense. From there it was figuring out his (vague) backstory and how his environment growing up would've influenced his identity (gender-wise and otherwise)

16. Did you ever change an oc's identity when they were already established? Why?

Liam:

Don't think i did? Although i used to be sure that he was Fully Allo and now, well. that's up for debate xdd

Ari:

He used to be more or less cishet lmao. Which idk if i'd call that being "established" at the time since i hadn't played much with him/ thought much about him yet, but it is very funny to think about now

[agalnamedlunasea]

*shakes a bag of treats to lure out your DR headcanons*

Psspsspsspsspss

ALRIGHT YOU’VE CONVINCED ME but im putting this under a readmore bc ive got charts and shit

Sexuality

Aspec

Gender

SO I think the charts mostly speak for themselves? I definitely don't have the energy to go into *every* individual person nor do I necessarily have much to say about some of em, so I'll only go into detail about ones I have particularly strong thoughts about/ things to say. But feel free to ask specifics! Can't guarantee I'll be able to answer but still. ANYWAY SO

I wanna start by saying I am the least confident in my aspec headcanons? They're extremely flexible moment to moment and I'm not attached to many of them. I could see almost anyone almost anywhere with only a handful of exceptions, honestly

I almost put a "cis but they've still got something goin on" category on the gender one,,, I woulda put the antags, Yasuhiro, Sonia, Angie, Gonta, maybe a couple others in there,,,

Not really represented here but im a big fan of genderfluid imposter and byakuya

All the protags are trans, and also they're all bi except komaru, fun fact 👍

Literally all of em are queer in some fashion, as you can tell from the fact that I forgot to put a "straight" category on the chart...

Anyway some in particular that im fond of that ive not really talked about before:

I love love love hc Aoi as a nonbinary lesbian. Its like,, lowkey projection,,, but I think its supported by the text. She's got some hang-ups surrounding womanhood and being a woman and how that relates to her relationship with men (im thinking specifically of her last fte). I think it would be a nice resolution to that struggle for her to shed the expectations she feels entirely and embrace who she is, even if its different from what she feels like she's "supposed" to be. Idk I think its a natural conclusion

I enjoy nonbinary chihiro for a similar reason. I think it would also be a natural conclusion to her struggles with gender and what masculinity and femininity means to them

And somewhat related I hc sakura as a cis lesbian also bc of her struggles with femininity?? I like the idea of her conclusion being to embrace her femininity wholeheartedly. She enjoys being feminine but has a hard time reconciling that with her strength. Id like to see her enjoy both of those things about her

Hm i wonder if those say anything about me, im not projecting even a little bit

I hc that akane is pan but for the longest time she just. Doesn't realize not everyone is like that? It was never even something to think about for her. Like she'll be talking to nekomaru and she's like "really you've never thought a girl was hot? Never? Men, I get ya, but *no* girls? That's possible?" And nekomaru gives her the most disappointed stare.

Idk why but nagito and nekomaru being the only gay men on the island is a lil funny to me

Also. I read a singular fic where nagito was demisexual and I was like ok you've convinced me (can you tell. I am. Easily convinced. About this kind of thing)

I go back and forth on whether I hc izuru as pan or aroace. Things like gender don't really matter to him, I just can't decide how that would work in terms of attraction for him 🤷‍♂️🤷‍♂️🤷‍♂️

I would just like to call attention to transfem hiroko hagakure. Good for her

Rantaro. Feels v aroace to me. In that way where everyone who likes men is like "wow he's so pretty I can't believe he doesn't have a partner id love to date him I wonder if he's interested in anyone" and then he's just like "hey you guys check out this cool thing I found". Like the reverse of bi but noone wants him. Attractive but doesn't want anyone. I can see aspec tho. But that boy is definitely not allo

Once again. Idk why. But kiyotaka, nekomaru, nagito, and kokichi being the only gay men on the chart. Is a lil funny to me. Idk Idk Idk

Ummmm I think thats most of what I wanna say??? I might elaborate more another time but there's that 👍

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ace questions! 1-15!

ASEXUAL QUESTIONNAIRE { please send me more of this meme } @novinare

Is your character sex repulsed, sex neutral or sex favorable?  He is sex natural for everyone but himself he doesn't want or need that in his life.

Do they find sex enjoyable, do they hate it or it is merely something they’d do for the right person?  He willing to try for the right person once but he doesn't need it like he doesn't want it.

Already answered here x

Where do they fall on the asexual spectrum? Are they simply asexual, grey-ace, demisexual etc? Asexual full on.

Do they use the split attraction model? If yes, what other orientations do they have? What’s their relation to it and does being ace affect it?  Good question honestly he doesn't have any sexual attraction to either gender never has so no it doesn't I guess.

If they’re grey or demi, when do they eventually experience sexual attraction towards another person and what tend to catch their attention first? If they’re sex neutral, what makes them eventually want to engage with sex?  Well I don't think I need to answer this he is neither of these things.

Do they have a wind down time or a need to space out intercourse as to not burn themselves out or get uncomfortable?  He just doesn't do it at all that helps him.

How do they feel about being asexual? Love it, hate it? Why?  He has no idea he is even ace so once he learns I think he be confused by it at first until he learn more about it and I don't think he would hate it at all.

already answered here x

Are they open about the fact they’re asexual or do they tend to be more silent about it? He silent about it since he not aware that he is one.

Are they okay with dating an allo partner? Do they have an allo partner? If yes, do they ever experience clashing issues with either being allo or ace?  I mean he doesn't do dating that often so yeah I'm not sure on this one and neither is al haha.

What’s their view on the reliance on sex in media, is it overbearing or do they not care at all? He find its super funny honestly like he can't avoid it but will make fun of it if forced to watch after all he doesn't watch TV and he doesn't read those kinds of books. He honestly doesn't care about it or for it.

What conflicting thoughts did your character have before they figured out they were asexual? Did they try and experience things they didn’t care for to fit in; such as crushing on people (aka finding them attractive when maybe they didn’t), tried to masturbate etc. He still yet to work it out and I will let you know what happens when he does.

What misconceptions about asexuality/demisexuality do they wish they could crush or get rid of? That he can't love someone with out sex needing to be involved or that just doesn't date at all because he is ace like there more to why he doesn't then just him being ace.

Already answered here  x

[compassionatereminders]

hi kat. i hope this is not a bad time (as good as times can get for you at this exact moment…) so i’m just gonna rant

so i have a best friend of almost 6 years. it’s one of the most fulfilling relationships of my life and we really just. get each other. we (mostly) know each other in and out. and we’ve been life partners for most of the friendship, albeit unknowingly (we talked it out last year and made it official, being queerplatonic partners and stuff) and i was very glad to have someone to spend my life with. we talked about living together and just… being together.

and well, a few months ago she got herself a boyfriend. and those have been some very hard months for me, mostly because of my own fucked up emotions and insecurities that i thought i worked through and Jealousy(tm), partly because my best friend was also fucking up by having Absolute Bitches Brainrot and spending less time with her friends (me included). and we have talked about this! and it was. well. it went good. she said she’d work on it and plan more hang outs and that she didn’t mean to hurt anyone.

and…i thought that was the end of it. i’ve been (once again, mostly) fine. i was confident in our relationship. but a few days ago, i realized how annoying it is to talk to my best friend these days because all she ever talks about is her boyfriend, she constantly brings him up in conversations that don’t even mention him. but i didn’t want to talk about it with her because i didn’t want to make her feel bad, and i already mentioned the fact how she’s always talking about her bf to which she said she doesn’t do it on purpose, so.

so i decided to talk about it with my other friend instead. i went into a chat between me and my best friend to look for funny/absurd/annoying/inappropriate examples of her bringing up her boyfriend, and instead i found a message that made me upset when i first saw it and, apparently, still makes me upset: it was about how her boyfriend told her something like “when we get married yadda yadda” and it made her happy because no one’s ever wanted to marry her spend their life with her like that.

and, uh, you can probably see where i’m getting at with this haha. it made me sad because i wanted to do that, i wanted to spend our lives together. it also made me a little angry that she was this invested in a person she’s known for a maximum of 2 months while, well, i exist. which might be a selfish thought, but it is what it is. anyway—so i mentioned the message to my friend and how it made me react and. well. for context, i’m mostly aro and my best friend is probably on the spectrum too but she does feel attraction more.

so my friend basically told me how We Live In A Society and that aro + allo people don’t usually last long together or end up living with each other, because the allo person eventually ends up finding a romantic partner and living with them. because We Live In An Allo Society. which is true, but… it’s just something i haven’t thought about before. i never realized it would be a problem for us, which was probably a bit stupid and naive of me ahaha. and my friend also told me that my best friend probably wasn’t experiencing the qpr feelings in the same way i was, and honestly? i kind of wish they didn’t tell me any of this. because i think they’re right and it fucking sucks and it makes me extremely sad to realize that maybe i’m not as important as i used to be, or as i thought i was. it’s…not a good thought. and i didn’t take it well—i’m not taking it well, would probably be more correct.

i understand this is something that should probably be talked about. but the day i had The Realization(tm) my best friend messaged me a few hours later, talking about her boyfriend again. some mundane thing that they did together. and she said how happy she is to have him and how lucky she is. and it just made me think—i can’t ruin this. i’m not going to ruin this. i’m not going to make it about me just because i had a warped perception of what my life was going to be and that is somehow another person’s fault. it’s not. it’s no one’s fault, really. i mean, maybe it’s a little my fault for being dumb and wishful, but eh. it is what it is.

so yeah. uh. i guess that’s it. i probably am going to get better eventually. somehow. i’ll deal with it on my own. and who knows? maybe i’ll end up finding someone else. maybe i won’t. maybe i should just let it all go and realize i never had it in the first place. whatever that means—i hope most of this message is comprehensible. it’s almost 1am and i’m tired from a full day of Gaming(tm). i hope you’re holding up well.

Not to grab the mic and steal your moment but as an allo who was just dumped and ghosted by two romantic partners I thought I was going to spend my life with, it is now my friends who are stepping up to the task of helping me through this. And if I can look at this and acknowledge that a romantic relationship isn't inherently better or more worthwhile than platonic relationships, so can other people. Even if your beloved friend can't. It's not a lost cause to find people who value and prioritize friendship and it does not require being aro

[blorbo-hellspace]

Idia + Lilia for the ask game !!

I HATE YOU!!!! (joking) this was sooooo long. anyways i love lillidia sooo muchhhh

PRE RELATIONSHIP

How did they first meet?

online ofc. they probably met either in the lobby of a game they both like or in a discord server.

What was their first impression of each other?

irl: Idia was fucking terrified of Lillia. one of the biggest inroverts in school AND a prankster??? NO. Lillia thought Idia was kinda cute and wanted to tease him. likes his reactions.

online: Idia thought Lillia was cool af. he was good at the game, gave and recieved orders well, and didn't piss him off while gaming. lillia thought idia was kinda funny with hiw angry amd controlling he gets over games

Did any of their friends or family want them to get together?

ortho just wants idia to stop pining and get together with lillia, he's their number 1 fan. lillia family was.. a little more chaotic abt it. sebek in particular was very unhappy.

Who felt romantic feelings first?

lillia for sure!! idia is aro and doesnt really feel romantic attraction easily so it definitely was lillia (who PAINFULLY allo)

Did either of them try to resist their feelings?

idia does. lillia goes with the flow while idia is freaked out. he's never felt this way for anyone but the people in his animanga b4!!!

If you had told one of them that the other would be their soulmate, what would they think?

ERROR404.IDIASHROUDNOTFOUND

he COMPLETELY short circuits

GENERAL

Who initiated the relationship, and how did it go?

lillia!! a while after they found out each other's real identities he decided to shoot his shot (ended up with a very much passed out and very much happy idia)

Did they have an official first date? If so, what was it like?

they don't really go on traditional dates, since they make idia anxious. instead they order some pizza or make ramen and sit down to game or watch anime 2gether. sometimes dates are just being in the same room. so, no, not really.

What was their first kiss like?

idia actually initiated this! lillia wanted him to take his time and take the ropes for it, and once they got the courage it was.. well, it kind of sucked, actually. idia had never kissed someone b4 and didn't know what he was doing.

Were they each other’s first anything (kiss, relationship, etc.)?

lillia was idia's first everything. the same can NOT be said the other way around. (what? he's old, he's been around before)

What’s their height difference? Age difference?

there canonically a 10 inch difference between them, and lillia still hasn't revealed how old he actually is (but he talks about events that happened a thousand odd years ago like it was yesterday, if that's anwhere to go from)

What’s their relationship with each other’s families?

ortho loves lillia!! idia's parents don't care.

malleus and silver get along fine enough with idia(though they make him shy) while sebek is less perceptive. actively scares idia.

Who takes the lead in social situations?

lillia 100%. idia is too shy!!!

Who gets jealous easier?

idia. lillia doesn't really feel jealousy, but idia gets sooo scared of being left behind that it's a bit uncontrollable.

LOVE

1. Who said “I love you” first?

idia! he was mostly alseep after staying up all night beating a new game (on the day of release, ofc) that he just sort of lost inhibitions. so, when lillia came and put a boanket over him for comfort, he couldn't help himself.

2. What are their primary love languages?

they both have qaulity time as a primary love language!!

3. How often do they cuddle/engage in PDA?

cuddling? every time they're alone. PDA? oh, sevens, NEVER!!!

4. What are their favorite things to do together?

chill in each other's presence, game, watch anime. idia takes lillia to watch PREMO concerts sometimes. they love to cuddle.

5. Who’s better at comforting the other?

lillia has been around the block with dealijg with grief and people being uoset in general, he's much better. idia is shit at comfort, not that lillia needs it much tho.

6. Who’s more protective?

lillia! humans are still pretty fragile, especially one as weak as idia. he needs to be protected!!

7. Do they prefer verbal or physical affection?

lillia prefers physical, idia prefers verbal

8. What are some songs that apply to their relationship, in-universe or otherwise?

none come to mind

9. What kind of nicknames do they call each other?

lillia will call idia any name under the sun, mainly to embarrass idia. idia doesn't really do petnames beyond "babe" and "bro" (yes, he considers "bro" a petname)

DOMESTIC LIFE

1. If they get married, who proposes?

idia. lillia would be hesitant to propose to soneone who may die. he's made the mistake before, he wouldn't do it again. idia is pressured by his parents to propose so he can continue the shroud name.

2. What’s the wedding like? Who attends?

very small, just family and a very higher up S.T.Y.X. employees

3. How many kids do they have, if any? What are they like?

probably only a few. idia isn't huge on kids but feels he needs to, and lillia loves kids. there's some arguing on how many they should have, but ultimately settle on 3

4. Do they have any pets?

so. many. CATS!!!!

5. Who’s the stricter parent?

idia. lillia is too lenient if anything.

6. Who kills the bugs in the house?

lillia or ortho. idia is terrified of bugs.

7. How do they celebrate holidays?

they don't really? idia isn't a fan of holidays, and lillia is conflicted on them (since he knows the actual, more brutal origins of most of em)

8. Who’s more likely to convince the other to come back to sleep in the morning?

idia wants to sleep in every day. lillia is a morning bird

9. Who’s the better cook?

let's be real, even if idia can only make microwave ramen... he's much better than lillia. (ortho does msot of the cooking)

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nart ships: a (very long winding tangent-ed) summary

danzen: hiruzen and danzo. they are not officially together and they never will be because of the nationalism. hiruzen is selfish and doesn't want danzo to die because he loves him. he would much rather sacrifice himself for his sake so that he doesnt have to live with the aftermath of losing him. classic hiruzen trait!!!! doesnt make moves because he also loves inaction. danzo is selfless to a fault and also applies this selflessness to everyone else whether they like it or not. the ends justify the means!!! (he has forgotten what the ends were). he doesnt make moves because of the catholic guilt. they pine after each other silently and occasionally send assassins after each other and then feel bad about the indulgence. fascinating.

the kakashi polycule: kakashi is a sex-repulsed gay demiromantic but he feels most comfortable not referring to his relationships in romantic terms regardless of whether or not the involved parties reciprocate romantic feelings. qprs for life baby!!! obito gai iruka and zabuza are usually my go-tos. all of them are desperately in love with him (the sad wet horse appeal. you know how it is.) but through sheer proximity they also get entangled with each other. mostly sexually. every single possible combination is terrible and everyone is aware of this and it is funny as hell. gai cant remember anyone but kakashis name but he objectively the best one in bed so thats just something they all have to live with. iruka wants to leave but he never does. he never leaves. he has no one but himself to blame.

tenzo: hes transmasc hes so transmasc and he's also gay and demiromantic and asexual. but i think he's pretty sex-positive and doesnt mind participating, even if he doesnt really get anything out of it. he and kakashi are also in a qpr but tenzo is not touching the rest of the polycule with a ten foot pole <3

minakushi: saw a post last week suggesting transfem 4 transfem minakushi and ive been obsessing over it ever since. the vibes are impeccable. war criminal no thoughts head empty minato and girlboss lying to herself to get through the week kushina and they were BOTH GIRLS???? that being said im also a big fan of malewife minato so idk. i go back and forth. any way you spin it kushina HAS to be transfem though i just. need her to be. these guys are one of the healthiest couples in the series i think. which says a lot.

kagurin: KAGURIN KAGURIN MY BELOVEDS!!!!! kind of like narumitsu except rin is literally nothing like edgeworth its just that kaguya has that "i can fix her" vibe that phoenix has (she is just as bad). absolutely impeccable. they have the symbolism. they have the chemistry. toxic yuri forever!!!! rin is aro but in denial and so she Decides to fall in love with kaguya because Moon Lady you know and kaguya tries to fix her and then they both die after a week because they are trying to destroy the world at the same time <3 women <3

tsunade: aroace romance repulsed sex repulsed touch adverse QUEEN!!! she and orochimaru meet up to bitch about everyone else's drama. (orochimaru is allo its just that he doesnt date because no one meets his standards.)

poly team 7: i will die on this hill. all of them are bi and they have a beautiful toxic codependent relationship <3 sakura and ino have flings every once and a while, same with naruto and gaara. the good ending in my head is the one where the three of them run off into the hills to live on a little farm as civilians after the war arc. the canon arc where they trudge back to konoha to drown in bureaucracy as they slowly drift apart from each other and the vision of a better world they once shared is kind of fun too except for the fact that thats DEFINITELY not the intend reading

rock lee: he is the perfect man. i believe he is straight as a ruler and the best guy you could possibly meet and incredibly unlucky. every girl he dates for longer than a week finds out that shes a lesbian. he has an army of lesbian best friends. eventually he had to result to mitosis to produce offspring. this is the only thing i know about boruto canon.

ankrin: yes rin gets two ships this is because she is my favorite. anko and rin happens in the timeline where she is the sole team minato member to stay in konoha and they meet and bond under orochimaru's tutelage. he ends up becoming hokage after minato is drawn and quartered by iwa for his crimes (<3) and they just kind of chill. both of them are aro and lesbians so this arrangement is GREAT for both of them. friends with benefits type of thing i think.

kisita: kisame is a mom friend. that being said i do not think he enjoys mothering itachi all that much. itachi is the exception to the worrying. kisame does it anyways. fascinating relationship. closer to that of a plant that produces flowers to attract an extinct species of bee and the fruit fly that has not adapted to co-exist with the plant but keeps it alive anyways than anything romantic i think.

[bloggingboutburgers]

Hey I just wanted to say I love your comics and I think they do a great job connecting ace experiences to the rest of the LGBTQ+ community. I feel like there's a sort of divide because aces and allo LGBTQ+ don't always understand each other, but your comics describe ace experiences in a respectful and non-judgemental kind of way that opens discussion. It's so cool seeing allos reblog and relate to your comics because it shows that we have more in common than we might have thought. Thank you and please keep being awesome.

Hey and sorry I'm replying so late!!

Thank you so so much for this, honestly, that's absolutely what I strive for! TwT Some of my comics definitely are more vent-art-y gut reactions, but I tend to think a lot about how I can present an idea in a way that points fingers as little as possible, most of the time... I can't always avoid it, but I think it's still best to avoid it as much as possible if we all want to understand each other or at least get along as much as possible, and honestly, that's the goal ultimately, right? At least not damage each other more than we're already being damaged.

...Also I wanna be funny. I like drawing funny stuff. I don't think I really have the potential to make people laugh but I hope I can at least make them smile, I also think there's no better way to encourage people to think about something.

Having such positive responses not only from aspec people but also allo people is super encouraging, so I wanna keep doing my best on that, because it's been so much fun so far. Hopefully I'll make something a bit more concrete out of these comics someday, if I even ever dare, or manage. Building confidence is hard TwT So... Yeah this helps, and I hope the whole thing doesn't just help ME, even though it's really really self-serving for me ultimately 🙈

(...But also literally though, we're all in this together, aren't we? If one non-hetero non-conformist orientation or identity gets threatened it's only a matter of time before the others do, too. I don't see how we could manage any other way than by trying to connect and stand by each other at least as much as we can.)