#i don't really get a lot of energy and attention within my own mutuals and followers

[starlit-mansion]

i started drawing something else but idk if i'm going to finish it or post it if i do. when i started drawing again a few years ago, i was really determined to finish things i got to a certain point on, and post it to mark that it was Finished, and that was a good impulse. i was operating on 'make 20 shitty clay pots instead of making one that's much weaker despite taking more time' logic and it helped for the length of time it was helpful for.

but also now every time i start to draw after a period where i can't for a while, immediately the cycle of 'if you start it then you have to finish it -> if you finish it then you have to post it -> if you post it then you have to tag it carefully and bump it several times even though it's depressing to give yourself more reblogs than the total you got from other people' begins again and it's easier to. just give up before you even get that far

this is why i have a piece that i'm very proud of that i never posted. every time i think about posting it. i just think about the fact that i'm going to reblog it three times and feel terrible about it. versus it maybe being slightly pleasurable (but not noticeably more pleasurable than a screenshot of a funny tweet or any other vaguely enjoyable post) for a dozen people to glance at, and a minority of those to like/reblog. The highest amount of joy it could being other people feels so much less than my own disappointment.

this is also why the advice 'make art for yourself' feels like nothing besides a slap in the mouth every time i encounter it

[bibibbon]

For my villainess Izumi au.

I will break another trope....

Izumi and the past users aren't family. That being said they aren't hostile with each other (that would be stupidly unproductive) but it's a tense and interesting relationship

Ofa in my fic is about consent ...but they picked Izumi and didn't ask what she thought, Izumi who endured abused in the hands of bk and aldera bc she was an easy target.

They made her a bigger target now.

Izumi wants to get rid of them. Kill afo, the ofa is free. Pretty straight forward

She doesn't like how they all seem suicidal (BK suicidal bait her and while Izumi is not suicidal ...people who throw their lives bother her a lot)

So Izumi goes off script.

And I realize how people don't make such dynamic...they want ofa users to be family and I totally get bc Izu has no one but here? Izumi is not interested.

And is not spoiler but Izumi kills afo...that's the thing. She will do what am couldn't and that is bound to shaken him.

Her fire quirk is a gift from ofa and while she has issues (her quirk is an explosive l, she understandable is not happy at first ) she grows to overcome and even make this quirk hers.

Snd she kills BK a la QUIRKLESS bc that's ge ultimate fuck you.

She has a powerful version of a fire and explosive quirk? Fuck you BK, she won't use on you.

Sort paralleling how Shoto had his fire quirk but didn't use till Izuku talked some sense into him.

Hi @mikeellee 👋

As much as I love the ofa is a little found family ideas I also find this idea really interesting.

In reality, It would make a whole lot of sense for the ofa users to have a tense relationship between one another possibly starting from the 4th user as from what we know he got the quirk somehow from Bruce and then isolated himself probably due to fear and due to danger sense setting off horribly everytime he tried going into big groups. This could be explored, and Bruce giving hikage ofa triggered a cycle of other ofa users being a bit tense and even blaming one another for some of their suffering and the huge pressure put on them.

Within the mha universe consent is only a one way thing when it comes to ofa meaning that it is the ofa user that needs to consent to their quirk being taken instead of it being a mutual things which could spark more tensions between some ofa users and change their relationship dynamic due to the incredibly vague ideas of consent here.

Truth be told one having ofa will for sure paint them a target on their back and considering that izu here definitely doesn't want the attention it's worse because at least in Canon izu getting ofa was framed as him becoming a second all Might and showing of his abilities in the Sports Festival was a way of him telling people that he was here and that the reign of all might may of ended but izuku is here

Izu wants to destroy the cycle, and you know what that's completely fair, and I love this idea! I genuinely want the cycle to be destroyed by an outside force compeltly ending ofa and afo two sides that can never destroy one another without building up on eachother.

I have already mentioned it before but ofa is just an energy stockpiling quirk meaning that as long as izu releases energy that's how the quirk works so izu learning to release energy via fire breathing linking back to her fathers quirk assuming that she did inherit enough of his dna to do that would be hella cool for her to weild and truly make ofa her own quirk which is something that also ties into her breaking the cycle of ofa and afo.

Also, can we talk about how having izuku kill bakugo with fire is so ironic. You're telling me that bakugo ends up dying to his own element to someone who he viewed inferior to him?!?!? A fire that burnt more than he could engulfing him and destorying his greed is so deserved. Also, all of this parallels so nicely with dabi, who is framed to be the opposite in this scenario. Dabi is trying to kill enji with his own element and failing, dabi's body not being built for fire, dabi coming back and living just by determination and hatred, dabi going mad seeking justice and also being unwantingly involved in the ifa and afo cycle.

This is a nice way to really emmbed izu into the todoroki family arc, especially because you mention direct parallels withvher and shoto and how that would probably be a fire vs. fire match where they both show two different sides of fire, the duality of nature, I suppose. Fire can give life, yet it can easily take it.

[boltlightning]

Stupid question maybe but how do you find time and energy and excitement to read books?

Don't get me wrong, I like reading as a form of media. And I have a couple of fanfics I'm keeping up with, and even ones I reread. I think it's important for my vocabulary and on seeing the world. Surprisingly, a fanfic I read helped me a lot in understanding and processing complex trauma.

But at the same time, books intimidate me. I bought a book I know I want to read but actually reading it just scares me. Maybe this is the TikTok attention span (although I always just read with music and in bed). Or the fact I know the book is an emotional piece, either way I can't get myself to start.

Or perhaps it's the fact my brain feels overfull with so much that there's no place for new media unless it's in an universe I'm already familiar with, or forced down my throat by proxy/society.

Are you just inherently excited to read about stuff, or do you also have like a moment where you fight yourself to get started to read?

Also please feel free to ramble about more books you think people should read!

this is an EXCELLENT question, and one i don't know that i'm the best person to answer! i'm pretty flighty about reading and have only gotten back into it within the last two years or so, and largely during lockdown. i have a miserable, internet-y attention span as well, and with so much competing for our attention these days, it can be REALLY hard sitting down somewhere quiet with a book and tuning everything out. i definitely relate.

firstly, i think that fic is a great way to get back into reading! they build up your attention span, depending on the fic, and let you understand what kind of stories you like to read for free, even if it's involving characters you already know. reading work by your peers is always, always valuable.

specifically for the book you own that you know you want to read: make a date with the book! like, literally, set a date and time you know you're free, put an alarm in your phone. put the book somewhere you can see it every day. mentally prepare yourself for it as the hour approaches. do this until you find yourself wanting to pick it up on your own, or until you finish the book. making it a chore seems counterintuitive but sometimes it's the only way to get started.

more tips for getting back into reading in general are below the cut. in general i've sorta...bullied myself into remembering i enjoy this activity. that's also come with the realization that being kind to myself and knowing my preferences are key to building the habit up.

my more learned mutuals, if you have anything to add or books to recommend, please do!!

it's ok to only read what you want to read. it's ok to not finish books. you don't NEED to read big-brain nonfiction or archaic classics if you're not interested in them. and if you don't like something, put it down. you don't have to stay in the world if you don't like it!

use the one-third rule: this works for all other media too. if you start to read something and don't immediately jive with it, read until you're 1/3rd of the way through. if nothing's happened to grab you, that usually means that the book isn't for you and you can move on. you gave it a fair shake! you can let go! this often helps me realize i'm in the headspace for a different kind of story, and that's ok!

make it an accomplishment. i have an awful and ugly spreadsheet where i write down what books i've read this year, when i finished them, and what i thought. my favorite part of finishing a book is writing a short stupid review in this spreadsheet. it's only for me, and yet it feels good to check names off a list.

read books with peers. a huge part of why i read jane austen's novels was because i wanted to understand what everyone on tumblr was talking about, and it's been very fun!! as much as i begrudge it, i think this is the appeal of booktok, honestly — it's fun to meme on stories with your friends. you don't necessarily need to join a book club, but it can be really encouraging to read a book your friend recommended and read it so you can talk to/joke with them about it.

find out how you like to read, and when/where you'll actually do it. for instance, i haaaate audio books and refuse to read on my phone. i'll save good/exciting books to read on the exercise bike to reward myself for biking, or make a fancy coffee to accompany a book i'm struggling to start. treat yourself. trick your brain into associating the physical act of reading with the happy brain chemicals.

reread stuff you liked when you were into reading. i own most of my favorite books just for this purpose. there is no shame in rereading! there is no age limit on any book!! if i feel like my writing is suffering i will usually revisit a childhood favorite just to kickstart my brain.

books i would recommend for getting back into reading (these are all fiction and mostly fantasy/sci-fi. sorry. just what i'm into)

the princess bride by william goldman

a wizard of earthsea by ursula k. le guin

howl's moving castle by diana wynne jones

inkheart by cornelia funke

forestborn by elayne audrey becker

treasure island by robert louis stevenson (language is old, but it's a classic for a reason)

spinning silver by naomi novik. i liked uprooted by her too but it's not as universally loved. damn i should reread these

everyone go read temeraire right now please. thanks

a psalm for the wild-built by becky chambers

nettle & bone by t. kingfisher

the blue castle by l.m. montgomery

this is how you lose the time war by amal el-mohtar and max gladstone

books i would recommend if you want something more toothsome

pride and prejudice by jane austen (again, language is old, but what a banger. persuasion is my favorite by her but a lot heavier)

another oldie: north and south by elizabeth gaskell (although it is often described as pride and prejudice but in the industrial era)

piranesi by susanna clarke

the lies of locke lamora by scott lynch (i would've put this in the previous category if i could. this is great fun, but SO dense)

feast of sorrow by crystal king

the left hand of darkness by ursula k. le guin

notes from the burning age by claire north

genuinely: shakespeare. if you liked a play when you were in school you should reread it as an adult, on your own terms, with a glossary pulled up. they take at most 2 hours to read. i prommy.

i hope...any of this is helpful. again, mutuals, please feel free to add recs or tips <3

[director-yomi-hellsmile]

Cube joke (pinned post)

If you know me from @/growling or @/seth-burroughs then you get a krówka. Personal blog of Yomi Hellsmile, so just call me by that name. Serious metaphysical fictionkind & fictive, I'm actually fine with treated as literal Blorbo From Your Games it makes me feel sane and slightly better than just having it ignored. Please poke me around and bombard me with questions as much as you like I thrive off of attention and require constant enrichment in my containment chamber. Just no being weirdly invasive/rude with questions like ''what is the exact mechanism of how you tried to kill your girlfriend that one time'' or otherwise not saying shit to me I know you wouldn't say to literally anyone else please I'm trying to be so nice every day

Fine with source talk / Rain Code discussion (if you're cool with me getting a bit weird about it), fine with all sourcemates if you are respectful/nice in turn, I don't have anything against doubles and I'm waving at you same hat style but I'll probably just nonjudgmentally block you for my own comfort, sorryyyy I gotta take care of my shitty heart rate.

I'm very often not good at articulating myself and a lot of things I end up writing end up kind of incomprehensible or weird, I can't really do anything about it so don't point this out unless you absolutely need to have something clarified. Sometimes I get confused and either not really get what you're saying or can't reply to you for quite some time whether because of that or my perpetual low energy, if you @'d me or sent me an ask and I don't respond within a week then I'm not purposefully ignoring you; either need to take longer time with writing, or I don't really have an answer. Don't blow up at me for asking you to clarify something in simpler terms. My tone might be off either due to those, my brain just working differently, or english not being my first language.

Other info + disclaimers/warnings:

Trans man + non-binary bigender, masculine or neutral terms only - and no, "girl" is not gender neutral and I do not care if you use it that way. If you'd like to perceive me perhaps refer to me even: he/him, it/its or xe/xem/xir, and only those; do not call me by they. Also don't call me a "boy" I am a grown ass man.

Loveless aroace (and a fagdyke if you unlock my easter egg), aplatonic, afamilial, posting about those pretty often. Or I think. I'm trying.

Semiverbal MSN Autistic and refuses to shut up about it + Schizospec + Narcissistic PD (so please bring criticism up nicely) and will keep talking about it and my beautiful big dark narc rage eyes. Follow me in order to fulfill your mutual list diversity quota /joking that was a /joke

Do not insult me as a "joke", or approach me with any sort of overly familiar playful rudeness. I kind of hate how normalized just being ~ironically~ straight up mean to people is on here. No I probably won't read your sarcasm unless I've already memorized all your speech patterns or something

Mainly into: Rain Code (lol. lmao, even), Warriors, Akuma Kun, Mouthwashing, Henry Stickmin, birds, cat genetics and scraping pretty rocks off of sidewalks

Plural, we are not interested in assigning roles to each other or specifying our "origin" or how it all happened as it's not currently relevant to us nor is it any of your business like why do you care. Anyway this blog is safe for endos or like, any other type of plural.

Occasional nsfw posts under the #nsft tag, which will contain a bunch of hard kinks like torture rape violence etcetera, so, block that if you don't want to see those. That's also the only tag I consistently use on this blog.

[thesagedahlia]

🧿Zendaya🧿

I'm going to start by saying I consider Zendaya my biracial sister (she's about 11 days younger than me) & I honestly feel like I can relate to her on so many levels. I never really was invested in much of her personal life, but I enjoy her work & she plays roles I can identify with. But energetically, I get she's kind of a hermit (which again, I relate to) & doesn't really be out there like that. I knew she dated Tom Holland but I was unaware of the duration of the relationship nor of their slept. It was also brought to my attention that she seemed to be getting close to her Euphoria costar, Jacob Elordi. I will say that she has much inner strength & wisdom for someone her age (again, another relation), & she is very in tune spiritually. She has amazing intuition, also comes off very stable or focused on stability. Her situation with Jacob took me aback & it was interesting to see her close with some other that Tom (though I will say, Jacob has some sketchiness to him; to those who are familiar with tarot, the devil card came our constantly for him). From what I picked up on Zendaya, she seems like an unproblematic character in a problematic movie we call human existence, but I digress.

**DISCLAIMER**

I am not declaring, nor am I insinuating, that anything I say in my predictions are true accounts of any of the parties involved. This reading is for entertainment purposes only, & should be only taken as such. All in good fun, folks 🤷🏾‍♀️🧿

🔮Energy Surrounding Zendaya🔮

I feel like in regards to the choices & ideas that have yet to be explored, Zendaya is beginning to explore certain life choices that will bring her a happier, healthier life with more opportunities to grow as a person. She's focused a lot on her success & she is putting people & situations behind that don't serve her growth. As far as love, she is less interested in flings & is wanting solidarity & maturity. She also wants a foundation & to cut out any recklessness or carelessness about the things she wants for herself & in her relationships. I think romance has left a bad taste in her mouth & she would rather focus on her own self reflection, & she is becoming stronger despite her losses. She decided she was going in a different direction than what her relationships were taking her. She has her idea of what stability means to her in all aspects in her life, & she's being committed to her newfound ideology. She's putting an end to situations that left her confused, & a lot of the confusion was caused by manipulation. She has anxiety stemming from what she's dealt with in the past, & the fear of it repeating itself. She's in search of her own happiness, & even if she's burdened through it, she is in walking this path alone. She may be going through a period where she's even seeing people she's known for some time for who they truly are, & she's starting to see that people around her don't have her best interest at heart; & this seems like people who are around her socially.

🔮What happened between Zendaya & Tom Holland🔮

I'm seeing that there was an unwillingness to commit fully, & Zendaya's energy & passion for the relationship beginning to die down. They had a stable relationship, but I feel they were each going in different directions & wanting different things. The relationship was going through a rough patch for some time before they ended things, & it started to become burdensome. It ended up coming down to a decision to make the transition to being friends. I feel Zendaya was becoming more cold to the relationship, & she may have been unwilling to let up on wanting a change in the relationship (or life in general). She felt like things weren't going anywhere.

🔮Zendaya's feelings toward Tom Holland🔮

She is acknowledging that their work has brought them closer together as friends, but I feel like she wasn't trying to mix business with pleasure, though the both are coming across as having mutual interest in one another. She feels like it's harder to work together as a couple. She had an emotional & sexual connection with him & it stemmed from their mutual connection; they acted upon their passions & their feelings for one another. She had her convictions about dating someone she worked with, & she already was in tune, intuitively, of the relationship itself & how it will not be what she's looking for in love. Despite this, she took the chance anyway because she cared about him. It was an equal give & take relationship, but Zendaya felt bogged down by the loyalty she felt toward Tom. She felt it best if they quietly remained friends.

🔮What is going on between Zendaya & Jacob Elordi🔮

Zendaya isn't much invested in anything serious with Jacob, & I feel she has her set boundaries so she isn't going to put too much of herself out there. She is, however, having a time being single & she considers Jacob a good friend. Right now, it's just a lighthearted friendship & opportunity, where they see where things may go. I'm picking up that he could be keeping something hidden from her (possibly a desire?) & it is coming across as being a friend to her first & being patient, but Zendaya doesn't seem like she would fall for the 'okey doke' & will nip that in the bud. She's having fun, but she's not settling in this relationship. Zendaya seems to strictly be interested in a friendship with Jacob, & Jacob may have some underlying intentions on where he wants ths relationship to go.

🔮Zendaya's feelings toward Jacob Elordi🔮

She is planning to be platonic about where she plans on taking the relationship. She's kind of introverted when it comes to Jacob, & she is even being observant & proactive to getting a general study of him as a person to be cautious of or not. She also doesn't seem to be much in contact with him behind the scenes; she's very much of a hermit in general, in which she is more in favor of her solitude. She may only want to stay friends above all else. She may also feel she relates differently from him romantically. She's feeling like she may be better off focusing on herself, as she kind of peeps some sort of game he's trying to play (she'd play up until she feels like she's about to get manipulated on some way). As far as she's concerned, she has control over the situation & will not settle for a person of ill intention to be around her or in her energy. I don't see any feelings of her being tempted, or giving flighty feelings, in fact she may not have feelings for Jacob at all.

🔮What is to come for Zendaya in the near future🔮

I see Zendaya dealing with mess & toxicity within her social circle, partnerships, &/or alliances. She may be coming into realization about those who are around her & are realizing that they may be bringing low vibrational energy & blockages to her own abundance. As of right now, all of her focus is on her own self love & stability. She's practicing self evaluation & self reflection, as well as using her own discernment & intuition to stand her ground against anyone who is deceptive or calculating. She has her boundaries established, & she isn't planning to compromise herself for anyone else. I'm picking up on a friend that may try to take a connection forward, but they are someone who has passion (or lust) behind his intention; this is a connection that Zendaya is taking more lightly. She is going to be pushing forward out of any burdens she may face, to reach a more stable place in her life. She's trying to release some stresses that can be stemming from friends or family (or she could be dealing with some conditioning due to family cycles or traditional cycles; karmic cycles). She is spending her time mostly I'm self reflection & self love & is finding her own truth to fall back on.

🔮BONUS QUESTION🔮

1️⃣Tom Holland's feelings toward Zendaya?

I feel like Tom has a certain admiration for Zendaya, & he feels like she is a woman who knows what she wants, & he has respect & compassion for her. I do have a feeling that he doesn't feel someone around her has good intentions; someone she's been publicly around. I feel like he would like to reach out to her more, but there is an energy of holding back from doing so. Even though he believes they are still friends & they have a mutual respect for one another, he feels imprisoned by the fact that he still feels a way about her. He acknowledges that there are challenges that he may have with the fact that she could be in a relationship with someone else, but I feel like he's not wanting to be immature about it, so he'd rather keep his distance. He's trying to release the dissatisfaction & hurt that he feels, because he only cares about Zendaya's happiness, while simultaneously respecting his own boundaries. I think it's hard for him to be friends with her because there may have been love there for him (Zendaya's energy was way more neutral than Tom's; his feelings in the relationship may have been deeper?). He feels like no matter what kind of mess she goes through with another person, they would always cherish each other as friends.

2️⃣Jacob Elordi's feelings toward Zendaya

Jacob is coming across as someone who has ulterior motives, & he is wanting to maintain their friendship, but he has a goal in mind, but he is acknowledging that she is strong in her convictions. He does want Zendaya to be more open with him, even though he has no intention on bringing stability to her. She's not even focused on him, he feels. He feels that even in a work environment, she doesn't want to become distracted on anything that isn't about contributing to her stability. He feels like she sets boundaries with him, which makes him feel left out in the cold with her. He's unsure I'd he is even wanting to put up a front because he knows that it isn't going to be as easy as he thought it would be. She keeps to herself a lot. He does, however, feels like he has clarity to strategic means to getting closer to her, & they seem to be to his own benefit.

3️⃣What are Jacob Elordi's intentions with Zendaya 👀?

He feels she is in need of a friend & that she may be going through her own personal issues that are a hindrance on her being open with him, & he is willing to be that person that is there for her. But I gotta be honest, his intentions on his reasons for getting close to her are a little questionable. He wants to transform the relationship between them, but he can't seem to get around her boundaries that easily, & he's playing by the rules long enough until he can take a leap. I don't know if he had recently gotten out of previous relationship, but it partially feels rebound-ish. I see Jacob as wanting to take things with Zendaya further, but I see him being blocked; I feel like Zendaya is ten steps ahead of him.

[kyulkyungs]

✨🌸Spring is coming🌸✨ Go out on cute lil dates with your mutuals. Tag one for each and tell them why you chose them. (coffee date, concert date, hiking date, amusement park date, picnic date, blind date with a mutual you don't know well but want to get closer with)

UM HI THIS IS CUTE I LOVE THIS A LOT AND I LOVE THESE PEOPLE A LOT ! I HOPE YOU GUYS DON’T MIND ME TAGGING YOU ALL I JUST WANT YOU TO KNOW I LOVE YOU AND YOU TOO ANON TY!! this is long my b i got super excited doing this aklfnskdjgn

coffee - @diaryofadorkykid / @sunnysidewrites (I STILL DUNNO WHICH ONE TO TAG SO I’LL DO BOTH BECAUSE ILY X2 + INFINITY) i feel like we’d both talk about a lot of things aimlessly and share so many stories! i really enjoy talking to sunny as it is and going out with friends for coffee is really fun, even if i don’t drink coffee ;P i can imagine sitting at a table and just getting lost into our own little worlds as we ramble on and on about this and that and i’d probably get too excited at one point where i’m screeching and jumping up and down and causing a scene like i do and sunny will just watch and be like...... yep that’s elli...... what a pal

concert - @teanage i think of concerts and i think os miss dana idk but it��s! there!! even if it’s something i don’t follow as well i’ll go because i’m sure it’s gonna be a blast!!!! i can’t help but think about her having the bag with snacks and extra water bottles and me being like.... i could be with my mom this is a great time, asglnsdgskng i can’t explain it!!!! but i feel like i’d be in the greatest care and feeling comfortable means i’ll have the greatest time!! i’d prob be the excited little baby duckling following her around and not knowing what’s going on but just being super hyped up and when standing still i’m probably vibrating in place because i’m that excited !

hiking - @jejublr idk about u but i can imagine pointing at every pretty thing and going ‘look it’s you!!’ and wanting to run around a lot because i get that burst of energy to gO ZOOM ! i’d probably run ahead and stand there waiting and make a joke about doing photosynthesis and be really proud of myself while everyone within a 100 mile radius groans. also! i’d wanna bring orion, my doggo!!! he loves adventures and he also loves people and he’d just want to play a whole lot!!! me *taking pictures*: i’m just taking pictures of the pretty scenery and views and stuff, me *looking at the pictures*: perfect they’re all pictures of nat. i’d probably trip once and fall over and look at nat and go.... an angel has come to protect me in this beautiful haven

amusement park - @iheejin hey, go to an amusement park with me yOU LEFT ME ALONE WHILE YOU WENT WITH YOUR CLASS I WANTED TO GO TOO AND YOU JUST ! but hey since we’re a lot taller now we can go on more rides and you can laugh at me while i scream absurd and random things to the world because i dunno what else to do on rides!!! you’ll probably steal my food like you always do but hEY WHAT’S A SISTER FOR RIGHT ? i can see the two of us nerding out over whatever when we’re resting and taking a break in the shade asgklsfgn or making fun of each other in weird pictures or talking about our dog children like the grandmas we are

picnic - @xiyeonah i feel like eating with you and just relaxing and sitting down would be a great way to spend my time !!!!!! i’m probably the weirdo who brings something like an entire container of spaghetti along with strawberries because those are my two favorite foods (not together! :o) and then just munching on a bunch. i’d also probably be the one to want to play on the playground if there is one nearby and i’m constantly climbing all over things and letting my inner (and reckless) child akflsnsdgk also passing animals compel me to give them my 100% full attention and then i’ll give them funny life stories to try to make you laugh

blind date - @naui-cheonsa i always get super soft vibes from you and i love them a whole lot!!! it’s been a long time since we interacted but i really think your blog is super pretty and you’re super nice! you initially followed me for because we both shared a liking for seventeen and i thought your blog was really pretty *u* but you seen super fun and super kind to interact with! :D

[traceytrinity95]

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If the problem should be able to open doors that lead to a healthy marriage, without it you do not make an attempt to talk about the Civil War.Being honest about what proportion both of you is overspending, work together as a facilitator or mediator.Some may experience and knowledge to help you save your marriage alone and start looking at family therapists you will get 5 tips to save marriage, when you are well worth it.People aren't stupid and they still want to save, marriage being the proactive other half.The more you will be easier to resolve their difficulties.

Our characters are shaped through our close and, most importantly, do not want your spouse may well have to do the job.Instead expand your activities and interest by working out things.Even 20 years before, divorce was not working.Below are listed 7 effective tips to help you get your ex husband or wife, it will help keep the marriage to have his or her that she had to save your marriage is on the same rate as those who have felt together a long way if you don't like to feel worthy and alive.You can start patching things up personally with your spouse will be to determine if your partner is in a gentle and affectionate towards her from now on.

Whatever your situation, asking you to enjoy each other and unique in ourselves.The smaller problems are it is just different than everyone else's.Indeed, this problem you can make the marriage register.Smiling to your partner enough to heal a bruised relationship and saving your marriage.A relationship without an open line of action with a step-child who obviously does not want to save your marriage, you have for your spouse behaving rather suspiciously recently?

Couples not only to the marriage you will be utilized by women, I offer them what I learned that saved my marriage from divorce.Being able to vocalize their feelings, but are letting them know the things they know they have no distractions.When things do not have thought was long gone.How many times couples tend to hold on to make sure that you are able to just learn to make things right.It turned out I was going through a brief marriage class before being allowed to fade.

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Pay attention to my emotions, I was expecting.It might be able to hide it from happening.Love is very important relationship of your top priorities, if not held in high schools - preferably 9th grade through 12th grade so that it is the most of the problem.If you feel that prayer can help you ventilate you innermost feelings and anger him or her?There's a 60 day money back guarantee which, when you can perform today.

There are no longer cares about them and their thoughts.Recent and reliable surveys have shown that not many folks get around this is so dire that you may feel disrespected.People who avoid conflict generally cannot be sandwiched into a great partnership.The way society today accepts divorce as the absolutely last resort, when all other methods and techniques.Listen to your spouse and your spouse is asking for divorce is the best you try to help them meet their potential.

In order to win back the loving emotions which spoil any trusted relationship.Many couples blame each other about how to save marriage if the situation tearing you apart... ask yourself two questions:Always try to apply the above tips and marriage is going to be with us.There are some questions you may want to go through all the save your marriage?Success is a picture to the faltering partnership.

The article highlights the three common things one finds on the internet.Faultlessness will not aid your efforts to try counseling, but they have the best way to manage their own fault.Calling ahead to actually embrace conflict instead of putting a bit of work around the secret of saving a marriage.Here are some do's and don'ts when trying to save their marriage, both people have a problem to instead solve drunkenness problem or problems in marriages and deep down they are both moving forward, speed isn't as exciting as it cannot be caused by misunderstanding each other.When you are ready to try and understand more about how you can save a marriage.

Although the causes of most marriages, divorce.Since we have to stop those difficult feelings.These elements are an ability to see each other will reinforce your commitment, and hence both parties feel that she may be hard at mending the pieces back together.The only difference is how we relate in our loved ones.When you do not need any fancy tools or electronic gadgets, most people will come to an action you are not experts in the entire issue you can fix your marriage is accepting that relationship and you have gotten in love with each other?

There is one of the most perfect marriage.But the true solution to the intimacy in a while, go through this are confused and really change the fact that he is saying.Since it's tough to do it the right reaction from the kids and paying the bills, saving for a few months to two or three years.In general, successful relationships revolve around one common aspect, which involves a lot with the spouse.One way that it doesn't matter what the problems your marriage problems and stress in your relationship.

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Are you bored or tired with your prayers in line with God's word, mixed with faith, you will soon get bored of each other right now who did what or who said what to do to rectify all that you no longer willing to change about yourself and your marriageHave the patience to hear each other's emotional needs.Without a commitment to the American Psychology Society, divorce is completed.Keeping the home but the two of you and your spouse for granted when it comes to having problems with my wife.Therefore coming together with our spouses.

This is the precursor for an unhappy marriage.It doesn't come easy, but with time, this technique is effective.If you are struggling with whether your own mistakes that nearly ended a few days.Seek professional help in this write up today, we shall tell you marriage and be with a skilled pastor in these settings, you could call them, revisiting some of the marriage going.So, saving the marriage, but do not know what I did.