#i cant turn him away but its Actively making my own mental state worse

[omohole]

currently at a very Low low in my mental health and it is really not helped by being Back in the hotseat of constantly trying to talk someone elese down from suicide 24/7 like im back in middleschool yippee

[sol1056]

My ask box continues to fill up, and I have no answers for any of this. I’ve gotten comments that @dreamworksanimation is good about things like fair representation in other shows when it comes to disability, queer relationships, racial diversity, and just plain solid storytelling. Why was @voltron the exception? 

Or you can just have the questions from my asks:

I really, really wanted [Dreamworks execs] to address the situation, to tell us why VLD took that enormous shitty turn and to apologize and do us better. But I'm guessing we already know the answer (arrogant inexperienced EPs) and I think they won't do anything about it, just try to fade Voltron to the background as it's ending and focus on She-ra, if they ever decide to apologize, they're just gonna focus on the LGBT rep as if its the worst problem of their story.

You know what, I hope someone makes an extensive list of all the morally questionable messages Voltron has sent with all its characters (Shiro & Kuron everything, and Lotor as abuse victim in particular), all in detail and shove them in their faces saying, but to you it's 2 guys in love and in a healthy relationship that is wrong, instead of ableism, racism, homophobia, etc. When I think of what the kids will take from Voltron I feel sick. But queer love is the problem here, right. I’m disgusted.

Us: can we get a happy ending too like the het people and couples in the show?

VLD: no, not a happy or even semi-happy ending, you'll get a miserable ending but get this, we're going to write the last survivor of the 4 queer characters we killed off to be totally on board with this. We'll write him and animate him as if he's happy and got resolution, growth, and catharsis and not as if he got demoted, sidelined, isolated, discarded by his family, worst of all by Keith. We'll say a monster like him can’t be a paladin.

Let’s also go back to talking about how they not only made Lotor, a victim of child abuse not to mention biracial character who grew up with everything against him: suddenly evil, be the same as his abusive "father" and "mother" (who even after remembering who he is pulled the same crap as before), took every happiness away from him and had the nerve to mock his abuse in S7?! As a child abuse survivor I'M HORRIFIED.

The messages in the Shiro/Adam scene is disgusting, this is such a difficult subject, even for adults show with plenty time to explore and be fair to both characters while being explicit about it all. I was worried: in a kids’ show? how can they write this in a way they'll get it? With barely time for it? but look what they wrote, Adam gave an ultimatum instead of support and died, then they blamed the disabled guy for everything. Message: you’re gay so your relationship and your life are worthless, you'll be miserable and alone.

For a team that is all about working together, voltron members after 7 seasons still don't feel like a family and more like colleagues from work. ¯\_(ツ)_/¯

It feels odd knowing that they weren't actually battling homophobic higher ups. It feels more tactical and greedy for social justice points than out of genuine desire to showcase diversity. Is it coincidence that the character they dislike the most is the one selected for this honor? As a lesbian fan i'm skeptical and angry and refuse to watch anything else by these two.

People keep trying to excuse this stuff with "Voltron is a kids' show", but you know what? There are gay kids out there. There are disabled kids out there. Much as we may wish it otherwise, there are kids out there experiencing trauma. Do we REALLY want to teach those little kids that they are broken and tainted forever and nothing good is waiting for them in the world from here on out? People need to know how damaging it is to have ZERO stories in media showing realistic healing of trauma.

The lady who betrayed them got a proper send off scene even tho she send Adam & the others like pigs to slaughter & betrayed them & caused them all to almost lose and die. Got screentime & some characterization. But sure why respect Adam that way too. I will never forget the dread I had for him when I saw he was with the fighters who were sent to die, then watched them one by one lose their lives until he too, was killed. I still feel sick thinking about it. We never even learned his last name.

I know it's been a while but I'm not over how they treated Lotor in s6. I'm from a broken and dysfunctional home and this show I watch for escapism told me I'm doomed to repeat the same mistakes of my parents, end up just like them. ... Are they even aware of the messages they send to their audience? Not all of us had good childhood like Allura.

From a chronically ill perspective, I felt downright insulted by the choice they made to give Shiro a degenerative illness. The idea of a chronically ill hero is cool but they pull the cure narrative, they don't give him a real illness, and it's just used for cheap irrelevant drama. Plus the whole "Has to choose between loved ones and goals" thing was pretty insensitive, we're already expected to sacrifice so much as ill people so the reinforcement of that was unpleasant to watch and read meta on.

Even if everyone was white cishet abled guy the messages sent to kids were awful: One who fought to carve his own path was forced to become someone else, one who suffered and fought till the end was told he’s a monster that can’t be a paladin, the insecure one will never be worthy as himself and he'll always be someone else’s replacement, one who survived genocide and suffered loss upon loss until reduced to nothing, one who suffered by his parents’ hand became like them, the whole Kuron thing. You cant brush off all THAT.

going into the new semester with the horrible messages of s7 on my mind...i’m lethargic. i have been since the “retired paladin” interview. it was bad for me to balance my mental health on the state of a fictional character, but it was really effective. Until that awful message that disabled people are helpless in controlling their own lives. I’m trying to disconnect and thrive anyway, out of spite against ableism if nothing else.

I had this horrible realization: you know how Shiro is a victim of abuse and him getting the Black Lion was him regaining the control the lack of he suffered in his capture? I think they gave him the illness and handwaved it with the clone, so as to argue for his removal from the Black Lion. They claim that the reason he wanted control was the illness and not the victimization in the Galra hands. They're essentially erasing his trauma.

Writers: so we'll write endearing multidimensional characters with many layers, we'll have them subvert stereotypes, especially those that characters like them usually are written with, ie. Keith isn't a loner nor is he angry just 'cause, but a lonely abandoned kid with trust issues due to his mom leaving him, thus has poor emotional control and anger management, struggles to connect and open up, he is the one whose arc embodies the found family theme more than anyone. 

EPs: nah we want stereotypes loool

We talk about Shiro and all the ableism in his story but we don't talk nearly enough about how horrifying the message is that Keith is the one to take it all from him and kick him aside. Keith chose to discard Shiro because he's broken and useless, so he can take his place. I've been through things they both have and I find all that horrifying. S7 sent terrible messages to kids watching.

They had the chance to let Shiro overcome and be a hero. To defeat his own abuser (Sendak) except Keith takes over everything and fixes everything for him while he lies helpless on the ground without a new arm yet. They had the budget. The animation. They could have empowered Shiro. They saw how many people saw themselves in Shiro's struggle. They must have seen the concerns. And they actively chose to go against that.

The Bury Your Gays trope is even worse this season when you consider the heavy lesbian subtext with Lotor's former generals who get blown up on screen. And naturally, it's the one with a crush on Keith who turns good and survives.

Was there a minority that hasn't been screwed over? Bury Your gays was merely the last shocking straw, because the whole season was chockful of terrible messages and proved they would never treat their characters right and address stuff from before. Homophobia, racism, ableism, sexism, mocking of abuse, excusing abandonment & so on.

I’m adding my voice because I'm so, so tired. None of the characters i see on screen are the characters we got to know in s1/2. The character i most related to was beaten down out of spite for 4 seasons and now may as well be a cardboard cutout. DW and the EPs don't seem to give a single shit about how badly this season has affected people. i don't know whether to jump ship or spit fire over everything. i'm just... exhausted.

I want a transparent statement & apology from DreamWorks. I want to know THEIR stance & role in this, ALL the events that ended up with us getting a show that is not only homophobic but also ableist, racist, mocks child abuse and so much more. I want them to acknowledge & explain why they allowed the marketing team to bait fans with ship content in their videos, thumbnails and even that EP interview about shipping. I want to know who and why allowed the show to to take a worse direction in recent seasons.

I have no answers for any of this, @dreamworksanimation. If there are any explanations, any reassurances that you’ll work hard to prevent any repeat, you need to say so. The longer you’re silent, the more it looks like you’re fine with the story and all its horrific messages. Are you?

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You Can’t Solve the Obesity Epidemic If You Can’t Discuss it

Comedian Bill Maher lately used his “New Rules” section to name consideration to American well being, stating, “New Rule: at next Thursday’s debate, one of the candidates has to say the problem with our healthcare system is Americans eat (crap) and too much of it.” He went on to display simply how pervasive the well being epidemic has gotten in America whereas inviting the ardor of tens of millions together with his blunt snark. The seven-minute section was humorous and well-argued, however an excessive amount of criticism adopted one assertion particularly: 

  “In August, 53 Americans died from mass shootings. Terrible, right? You know how many died from obesity? 40,000. Fat-shaming doesn’t need to end. It needs to make a comeback.” 

    His level is evident—we wouldn’t make statements about shooter-shaming, however we appear to have an issue figuring out simply how harmful fashionable consuming norms have turn into. These numbers are staggering and demand public concern, however the focus revolved across the final a part of Maher’s assertion. As you would possibly count on, the web exploded with outrage because the pundits weighed in. The most notable response got here from CBS’s James Corden on his personal late-night present. Corden, who has struggled together with his weight for years, made the case that fat-shaming has been confirmed to make issues worse, not higher. He then argued that obese persons are nicely conscious of their weight they usually want to change it, so that they don’t want any extra social reminders. 

  It appeared that there was a line within the sand and other people had been left to select their sides. But, what struck me was how usually Maher and Corden appeared to genuinely agree. They are comedians, vulnerable to exaggerate and use hyperbolic language, so it's straightforward to deal with soundbites, however what got here from each of them was that:

  More folks than ever are scuffling with their weight. 

Public well being has by no means been worse and it's killing folks.

You mustn't bully or name folks fats. (Maher truly makes this level a couple of occasions.)

  Maher was talking actually concerning the insane norms characterizing American consuming habits. Corden responded together with his personal sincere comedy, mainly saying, “You think I haven’t tried to lose weight!?! This is hard! I keep trying and my efforts aren’t working for me and millions like me.”

  And these are two crucial views to maneuver the dialogue ahead. The great thing about comedy is that it's a mouthpiece for folks to talk actually (despite the fact that usually in very exaggerated tones). We can all agree that folks would favor to not be obese and unhealthy. I don’t care how “body-positive” you're. If given the selection between being a pre-diabetic who's 30 kilos obese or wholesome, you’d select wholesome each time. Self-consciousness received’t be eradicated by body-positive campaigns. Outside of brainwashing by a totalitarian regime, most individuals are going to want they weren’t obese. That is actuality.

  So the apparent subsequent query is what will we do to truly enhance public well being? Our consuming norms are killing folks and setting our kids up for restricted lives of weight struggles, well being issues, sluggishness, and self-consciousness. The most irritating a part of the change got here from James Corden when he expresses an all too frequent sentiment: “I know I will struggle with this for the rest of my life.” That mentality and its pervasive normality is simply the issue.

  How Do We Change This Toxic Ocean?

What Corden by no means concedes is that the fashionable atmosphere is totally loopy. What we’ve been indoctrinated to see as a traditional weight loss program is past insane. I can’t go to the financial institution, the barber, or the physician with out my child being supplied sweet. Every daycare possibility I checked out serves breakfast and lunch every day and it was all the time sugar-covered fried waffle sticks after which pizza and chocolate milk for lunch. Every occasion of their lives from their youth sports activities video games to utilizing the potty facilities round normalizing rubbish meals. Treats are great, however solely when they're deviations from the traditional. Today, we normalize processed sugar-infused meals at each meal and we will hardly conceive of breakfast, lunch, dinner, and snack gadgets that don’t come from a bundle.  

  These norms occurred fairly actually. Just like right this moment’s expertise designers, the Food Giants spent enormously to hack our minds and normalize harmful consuming patterns. Before we knew it everybody had bowls of M&M’s round the home, pantries stuffed with chips and Pop-Tarts, and fridges stuffed with Coke and “healthy options” like orange juice, “fruit infused” Capri-Sun, and sugar-filled Go-Gurt. 

  This is the supply of our points and excess of his tongue in cheek comment about fat-shaming needing to make a comeback, that is the purpose Maher was harping on. The resolution lies in altering our environmental norms and which means we've got to speak about why most individuals are obese and learn how to repair it. How else will we steer ourselves away from the Wall-E dystopia we appear to be headed in direction of?

    "We seldom realize, for example, that our most private thoughts and emotions are not actually our own. For we think in terms of languages and images which we did not invent, but which were given to us by our society." 

-Alan Watts

  Nothing influences our habits just like the atmosphere we're saturated with. In a distinct atmosphere, James Corden would possibly dig coal, drink bourbon, and use the phrase “kin.” Had he grown up within the Ancient Spartan world, he can be in peak bodily situation holding a defend in entrance of his comrade's physique with one hand and a hoplite spear within the different. My level is, the contexts we stay in drastically change the way in which suppose and act. Therefore we needs to be going to nice lengths to create an atmosphere the place social norms pull folks towards extra fruitful behaviors. 

  There are fashionable environments the place far fewer folks stay their lives continuously scuffling with their weight. They embrace completely different norms and reply very otherwise to the ploys of the processed Food Giants. Vending machines are much less frequent and children usually tend to see their buddies consuming fruits, greens, and different entire meals. This, in flip, makes it far simpler for folks to naturally undertake wholesome consuming patterns. We needs to be asking ourselves how do we modify our public values so folks like James Corden don’t really feel resigned to battle with their weight for the remainder of their lives? How will we nudge folks in direction of more healthy selections and create friction in our present unhealthy norms?

  You might level out that the explanation Corden believes it is going to be a lifelong battle is as a result of he has an habit. We don’t wish to name it that, however what James Corden and most Americans are coping with is an habit as actual and highly effective as some other. His expertise dwelling on this sweets-saturated atmosphere has created a robust habit that makes it very arduous for him to manage what he eats. 

  So, how will we make folks much less more likely to develop this habit? Since when is it commonplace observe to normalize habit and demonize anybody who would attempt to open folks’s eyes about how a lot habit has grown? Excessive sugar might kill extra folks than smoking, however we give youngsters sweet for each mundane second of their lives whereas educating them to “shame” Uncle Sterling about how smoking will kill him. We don't have any drawback mentioning that ingesting alone or early within the morning just isn't a really wholesome behavior. Yet, we’d be aghast if somebody talked about that consuming sweets alone or early within the morning was equally indicative of an issue. This incapability to speak is the best barrier to serving to the following technology keep away from a lifetime of meals habit. And if present tendencies proceed, projections point out that over 57% of right this moment’s youth might be overweight by the point they're 35. 

  The Uncomfortable Conversation

We should have this dialog whether or not it's uncomfortable or not. And that’s why the opposite half of IHD, Justin Lind, and I sat down to debate the general public well being points and the function disgrace performs in habits modification. There is a distinction between disgrace and shaming that needs to be made. Shame is an innate feeling that may be very helpful in our maturation. Society has all the time used social norms and expectations to change habits for the higher. This doesn't imply bullying or meanspirited verbal assaults. Yet, we should have the ability to discuss our challenges and talk about how the atmosphere could be improved. 

  The most essential takeaway is that this is a matter that calls for everybody’s consideration. Parents have to start out seeing the madness for what it's and demanding higher from faculties. Schools have to start out turning down Coca-Cola contracts and start cleansing up their cafeteria choices. Society must convey this subject to the forefront of its public issues.

  After all, while you aren’t wholesome, every little thing else suffers. As John F. Kennedy stated, "Intelligence and skill can only function at the peak of their capacity when the body is healthy and strong."

  Public well being is a nationwide concern that we've got to have the ability to talk about with a purpose to enhance.

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You Can’t Solve the Obesity Epidemic If You Can’t Discuss it

Comedian Bill Maher not too long ago used his “New Rules” phase to name consideration to American well being, stating, “New Rule: at next Thursday’s debate, one of the candidates has to say the problem with our healthcare system is Americans eat (crap) and too much of it.” He went on to reveal simply how pervasive the well being epidemic has gotten in America whereas inviting the ardor of tens of millions together with his blunt snark. The seven-minute phase was humorous and well-argued, however quite a lot of criticism adopted one assertion particularly:

  “In August, 53 Americans died from mass shootings. Terrible, right? You know how many died from obesity? 40,000. Fat-shaming doesn’t need to end. It needs to make a comeback.”

    His level is evident—we wouldn’t make statements about shooter-shaming, however we appear to have an issue figuring out simply how damaging trendy consuming norms have turn into. These numbers are staggering and demand public concern, however the focus revolved across the final a part of Maher’s assertion. As you may count on, the web exploded with outrage because the pundits weighed in.

  The most notable response got here from CBS’s James Corden on his personal late-night present. Corden, who has struggled together with his weight for years, made the case that fat-shaming has been confirmed to make issues worse, not higher. He then argued that chubby individuals are properly conscious of their weight they usually wish to change it, in order that they don’t want any extra social reminders.

  It appeared that there was a line within the sand and other people have been left to select their sides. But, what struck me was how usually Maher and Corden appeared to genuinely agree. They are comedians, liable to exaggerate and use hyperbolic language, so it’s simple to deal with soundbites, however what got here from each of them was that:

  More folks than ever are battling their weight.

Public well being has by no means been worse and it’s killing folks.

You mustn’t bully or name folks fats. (Maher really makes this level a number of occasions.)

  Maher was talking actually in regards to the insane norms characterizing American consuming habits. Corden responded together with his personal sincere comedy, principally saying, “You think I haven’t tried to lose weight!?! This is hard! I keep trying and my efforts aren’t working for me and millions like me.”

  And these are two essential views to maneuver the dialogue ahead. The fantastic thing about comedy is that it’s a mouthpiece for folks to talk actually (regardless that usually in very exaggerated tones). We can all agree that individuals would favor to not be chubby and unhealthy. I don’t care how “body-positive” you might be.

  If given the selection between being a pre-diabetic who’s 30 kilos chubby or wholesome, you’d select wholesome each time. Self-consciousness gained’t be eradicated by body-positive campaigns. Outside of brainwashing by a totalitarian regime, most individuals are going to want they weren’t chubby. That is actuality.

  So the apparent subsequent query is what will we do to truly enhance public well being? Our consuming norms are killing folks and setting our youngsters up for restricted lives of weight struggles, well being considerations, sluggishness, and self-consciousness.

  The most irritating a part of the alternate got here from James Corden when he expresses an all too frequent sentiment: “I know I will struggle with this for the rest of my life.” That mentality and its pervasive normality is simply the issue.

    How Do We Change This Toxic Ocean?

What Corden by no means concedes is that the fashionable atmosphere is totally loopy. What we’ve been indoctrinated to see as a standard eating regimen is past insane. I can’t go to the financial institution, the barber, or the physician with out my child being provided sweet.

  Every daycare possibility I checked out serves breakfast and lunch every day and it was at all times sugar-covered fried waffle sticks after which pizza and chocolate milk for lunch. Every occasion of their lives from their youth sports activities video games to utilizing the potty facilities round normalizing rubbish meals.

  Treats are great, however solely when they’re deviations from the conventional. Today, we normalize processed sugar-infused meals at each meal and we will hardly conceive of breakfast, lunch, dinner, and snack objects that don’t come from a package deal.

  These norms occurred fairly actually. Just like at present’s know-how designers, the Food Giants spent enormously to hack our minds and normalize damaging consuming patterns. Before we knew it everybody had bowls of M&M’s round the home, pantries stuffed with chips and Pop-Tarts, and fridges stuffed with Coke and “healthy options” like orange juice, “fruit infused” Capri-Sun, and sugar-filled Go-Gurt.

  This is the supply of our points and way over his tongue in cheek comment about fat-shaming needing to make a comeback, that is the purpose Maher was harping on. The answer lies in altering our environmental norms and which means we now have to speak about why most individuals are chubby and learn how to repair it. How else will we steer ourselves away from the Wall-E dystopia we appear to be headed in direction of?

  “We seldom realize, for example, that our most private thoughts and emotions are not actually our own. For we think in terms of languages and images which we did not invent, but which were given to us by our society.”

– Alan Watts

  Nothing influences our habits just like the atmosphere we’re saturated with. In a unique atmosphere, James Corden may dig coal, drink bourbon, and use the phrase “kin.” Had he grown up within the Ancient Spartan world, he can be in peak bodily situation holding a defend in entrance of his comrade’s physique with one hand and a hoplite spear within the different.

  My level is, the contexts we reside in drastically change the way in which assume and act. Therefore we ought to be going to nice lengths to create an atmosphere the place social norms pull folks towards extra fruitful behaviors.

  There are trendy environments the place far fewer folks reside their lives continually battling their weight. They embrace completely different norms and reply very in another way to the ploys of the processed Food Giants.

  Vending machines are much less frequent and youngsters usually tend to see their associates consuming fruits, greens, and different complete meals. This, in flip, makes it far simpler for folks to naturally undertake wholesome consuming patterns.

  We ought to be asking ourselves how do we alter our public values so folks like James Corden don’t really feel resigned to wrestle with their weight for the remainder of their lives? How will we nudge folks in direction of more healthy choices and create friction in our present unhealthy norms?

  You may level out that the rationale Corden believes it will likely be a lifelong wrestle is as a result of he has an habit. We don’t prefer to name it that, however what James Corden and most Americans are coping with is an habit as actual and highly effective as every other. His expertise residing on this sweets-saturated atmosphere has created a robust habit that makes it very exhausting for him to manage what he eats.

  So, how will we make folks much less more likely to develop this habit? Since when is it customary observe to normalize habit and demonize anybody who would attempt to open folks’s eyes about how a lot habit has grown?

  Excessive sugar might kill extra folks than smoking, however we give youngsters sweet for each mundane second of their lives whereas educating them to “shame” Uncle Sterling about how smoking will kill him. We don’t have any drawback mentioning that consuming alone or early within the morning will not be a really wholesome behavior.

  Yet, we’d be aghast if somebody talked about that consuming sweets alone or early within the morning was equally indicative of an issue. This incapability to speak is the best barrier to serving to the following era keep away from a lifetime of meals habit. And if present traits proceed, projections point out that over 57% of at present’s youth might be overweight by the point they’re 35.

  The Uncomfortable Conversation

We should have this dialog whether or not it’s uncomfortable or not. And that’s why the opposite half of IHD, Justin Lind, and I sat down to debate the general public well being points and the function disgrace performs in habits modification.

  There is a distinction between disgrace and shaming that ought to be made. Shame is an innate feeling that may be very helpful in our maturation. Society has at all times used social norms and expectations to switch habits for the higher. This doesn’t imply bullying or meanspirited verbal assaults. Yet, we should be capable of speak about our challenges and focus on how the atmosphere will be improved.

  The most necessary takeaway is that this is a matter that calls for everybody’s consideration. Parents have to start out seeing the madness for what it’s and demanding higher from faculties. Schools have to start out turning down Coca-Cola contracts and start cleansing up their cafeteria choices. Society must deliver this subject to the forefront of its public considerations.

  After all, while you aren’t wholesome, all the things else suffers. As John F. Kennedy mentioned, “Intelligence and skill can only function at the peak of their capacity when the body is healthy and strong.”

  Public well being is a nationwide concern that we now have to have the ability to focus on so as to enhance.

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