#i do tend to ship things on the flimsiest of pretenses

[rosetyler42]

As an aroace autistic person myself I can kinda understand it, although I imagine my reasons are different from theirs. In my case, I can be kind of oblivious unless it's made CLEAR they're a couple because I have a tendency to interpret them as friends or siblings and will sometimes miss the cues that they're supposed to be something else unless it's made OBVIOUS, like with a kiss or something. ESPECIALLY since I've been in fan shipping culture where people will ship romantically on the flimsiest of pretenses, like "Oh, they're too close and have too meaningful a relationship to be ANYTHING but in love" "There's no platonic/straight explanation for this" "They're too pretty to be straight" "They looked at eachother or stood close together, SOULMATES!" "The sexual tension on these characters that HATE eachother, they wanna bone so bad!" "They deserve better than this straight ship! They have better chemistry with gay ship!" Etc. All of which is rather amato/allonormative and assumes Romance is the only way people can be close or is the only relationship, assuming sexuality by things that have nothing to do with it, or that Gay ships are better than straight ships for some reason So I do tend to rely on canon and cues sometimes and generally hate to assume two characters are in love unless it's made clear to me. However, I also recognize there's been a history of queerbaiting and homophobes claiming "Why can't people be friends." Which is a big reason for stuff like this.

It's unfortunately something of a catch 22 that probably needs LGBT of all stripes having more rep and the dismantling of amato/allonormativity.

if i see one more person saying they're happy about the kiss scene because "it means ineffable husbands are canon and they weren't being queerbaited" i'm going to put my fist through a wall.

their love was queer before they kissed. you don't need an on-screen kiss to confirm queerness. you don't need to kiss someone to be queer. have you stopped to perhaps think about the fact that physical intimacy is not innately coding for love?