#humankindess

[dudejaxon]

Day two feels as crappy as day one. But I've been invited to play disc golf with a buddy. A normal person would be stoked to go and have a nice time, but my anxiety kicks in and I will think of 100 reasons I could be an asshole and back out, but I love this Dude and would never because I've been wanting to kick it with him for months with our conflicting schedule and our girlfriends, it never seems to work out in our favor.

But I feel the universe knows I really need some humankindess in my life currently.

It's just anxiety for a lot of different reasons, one being I hate myself.

[deathlyaffair]

I love how I'm going through one of the hardest times of my life right now and people think that it's acceptable to have absolute gall to think it's fine to talk about me behind my back.  Like I don't know.  Like people don't tell me you're a backstabber.  Like people don't tell me what you say.

It's flattering that I'm on your minds while I'm even at my lowest in life.  Here I am, fallen in the mud, and you're so threatened by me that you have to snicker and make comments.

It's cute, even.  I guess whatever helps you sleep at night, huh?  Since apparently it's not being a decent human being with a shred of fucking decency in your body to speak of.

God forbid I do what's best for me.  God forbid I take care of me and look out for me for once in my life.  You have no idea how alone I feel.  No idea how many breakdowns I have a day, let alone a week.

But sure, talk about the woman who can still hold her head high with mud smeared on her face.  Because, at the end of the day, no matter how much shit you talk... I'll always be better than you.  So enjoy trying to tear me down while you can.

[canagirl95]

Just saw this amazing artist on #GoodDaySacramento. I came to his IG page to find one particular piece I'm interested in & saw this. Loooove it!! May need to have it.. 😂 #Repost @kraftynotkrazy ・・・ #actshowprove vibrant color #smallwoodsigns made by request. It’s a gentle reminder to #practicewhatyoupreach #practicewhatyoupreach💯 #wordstoliveby #selfcare #inspirationalquotes #actionspeaklouderthanwords #dontsayshow #donttalkjustact #dontpromisejustprove #positivevibes #positvequotes #lifelessons #chalkpaint #humankindess #woodsigns #woodsignsdecor #woodsign #woodsignmaker #craftyguy #chalkpaintsign #showinglove #stencilart #stencilit #stencildesign #chalkpaintit https://www.instagram.com/p/CECVqlZHisz/?igshid=3snh69y01ror

[colettesvalentines]

#thoughts #thoughtsoftheday #bullying #onlinebullying #stopbullying #humankindess #bekind https://www.instagram.com/p/B8Ry0Vags40/?igshid=owezshwnci3v

[donavonroberson]

Seeking Human C(K)indness

Anyone else in this boat right now?

Given all that we went through in 2020, I feel like we could all sit on our street corners with similar signs and seek to call one another back to the greatest versions of ourselves. Come to think of it, maybe this shouldn’t be about what we each “could” do but exactly what we “should” do this year!

Personally I think we all need to step back, collectively take a deep breath and release the tensions, frustrations and stresses of last year and cut each other some slack (dare I say a great deal of slack). There are so many hurtful and hateful things being thrown around by many of us and on all sides of the aisle; quite frankly it isn’t helpful and doesn’t feel like it is getting us anywhere productive. 

Candidly, I don’t see this level of hostility and hurt changing with a new regime going into office this month (or any month for that matter) because those types of changes don’t happen when directed by others, they happen when decided upon by individuals.

I want to take is back a step further, wouldn’t it be great for each of us to individually step back, take in a deep breath and release the personal tensions, frustrations, guilt, pressure, fear, anxiety and all other negative emotions that we have carried around inside of us for so long? 

Last year certainly shined a spotlight on a pandemic that is taking place in our country and I am not directly speaking about COVID. We demonstrated that as a culture we are systemically broken in so many ways right now and the pressures of this past year became the breaking point for so many. 

Think about it this way, it really comes down to Maslow’s Hierarchy of needs...in just a few short months we went from a nation of, families of and individuals of being Self Aware to a society that will do just about anything and say just about anything to ensure our simple survival needs are met.

Lost jobs leads to lack of self worth and self confidence, even if it wasn’t your fault. 

Lack of income leads to the inability to provide for yourself or your families. 

Social Distance leads to strained and distant relationships becoming even more strained and more distant. 

We found ourselves, both collectively and individually, scrambling to figure out how to simply survive in this new norm that we all found ourselves in and honestly these circumstances revealed a great deal of what has been taking place under the surface for years...much of which we have been able to hide or disguise for several years (if not decades).

So how do we get back to “human kindness”?

I believe it first starts with demonstrating “personal kindness” to ourselves.

That’s right...in order to show kindness to others, we need to show kindness to ourselves first. I’m going to personalize this, in order for ME to show kindness to others, I need to show kindness to myself. Much like the demonstrations and outbursts of the past year are systemic at the core of our society, these same emotional “outbursts” are systemic to our individual core.

I am going to dive into this more in the coming weeks, as I have taken a great deal of my ideas from Brene Brown’s book Daring Greatly...and have been thinking through a lot about this over the past year. 

I am tired of where we are as a society right now in our dealings with each other and would love to see a rise in Human Kindness this year. I believe in order for that to happen I have to get just as frustrated with how I deal with myself and demand a rise in Personal Kindness toward myself this year. 

And it starts today!

Here is a prime example...I have put on nearly 15 pounds in the past 2 years and I have beaten myself up over this in big way. 

Fat Ass! 

Fatty McFatterson! 

Sick and Tired of Being Sick, Fat and Tired! 

I’m just a F-ing Fat Ass!

...all things I have said about myself and it ends right now. 

YES, I am heavier than I want to be right now YES, I don’t feel well as a result YES, I want to make a change and feel better

All of these things are true BUT instead of beating myself up over them (which I have been doing for MONTHS now), I am going to do the following:

acknowledge the fact that I have put on weight recently

acknowledge that I have done so because I haven’t been as focused on eating and exercising the way I have in the past

acknowledge that I have plan to move forward (a plan that has worked for me in the past and that I have confidence in to do so now)

acknowledge that I deserve to feel better and that I have the means by which to make “feeling better” happen

But honestly beyond all of this...I must first acknowledge that the weight gain has simply zero bearing on my worth and how I should feel about myself.

So I am taking the time right now to acknowledge that my value isn’t tied to my weight gain (or weight loss for that matter) and that this new eating and exercise plan will help me get back to a state of being where I felt better than I do right now.

My first step in showing C(K)indess to myself is this...what’s yours?

[vulgar-af]

DISMANTLE. DISMANTLE. DISMANTLE. We need policy, we need reform, we need education, we need a better understanding and grasp of empathy within our society. Speaking on feminism or LGBTQ+ inclusivity it’s not JUST a political conversation. When speaking on racism and oppression, it’s not JUST a political conversation. It’s not entirely about being a “Social Justice Warrior”. It’s about our lives and others lives being constructed by misogyny, inequality and allowing ONE privileged race (the majority) to systematically deconstruct an entire ethnic group. It’s about fucking actual realities, experiences since childhood and the daily reality of living in fear of violence. It’s not just a political debate or a philosophical debate, it’s FUCKING REALITY. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . #activism #feministactivism  #advocacy #advocate #emotionalsupport #aid #campaign #cause #change #changemakers #diversityeducation #health #humanity #humanrights #humantrafficking #impact #peace #socent #socialgood #women #womenrights #buildwomanup #powerfulwomen #irise #feminist #womanistand #feminism #feministaf #feministactivist #feministpride #feministmovement #intersectionalfeminism #womenempowerment #humanright #spreadlove #socialjustice #makechange #createchange #empowerment #education #betterunderstanding #womensupportingwomen #empowermentissexy #bodypositive #girlgang #feministclothing #fuckyour #doublestandards #resistance #riot #revolution #rebelwoman  #grrlpower #girlpower #grlpwr #smashthepatriarchy  #raisegoodhumans #preventmisogyny #equality #isnot #equity #believesurvivors #kindessmatters #choosekind  #choosekindness #chooselove #kindnessinaction #loveinaction #humankindess #spreadkindness #radicalselflove #mybodyismine #allbodytypes #fuckathighgap #selflovejourney #selfloveclub #selflovematters #mindful #selflove #selflovegoals #selfloveadvocate #selflovesunday #selfcarematters #youareenough #lgbtq #lgbt #pride #gay #loveislove #lovewins #pridemonth #lesbian #queer #transgender #love #bisexual #genderexpression #expression #genderfluid #gaypride  #instagay #pansexual #bi #lovewins #nonbinary #rainbow #gayboy #gaygirl #lgbtpride   https://www.instagram.com/p/B06WNCjHAbz/?igshid=1ecg0t8q45b7g

[dixonsviolin]

Humankindess tour continues across 6 states, where will I see you?

(tour details at bandsintown.com/dixon'sviolin and on facebook at https://www.facebook.com/tours/526467474510501/ )💖!🙏

[supportnorthridgefoundation]

Castlebay Lane Charter Elementary donates DVD’s to Northridge Hospital

It is amazing to see children begin to build a passion for something they feel can make a great impact on others. At Castlebay Lane Charter Elementary School in Porter Ranch, they are dedicated to educating, challenging and inspiring students to reach their full potential through unique community- based partnerships.

This past February, Massimo Genna, 5th grader at Castlebay came up with the idea to collect 100 DVD’s to give to Northridge Hospital for their inpatients. Massimo is the student council President at Castlebay. Part of his platform during his year in student council is to focus on helping children in hospitals feel better by providing them with fun movies to watch during their hospital stay.

These 5th graders were set on a mission to make a difference in the community, and they did! With the lead of the 5th Grade council, students at Castlebay quickly came together to collect various DVD’s for our patients to enjoy while at Northridge Hospital. Together Massimo and his student council group arrived at Northridge Hospital full of cheer and excitement to deliver over 100 DVD’s for our young hospital patients. We thank Castlebay, and especially Massimo Genna for their generosity and passion to show humankindess to others.

[h0mebird]

today i was speaking to my favourite lady who comes into work for a whole hour. and she told me to live my life and that i'm better off now than ever, to grab any opportunities. that lady means the world to me, honestly she has been the mother i've needed

[thehumankindnessproject-blog]

random act of kindness just for a smile

lTo me kindness is something that people will do to help others. They will do it for a good reason and this is what the human kindness project is about.

It involved my brother [Angel] and me. I helped clean his room last week when he was  playing basketball.When he came home he said he would give me something in return but I said no and he felt happy that I spent my time helping him instead of playing.It made me feel good about myself because it wasn’t about me. It was about helping my brother because he was busy. 

I would do it again because I felt that I did good and after seeing his reaction i thought I can do it again.

- L.C.