#hwyd podcast

[xyzmp3]

I am happy to say that after about a month I have watched every video on the Watcher channel

I feel like I am a true fan now

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Ryan: Okay, I'm gonna play a little game here, ‘cause I'm curious. Because I already know Steven’s — quick to jump the gun here. Steven: [laughs] Ryan: But, Shane, I'm gonna list out some times, and you tell me: acceptable or not acceptable to say, ‘I love you.’ Shane: Okay. Ryan: One day. Shane: No! Ryan: One week. Shane: No. Ryan: Two weeks. Shane: Absolutely not. Ryan: Three weeks? Shane: no Ryan: A month. Shane: [pause] No. Ryan: [wheezes] Steven: [softly] Wow. Ryan: A month and a half. Shane: Maybe. No. Ryan: Two months. Shane: Gettin’ there. Ryan: It's getting warmer. You see, this is — where it’s starting to get warmer for me, as well. Shane: Yeah. Ryan: Two and a half months. Shane: Maybe? No, no. Ryan: Three months? Shane: [nods] That feels like a good cut-off, yeah. Ryan: That feels good for me, too. Shane: That's — that's when we're — when we're starting to — to. Before that, you got — you're sittin’ on the side of the pool with your —with your toes in it. Um, and you're like ‘hmmm, maybe I'll go for a swim.’

Knowing When To Say I Love You • Here's What You Do Episode 6 May 25, 2020

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[watcherofthewatcher]

Okay, stop immediately, it’s an hour to appreciate Ryan’s CURLS 🥺💖

[jesus-said-chill]

Shane’s face when he got Ryan and Steven to argue about sports will forever be funny to me

[homemade-history]

"i know some guys attach their masculinity to their ability to drive a car, which is hilarious. it just shows how fragile that is" holy shit ??

[eerie-watcher]

i did not want to speak on this matter at all but i see most of you here defending steven and i think he doesn’t need that. he is grown ass adult, he should have known better. i’m a poc and an lgbt person so pls don’t try to invalidate my feelings if you’re white or cishet.

some people here also thinks that the fans are “attacking” steven because of having homophobic and racist friends and thinks he should cut ties with them. most people don’t want that. the fact that he’s friends with these people isn’t the problem. the problem is about what he said, sure it was bad wording and i know he himself is not racist or homophobic at least i hope he isn’t. but said things like racism or homophobia is just “different belief system” is so wrong. and steven saying he still values those people as friends is also wrong considering those people are still racist and homophobic and he’s willing to overlook it. at least that’s what his words suggested.

now for the apology, i think it was a terrible one. firstly he decided to do his apology on discord out of all places where not even 1% of his total audience could see it. and it makes it worse because the discord is a patreon exclusive one so it kind of makes it looks like only the audience who directly pays him monthly matters to him, which i’m sure was never his intentions. in his apology he tried to justify his words by bringing up his own experiences which was a terrible move because that doesn’t automatically make what he said right. the people who were hurt by his words also went through similar experiences if not worse so we’re on the same ground here. then he put it up in the hwyd episode’s comment section, again a place where most people were not going to check back to see if he apologised.

now all of you who are saying people who are upset by it are wrong and overreacting. shut up. a lot of the watcher fandom is poc and lgbt , if they are hurt, you don’t have a say over it, no it doesn’t matter if you’re poc or lgbt too, if someone is hurt they are hurt and you cannot invalidate their feelings. they are allowed to express their hurt towards steven because here steven is wrong. i doubt anyone is sending him death threats cause i haven’t seen any actual proof like a screenshot or anything of a death threat and i’ve only heard people saying that he got death threats so i’m gonna take it with a grain of salt. but if he IS getting death threats that’s obviously terrible and disgusting because no one deserves that and if you see someone sending him death threats please correct them.

but stop defending steven!! stop standing with him. he is an adult and he has done an honest mistake, but he also needs to tale full responsibility for it. he has hurt many people with his words. even if it was bad wording, he still owes those people a proper and actual sincere apology.

i love steven i really do, trust me. and that’s why i want him to apologise. actually, directly ,sincerely apologise. cause he’s hurt me and my community. and i expect better from him.

[bergoozter]

[embr4ac3-it]

As a bi brown girl, I think it's super important that Steven tries to educate them. We are working against generations of indoctrination here. I have had friends and family that were homophobic and racist. . .shit, am I cancelled too? No, because that's stupid and this is real life. It's real life for Steven too. And this shit is everywhere, so if you have the capability to TEACH them to be better, why wouldn't you take that opportunity?

[believeripley]

Anyone else want to cry for Ryan and actually teared up when he was telling his story of messing up at work during the latest Here's What You Do?

[thatdude-noah]

"Don't focus on the eggs."

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[allhailthewicked]

I think about this quote way too much.

[hunkitup]

Kinda glad I don’t engage or go on the watcher discord anymore. After the first here’s what you do “debacle,” I figured there would be more like it. And the fandom on there...only seems to get more critical (in an almost mean spirited way) with each new instance of issue, especially with Steven. Idk if it’s bc a lot of the fans are shane/Ryan followers and don’t like that he’s involved in the company, or what, but the guy has always born the brunt of criticism (and sure he does need to be criticized), but it all feels like they like to attack Steven Lim extra hard. I’m all for engaging the content creators over shit they say and do that is hurtful and offensive, but...being mean/hurtful/offensive yourself and saying it’s valid criticism is not the way.

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Shane: We had joked about maybe, sort of in a Lord of the Rings capacity, getting Unsolved tattoos for the whole crew. But even that, I'm like, eh, I don't know. You know, we would travel, uh, you know, a handful of times a year and—you—all—the Unsolved crew is like, you know, [shifts in seat] borderline, road family to me. Ryan: Yeah. Shane: But—but. Even then, I don't think I'd get a tattoo. I don't think I could do it. Ryan: Well, well, wait, what would that—I don't even know what that would be! Would it be like, ‘Are ghosts real?’ or something? What would be the tattoo— Shane: I think just a little—a little funny ghost tattoo, probably. Ryan: Yeah, a little ghost—oh, and that'd be good. Like uh, like— Shane: Just like a little cartoon [draws in air] You know, the classic ghost with the, sort of, zigzag bottom and the sheet with two eyes. Ryan: Yeah, yeah, yeah, the sheet ghost. The classic sheet ghost. Shane: The Pac-Man ghost, essentially.

Knowing When To Say I Love You • Here's What You Do Episode 6 May 25, 2020

[not-falling-but-flying]

This week's episode of HWYD was magnificent. Definitely in my top three favorites. Those three were spitting out some great advice, and I absolutely adored their challenge for the young lady visiting Korea.

Per usual, I'm only deep diving into one question. But if anyone wants to talk about traveling, please hit me up!

That second question hit me hard. Like I honestly had to stop and think if past me could have written that question. Because that woman's struggle was heart achingly familiar, and in many ways still is. I'm a bubbly person (in case you haven't noticed). My Enneagram type is nicknamed "the Enthusiast." We find the silver lining. We find the joy. I really do just love everyone so much, and I want everyone to be so happy. And I'm kinda really loud about it!

And for some people... that's too much. I had a group when I first started college who didn't really like the loud part of me. They didn't want the enthusiasm. I was told to be quiet, told that they were "fixing me" so I wouldn't be bullied. They would apologize on my behalf if I talked too long. I completely lost who I was.

Over the past 4-5 years, I learned that being bubbly was okay. I always had a good sense for when to be more still. I was always soft, and I wasn't actually as abrasive as these people wanted me to think. Like Steven said, there is a knob that you need to adjust according to the situation.

However: the boyfriend. Maybe we didn't get enough information about the relationship, but that was a MASSIVE red flag. Your significant other should be your cheerleader, your supporter. Never, ever change who you are for someone. And your partner shouldn't expect you to! If you are loud and bubbly and that embarrasses them, maybe they aren't your person. FURTHERMORE! No matter what your age, you don't deserve a "shitty partner." That isn't normal. Relationships of every kind should be edifying for everyone involved. They will sharpen you, they will help you grow. But they shouldn't turn you into someone else.

I guess the lesson from this is to let people be who they are -- including yourself. As it has been said, "...if you judge a fish by its ability to climb a tree, it will live its whole life believing that it is stupid.” Some people are loud, some people are quiet. Some people are outgoing and some are more reserved. You won't be perfect, and you won't be everyone's cup of tea. But you will be yourself, and that is a beautiful thing.

[steeevenlim]

just heard from hwyd ep 10 that some people make/made bingo cards for the podcast!! is that still a thing??

[mothmansfriend]

Still thinking abt Steven Lim pissing on his friends clothes in rage and not even remembering why