#how i learned to stop doomscrolling and also became an incrementalist (gasp hiss boo)

[callmearcturus]

I had a very long, emotional talk with a friend about the state of the world and the darkness hanging over us all, and how grim it all seems.

There is just one thing I wish I could give to everyone is the idea that part of the Struggle, of wanting a better world, is that you need to celebrate the victories and not just sink into despair.

I think this hit me a few years back, maybe 3 or 4, when I saw someone say "If all you reblog about trans people is how much you hate terfs, what are you even doing here? make sure you're elevating us and not just our haters"

which unlocked something in my brain. that I needed to love trans people more than I hated transphobes. hate can't be the point.

a diet of fear and anger will poison you, you need to have joy too. you can't lose sight of the joy and hope. we have to know that we can win, and we have to celebrate everyone around us. if all you can think about are the failures and you can't remember where we won, then what are you doing here? how do you see the future? will I see you there?

i hope so, and that's the guiding light.