#i don't fully understand mspec gays and lesbians or lesboys

[awakefor48hours]

At some point, you guys are just gonna have to accept and acknowledge that as more queer and trans people speak up and talk about their experiences, you'll find people you don't understand. You're gonna find people who will say something like "I'm spiderman gender and use web/webs/webself pronouns." You may not understand, you may even find it silly, but that doesn't mean you're allowed to degrade and dehumanize this person.

The human experience is so fucking complex and different for literally everyone that sometimes the words that exist in the way that we understand them are gonna look a little differently for someone else.

Mspec gays/lesbians, straight gays/lesbians, lesboys, and more I'm definitely missing are not your enemies. Seriously, you live on the same planet as Elon Musk, Andrew Tate, Donald Trump, Joanne Rowling, Isaac Herzog, and so many more assholes, I can guarantee you that the person who you only heard about online is not hurting anyone.

"But it doesn't make sense." Who the hell actually cares? Andrew Tate is a known sex trafficker who's telling millions of boys that the only value women provide are sex and chores and gay people don't deserve rights.

"But more people are talking about them than real gays/lesbians/bisexuals/etc." Name five times this has happened offline.

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I mostly will be coining orientations instead of genders because there are so many genders and the orientation market is low, and will mostly be coining labels that apply to me. However, I am willing to coin labels that don't apply to me. Please feel free to ask, and if I'm uncomfortable, I will just deny it.

Some posts aren't centered around me coining so sorry for any clutter

I am a perisex bigendermeld girl + enby and I use she/they pronouns

I have a label collection/hoard of 300+ that I loving named The Boxfort Palace. I may start a third blog just for my hoard. Or I may just keep it on the doc

Some of my important identities are asexual (fully, absolutely no sexual attraction), cupiosexual, demiromantic, lunian/mspec lesbian, bi lesbian, poly lesbian, and omni lesbian, and I specifically use full-moon springtide versions of all these labels. I do not identify as an mspec mono because there is nothing monoromantic about my lesbian attraction. I don't have an issue with the mspec mono label existing but I don't think it applies to me.

This blog supports aspec people, xenogenders, mspec gays/lesbians, gaybians, mspec hets, gayhets/straightbians and lesboys/turigirls. I am an mspec lesbian and ace.

This blog is NOT anti-paraphilia. I believe people with genuinely harmful and nonconsensual paras need access to help and support, and aren't inherently evil. I also believe paraphilias that are strange but not harmful or nonconsensual are fine. Do what makes you happy. Pro-contact harmful paraphilias, this is NOT about you. Please seek help and do not abuse.

I am Crit-Inclus and seek to understand people before I fully accept them. If I ask you questions about your identity, I mean no disrespect

I am predominantly white and am not comfortable with making things specifically for any POC because it does not feel like my place. If my blog grows big and people want to use my blog for visibility, post on your own blog and I will reblog it.

Because I am perisex I will not coin intersex specific terms, though you may ask for flag design help and reblogs for visibility

I am autistic and self diagnosed, I haven't updated this in a while but I've given up on not saying I'm autistic without diagnosis a long time ago, lmao. I got 153 on my most recent RAADS-R taking I def have autism

Still anti ABA and anti autism speaks fuck those guys

This blog is anti Boeing we hate Boeing in this household (if you're confused ask me about the 737 MAX I'll go on for hours)

I am a singlet so I'm not gonna do system specific labels. I will reblog system labels upon request

I do NOT coin radqueer identities. Radqueers can request non-radqueer identities because there's no reason to say you can't request something because of a belief. Even if it's harmful it's none of my business I'm the coiner. But I am anti-rq so you choose if you want me making the term

You may ask me to coin anything you would like if it isn't on here. It is my decision if I do it.

I am an adult, but the blog is safe for older minors

People in my DNI are allowed to use my flags and labels. I don't believe in gatekeeping who's allowed to use a term based on personal beliefs and opinions. I just don't wish to have personal interactions with you guys. It's up to you if you want to use flags made by an mspec lesbian who accepts xenogenders, lesboys/turigirls and the like, gaybians, and other complex contradictory identities.

I would appreciate if everyone who follows me can like, reblog, or comment on a post before or shortly after following. This is to make sure I don't follow back porn accounts that won't read this. I might block people who do not follow this rule because I will assume you are a porn account that just wants to send me spam links, especially if you're a blank blog.

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DNI:

Pedophiles (I'm not calling you MAPs.) Whether you're non-offending or not, please just don't interact with me. I support you guys getting the help you need but as a minor I think it's best we don't interact beyond maybe some likes and a request or two. I'm still too close to being a kid

Anyone who is going to start discourse. I don't care if you're proship, antiship, exclus, radinclus, radqueer, or anything. Don't start discourse. You can only continue discourse that I start. You can use my terms if they apply to you, like my stuff, reblog it, and comment, as long as you aren't starting an argument.

Solicitors looking to promote any sexual services. I am asexual, leave me alone. I don't want your porn. I will bodyshame you.

Anybody looking to e-date. I'm arospec, specifically demiromantic, so approaching me with romantic intent means you'll have to wait for something that'll never happen.

DO NOT FOLLOW:

Queerphobic people

Racists/ALM/Anti-BLM.

Sexists/anti feminists

Radfems (you aren't real feminists, you're misandrists, AND you're misogynists, all at once)

Zionists/Pro-Israel

People who believe in transmisogyny but not transmisandry/transandrophobia

People who believe trans men hold any significant power over cis women or over trans women

Idiots who think only transfems can use the tr slur

People who think femboy is a slur or is about transfems. There is a 0% difference between calling a transfem a femboy and calling a transfem a boy. Femboy is an identity. It's entitled to think trans women can dictate what men identify as based on the bigotrd actions of others weaponizing gnc men's identities to misgender others.

Exclusionists (including mspec lesbian/gay/enbian exclus, lesboy and turigirl exclus, and gaybian exclus.)

Incels of any type. This doesn't refer to anybody who just hasn't lost their virginity yet, but specifically the kind of people who hold it against the people they're attracted to. This is usually straight men and incels are often a misogynistic hate group.

Radqueer/transx/transid and supporters

Pro-contact or Comp-contact Big 3 Paras

Anti-contact non-harmful, consensual paras

Pro-AI art

Proship/profic

NSFW blogs

Anyone in the DNI

I follow people back blindly so please don't follow me if I'm going to have to see gross things on the feed.

[contradictory-label-culture-is]

yeah, pinned post, we're just having trouble fully understanding how the identities work and why someone would use them. Not against it ofc but just curious.

Well there's a lot on there but monosexual Mspec, (Mspec = multisexual) the usual definition of monosexual is attraction to one gender. And multisexual being the "opposite" so like bi lesbians, pan lesbians, Omni lesbians, bi gay, pan gay, Omni gay and some reasons people are like are split attraction models (hopefully I don't get this wrong but like sexual attraction, romantic, queer platonic, etc so some peoples attraction being different is like sexual a lesbian and romanticly bi or visa verse. Hopefully 😅) some kind of fluid sexuality

I got some uh copy pastes from Google here..

Attraction to multigender people, causing one to consider their attraction to both lesbian and m-spec simultaneously

Being in a system with bisexual and lesbian members, and collectively identifying as both due to that

Lesbian who is attracted to nonbinary people who aren't comfortable being included in lesbian attraction, so they fall under the "bi" part instead

Lesbian who's dating a trans person who came out while they were dating and no longer wants to be included in lesbian attraction, but they're still attracted to them, so they modified their orientation label accordingly to accommodate their partner.

You don't hear Turigirl a lot uh it's being a woman/girl and gay/Vincian. It has kinda the same reasons as why lesboys are lesboys. Like being multigender, gender non-conforming, trans women, etc.

And lesboy of course as I said, trans men, multigender, gender non-conformity, etc.

Gayhet/queerhet (queer heterosexual/gay heterosexual) could be split attraction model, being multigender (so like if someone was straight and a lesbian because they're a man and woman) probably more.

God I don't know if I'm good at explaining but there's wikis for bi lesbian, pan lesbian, Omni, lesboy and Turigirl hopefully more if I was shit at explaining.