#i currently cant think of any discourse or at least any i wanna talk abt except ppl being like mcr is DEAD FOREVER

[milfygerard]

9, 14, and 19 for the My Chemical Romance 2022-2023 Ask Game :)

9. Favorite drum quote?

oh god its a tie between so many. SIT STAY BEG was insane and i might have to go with her. UNKILLABLE/S does make me wanna cry though so shes up there

14. Worst discourse to have come out of the tour?

people genuinely unironically arguing that theyre never coming back and are dead forever despite multiple blatant suggestions that theres music in the works and direct statements that they plan to continue touring at least to hit the countries they couldnt get to in the first wave of the tour. guys gerard SAID that touring was gonna keep happening please calm down stop yoko onoing LS Dunes <- probs not the actual worst discourse but its the one i see the most so its most on my mind. "is the metaman character endorsing or promoting facebook" might be my favorite because i cant think of a funnier concept than gerard way getting a meta sponsorship and promoting them like THAT!

19. Top stage banter moment?

oh god this ones impossible. every time gerard spoke i wanted to cry. I think it has to be every time they spoke at firefly but especially the planetary preamble and "he LOVES SPORTS!!!!! and he LOVES CLOTHES!!!!!"

[saotome-michi]

if a cishet ace is including themselves in the community, its because they feel like they belong, and i wanna know who will tell this person that the lgbt cause is not their fight too, that lgbt is not their people. i wanna know who will tell them they dont belong w the lgbt community but w the people w whom they dont feel comfortable talking abt their identity, people who will try to fix whats not broken, people who'll sooner treat them as a child or a plant or an attention-seeking prude. [2/4]

im in the ace spectrum (ive been identifying as demisexual but Things have led me to question whether im not closer to being straight up ace), and i have a hard time defining romantic attraction, but ive been leaning towards panromantic. well, if im a panromantic ace, then the community is waiting for me w open arms. but what if i end up settling for heteromantic? well, according to these people, ‘u cant sit w us’. [¾]

apparently, being ace is not enough. even though, when straight people ask me my orientation, i dont feel safe enough to explain. i expected people in the lgbt community to be the ones who would understand me, understand others like me. but in this current climate, it just feels like we dont belong anywhere. (sorry for the venting, ur one of the only blogs i follow that speaks up on ace exclusion and ur nice so im not (that) scared of talking to u lol. i hope ur having a nice day ♥) [4/4]

Hi anon ☺️ unfortunately it seems like your first ask got eaten up by tumblr but I think i still got the gist of your message and I understand. It’s as you say: Cis heteromantic aces who want to be part of the lgbt community usually have a reason for wanting to whether its because of the mental stress they undergo worrying about their orientation, the constant misunderstandings and abuse they face from ppl who don’t understand or just plain hate asexuality, their experiences going against heteronormativity, etc. And its lacking compassion to say “no you don’t belong here”.

And the thing here is that, are there aces and aros who do or say shit in lgbtq spaces that aren’t excusable? Yes. But this literally applies to people of any other orientation(s)and gender identity(ies) as well because we all have the capability to fuck up. And yet an exclusionist’s response to this is, instead of focusing on educating ppl so that there are less of these fuck-ups, to completely exclude aspec ppl, basically saying that aspec itself as an identity is “problematic” which honestly just…fuck you

Luckily RL =/= Tumblr discourse. I don’t know where you live, so your situation might be different, but at least the main lgbtq orgs in the US, China, and Japan do recognize and accept aspecs. Since few people really understand it though, you will always have people asking you about asexuality and it can get overwhelming (like me whenever I have to explain what gray-romantic means). But this is a sign that things are slowly turning around so hold on there anon!!

I’m glad that you feel comfortable venting to me about this, so feel free to vent in the future. Hope you have a nice day too!