#i don't wanna even deal with that side of my family because theyre acting so. entitled.

[nettlefeather]

the stress of everything with my mom is slowly bubbling up to the surface bc I can't bottle my feelings away anymore and I hate it

[maigo-san]

@lazulite-flame really is keeping me alive in this site cuz every day off I'm usually not able to do anything aside passing out lol

Three ships:

gonna skip kyoutan and aoka cuz these ships are timeless to me so I'm just going to spill my current faves

Lu Guang/Cheng Xiaoshi (Link Click): I purposely not going to watch s2 even tho it's currently free in blibli cuz kfnsdkfnwd I can't, I will hyperfixate and won't focus because they're just that good. I honestly considered writing an au based on this cuz the connected/combined powers is my favorite trope. They balance each other out, lu guang really met this guy who asked him to play basketball (BASKETBALL!!) one day and was like, I'm going to be his bestest friends ever jdnfidnfd and he's so devoted and attentive. Cheng too, the way he's so broken when youknowwhat arghsfbdim

dojin/taeju (Full Volume): THIS WHOLE SERIES IS SO GOOD, but i'm so sorry to Dowon and Beom because the side ship won. Dojin and Taeju's story is so nice and fun. I do notice I tend to gravitate towards kyoutan-coded stories despite kyoutan, to me, being a ship with pretty rare dynamics so I was sold with taeju being older and dojin's sunbae, has big tits, a soft but tough family man, and reminded me of kyou, or how dojin pines like crazy in a very dramatic and tan way but with their background switched lol

zolu (One Piece): MAYbe a coincidence theyre also 💚❤️ and that dying martyrdom is so similar lmfaooo am I the only one who thinks that luffy acts like Kyou?? the eyes and smile bro?! but what sold me was... a lot of things. Their chemistry, they way that they are more similar than I realized, their reliance towards each other, their looks... which surprised me how much this ship fell under the radar like what? Even I, who never watched OP before knew various popular OP ships because this show is just that popular and zolu was not one of them and I feel robbed. Maybe it's fate. Good thing comes at the right time sorta thing cuz at the same time, I currently need this ship and OP to cheer me up. This ship is so wholesome, chill, and comfortable. Like soup and cozy blankets. But they also have the classic complimentary height, size, and design diff so yeah pretty good deal

First ever ship: ...Light/L 😬

I don't ship them anymore even tho it took me years to get over it lmfao! I admit I still read some of the fics and doujins and saw some art cuz a lot of death note fans are really good writers and artists but would I invest in fanworking for this ship? mmmmm if you paid me lol

Last song: Ayesha Erotica - Hands Up! (Remix)

Last movie: last movie I watched was like four or five months ago so I may be wrong but I think it's Glass Onion (I prefer the first movie better ehe)

Currently reading: my company modul lmfaoo

Currently watching: One Piece

Currently consuming: instant noodle and jelly

Currently craving: tuna sandwich, creamy soup, and green grapes. Maybe some gimbap because I'm a glutton I can eat two types of carbs haha jk. I honestly just really wanna go on a picnic. I've asked my family this October cuz I think the place won't be too crowded but idkidkidk~

@leafiebeanie @muunberry @shinaka @thischachamaru @sproutlingbaby

Nine people you would like to get to know better

Tagged by @cursedvibes 💙 Gotta admit your recent posts about Houseki no Kuni have got me prettyyyyy curious about it.

Three ships: Yuuji/Gojou, Yuuji/Nanami, and Yuuji/Choso based on the extent of my current interest, but if I had to pick one per fandom, it'd be Yuuji/Gojou, Ichigo/Grimmjow, and Steve/Bucky.

First ever ship: I...have no earthly idea. I got into fandom by accident, read anything and everything, and at some point, I got really into shipping, and then it became my favourite form of fandom engagement (which is hilarious because I'm aromantic as all fuck). But I can't remember how/when it started.

Last song: STITCH ME UP by Point North

Last movie: Last one I saw in a cinema is Everything Everywhere All at Once, I think. Might have watched something later on my laptop but can't remember.

Currently reading: Keeping up with the JJK manga and, as always, ripping into academic texts for a living

Currently watching: The weekly eps of JJK S2 and Bleach TYBW

Currently consuming: Nothing

Currently craving: I just ate so the stomach is closed for business

Tagging, no pressure, @possibleplatypus, @joeys-piano, @stilllostinthedaydream, @calamitouskings, @eusuntgratie, @nylazor, @backwardshirt, @sorrythatwasamistake, @creepydai

[one-abuse-survivor]

im suoer concerned for my younger cousin. hes only 2, and his parents didnt actually want him (an accident). they call him multiple names that are horrible, called him a wimp when he had his blood taken and cried after, they taught him the nword, going around asking, "what colour are they?" to a literal human being, and not an object, they call him a f*g and gayboy all the time, and even slap him upside the head just because. literally no reason. he gets no comfort from them, hes expected to cry it out and be name called when he needs the comfort. dude it hurts my heart so much. i dont know how to help him. i think im just being selfish, as ik if i tell someone, theres a chance he will be taken away, and i wont get to see him again. (my other cousin got taken away and i never saw him again). im 18 and going off to uni in a few months, so whilst i understand, id rarely get to see him after uni starts anyway, i just dont know if im making the right choice by reporting them as idk if it really is abuse or just "one of those thinga" ifyk what i mean. ive reported my own abuse and it was a year long process of my parents hating me more and more, and the social services doing nothing but condoning my parents' behaviour. im so concerned for his mental health but im worried the social services would approach it the same way they did with me, and just make it worse for him rather than help him. i also really dont wanna be found out for reporting them, my family already hates me as ive been "falsely accusing" my dad of abuse. should i attempt to do something? or just leave it as it is, as interfering could make it worse? another thing that is stopping me is a very weird theory. ive slept at their house before (like a few months ago) and they were the opposite of how they act now (and back then) when they come to my house. theyre way more patient, and loving and actually talk to the kids. the theory is that theyre putting it on to impress my dad. "boys should be tough and manly, girls should be in the kitchen and quiet" that ideal is my dads mentallity so it makes sense why hed want to act like that infront of them. when im with them alone, they do really seem to care about their kids and love them and want to help them in all aspects of life. unless theyre then putting it on for me when i visit, and being truthful with my dad. im sorry for it all being all over the place, and i keep switching 'sides', its just super confusing for me lol. is it okay if i get your opinion on it?

Nonnie, I don't have words for how vile your cousin's parents' behaviour is. They are verbally, physically and emotionally abusing and neglecting a toddler. My heart hurts so much right now too. No one should have to grow up like this. No baby or kid deserves to go through even a second of this.

I understand why you're conflicted. It sounds like an incredibly complicated situation, especially if you've also seen them treat your cousins with love and patience in other moments. I can't imagine how much harder this must be to deal with having been through abuse yourself. And you're right: there is a chance that social services won't immediately fix things and your cousin will suffer because of it.

I want to make it very clear that you should always follow your own intuition and perception before my advice, because I'm not in this situation with you. I haven't met your family or interacted with the social services where you live.

That being said, this is my opinion, nonnie: it doesn't matter if they're loving toward your cousins sometimes. It doesn't matter whether their "genuine" parenting style is the one they show in front of your dad or the one they show when they're alone with you.

What matters is they've shown they're capable of verbally, physically and emotionally abusing their toddler. If you're capable of something like that, regardless of the circumstances, then there's little that will stop you from doing it again. Someone who truly wasn't willing to abuse their child would not do it, no matter how much they wanted to be liked by a family member. What's more: someone who wasn't willing to abuse their child would not want to impress an abuser.

Now, regarding whether you should report them, while there is a chance things will get worse for your cousin, I think you also have to take some time to consider if whatever may happen after you report them is worse than a childhood filled with abuse and neglect. Bad things might happen to him if you report, but the thing is, they are already happening right now. He's going through trauma right now every single time they hit him, insult him and leave him to cry. And I honestly think there's a very high chance he'll continue to go through trauma with his parents, because, as I said, people capable of being abusive once are more than likely to be abusive again.

I'm really sorry you've had so many problems with your family and social services. I hope things are better for you now and you're safe from your parents or on your way to being safe from them. I also hope my reply helps a bit. What your cousin is going through is indeed abuse, and his parents' motivations when hurting him don't negate the trauma he's going through.

Sending all my support your way ❤️ please don't hesitate to send me an update if you want or need to. Good luck with uni!