#homie you're getting burnout stop doing this to yourself

[hollow-keys]

One thing I really appreciate about Dungeon Meshi is that the heroes actually eat, sleep and shower. So often characters will push past their limits and not eat properly, not sleep for 3 days, work 12+ hours a day etc out of sheer force of will constantly which is a terrible idea because if you do that it will catch up with you. You can't just fight through the pain and sleep deprivation forever, but they do because they're just ~that cool~ and that's bullshit. Dungeon Meshi says that the people that love you and would die for you won't sacrifice their wellbeing because they know they'll burn out and that makes them more serious and more devoted to their goals than people who don't and I think we need more of that.

[mothytism]

introduction

greetings, fellow freaks n geeks! you may be wondering, "what the hell is she doing?" and i am wondering back, "telopathey lol"

in the spirit of improving my own self-esteem and confidence as i have been working to do for the past few years, i've decided that what i have to say is not garbage and that it's likely folks can and will care what exactly that is, so i'm starting a blog proper, with like. posts and stuff on it that i actually wrote and brought into existence! i have a lot of privileges and a lot of not-privileges in life and have come across a few especially useful methods of balancing them.

i'm partly deciding now to write this because i'm recently out of a job and have the time and energy along with the savings to sustain me for a little while. i think everyone's capable of finding really great paths to happiness, but the survival necessity of being a cog in the capitalist machine and the inevitable exhaustion it entails makes it hard to do much else than, well, survive. if i can do some of the legwork in the area for the rest of you, i want to.

so! in no particular order, here are some of the things I want to write about. shoot me an ask about something and i'll probably get to it a lot sooner. i love asks.

being an afab person who went undiagnosed with ADHD/autism until adulthood (#brainproblems)

living successfully within ADHD/autism rather than despite them (#brainsolutions)

helping well-intentioned neurotypicals understand neurodiversity (#fornormies)

healthy friendships and/or romantic relationships when one or both have brain problems of some kind (#comm)

learning self-advocacy and turning self-hatred into self-acceptance (#spiritmeat)

constructively dealing with doctors (#drpiss)

why being openly cringe is wonderful (#uwu)

the radical feminism -> fascism/tradnationalism/bigotry pipeline and the real reasons TERFs are so dangerous (#rftf)

gifted kid burnout and why it is not, in fact, complete horseshit (#gkb)

long-distance relationship strategies for success (#ldr)

life strategizing: when to be yourself without caring and when to go undercover and "play the game" (#larptism)

how to be poor and still get and enjoy really nice things (#thrift)

buying a house when you're 23 and don't know shit (#home)

DIY renovating a house when you're 23 and don't know shit (#handy)

making big strides in life with advice and support from trusted adults, but without their money (#gxrlboss)

i'm going to stop myself there, but will probably add to/edit this list here and there. i plan to also tag short informal posts i write #blurb, longer posts i write #essay, and stuff i write on someone else’s post #commentary, and I’ll try to tag reblogs #rbtism unless i forget.

anyway, hmu homies, be good, i love you, here is some soup, pats you gently on your head.