#honestly worst part is that i didn’t know abt his gf or him being closeted or anything until after we kissed and now i kinda just feel gross

[my-chemical-aromance]

im like two days late but regarding ur post on the 15th whomst is this man and do I need to get Iby to help us hide a body bc we absolutely will /j /hj /nf

also hugging u extremely tight in spirit bc ily and I hope ur doing okay /p /gen

siiiighs. im just having a brokeback mountain moment bro. not really but like he has a girlfriend that his parents love who he’s going to marry because his dad wants him too and he’s gonna take over his dad’s auto shop even though he wants to write music and he was perfectly content to remain in the closet and letting others control his life until he met me and (his words) he realized what he could of had, had he been honest with himself sooner. he said he knew he’s had strange feelings for men but talking me he found himself wanting to give in. have a life with me. make his music. have a cute house and a couple dogs. eat pastries with me in the car after he picks me up from work because i hate driving so he’d drive me to and from and i’d feed him bagels and he’d hold my hand as he drives and he’d kiss me when i got home and i’d tell him he’s pretty and he’d bum a smoke and he wouldn’t be cheating and it would be okay but he’s never gonna leave her or come out or do anything to make himself happy so i’m just gonna have this memory of this beautiful internally homophobic man kissing me when he drops me off at home and tasting of the bagels i made.

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obv the worst thing abt having to lie is the damage to d himself. queer ppl deal w/ that trauma their whole lives even after they come out. aside from that, the big issue isn't the effect on the GA, who have short memories+mainly just go w/ the flow. it's that most ppl in the biz know who's in/out of the closet. mostly u don't get judged just for being closeted, bc everyone understands the system. there are many artists that ppl know wouldn't have their careers if they were out. (1/2)

if d didn't have to explicitly talk/show his private life, he'd be like many other artists. ppl respect that to an extent. judgement+resentment builds when an actor consistently takes major lgbt roles (some of the few that out actors have a chance at), takes part in lgbt culture, all while making a show of being 'straight.' d has allies who know details, but most don't. and gossip has power in this industry. but d doesn't have any1 working for him that cares about this potential damage (2/2)

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Hi Anon. Agreed, the worst part about D having to state on the record that he is straight, and then go one about it for several minutes, is that it is incredibly damaging to him. I cannot imagine what it must feel like for him to say “as a cis, straight dude” and not feel physically pained when he knows that not only is it a lie, but it is one he is being forced to tell repeatedly. Further, I firmly believe that D desperately wants to come out.  It breaks my heart having to listen to him talk about this topic, and I think it could easily be avoided. It is clear his shit team gave a list of topics to the interviewer, they were even summarized when you went to listen to the podcast. Frankly, I think it is wholly unnecessary especially as he is closeted and so many in the industry now this as fact.

When the marketing for ACS began, while i was hopeful it would lead to him coming out, at a minimum, I was hopeful they would at least respect him and the project enough to be silent on the topic. Clearly, as we both know, that is not even close to what happen and once again, Team Inhumane when on a mission to label him in nearly every print article and in multiple live interviews. 

In sensitive situations such as this one, when it is KNOWN that an actor is closeted, no matter the reason, there is a simple solution for how to handle an interview. Do not address it. But with D, not only do they address it, they beat us over the head with it, and if it is not enough to talk about how he is straighter than straight, we have to hear him talk about his gf.  Don’t they go hand and hand?  Why is it necessary to mention both.

And I do agree, people are starting to resent that he has taken on so many LGBT+ roles, either because they believe he is straight but that he is so insecure it needs to be shouted from the rooftops OR because they know he is closeted and resent that he feels the need to not just hide his sexuality, but excessively lie about it. 

I can honestly not think of one other actor that asserts their straightness as much as D, and I hate that his team consistently puts him in the situation. because the fact remains, while he may not WANT to answer the question, when asked, he has no choice but to answer in the manner PR has constructed for him. Otherwise he breaches those contracts (please may they becoming to an end).  And while he did well with the questions on the podcast, considering, it does not take away the sting of having to lie and it does not mitigate the damage being done to his career and character.

There is no question in my mind that at this point, as hopefully Team Inept’s time comes to and end (please soon, this is beyond painful to watch), that they are on a mission to damage him in every manner possible.