#hope you don't mind OP! I was like WAIT... I have visuals for this?!

[statementlou]

guess you can't add video to a reblog so you will just have to take my word for it but anyway here it is (from the Berkeley show) ft special guest Lucia heyyy girl

So no one ever told me that at the end of WOAYF the screen is black and white and glitching rainbow colors while Louis is in focus singing “It’s Written All Over Your Face” three times.

[girlsjustwannadrawwhump]

i respect your opinion on the "more" matter (and will keep it in mind when commenting your work), I hope you don't mind me sharing the opposite pov? I'm not a writer, but a visual artist, and when people ask for more regarding a specific piece -sure I'd want them to take a look at my other works first lol- I take it as like a huge compliment, because they liked it so much this amount wasn't even enough! Like when you ask your grandma for seconds lol. I guess the difference is interesting.

sorry for the anon form, i know it looks creepy ;-( but i'm terrified of sharing my opinions online

Hey there! I totally understand your perspective, getting a comment at all is nice and it's meant as a compliment inherently. I just consider it slightly rude because it implies that they're entitled to the artists/authors time and effort. They're not asking after all, "more" is a demand. And I'm strictly talking about the "more" comments here, not the idea of asking for more. Asking for more is definitely a big compliment but it's nice to make a full sentence out of it. "I'd love to see more of this" or "Can't wait for an update" Are great ways to say the same thing while actually encouraging the op. After all if you're eating your grandma's cookies you'd likely go "These are great! Can I have another?" and not just "more pls"

[rubberduckyrye]

if it helps at all, the censorship is targeted near exclusively at visual forms of media and not written ones, so i don't sssee any foreseeable issues cross-posting your work between ao3 and tumblr. though as an aside: i haven't been following you for very long but i am. absolutely in love with your writing and your commentary and your au ideas and--everything, really? if you do decide to jump ship, are there any other platforms we can reach you at?

I’m not going to lie, I’ve actually hated tumblr for a while. I’ve been waiting for a decent website to pop up for me to hop over and finally be rid of this hellsite, but nothing’s really stuck. I had high hopes for Writscrib, but that ended up tanking. I’ve seen people taking a liking to Pillowfort.io, but after Writscrib tanking, I’m not getting my hopes up.

Really, me wanting to jump ship isn’t even about the censorship. It’s about how poorly managed this hellsite is. Harassment and hatespeech run rampant and while it’s against tumblr’s TOS, they do jack shit about it when it’s reported. Their site updates have been progressively getting worse and worse, and while I was like “Yeah yeah, change, whatever” at first, the slow and steady progression for the worst has me tired of this social media platform.

This new censorship? Well, if it was actually handled properly, I might not mind. Except, here’s the thing:

It’s not.

It’s really, really not.

Posts are getting flagged that aren’t even sexual depictions of the human body. Some posts aren’t even photo posts. Case and point:

Staff’s own fucking post got flagged.

I’m not sure who the original op was of the screencap, but credit to them

Anyway.

Tumblr is a broken website where hatespeech, harassment, and bigotry run rampant with awful management from staff. And the worst part is? Tumblr’s lying to you about why they’re censoring adult content.

It’s literally because Apple removed tumblr from the playstore. They’re censoring adult content for profit. 

As for me jumping ship, well here’s the thing: I haven’t found a replacement for tumblr. As horrible as it is, I don’t really have any place to go.

A safe bet is Ao3. I just today posted all of my drabbles on my Ao3, and really, Ao3 is a solid website.

https://archiveofourown.org/users/rychuu

I haven’t posted a lot of art here, but here’s my DA for good measure:

https://www.deviantart.com/rylesmiles

And, if Pillowfort.io is any good when it launches out of beta, I’ll probably be on there, too. I might get a beta account if it’s good enough, and if I do, I’ll let you know.

For now, I’m not really going anywhere. Even if I really, really want to.

[instantpansies]

OKAY here's my edits added!! op i hope you don't mind. thank you so much for transcribing everything in the first place that's a gigantic project omg. here's my big list of reblogs where i filled in some blanks (i used the insta reel, youtube short, and pictures from this post to patch together extra shots and when possible higher-quality versions to find more words!)

picture 1:

???? chicken head funnier (okay genuinely op i am amazed that you could make out anything on this picture. incredible i am bowing to you)

picture 2:

first page

REACTIONATOR

Ke?ps (my guess is maybe this is the name of the ep???? i have no idea.) Speakers all over town People's phones

Therapist Doof & Candace

Therapist thinks she is crazy but is tactful

the shrink is delusional ex???g?s (evenings???) or exercise That is the catalyst for Cand being delusional

Candace "It's a Wonderful life" - After actual bust C sees everyone doing much worse she feels bad -

FAMILY - I think you should discuss it OLIV: CRUISE SHIP - P&F START W/ SMALL CAND VAN/DOOF LAST CHANCE TO BOND CANDACE A / PERRY BACK ->

second page

Doof's DEI W/^ C's Therapist office. (this is below "Doof's DEI", i'm thinking this is meant as one line: "Doof's DEI office. w/C's therapist")

Doof sees therapist

Ferb is next a Speech Therapist

Doof trauma-dumping on therapist

Therapist "The real self-destruct button is in your head"

Therapist does ExNemesis-therapist (guessing he meant "therapy", idk)

Therapist sees - "WAIT, ^ I GET IT, what Candace is doing gets taken away by what HE'S DOING --"

Doof/Boys regular take-away That she sees - but she can't tell them can't tell them this because of CLIENT CONFidentiality ALL DANVILLE CRUISE OLIVIA: DOOF AND VANESSA ON CRUISE SHIP (on side: ALL CHARACTERS) THERAPIST ?? THRU LINDANA LAUGHING: IT'S A REACTIONINATOR STACY (...?...) PER(RY?) ? BLACKMAIL SECRET LINDANA ? I EVER TELL YOU ABOUT (........?.....) W/ LINDANA WHOSE SOLVED MYSTERIES

picture 3:

(script on table) PHINEAS AND FERB

"VANESSAY"

Written by Martin Olson & Olivia Olson

Dt 1.0 - Tues 4-9-24

picture 4:

VANESSAY Change tennis to play ground.

Roger & Slushy guy not Zapped

ROG - REFLECTS RAY W/ his teeth - set up teeth FIST. (fast? first?) Doof: Strong jaw -

AGENT T THUMB NOTes

"UP THE CHIMNEY IS A WEIRD VISUAL PUN" Stacy: "ya know we have a front door."

C & Stacy w/ animal sounds joke sequence - CUT DOWN?

MONO - "Four seasons of this show" Why did I think he's evil?

TO LIV for Vanessay Playground - See how Doof throws (thinks??) trap suits scene - A HANDLED WINOW BOX

Stace: "Heyyy I also made ANIMAL NOISES!" CUT TO BLACK

⭐Stace pushes J?y(?) (Jeremy?) out of doorway

DIMIN: after "SHORTY" - No prize is worth this! ->

picture 5:

T For Teen

For LIV - SC 916 leaps into air & does triple flip & lands ready to fight

⭐Pitch as buttons for each SC ^ T for Teen

EXEC Notes - THURS - T FOR TEEN: 1:45 end of C/Stacy annual ? SC suden cut to end wide SHOT w "NAPKINS"

MEAP - PT2 S&P CONCERNS

"you know we have a front door!" Is up the chimney a visual pun? (There is an arrow leading to these lines from the starred note above)

picture 6:

MEAP PT 2 - THUMBNOTES

22 C to Meap "Uh-uh! An exploding ship gives us away!" (CLUMSY)

Fix pronunciation "ST. LOIS" (<- ACT READ?) joke C is shushed by Meap

TIDY UP - don't have everyone say "Don't forget to flush"

C pressing red button to explode sound! (looks like "sand" but i think it's "sound") ship sucks!

Brenda joke sexist "None one tracks U thru the universe more than your wife"

picture 7:

501 PT1 EXEC NOTES - Bigger intro of Doof instead of him on Yearbook 10:27 BUF throws away Constitution but not in X IRVING Beat ^ #2 too quick to read

DECONSTRUCTING THUMBATIC -

Instead of "PSYCHOSIS" "PHANTASMA"

607 - ISA HAIR - 704 - OWCA Shredding SC.

C feels good - "I go thru that every day"

12 min: Viewers see the Murder Board

BIBLIO BLAST ANIM NOTES

Perry incompetent - Smashes into Doof's Roof CUT DOWN) PLANTS SURROUNDING ATTACKING CUT DOWN Doof /Per table start w/Doof: We have to HIT SELF- DESTRUCT! 904 - CUT DOWN 946 - START W/ 963 PAN

picture 8:

page one

SKELETONS WALKING (YALL IM SCREAMING. I CAUGHT A SHOT OF DAN TURNING THE PAGE AND THE WHOLE SONG TITLE IS VISIBLE. HERE'S THE IMAGE)

We're SW - along by the River We sit on a rock & the wind makes us shiver We're SW - in love w each other again

V2: The life all around us - it all seems so REAL The meaning confounds us - cuz nothing's revealed We're SW in love w/ each other again

MIDDLE 1: From nothing, we hurtle Towards each other again Our love seems to circle Without any end

V3: The cloud of Unknowing has such beautiful colors But where's it all going Except(?) towards one another? We're SW - in love w/ each othe

MIDDLE 2: We seek out each other Everytime we appear Sometimes we find another Before we disappear

INSTRUMENTAL W DANCING SKELETON

page two

S. W.

MIDDLE 3: The breeze says to hug her And show how we feel Slowly healing each other Every turn of the wheel

REPEAT V1: So basically - We're SW Along by the river We sit on a porch and The wind makes us shiver We're SW - in love w/ each other We're SW in love w/ each other again

JOSH - The Power of (ik it looks like "paver" - but my guess is, this song is called "The Power of Love" OR a fakeout word instead of love)

picture 9: (ok it's very hard to get a clear screenshot of these pages. i managed to grab one with just barely more info on it so there'll be like. three extra words here)

TIS MENTA WHILE (SKEL)ETONS DANCE

(MIDD)LE 3: (The br)eeze says to hug her (And s)how how we feel (Sl)owly healing each other (Ev)ery turn of the wheel

REPEAT V1: (So basically)

We're SW Along by the river We sit on the rocks and The wind makes us shiver We're SW In love w/ each other again

picture 10:

(C)RUISIN' NOTES (...?...) SWAMPY

(p)erhaps since they're trapped Let's get do Mom: C, there ? a np(??) back for the birds to build so..?

Bermuda 🔺 element

Tri-State Triangle

"It's like the Bermu(da triangle) totally different

(Teen lounge) pop & P&F build a j

Too much like (it's blank after this, not covered)

Dan wants ct to PLANE to cruise

IF Doof is not an dog fight w/ Doof

Jon said we turn it story where Doof's in in the clouds - There's another

(here's the img i used to find a couple more words)

picture 11:

It's a whole new summer Perry

Earthquake

Mom is laughing so hard she can't look

STARING CONTEST - TRY NOT TO LAUGH --

Candace has to be serious at Jeremy's LARPING TOURNAMENT but she laughs

picture 12:

STORY IDEA: Perry has a di Shall he give save his GINGER ST ^ STACY'S MOM - MS. HI(RANO)

Perry sick,

"Can you take

CANDACE

P&F CANOE RACE

LAUGHTRACK-INATOR

START sat????m - REveal Doof hits them w/ a (arrow to "laughtrack-inator") Doof keep cranking it up

Doof raises wall of audience behind at himself(?)

LAUGH-INATOR

CUT TO SURGEON HEART

Norm: Good mg sir! Doof: But (Bust??) I programmed you to

picture 13: (as op says, this doesn't add much to picture 2, though i did use it to fill in some blanks up there.) (along side) LINDANA 80'S COP MOVIE - GUEST ON DOOFENPUS

and that's it!!!

once again, MASSIVE props to op for transcribing this oh my word. I had so much fun going through everything!! so excited for the new episodes this is so cool. SKELETONS WALKING AAAAAH anyways, if anyone else has additions, insight, or stuff we missed, let me know i'll add it in!!

ive been looking at this for hours today im actually unwell how did you do this op

Dan posted this video that gave us a HUGE peek into Martin's notes about episodes they're working on...

Screenshots (with about 90% ID of what's visible, bless his handwriting) under the cut! Fair warning, it's long, but there's a lot going on here, and it's so much to think about!

picture 1: ????? chicken head funnier

picture 2: (first page) Reactionator

? Speakers all over town People's phones Therapist Doof & Candace

Therapist thinks she is crazy but is tactful

The shrink is delusional ? ? exercise that is the catalyst for Cand. being delusional

Candace "It's A Wonderful Life" -- After actual bust C sees everyone doing much worse she feels sad

Family - I think you discuss it Cruise Ship - P&F Van/Doof Last chance to Candace A / Perry back

(second page) Doof's DEI W/A C's Therapist

Doof same therapist

Ferb is next a speech therapist

Doof trauma-dumping on therapist

Therapist "The real self-destruct button is in your head"

Therapist does ex(?)nemesis - therapist

Therapist sees - "WAIT, I GET IT, what Candace is doing gets taken away by what HE'S DOING--"

(note going down side of page) GUEST ON DOOFENPUSS

Doof ? regular ? ? - but she can't ? this because of C ? Confidential ALL DANVILLE Doof and Vanessa on cruise ALL CHARACTERS ? Reactionator blackmail secret I ever tell you w/Lindana whose solved mysteries

picture 3: (script on the table) (our first potential season 6 title?) PHINEAS AND FERB

"VANESSAY"

Written by Martin Olson & Olivia Olson

picture 4: Vanessay

Change tennis to playground

Roger & slushy guy not zapped

Rog. - reflects ray w/ his teeth - set up teeth first Doof: strong jaw -

Agent T thumbnotes "Up the chimney is a weird visual pun" Stacy: "You know we have a front door."

C & Stacy w/ambient sounds joke sequence - cut down?

Mono - "Four seasons of this show" Why did I ? ? ?

To Liv for Vanessay Playground - see how ? ? trap sets scene - a handled window box

Stacy: "Hey ? I ? ANIMAL NOISES!" CUT TO BLACK

Stacy pushes ? out of doorway

Dimin: after "Shorty" - No prize is worth this!

picture 5: T For Teen For Liv - SC 916 Perry leaps into air & does triple flip & lands ready to fight

Pitch n buttons for each

Exec note - Thurs - T For Teens 1:48 end of C/Stacy annual ? sudden cut to end ? w "napkins"

MEAP - PT2 S&P CONCERNS

(I cannot make this bit out to save my life. Martin what in the world my dude)

picture 6: Meap pt 2 - thumbnotes

22 to Meap - "Uh-uh! An ship ? us away!" (clumsy)

Fix pronunciation "St. Lois" joke C is shushed by Meap

Tidy up - don't have everyone say "Don't forget to flush"

C pressing red button to explode ? ship sucks

Brenda joke sexist "No one tracks you through the universe more than your wife"

picture 7: 501 PT1 Exec notes - bigger intro of Doof instead of him on yearbook 10:27 Buf. throw away Constitution Irving beat #2 too quick to nerd

Deconstructing thumbatic

Instead of "psychosis" "phantasma"

607 - Isa hair - 704 OWCA shredding SC

C feels good - "? ? that every day"

12 min: Viewers see The Murder Board

Biblio Blast anim. notes Perry incompetent - smashes into Doof's roof Cut down - plants surrounding/attacking Cut down Doof/Per table start w/Doof "We have to HIT SELF DESTRUCT"

picture 8: (page 1) song by the paver the wind makes love w/each other again

around us - it all seems so real meaning confounds us - cuz nothing's revealed we're SW in love w/each other again

Middle 1: From nothing we hustle Towards each other again Our love seems to circle Without any end

V3: The cloud of unknowing has such beautiful colors But where is it all going ? towards one another? we're SW - in love w/each other again

Middle 2: We seek out each other Every time we appear Sometimes we find another Before we disappear

INSTRUMENTAL W/DANCING SKELETON

(page 2) Middle 3: The breeze says to hug her And show how we feel Slowly healing each other Every turn of the wheel

Repeat V1: So basically - We're SW Along by the river We sit on a porch and The wind makes us shiver We're SW in love w/ each other again We're SW in love w/ each other again

JOSH - The paver of

picture 9: While Dance

says to hug her how we feel healing each other turn of the wheel

Repeat V1: (So basically)

We're SW Alone by the river We sit on the ? and The wind makes us shiver We're SW In love w/each other again

picture 10: Swampy

is trapped

back build something

element

State Triangle

"It's like the Berm[uda Triangle] totally different

(Teen lounge) & P&F build

too much like

Dan wants PLANE to

Doof is the ship

Jon said we turn strong where Doof is in the clouds - there's

picture 11: It's a whole new summer Perry (reblog if u cried)

Earthquake

Mom is laughing so hard she can't look

Staring contest - Try not to laugh

Candace has to be ? at Jeremy's larping tournament but she laughs

picture 12: Perry sick, "Can you take

Candace P&F canoe race

Laughtrack-inator Start ? - reveal Doof hits them w/a Doof keeps cranking it up

Doof rises wall of ? behind at ?

Laugh-inator Cut to surgeon heart

Norm: Good mg. sir Doof: But I programmed you to

picture 13: (this is another view of the page in picture 2, but this one reveals slightly more at the bottom, nothing too noteworthy added except for this)

LINDANA 80'S COP MOVIE - GUEST ON DOOFENPUS

[psychological-musings]

Wait ok but I actually have an answer to this. The problem is that all of the above responses that OP got are actually correct. And that's because that's what "romance" means to them.

The thing is, there is no actual, tangible, practical difference between "platonic", "romantic", "sexual" or literally any other attraction outside of that trinary. There is no one thing, or two things, or any other finite list of things that are exclusive to or essential for "romance".

People feel attracted to and desire connections with each other all the time. When it comes to the specific label you put on it, whether you see that attraction as romantic or platonic or sexual... that's an identity, like gender.

...And with that parallel in place, you might see how it is literally, functionally impossible to provide an exhaustive definition of romantic attraction.

I have a metaphor for you. Imagine an agender person, trying to understand how or if gender really matters at all, or if it's even real. They ask their friends, "what is womanhood?" but all they receive in reply is conflicting and aimless responses that overlap with things that aren't exclusive to women.

Maybe one friend replies, "womanhood is when I spin around in a new dress and it makes me really happy", and this makes no sense at all, since there are plenty of non-woman genders that can enjoy spinning around in a dress.

Maybe another friend replies, "womanhood is when I look at my body and I feel like it's me", and this sounds like just a healthy thing that everyone should experience?

Maybe yet another replies, "it's when I feel feminine in my overalls" or "when I come straight out of the forest, covered in mud from digging a trail and feel the efforts on my skin" or "when I listen to rock music and flip my hair" or "when I pretend to make potions in my bathtub with my rose scented shampoo" or "when I wear floral perfumes" or "when i wanna commit homicide" or "when I wear my stubble in a butch way" or "when I put a little ribbon on my knife to make it fun and cute"

Or maybe, the only consistent answer they would get is... "I don't really know... It's just a feeling. A sense of identity and belonging. When I think of myself as a woman, it just feels right."

And at this point maybe this poor agender person is deathly frustrated, because none of those are answers! Anyone can do that! You're just making stuff up, it sounds like this woman stuff isn't even a real thing, it's just an arbitrary social box! It's a construct!

And the thing is, yeah, it's a construct... It's arbitrary and wishy washy and overlaps with a lot of universal human experiences, because a woman can do anything that a human can and humans can do anything that a woman can. There's no actual, functional difference between a woman and anything else. It is completely arbitrary what you decide is a woman or not. There's no universal woman experience, and there's no experience that women can't have.

...But the thing about constructs is that people can live in them.

The difference between a "construct" and a home is how much you make it yours.

...Romance is the same way. There is no set definition of romance. There is no way to define it besides "I think that what I'm feeling is romantic", because it's not something that exists on any practical level. It's just something that people relate to and identify with. That's all.

As for people frequently defending the supremacy of it.... I hope the analogy to gender can help you understand how it really makes no sense at all to claim that any attraction is superior to the others. There's no hierarchy of attractions. Romance isn't inherently "more than friends", it's just different.

Something else that I found that helped me visualize this is realizing that I am extremely alloplatonic. Some people don't experience platonic attraction and that completely blew my mind. But realizing this really made it click for me that allos feel both an emotional response/pull towards their desired relationship structure, and a need for that relationship in their lives.

Like it really didn't click for me until I thought about how miserable I would be if I tried to deny myself friendships. And suddenly, every single well-meaning-but-still-disturbing "you'll find a date eventually!" comment from alloromantic friends and family made sense to me. Like it really is an undeniable human need for them. It's very very real and it's a common experience that a lot of people really actually have. But due to the nature of identity, it is kind of by definition undefinable.

...if I had to guess, I think maybe they fall back on that feeling of supremacy just because it's such a hard need to meet. There's a little bit of... Victory and pride and relief in finally meeting it, and I think that acting superior for it is kind of the conventionally socially acceptable way to express that. If you have close friends or family that are acting superior for their romantic or sexual attractions, and it is making you uncomfortable, I may recommend explaining to them that you're happy for them, but you really genuinely don't feel that and it that it is condescending and uncomfortable to imply that that lifestyle is right for anyone but themselves.

....TLDR; attraction is an identity and you literally can't define it-- you can only describe it, and you can only describe your own experience with it, which is where all the diversity in opinion is coming from. And no, no form of attraction is superior to any other.

it really does bother me how no one can seem to answer the question “what even is romantic attraction, really.” like some people are like “it’s who you wanna kiss and cuddle <3” and I’m like ok well kisses and cuddles can be either sexual or platonic depending on context. “It’s who you feel passion/desire/arousal for” well that just sounds like sexual attraction which you can have without even knowing somebody so I fail to see how that’s romantic. “It’s who you want to go on dates with” I go on dates with friends all the time plus “date” is a social construct anyway there’s really no innate difference between a date and hanging out. “it’s who you have deep feelings for” great news for you that can be literally any type of relationship. my friend told me she defined it as “who you wanna give roses to” and I’m like do u hear urself??? like the more I talk to people the more I’m convinced romance and romantic attraction is an elaborate socially fabricated illusion that has no real defining characteristics. and like there’s nothing Wrong with it being a constuct but why people are so attached to defending the supremacy of it is something I cannot for the life of me figure out

[radmista]

That lady is animal behaviorist Dr. Temple Grandin, she has a PhD in animal science and teaches it as well at Colorado University. She is incredible and has been integral to improving the conditions of slaughterhouses by being a big consultant on their layout and animal welfare. 1000% reccomend looking into her and her contributions.

Anyway, are you guys talking about the winding back and forth area for the line to the register that's just filled with like candy and trinkets? Or the intentional way places like supermarkets are laid out to force you to walk past stuff like fruits/veggies and breads before getting to the coolers that are towards the back. Either way, stores are definitely made that way to tempt or "remind" you to buy more shit. Hoping that if you see if you'll think "hey yeah I probably need that too, might as well" and before you know it you're spending way more than you set out to.

I think the most insidious aspect of these designs are the sale/deal racks right in front of the cashiers. Stuff like cereal or Mac and cheese or cheapo juice. Stuff that are great to stock up on esp if you're on a budget and man it looks so tempting when you see buy 2 get 1 free and how convenient it's right before you check out! One of my least favorite traps. I tend to hyperfocus when I shop so I usually go in for what I want and make my way out, even able to ignore the racks of stuff by the cashier, but if it says sale I'm drawn in until I can talk myself out of it.

I do think in a way it does make waiting in line "less stressful" because it gives the people waiting in line something to do while also getting them to spend money without realizing it. Your mind can be occupied while you're trudging behind a line of people. Do you have enough brain space to be annoyed at how slow the line is moving if every few paces you're seeing a new selection of STUFF you could have. And if you're at a standstill, you're staring at that marked off crap long enough it wears you down and bam, get that slight dopamine hit at having something new.

There are a lot of people who have serious addictions to buying and shopping. And I think a lot of people don't realize it because they think their shopping and spending isn't the same kind as what they envision shopping addicts buying (clothes and accessories). But I've know people who compulsively buy commissions or giant collector pins or memorabilia from their favorite show or sports team. People don't consider things like OP mentioned, buying a special coffee every day at the same time (sometimes more than once a day) as a form of spending addiction.

It gives you that instant gratification and with more and more transactions made online or through card (so virtual money) its driven down our inhibitions on freely spending money. We don't have that visual and phsyical reminder of how much money we have anymore because most of it is digitized. It's easier to reign yourself in when all you have in your wallet is $30, but with a piece of plastic that has access to your entire bank account I mean, the sky's the limit if you have poor impulse control. Even worse if you have credit cards and poor impulse control, its not even your money it's borrowed or theoretical money (that you have to pay back eventually). However you look at it, you aren't technically spending your money with that purchase in the moment, and that's how people rack up crazy credit card debt. It wears away your ability to properly gage what you're able to spend.

If you find you have a hard time keeping tabs on yourself when shopping online or even out in a store (since yknow credit/debit cards), I'd try looking at your bank account balance before making a purchase. Give yourself a visual reminder of what you have, and do that math, are you really willing to spend $50 on 2 articles of clothing, $25 a piece. Do you really want it, or is it just kind of meh and you wanted the rush of spending and having something new? Not as easy when you're looking at your balance and mentally checking in how that purchase will affect it. When you're going shopping, stop at an atm (preferably your banks so you aren't charged a fee) and pull out some cash, and give yourself a limit. I know I get more squeamish pulling out a sum of cash from the atm than I would have spending that amount on my debit card. It gives you a physical reminder and anchor to how much you are paying. It helps build your awareness of your money and how you're spending it since so much of modern shopping has done its best to wear down our perception of how much we're spending.

It is really interesting that buying something does give you a high. once you realize that it’s like…honestly crazed realizing buying/shopping/spending is an addiction. I will be sitting at my desk thinking “bored…I should go get an iced mocha” like the iced mocha isn’t even the thing I want it’s going and spending money!! The impulse is to stick your card into a little box that makes a little ding and suddenly you’re handed something as if by magic. And what’s crazy is that so many people don’t realize this. I really need to have a two month sabbatical in the woods I think it will reset my brain