#hes mono rn but i think hes flexible with it

[casperillion]

bruh this sucks shit, the person i THOUGHT i was fliritng with (we'll use he/him here) turns out to actually have very genuine and sweet romantic feelings for my friend (they/them) who'd been helping me emotionally with the anxiety of trying to flirt with said person.

i dont think he knows how i feel about it, or even if i know at all. my friend knows everything and tells me everything including how they didnt think they would be able to date him anyway bc of difference in communication styles.

my friend is poly, but idk abt him, its never come up, and i dont know if i am either. i dont mind the idea, especially if its with someone whos experienced, but this is rough.

he doesnt owe me anything, and we never were anything serious, we're not even especially close close friends

i just dont know what to do, hes too nice to just rip the bandaid off, i dont know if i trust him to do it. which means if hes not doing it bc he still likes me, im still going to doubt if he actually does. ugh

i want to just talk to him about it but im scared. idk maybe i'll just explain this to my friend and ask for advice anyway, maybe make it clear that if they do get into a relationship i'll understand but wont pretend it wont hurt me deeply. but that feels selfish ugh