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hunter-djura · 18 days ago

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Hard agree.

Additionally, as someone with ADHD - I'm aware of how time affects relationships. It's no mystery that people change over time and so too must your relationships.

It's not front of mind, but I doubt that most people think of their less contacted friends in such a systematized way either.

Speaking of; Friendship 'mechanics' is quite telling.

#I'm highly forgetful #and unreliable #but I don't not know these things #and I certainly don't treat my friends like video game NPCs #(to expand upon this: people with ADHD do indeed struggle with attaining and maintaining close relationships.#this is largely due to an inability to regulate our emotions [degrees not absolutes] and what we apply our attention to.#notably this includes a form of 'time blindness'#which is doubtless what the OP is alluding to in their own far too online watered down language #but this does not translate as they imply to lacking such fundamental social skills that their phrasing implies #the difficulty of course is due to an unwillingness to admit fault #adhd often includes acute rejection sensativity #so it is very challenging to outright state details such as 'unreliable' or 'forgetful - including info that is hurtful to admit forgetting #rather we have the language frustratingly applied to autism also #it is not a disability; it is a super power #we simply approach the systems of the world from another angle #ect ect #I understand the desire to not use language that limits or dehumanizes #however we must also be frank and earnest in our language lest we confuse and lead to further misinformation down the line #but also I just wouldn't accept any statements like these from twitter users - especially using language like this. it's too definitive.#a decent indicator of how well informed the source is #is how willing they are to be absolute or definitive when sharing data #they have more to lose if they misrepresent their work or field #)

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