#i dont expect ppl to memorize every drop of personal data i leak onto here and that anon did claim it was an accident!! | Explore Tumblr posts and blogs

droidmom · 5 years ago

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Sorry, I had to unfollow for all the drama earlier, that pro-baby anti-baby thing really freaked me out. (I'm sorry, but just as someone who's extremely tokophobic, hearing someone I respect say that no one reasonable would say mean things about babies freaked me out)

that’s understandable. if it at all helps, my issue wasn’t like “no one reasonable would say mean things about babies.” it was more “i don’t understand why this particular story is being shared with me of all people or anyone for that matter” bc of the contents. maybe if i’d like, responded directly that would’ve helped clear things up but i didn’t want my followers to see a story about someone accidentally making fun of a baby’s physical deformity and laughing about it.

idk. i get why the vagueness of my response could be read like that w/o the ask’s contents, esp if you already have a sensitivity to it, but calling people unreasonable for having personal issues with kids is absolutely not what i was saying. for all anyone knew the ask could’ve been something horrifically violent or inappropriate, which is again what i would have been referring to. not just someone admitting a repulsion to kids.

all i was asking is that people don’t send me rude stuff about babies and to think about how they express that kind of thing if they absolutely feel the need to.

#Anonymous #also isn’t tokophobia more about the pregnancy/childbirth element?#i’m kind of confused about how that would like… warrant saying mean things about babies themselves #in a kind of. blanket sense rather than just .... being personally freaked out by them #but ofc if this has been stressful and assuming ur not seeing this post bc u unfollowed i dont like #expect u to write a detailed ask about your issues i'm just... genuinely confused on that mark #i hope that doesnt come across as insensitive #and like. im not trying to say phobias aren't reasonable but if u have a fear bad enough to label it doesnt that.#kind of veer into irrational territory? not in the sense of like. it being irrational to fear the thing . but in the sense of not being able #think/discuss it in an unbiased manner??#which might kinda mean that saying rude stuff about kids who haven't done anything wrong isn't the most reasonable thing to do?#idk if i were afraid of spiders i m allowed to personally find them gross and not want them on me but #i wouldnt say rude blanket stuff about all spiders esp to someone who has a pet tarantula #or studies them for a living #i dont expect ppl to memorize every drop of personal data i leak onto here and that anon did claim it was an accident!!#but i also do talk about my little sibs and my internalized issues w wanting my own kids someday a lot on here #so at the very least i personally was the very very very wrong audience for that ask and i still don't think it was #something that was appropriate to talk about proudly #not bc i think legit fears are inappropriate #and lbr the anon probably isnt in the same boat as you #but bc i think people need to be a lil more mindful about HOW they express those personal preferences

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