#i don't like being called masc and i'm not non-binary i'm sorry if that's confusing (fair) but the heart wants what the heart wants

[saint-vagrant]

once again for anyone knew or unaware: i only accept HIM & HIS and words "traditionally associated with men" or whatever the hell. i try to put my or my characters' names, pronouns and/or relevant terms in either the alt text, caption, tags, or all of the above— although there's not been too much deviation, if them or myself ever end up using something different for ourselves i'll be sure to let you know. and if you don't know, i'd prefer you simply ask.

thanks a million!

[blue-thief]

respectfully asking you to drop those trans hcs for the bllk boys!!!

yeah sure ofc i'm so glad you asked!

i'll split them up based on which NEL team they're on for the sake of my own sanity

(i don't actually hc ALL of them to be trans so i'll just mention the ones i actually have a hc for lol)

bastard munchen

kaiser - THE most trans-coded of the bunch imo. like the whole thing with the blue rose tattoo to represent "turning the impossible into reality" and "defying the natural order of things". and his full name is "michael kaiser" which can be interpreted as "god's chosen emperor". there's no way bro was given that name at birth. he's also coded to have religious trauma which would become much more layered if you interpret him as trans. he's also, interestingly enough, the only one to NOT have a metal chain around his neck on his cover. he's the only one with glass. a lot of ppl have interpreted this as him having a fragile ego, but glass can also be taken to symbolize transformation (i just pulled this from a random website talking about the spiritual meaning of glass lmao). ALSO also him being annoyed by his long hair in ness's flashback. trans. plus his insecurity concerning how good he is in comparison to (who he perceives as) cis players just screams insecure trans masc who's relying too much on toxic masculinity to affirm his gender to his peers lmao.

ness - he totally thought he would have to fight his parents on this but they were surprisingly cool with it + even helped him w puberty blockers and stuff. he still hates them for the anti-magic stuff but at least they're not transphobic?

isagi - don't ask me to explain this i just get those vibes

noa - (reporter) "what is your opinion on trans people with an unfair biological advantage in sports?" (noa, a trans man who transitioned wayy before he got famous) "i AM trans people with an unfair biological advantage in sports"

pxg

shidou - he just has bigender vibes man. japanese isn't big on third-person pronouns, but once he starts getting better at english, he'd def start collecting pronouns like pokemon cards. he figured out his identity through chainsaw man ("wow denji's just like me fr but so is angel devil but so is asa but so is-")

ubers

(i have nothing for any of the ubers. feel free to prove me wrong)

fc barcha

bachira - non-binary but he doesn't know it yet (any and all pronouns once he does figure it out)

manshine city

chigiri - peak gender, everyone confuses him for a girl. he uses masculine language, and while he sometimes acts annoyed when ppl call him princess, he doesn't bother correcting them. does anyone actually know chigiri's gender? no. does he know what it is? yes. will he tell anyone? no. he thinks it's funny to keep ppl guessing with the constant contradictions

reo - i didn't actually hc him as trans at first but the post i was complaining about earlier was dunking on this hc specifically so uhhh yeah he's trans now sorry i don't make the rules <3. his dad's company also pioneered top surgery that doesn't leave any scars which is why no one in bllk has any. like with ness, his dad is surprisingly not transphobic but he sucks in other ways lmao (but now that you think of it, his whole struggle with wanting to live a life completely different from what his parents had in mind for him IS a very trans-coded backstory)

[my-castles-crumbling]

Hey Cas,

So I've been following you for a while and I've seen some of your asks including dancer anon and the advice you gave was really good and I think it helped a lot. That being said I am here to ask a few questions relating to gender,so if you don't mind I'll try to give you a little bit of context: So, I was raised far away from all of the Lgbtq+ community and I was shocked to find out about it. My family is very conservative and are completely against all of that but, I'm not. Anyway when I was around 9-10 I kinda started really feeling confused about my gender but my parents had always labeled me a Tom boy so I kind of just went with it, I dressed more masc but that was really it I didn't like being around guys at all and my friends were still all girls really the only changes were I played basketball and wore basketball shorts and plain t-shirts 24/7. When I was 11 I kind of tried out they/them pronouns and it was fine though it might not count as trying them out since I just sorta referred to myself as non-binary in my head it was okay. Then I did the same thing with gender fluidity swapping mainly just between she/her and they/them but it wasn't what I was looking for. I never really considered being male but guys had always made me a bit uncomfortable I don't think I have ever really had any like traumatic experiences with men and my mom was wierded out when I let it slip that I found pretty much all men (except my dad who I love) intimidating especially after she had told me about some horrible things that had happened to girls who had been kidnapped by men. I tried agender but it wasn't for me I felt connected to gender but like loosely and it didn't really freak me out unless I was referred to as male which has only happened a handful of times. Really I don't mind my body except for my breasts which I despise most of the time (sorry if this is to much) and I feel like I am stuck he to some amount of femininity.Also I'm not really bothered being called pretty or beautiful even if I subconsciously link those terms to something feminine and sometimes I feel pretty by myself but typically only by myself but I hate being called a woman or lady or being told to be ladylike. So my main question is are there any genders for a vague connection to gender itself but still linked to femininity? Thank you so much for reading through all those probably uneccesary details and giving me your time, please don't feel pressure to answer soon or at all and again thank you so much.

Love,anonymous

Hi!!! <3

First of all, I'm so sorry your family isn't very supportive.

As far as gender, here is a list of nonbinary identities that might work for you! Based on what you said about being somewhat linked to femininity, maybe check out demigirl?

<3

[sugaroto]

This got longer than I intended so title: trans/queer stuff/convos that happened recently with my friends

Tw, misgendering of cis person, deadname

The other day my trans friend accidentally misgendered a cis friend and I think she was ready to cry, or just really shocked with herself

Like we were walking and talking about something and she said "Πας καλά αγορ-🙊" (are you out of your mind bo-) and she just stopped there shocked

The cis girl didn't even seem to realize since the conversation continued, but trans friend stood there for a moment shocked, I'm pretty sure she apologized too

At first I thought "It's ok" since the cis girl didn't even blink about it but religious friend was next to trans friend like hey its ok and I go there too like hey its ok you didn't do it on purpose

And the other 2 girls were like why is she apologizing what happened? Did you step on her (bc they were walking weird before trying to keep their balance on a thing) and they were like yeah yeah that

And we were like see she didn't even notice it's ok

And she said yeah I just never expected myself to be in this side of it

Yeah that's it, but I have another two stories

So again (another day) we were walking and at some point I call cis girl (I guess that's her name in this post) "An independent woman" and religious friend goes like "woman?"

But there was something about the way she said it?

Oh also maybe I should mention cis girl is a masc lesbian and religious friend doesn't seem to understand some queer stuff

And im like yeah, she's a woman? And I don't remember the full conversation but I said something like unless she's trans which I hope she would have told us (so we wouldn't have been misgendering her this whole time) but she's not and we had a mini convo about her gender behind her back (literally cause she was walking in front of us)

And then I'm like "Hey [name] we've changed your gender" and she was like "Yeah. What.?" In confusion cause we didn't make much sense

And later that day we brought up again what religious friend said- oh yeah wait, at some point cis girl said "take my balls" or something and I think religious friend said something... I don't remember what

But she was confused so we brought up the earlier confusion and she was like no no forget it and another person was like don't be scared just tell us what you're confused about

so cis girl explained that she's a girl and that being masc doesn't make her a guy it's just how she dresses and all

Oh wait I think the convo might have started like

Cg: Take my balls

Rf: You have?

Cg: No

Me: Strip now (which I said as a joke)

And then somehow the confusion was brought up

Ok and last story

I accidentally said my trans friend's deadname

But not to refer to her

She bought a baby doll and we were like what will it be named and she wanted the doll to be non-binary

And I remembered a post that said greek non binary names could be xzy

(Since in greek there's not non binary names but some that sound neutral or are kind of unisex)

So I said "name" and as soon as it left my mouth I realized it was basically the girl version of her deadname which sounded the same and I'm like "I was thinking of [actress] I didn't think it. Forget it, sorry" and she was like yeah no we're not naming it that

[hannibalismos-jaaneman]

Right, hi. Since you replied on the question about how genderfluid people choose their sexuality.

Before I start asking questions because there are a lot of them, I'm sorry, I don't mean to make you uncomfortable or try to attack you, I just want to know because no one seems to be asking these questions in the exact wordings I want to. And I'm just confused, why not? Is being curious phobic? So yeah, I'm nit trying to be phobic, just curious and you can tell me if you feel uncomfortable at any point.

Now,

Of course I understand you just don't wake up and choose a gender, that sounds dumb and to an extent genderfluid-ohobic to me ngl. That's why I said they vary on a spectrum between feminity and masculinity, that includes leanings and neutrality towards gender too.

Just clear out these points to me-

So gay and lesbian are not hard defined terms to non binary folks? Like they may be to cis gender gays and lesbians but not to non binary folks? Like that seems fair in a way because if it's still hard defined then that would mean that one would have to use mlnb or wlnb (which personally I feel comfortable with using for nbs personally. I'm not being phobic or gatekeeping, loosely defined terms just don't sit very well with me. Of course I respect them at any rate. Pro-choice individual here but yeah-)

Also, when you say fem side and masc side, do you have a divide between those two? Like is the divide like a traditional kind of divide? You know traditional definitions and implications of being masc or fem?

Like do you think all these genders only exist because the two binary genders have some seriously messed up stereotypes? Like if we didn't have these stereotypes at all like the term woman wouldn't mean skirts and flowers and tenderness and painted nails and whatnot and the term man wouldn't mean just muscles and freedom and shit, would genders just not exist? Like is it all subjective and relative?

i am glad you're being so respectful anon, most people aren't and i appreciate that a lot. and not at all! please, being curious and asking questions is respectful to the highest degree, that is what anyone who cares would do. that shows that you want to know about us folks and listen to us and respect us and our ways of expressing ourselves. last time i checked them books, it was called being nice to people.

yes that's exactly how you would put it. and yeah, people who don't support genderfluid folks (or simply transphobes) do say stuff like that to us. they think we're pretentious and attention-seeking whores.

now onto your doubts-

okay so everyone seems to have a different view of understanding gays and lesbians so i'll put it in the simplest way possible that can be applied to define the two terms:

gays are people who are attracted to people of the same gender (earlier it was applied to men but not it's an umbrella term).

lesbians are nb, trans or cis women who are attracted nb, trans of cis women specifically.

everyone has a different perspective of looking at these terms because there's no strict way of defining them. lgbtq+ community is all about breaking the barriers of definitions, breaking the stigma of putting everyone in a box so there are no strict definitions for almost any identity, be it gender related or sexual.

okay, fem side and masc side are kinda vague for the community tbh. it's not like you can't wear a skirt on masc days or anything (that's just society being fucked up), it's more like how you feel that day. it's your way of talking, walking or generally presenting yourself to other people. it's really complicated because fem and masc sides have definitions that root from our regular stigmatic society. fem and masc sides are more dependant on our biology than society really. it's like on a masc day you wanna put on your binder and wear a man bun. fem side is more like you don't wanna wear your binder and put your hair in braids or a pony. it's more like that but yeah, because we're all brought up in a fucked up society that taught us that skirts are for girls and pants are for boys, that we talk of fem and masc sides. it's subjective, remove the gender assigning to stuff we all can do.

a big fat fucking yes to all of those questions anon. none of that fucked up nonsense would exist had society not created gender norms. thank you so much for asking that.

[ugh-fml]

I know people who use multiple pronouns, and they've never once asked me to use multiple per statement or interaction. All of them have indicated that just an alternation now and then or if they specifically state they feel more 'they' or 'he' that day is how to best navigate the use of their pronouns.

Also; a lot of physical traits and aesthetic preferences can be tied back to binary gender expectations and traditions. I'm female with a deeper voice and I used to feel horrible about it. Girls were always presented as dainty and feminine with these high, pretty voices. Combined with my adverse response to dresses and skirts because I'd much rather run around the fields and fight all the boys in shorts and a shirt and constantly being called a tomboy, for a long time I felt completely disconnected from my gender as a female.

I still used she/her pronouns and I knew I was a woman, but I felt like an imposter. I didn't braid my hair and wear makeup like everyone else at school. I didn't have a closet full of skirts and a dresser full of bracelets and hair bows and I wasn't delicate or skinny or pretty.

Now I'm older, more educated, and I've watched the world around me change in terms of what 'is' and 'isn't' correct, gender identity, sexuality identity, sociology and a range of other topics that have all combined to assert that, respectfully, I don't give a fuck.

I'm a girl. I still don't own any skirts. My voice actually got deeper and some days I still wonder if my parents secretly resent that they didn't get the spoiled little Princess all the other parents did, but I'm me and that's fine.

Some people never get out of that disconnect. Some people are so nuanced or fluctuating in their identity that, yes, specific aesthetic or physical traits impact how they feel and when.

Its not a big deal, its not your business, and you not understanding or respecting it doesn't make it invalid.

I'm very sorry, but this is a long one.

Those people you know don't represent the whole grouping of multiple pronoun users. I've had people yell at me for using the "wrong" pronouns when I was using the "correct" one they preferred lesser that day. I've also been yelled at to say BOTH in a single conversation. It's confusing, annoying, and really extra to ask of others. I'm okay will calling someone he/him solely, but when you mix in another set of pronouns like she/her, then it gets really muddy. (especially since the set of pronouns literally mimic a slur).

I understand your circumstances and literally know of someone who almost exactly experienced what you went through in your childhood. And guess what? They're also cis.

Everyone experiences both masculinity and femininity many times in their lifetimes. It's just a part of human nature.

Ex. some girls naturally having lower voices, girls liking to play sports, women becoming a gymrats/loving the gym-- I mean I can go on with these examples.

However, what makes someone transgender is gender dysphoria. You can absolutely have a combo of experiencing "masculine things" in your childhood (as an afab person) and experience gender dysphoria.

If it wouldn't be for gender dysphoria, you and the friend of mine (previously mentioned) would both be considered transgender. Full stop. But the thing is, we both know what gender is. And we both know that having masculine traits as someone born female doesn't mean anything in the equation of gender.

To recap: Gender isn't "I hate dresses so I'm not a woman"-- some people may confuse it for that, but it doesn't make it appropriate for someone to claim they're transgender because they hate a trait that corresponds with their assigned gender at birth.

If anything, people who do have issues with "not fitting the mold of male/female" should really consider the label gender non-conforming. Ideally, they should start recognizing that women can be masc and men can be fem, and vice-versa/simultaneously, WITHOUT being transgender.

[ex-furry]

i'm sorry if this is invasive but how do you tell whether you're a trans guy or a masculine woman or non-binary person? i'm always so confused :(

honestly i don't think i have a good answer. i just know that, for me, the idea of existing as a man and being a man and having other people see me as a man is really uncomfortable. having people associate me with masculinity, though, and incorporating a lot of masculinity into my identity through different pronouns and labels is what makes me feel most comfortable. it's like. if you put femininity and masculinity on a line i'd be more toward the masc side but parts of being a woman and especially being a lesbian are still core pieces of my identity.

like, i use pronouns and labels like butch (or even calling myself namjoon's bf! lol) to express my. gender nonconformity. that's what those things are to me, tools to express that. to express my relationship with womanhood and with lesbianism. if that makes sense which it probably doesn't. these words are just what i use to get across my masculinity, essentially.

but i don't go beyond that territory of masculinity and combining it with womanhood/lesbianism into manhood because it just is not me. there's not a real answer because this is all so individual. you just have to figure out what you're comfortable with and what you feel like fits

[plague-of-insomnia]

I'm sorry if I'm remembering wrong, but didn't you say before that you're non-binary? If so, I was wondering if you could tell me how you came to realize it? You don't have to if you aren't comfortable with sharing. I'm just struggling because I'm a girl (though I don't care what pronouns are used), but some days I really wish I were a boy or that I at least looked like one. I can't find much online about what it's like to be non-binary, but descriptions made me wonder if I may be...

So this ask got buried in my ask box, and I honestly didn’t realize I hadn’t answered it until now.

I did respond to a similar ask earlier this month—you can read my response HERE.

Not sure if you’re the same anon or not.

The one thing I’ll emphasize is that being NB essentially means you’re not 100% “girl” or “boy.” It can mean you feel only partly one or the other, neither, both, or that you shift from one gender to another (for example, from male to female).

If you feel comfortable with your assigned gender (female) sometimes but other times you feel more male, you could be genderfluid or genderflux (depending one if you’re both at once or not); another term you may hear is “bigender.”

Or, if instead you feel like you don’t relate with your assigned gender (female) at all but wish you were male, instead (all the time), you could be something called a “Demi-boy” (which is a term that means you don’t feel 100% male), or just the more general term “trans-masc.” if you feel fully male and not female (or without a gender at all, as that’s also an option), you may be a trans (binary) man.

But you don’t have to figure things out right away. My suggestion is to experiment with things like names/nick names, and how you dress, maybe binding or packing (binding your chest to have a flatter more male/agender look or using a sock or prosthetic to give the feel of having male genitalia) and see how that makes you feel. Imagine yourself as fully male and see if that feels “wrong” in any way.

Exercises like this can help you feel out whether you’re NB, trans, or simply Cis after all. You might find that dressing/presenting more masculinely (wearing “masculine” clothes, having a “boy haircut,” etc) makes you happy while you still consider yourself to be female.

As I said in the ask I referred you to, it can be difficult because NB is such a big catch all and we have been taught that there are only 2 options when that isn’t the case.

I hope this ask finds you if you’re still confused, anon.

If you or anyone reading this has any more questions, feel free to send them my way. I will try not to let it get lost next time.