#how hard the shift has been and I remember comfoting my own aunt about this stuff when I was young

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You know, my aunt had breast cancer and had to get a double mastectomy.... She passed away when I was young because of complications and returning cancers.

But I just think about how ashamed she was for being forced to get her breasts removed. How she felt like less of a woman. How she regretted the decision even though it gave her years more life to live, because she was ashamed to be a woman without breasts. I cannot imagine her living through this era of people so focused on shitting on people with top surgery scars.

A lot of transphobia around surgery is also ableist as fucking hell. No amount of focusing on the idea of ‘healthy breasts’ will be able to deflect their shaming away from people who don’t have healthy breasts. They’d have seen my aunt’s top scars and immediately dog pile her for ‘cutting off perfectly healthy breasts!’ when she didn’t have that.

Like, I know the image is supposed to be a trans man, and I really don’t want  to take away from that, but frankly it could easily also be a woman who survived breast cancer and these people would still be foaming at the mouth about it and it makes me so angry.

They would have seen my aunt as a failed woman for prioritizing her life over her breasts and quite frankly they did make her feel that way already.  Transphobes don’t even care about cis women, the cruelty is the point. It has nothing to do with health or healthy tissue, they’ll see top scars on anyone and pitch a fucking fit.

The control is the point. The conformity is the point.

On this week's "Why are the transphobes mad?" - A Costa Coffee graphic of a trans masc person surfing.

I wonder what M&S think of this...

Oh.

Oh.