#i don't think id describe myself as A Dom

[petshopbutch]

thinking many "what if i DID wanna dom sometimes...." thoughts

[newsoulresolutions]

What’s your weirdest habit or quirk?

probably my random obsessions and thought patterns. I randomly break out into British accents. I'm a complete goofball (when I'm not taking myself to seriously) I love a woman that smells great and also might not shower after the gym.

What is your conflict style?

I have very aggressive tendencies when im in a conflict so I try to talk my way through it best I can. I have some trauma related to conflicts so I try to keep my tone even and understanding and ask my partner to do the same. If I get to a point where im too frustrated I try to step away, Go outside, have a smoke, Im learning that sometimes alcohol can do more damage than good so Im learning to lean less on it when im irritated or frustrated. I'm learning that leaving isn't always a good thing. Yes it allows for space to cool off but it can also make your partner feel abandoned. I try to avoid conflict. I have triggers from things getting out of control. Name calling, rudeness, disrespect. It pushes me to an aggressive place and I become the person I'm trying not to be. I don't like having my buttons pushed but I'm learning that it's not the other person's fault for pushing my buttons it's mine because I allow there to be buttons in the first place.

What are your expectations for the relationship?

My expectations are that my partner and I can build something real. To grow to understand one another and share new and fun experiences. Im a big homebody and like to be at home and just lounge but I do like to explore new things when given the chance. Id like to have a partner that understands im not perfect but im a work in progress. Im looking for my apocalypse partner, my late night rambler, my random kitchen cook, just someone to explore and enjoy the parts of me I dont show everyone. Since addressing my life with polyamory I'm searching to be whole. Some might say you can't use people to make yourself whole and that is true. What I mean is that I'm seeking to be all of myself. I can easily work a crowd. Talk to anyone. It's just a mask though. I want to be able to be the normal me. The cook, the lover, the caregiver, I also want to be the sadist, the Dom, the indulger (pretty sure I made that word up). I've struggled a lot with identity so I've forced parts of myself into the shadows to keep a partner happy or to make things work. Truly I just want to be all of myself and for that to be okay. Not fixed. Not judged. But accepted in a healthy way. I'm a lot of people and I just want a partner that allows for that. I understand that relationships cost. Energy, time, effort, selflessness, and reciprocation. It's not all about me. I want someone that helps me learn them where there are not solely for how they got there but how to be what they need right now.

How would you describe your spending habits?

I spend the bulk of my money on bills. Sucks but things have to be taken care of. I grew up in survival mode and it's carried over into my adult life. I'm used to working long hours or two jobs to have a bit of what I want here or there. I'll get caught up on things and make a big purchase or a group of small purchases really just to make myself feel better. I don't do much self care besides my haircut and a nice bottle here and there. Im coming to a place where I'm managing better. But there is always room for improvement.

What’s your guilty pleasure?

Having my face sat on. A good Netflix binge. Steak. And eating pussy lol. For some things in life there are no substitute.

What’s your favorite date night activity?

So as I stated above im a homebody. But i dont mind going out. I think unless something catches my eye and im like oh yeah that would be awesome I think more of the basic dates. movies and dinner. maybe some range time. spa days are good and getting pedis or something. I typically just enjoy casual things.

What’s the best setting for date night?

Wherever you can connect with your partner best.

What makes you feel the most loved?

understanding of me and the way i think. The world isnt black and white and i tend to see things from others point of views. the way I treat people and the way the people i care about means so much to me. Its not always the way people expect its not the way that people assume things. Im just odd. and I think i feel most loved when I feel understood.

Do you believe in monogamous relationships?

I do. I believe the idealism behind it sometimes locks us into places that can be avoided. I believe monogamy and polyamory both have their merits and should be explored in an honest and open way.

Ideal sex life?

As often as possible and makes it good for both parties. I love sex. I think I've struggled with what makes sex good. Is it the orgasm? Is it heading my partner moan? Is it learning new things to try? I've struggled with anxiety and am still struggling with it. I think ideally my partner would communicate and say I love this but I don't like that. I want someone who can express what I'm doing makes them feel good and helps me be better for them.

[polyghostfacehours]

Omgg first of all I love this idea so much and it's made me so happy :)).

I struggle to describe myself so I'll do my best here, btw id like it to be romantic and for the emoji 👹.

For starters I'm a black woman, caramel skin tone on the lighter side, 5'5", kinda regular skinny build but with a dumptruck lowkey, hair is usually in braids or a big afro. I'm introvert and I get SUPER shy, giggly, and overwhelmed when I'm around someone I'm attracted to, but once I'm closer to ppl and with my friends I can be rlly talkative and chaotic in my own way but I'm still more chill and passive MOST of the time. I'm the kinda person who kind of unconsciously shifts energy to balance with the people I'm around. Idk how to say this part without sounding dickish but I'm rlly smart and academics/intelligence has always been a big part of my identity. I consider myself pretty funny as well and I usually make all my friends laugh a lot.

I tend to have issues connecting with my emotions/feeling empathy or feelings intense emotions myself and I usually don't understand where ppl are coming from if they're operating mostly on emotions but I don't think I come off as cold or robotic. I'm an INTP, if you're into mbti types at all.

In terms of style I'm mostly a mix of punk and gothic and I usually dress pretty "out there", mostly black and red, lots of layered jewelry and ripped tights, skulls, bats, chains, the works, but also a lot of band tees. I diy a lot of my clothes. I'm into similar music styles emo, punk, metal/screamo, alt rock, new wave, but I also enjoy indie on the reg. I'm pretty much listening to music or true crime podcasts constantly. I love horror ofc but I tend to go more for intellectual (?) Horror than slashers. Think every movie that Tara listed in scream 5. I'm a huge film hoe in general and my letterboxd stays busy.

Sexually I see myself as kinky and mostly a sub despite being an actual unkissed virgin🥲 this website as well as fanfiction skewed my sexual interests pretty early on lol. Idk how much I should go into actually kinks but I like degradation and power play...I think I'll just leave it at that lol. I also like to smoke weed semi regularly. This feels long as fuck so I'm gonna end it here, ig just message me if you'd want clarification on anything?

My second to last (I think) match-up left! Sorry this took 84 years lmao.

So, romantically, I match you a little bit more with Billy BUT, you're mostly on the middle of the line bc tbh you'd match really well with Stu as well

- One of the reasons you'd fit so well with both of them is your tendency to unconsciously shifts your energy to balance others out. You'd be the middle man of Billy and Stu, being able to balance them out due to your more flexible nature. That being said, you getting chaotic and talkative once you get to know them makes Stu ecstatic since he has a kindred spirit. And though Billy would never admit it, he loves having two energetic partners!

- You're a film hoe and also like the more intellectual/elevated horror films, which is something you can for sure bond with Billy with. Bill loves quote unquote "pretentious" films, because he's pretty pretentious himself lol (not saying you are bc you like them, just that Billy for sure is lmao). Stu likes those movies too, as he likes any horror in general, but also you cant stop him from putting splatterfests lol.

- Your alt style ofc appeals a lot to Stu, but Billy also loves the look, especially the band tees. I can easily see you and Billy chilling, you in an oversized band tee, listening to some true crime podcasts and trying to deconstruct them. Or blasting music while talking about the nuances of Carrie.

- Your more subby nature works because Stu is a natural switch and Billy is a dom mostly. You being the one who usually subs for both of them or letting Stu dom for once is a much needed balance to the relationship. You don't conflict too much with Billy, and you let Stu take control too. I will say though, if you end up being a go-getter in bed after getting some more experience, they'd both be pleasantly surprised!

[bunny-priiince]

For the past, oh. I dunno. Week or so? I've been getting off to your blog. You're hot. Like, unbearably, unfailingly hot. Makes me want to kiss you. I don't think I'm really a dom or a sub--I'm a switch more than anything. Lazy above all else. Which is why if you wanna cockwarm me while I'm grading history papers (I'm not some creepy old fart btw. I'm like. 28 lol) and let me thrust up into your warm boypussy every once in awhile, I'd love that. Or if you want to chain me up and rail my ass. I follow the pleasure. In a relationship, I think that there's a quid pro quo where your pleasure IS my pleasure. Which is why if you're into hurting then gladly, choke me, spank me, lock me up in chastity and don't let me touch myself unless you say so. If you like being hurt, well, I wasn't into knife play before this blog but now I sure am. I've been thinking of putting a knife in something cold, like ice water, and then pressing the flat edge to your nipples. Letting it just whisper around your neck. Make small cuts on your thighs and chest and suck hickies over it. And it'd be all the better because you'd squeeze around my cock so good, I wouldn't even have to move. Thinking about you getting horny and pushing me down just to bounce on my cock has me leaking pre without even touching myself.

I told myself I couldn't touch myself until I divulged my fantasies to you, so I'm harder than a rock and want to cum deep in your pussy, but I'm not done yet. I could have sent this in several messages but. Well. Lazy.

Those other anons that talk to you a lot lately. Your "sweet thing" and the one that calls you baby bunny. I would pay to watch you three fuck, because damn. I'm gonna call the one that calls you baby bunny "dom" for simplicity's sake. I don't know if dom would fuck you while you fuck sweet thing, or if you'd both be on your knees for dom, or if you'd be fucking sweet thing's pussy with your tdick as dom sat on his face--or maybe you'd be fucking sweet thing's pussy and dom would be facefucking you with their strap. I dunno. But imagining you in the middle of them made my cock twitch so. Good times.

I'm gonna be stroking myself for a few hours after this. I like going slow. I like rolling my hips into your pussy and trailing my hands down your upper arm, your forearm, your hand, rubbing my thumb over your palm before bringing your knuckles up and kissing them, sucking your fingers into my mouth. Leaning down to kiss you and sucking your tongue. Slowly scratching down your abdomen until I reach that dick of yours and pump in time with my thrusts. A lot of your anons like it hard and fast, which is fun sometimes, but what do you think about slow and deep?

Idk how often I'm gonna go on anon here, but can I have 🤠

Right. I'm gonna think about cumming in you for at least an hour now. Looking forward to your reply.

Ahaha i have to be honest every bit of this is so fucking hot my brain literally just short circuited

I went from just vibin to genuinely soaked and needy in the span of your asks. Every single thing you've described i want to do

Cockwarm you while you grade? Yes please, you can toy with me and feel me clench around you, or if you'd like to be fucked I can 1000% help with that too

God I hope any of this is coherent im!! So needy!! And so honored you like my blog so much!! And getting you into knifeplay too?? Oh I love that so much, please id let you tease me for hours and hours and hours while buried deep inside so you can feel how I clench, how bad I want you to fill me up!!

And ohhhh my god being in the middle of those two would be a dream, i think I'd end up completely brainless, I'd be such a mess, especially being watched! Fuck God i hope you enjoy, and just know I'm gonna be thinking about you breeding me over and over and over, fucking your cum into me nice and slow and deep, just using me as a personal cumdump

[redbeardace]

hi! i was wondering if you could help me identify my orientation? i know for a fact im aromantic, i dont feel romantic attraction at all. but when it comes to finding people attractive, im more pansexual. i don't think id want to engage in sexual activites with others, but i do like watching porn of all genders, and masturbate frequently. but i dont put myself in the position, if u get what i mean like of the pornstar. i just get turned on?? idkk! i just wanna be able to know how to identify!

adding more to my previous ask, when i watch porn, actually sometimes i will go "oh shit thats hot" and for a brief second think what if i was in that position? whether it be dom or sub, but immediately it fades away. sexual attraction from others revolts me and when im hit on i feel physically sick to my stomach, all in all i cant imagine myself at all having sex, but i love porn and masturbating. im also a huge narcissist idk i thought id add that for more clarification im so confuseddd help

Sounds like you identify as an aromantic pansexual, so I’ll defer to you on that.

I do think you might be interested in looking up “autochorissexualism”, which is a word that might describe some of the feelings you’re talking about.

[autistic-characters-of-the-day]

Age regress caretaker anon. No I didn't mean it like that. I don't call it that most of the time. I couldn't think of a better word for someone who takes care of you. I was just wondering if that without the terminology is cgl/(re). I'm not good with words haha.

ahhh ok nevermind then.

pretty much if you apply the words “daddy”, “dom”, “mommy”, “caretaker”, “caregiver”, “little”, “kitten”, etc etc etc to age regression, no matter what its in a cg/l or cg/l(re) context and you literally cant prove otherwise lmao

so id honestly get a better word for it and just call them a friend or literally just describe them as “someone who keeps me safe during it so i dont harm myself” or else youre using a literal kink term for something that shouldnt be fetishized in the first place

im pretty sure that some people would fully say that even without the terms its still a form of cg/l(re) but im honestly not in the mood to debate that rn.

[houseswolo]

Day 17 - 'Tis The Season To Be Thirsting

"Oh come all ye Forceful..."

The last of our Thirsties to be showcased:

Wilson

(Tumblr: @wilsonthinks66​ | Twitter: Wilsonthinks66 | Ao3: Wilson66)

What got you into Star Wars?

When a certain Adam Driver revealed his beautiful face in The Force Awakens 😍 helloo handsome

What made you a Reylo? Lightbulb moment!

"You're not alone." "Neither are you."

I think I told Luke to piss off and let them kiss!

Why do you write / make art?

Because why not?! I write when I have that little niggling idea that just won't go away.

The Object of your Thirst…

Oh so many but if we're sticking to the Star Wars it's got to be the beautiful Adam Driver and my favourite ginger Domhnall Gleeson

Which Adam look do you like the best?

Unwrapped and bare chested 🤤😍

Which Adam avatar/ role do you like the best?

Flip Zimmerman, I think my stomach literally flipped (pun intended 😏) when Adam wheeled around on that chair 💦💦

Which part of Adam do you like the best? 

A part? How can you only pick one part.

Favorite Star Wars Movie

Probably The Force Awakens, it was the film that made me watch the others in preparation, although Rogue one is a close second.

What do you like to write / draw / paint the most?

Don't judge me but I love writing angst obviously with a well earned happy ending. This is what I want to write as I've made a promise to myself to focus on what I enjoy reading/writing and not worry about others' opinions.

**Eyes the dark Evil Rey idea that won't leave me alone recently**

We'll get to you soon.

(HS: Dooo eeeet!)

Your TRoS Prediction

They all live happily ever after... Hux included 🤞❤️ no I know that may be too optimistic but I do hope we get Bendemption 😍

If you were an aesthetic... (colors, images, feels....)

Red and black are my favourite colour combination, although I adore autumn colours too🍁🧡

What's your ideal environment for writing / creating? 

Silence 😂 seriously I am so easily distracted that I need solitary confinement 😅 which may be why I sometimes struggle to finish fics.

Are you a dom or sub? 

Switch baby! 🤘 For the perfect partner I'll be whatever they need 😏

What's the most exotic/wierd place you've gotten intimate?

I've spent most of my life at yards, I'm not going to miss the opportunity to roll about the straw barn, now am I? 🙊

What's your kink?

Who doesn't love a good Dom but on the flip who doesn't love a well-behaved sub? 🤷 I'm easily pleased.

Use three words to describe yourself

Loyal, kind (I hope I come across as such) and argumentative sometimes because I can fall out with myself if I'm that way inclined 😂

Meaning behind your nick / ID name

Well it's my name and I wasn't feeling imaginative 😅

Are you a big spoon or little spoon?

I'm a don't touch me while a sleep spoon, solitary spoon 😘

Do you like it rough or soft? 

See if you pick one, you lose out on the other. I'm too greedy for that.

Favorite fic you read

Unexpected by pontmercy44. The first star wars fandom fic I ever read that introduced me into this world, I guess.

Favorite fic you wrote or favorite art you made

Decades to Fall for Sunshineflying. A reyux fic (don't shoot the multishipper!) That I just loved writing and wish that every fic was that easy to create. 😍❤️

Favorite SW character besides Kylo and Rey

Oh well this is so hard for me umm 🤔 maybe that ginger General of First Order... I struggle to remember his name 😘 love me some Hux

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Taz

(Tumblr: @tazwren | Twitter: WrenTaz | Ao3: TazWren & TrashcanWren)

What got you into Star Wars?

Literally, a lightsaber being stuck into my hand, at 7yrs, and being asked to be Vader to my cousin’s Luke Skywalker. I’d never heard of SW till that moment, and I fell headfirst into the Dark Side and in love with the galaxy far, far away! Its been the one franchise that as been a constant for me, the whole time growing up, and I’ve loved having something SW to look forward to every few years. SW and Reylo lifer! 😁😁😎😎

What made you a Reylo? Lightbulb moment!

“You are not alone.” The minute Kylo/Ben said those words, I was gone for Reylo. No true villain would give a flying fuck about his so-called adversary’s mental and emotional health. When their hands touched? I screeched in that theatre! And I may have yelled at Luke as well. Walked out and hunted for Kylo/Rey fanfics and the rest was history!

Why do you write / make art?

I do because the stories show up and make it impossible for me to do anything else but tell them. They buzz and breed and drown out all other sounds, like manic mosquitoes. They can be quite a nuisance that way, but... *throws up hands* ... I gots to do what they tell me to do! 😆

The Object of your Thirst…

Uh, do I even need to answer this? Adam Douglas Driver, Mr.Sensitive-on-a-stick, BDE Boss hisself 😎😏

Once I discovered him, all others ceased to exist for me. (Hugh, who? Chris, what?)

Which Adam look do you like the best?

I like Adam every which way, but my favorites are with facial scruff and slightly shaggy hair - Phillip Altman meets Ben Swolo. Oooh, anytime he is a sweater (or half out of one!) or with his shirtsleeves rolled up. So, um, yeah... 😁

Which Adam avatar/ role do you like the best?

Philip Altman is BAE - he always lightens my heart. And Ben Solo? He owns the frickin’ thing. So yeah, anyone who knows me, knows one ain’t enough 😏

Which part of Adam do you like the best?

His face - it’s so emotive and expressive! His eyes, those lips, that smile that launches a gazillion ships. His hands, his strong-ass arms. That glorious mane of hair. Have I mentioned them tiddies and the tree-trunk thighs?! Oh, and when he flexes his back, and...

Uh... let’s just say, everything Adam? 

Favorite Star Wars Movie

The Last Jedi was the most beautifully written and shot movie in the entire franchise, with a depth of characterization and exploration of symbolism that was brilliant. This will always rate as the best for me. A close second, and one I will always love, is Empire Strikes Back. That was quintessential Star Wars and an amazingly good watch - snark, action, angst, love, betrayal, rescue, OMFG!

What do you like to write / draw / paint the most?

Until I started writing Reylo, I’d never been able to write fiction. I could never visualize the stories. And once I started, I haven’t been able to stop! I’ll write anything Reylo, I’ll try writing anything at least once (so, yeah, there may be dark fic as well one day!). My style defaults to either mildly angsty, or humour-laced fluff, or depraved smut. So, not sure what that says about me 😂

Your TRoS Prediction

Bendemption. Reylo. *mic drop*

If you were an aesthetic... (colors, images, feels....)

Blacks, Reds, Greys, slashes of bright turquoise and white and ochre. Blue and white-striped awnings shading an alfresco cafe, overlooking a green ocean. Bright, city lights, reds and yellows glinting off the black water of a bay. A busy airport, with the scents of perfume from Duty-Free as you zoom past it.

If you were a candy bar, what would your name be?

The Ever-lasting Gobstopper 😂

What's your ideal environment for writing / creating?

In a hotel room, on my own. In the back of cab, in the window-seat of an airplane. At my desk, looking out through the window as the breeze blows through the trees, and the Burn This playlist keeps going on repeat. 

Are you a dom or sub?

Both? Both is good.

What's the most exotic/wierd place you've gotten intimate?

On the back of a bike, in the middle of the night, stopped at a traffic intersection.

What's your kink?

Size. Hands. Humour. Fidelity, and yet threesomes (go figure, I’m depraved). Mild Dom. Intelligence and thoughtfulness. Hair. Fuck it, Adam.

Use three words to describe yourself

Loyal, funny, organized-chaos (its a thing, trust me!)

Meaning behind your nick / ID name

I’ve always had Taz as a nickname, for the Warner Bros Tasmanian Devil (yes, I’ve been known to be exactly like that! 😂). Wren is a nod to Kylo Ren, and the fact that one of the earliest fanfics I read had Rey naming her son ‘Wren’ as a backhanded pointer to Kylo! So I’m, Taz, a Knight of Ren.

Are you a big spoon or little spoon?

I can be both, till I fall asleep. Then, pls leave me tf alone 😬😁

Do you like it rough or soft?

Both - why choose?!

Favorite fic you read

There are so very many in this amazing fandom! The one that I’ve loved from the beginning, though, is The Art of Broken Pieces - a beautifully written Bendemption fic. 

Favorite fic you wrote or favorite art you made

God, this is hard! My recent favorites are Brooklyn Bridge Blues, Caught Between Beats, and A Taste For Two - I like that I’m able to explore a variety of stories and emotions through them. I’m most proud of Confidences To A Stranger because I was able to explore a storytelling medium that I hadn’t before. 

Favorite SW character besides Kylo and Rey

Padme Amidala - she reminds me of my mother and grandmother, both of whom were strong women, who got shit done, while always taking care of their people. She was a queen in more than just name. Han Solo - I am weak for a scoundrel/villain/bad boy in a leather jacket, with a hardass, snarky exterior that hides a heart of gold. The reluctant hero.💙

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