#he's a good partner to have if you dislike misunderstandings

[hime-bee]

hi bee! how are you doing? i've been so busy lately that i hadn't had the time to hallucinate about my fictional meows meows 😭 i feel like it's the same case for everyone else too somehow aahh @__@ but anyway....

i actually had this on the back of my mind for quite awhile now but i haven't been able to actually send an ask about it bc i was unsure on how to word it, but how does luc usually open himself up to mc (?) or maybe share something about his past is more fitting of a sentence?? (sorry my english is bad AAA)

i remember him dropping his lore under the pretense of a bedtime story and i thought it'd be funny if one day mc just realizes that all of the stories they'd heard from lucas were actually just tidbits of his past 😂

No worries at all, Lacie, I completely understand! I hope you've been well and you haven't been working yourself too hard 😌

Addressing the ask portion: I think everyone that has played Insomnia's Window by now could tell that Lucas' bedtime story about the duck is actually about him (he's not super subtle LOL) Of course, there's some parts that he left out or glossed over to make it more appealing to MC as a bedtime story and not him just trauma dumping 😂 Lucas is a pretty straightforward man, and he values connections and emotions. He isn't the type to keep everything to himself, but he also isn't one to divulge too much at once. He would open up to his partner gradually, answering any questions they have about him or his past. He's not ashamed nor trying to hide anything, especially from his partner, so he wouldn't mind!

Now, if his partner enjoyed his bedtime stories, then he would continue telling them 😊 💖 (Also, your English is perfect so don't even worry!!)

[fujii-draws]

OKAY! Chatot rant in tags below! Read at your own discretion.

[glitter-stained]

I always feel like a little sad seeing posts about how Jason's character is inherently tragic and that's what makes it good, how him being unloved, a tragic consequence of his own actions, is inevitable, and how that shouldn't change because any change on that regard is a fundamental misunderstanding of his character. Yes, Under the Hood is a tragedy. Yes, Jason survived and for a long time people have been pretty confused at what to do with the character that survives the tragic ending. That doesn't mean he should continue to be trapped in the tragedy, that there's only value in him as long as he's unloved. And maybe that's me preaching and being a party pooper again but the idea that the teenage-to-young adult character with a mental illness that has damaged all his relationships is doomed to be lonely and have bad/upended relationships forever, that he's only good as a character as long as he's hurting others and/or himself (and usually both) and isolated because of this... It's sad, at the very least. I refuse the presumption that tragedies are the only stories wise and worth telling.

Also I personally really dislike the idea that Jason isn't and shouldn't be anyone's favourite, because he made himself nobody's favourite on purpose. Did he make himself a villain on purpose? Fuck yeah. Does any of his early attempts at reaching out to people hurt them? Indubitably. I maintain that this is because he wants to be someone's favourite as he is, at his worst, with his hands covered in blood. And I think he should be. (Without contradicting or damaging, by comparison, the relationships between other characters, that's the tightrope we need to be weary of when making such things, of course.)

It's like this: love, in most relationships, is conditional: you don't owe your friend or your partner to continue to love them if the relationship changes, if you change, if you become violent etc. If my girlfriend started murdering puppies, I would stop loving her. Ideally, however a parent's love for their child is unconditional. That's very often unfortunately not the case, but ideally it'd be, it's really not great for a kid to have zero parents that love them unconditionally. And most importantly, it's not just about actual unconditional love, it's about it being perceived. So it doesn't matter in the debate if Bruce actually loves Jason in spite of the murder, it matters that Jason asks for confirmation of it at the end of UTH and receives a negative answer. (similar arguments to be made about Catherine loving Jason and dying of drug overdose and Willis going to jail and dying - it's the potential perceived abandonment of it that would matter, not their agency and actual love. And it's not a question of whether he would be angry at it so much as that he'd yearn and hurt for it. And of course Sheila didn't love him at all.) That's why he, upon learning about Mia and reaching previously unknown to man levels of projection*, tries to rally her with the hope that, because she's "so similar to him" she would understand him. That's why upon learning about Dick "killing" Blockbuster Jason, again projecting more violently than a bullet, Jason makes Dick into his new favourite person (god, the concept behind BiB has so much potential why did it have to suck so bad...) Anyway, Jason to me is a character with a very intense, very overwhelming conception of love both in who he loves and how, who struggles to understand that other people love and show it differently, and it makes so much sense for him to keep looking for a person who will love him unconditionally (something that's both very rare and not necessarily healthy since, again, most relationships aside from parent-child relationships do not and probably should not include unconditional love). This is particularly interesting in the context of him having bpd (again, using bpd because i'm focusing on the interpersonal dimension that's been mostly studied within that frame) because BPD often functions around a vicious circle of "is afraid of rejection/abandonment -> does maladaptive behaviour in attempt to prevent rejection/abandonment OR protect oneself by being the one to leave first" which is what leads to the instability in relationships. It's a doomed prophecy: i have maladaptive patterns that make me think my girlfriend is gonna leave me at any time, I keep demanding to see her phone, assuming she's cheating everytime she leaves and thus demonizing her even though I was glorifying her five minutes earlier" then she's going to leave me, which is gonna reinforce my thought pattern that everyone always leaves me. But that also means that in rare instances in which the other person in the interact, for whichever reason, sticks around through that, then these incorrect thought patterns begin to change through the sheet logic of extinction: if i think that people always leave me because of something fundamentally wrong with me and people don't leave then eventually the idea that people are doomed to abandon/reject me is going to lose its power. That's, btw, an important part of why therapy works.

(*that one's a joke, btw. He's not projecting onto mia and dick to levels impossible to mankind, just pretty intensely. Very human levels of projection, might I add'. Just to clarify.)

Now, be mindful: I'm not saying make Jason an abusive boyfriend. I'm not saying put him in a relationship where the other stays because they're afraid of him, that's not unconditional love or acceptance that's just fear. Of course, the ideal version of it would be Jason goes to therapy but because dc hates me specifically this is never gonna happen, but imagine him being in a relationship, romantic or otherwise, with someone who is as intense and "unwell" about him as he is about them. I'm not saying it would fix him (again, get him so goddamn therapy jfc) but it would change him. And just as it doesn't have to be healthy it doesn't have to be tragic.

I was asked a while ago my thoughts on Jason's current stagnancy as a character and if I thought he could become interesting again, and I said yes and talked about the directions I dream would be explored with his character and their potential. My answer hasn't changed, and it's completely compatible with this, but I will add: I think Jason as a character has largely and for long enough been defined through his yearning to be somebody's favourite, and that if you want his mode of interacting with others and dynamic with different characters to change then this is a very logical way to do it. And it would make a lot of sense for it to be the catalyst for other changes in his character (ie in his name or philosophy).

Get that boy into a super intense long-term codependent situationship, is what I'm saying. Please.

[animehideout]

hiii, love your “your mbti, your relationship with jjk man” so i wanted to request infj and enfj if possible? thanks!

Your MBTI, Your Relationship With JJK Characters Part 3

Part 1 / Part 2

a/n: Thank you anon for this request . I really hope you enjoy them 😭🫶🏻.

Also thanks to @nozaki547 and @li-m-ii for requesting INFJ, enjoy 💞

INFJ:

Megumi Fushiguro = Boyfriend.

You crave meaningful and deep connection when it's about love. You want a partner that will commit for life. And Megumi is 100% the man that would make it work. Always keeping a keen observant eye on you to make sure you're comfortable all the time. He fell for your mysteriousness, you were hard to read at first so he found you interesting, but he grew to understand you and your needs. If he senses that you're cold he'll bring you a blanket. Craving something? He's going to make/buy it for you. Like any other introvert you need your personal space, so does Megumi. So both of you respect each other's boundaries but with a protective instinct in case you need comfort. You have mutual values and both of you date to marry, so your relationship is for the long run. You expect a lot from others so he always satisfies your expectations and never disappoints. He's your ride or die.

Okkotsu Yuta =Bestfriend

Yuta is an empathetic person and INFJS value people who are compassionate and supportive during highs and lows. Without second thought Yuta would be the perfect bestie for you. He's always ready to engage into a meaningful conversations with you talking about interesting topics concerning life and your personal growth. You have a healthy friendship since both of you avoid conflicts and always work on solving any misunderstandings. You are supportive and selfless so you always make sure to be there for him and push him forward when he feels insecure. Both of you rely on each other in comforting and making each other feel understood, heard and important.

Ryomen Sukuna = Obsessed with you.

Living in Yuji's body Sukuna always observed your interaction with your friend group. He was blown away by the fact thay you crack others' exterior just by observing them. While in contrast, they know little about you. You didn't only understand them by being an observant but also knew the exact appropriate words to say in order to comfort people around you. So he switches with Yuji to manipulate you to open up. He desperately wanted to know you on a deeper level, your strengths, your weaknesses, your likes, your dislikes, your deepest secrets but as an INFJ you've always been keeping your guards up especially around him. And that what pushed Sukuna to thrive to force you open up to him. Developing an obsession and interest in you and you mysteriousness.

Mai Zenin = Antagonist.

You are a supportive and selfless person who is good at comforting others and making them feel worthy. Mai, is the complete opposite she is rude, egocentric and selfish. You help people up and she brings people down. You remain true to yourself but she lacks authenticity and always fakes her personality to try to appear better than others around her. INFJs are very observant so you couldn't help the discomfort you felt around her, you can't stand each other so you simply ignore her existence in order to avoid getting into fights.

ENFJ

Ino Takuma = Boyfriend.

ENFJs are drawn to people with a positive outlook on life who bring joy and optimism. And Ino is definitely the one. He is cheerful person who contributes to a harmonious, happy relationship. Ino is an extremely nice person, supportive and empathetic which is a common trait in you. He treats you with a huge respect and care willing to risk his life for your safety. He tends to be needy emotionally and with you valuing passionate emotional ties, you would be more than perfect together. Giving each other all the love and care needed to recharge. You're each other's number one fan. Daily encouragement words and notes are a must. He is very expressive and open about his feelings with honesty and that makes things easier for both of you especially solving issues before growing into conflicts. Ino and you consider helping people who are in need as an honorable duty which creates a sense of union and shared goals between you both you. His favorite thing to do is gaming together while he holds you close.

Gojo Satoru = Your teacher.

You're his favorite student there's no discussion in that. He likes your intellectual creativity and curiosity and how you always ask interesting questions, that also benefits other. He is a cheerful person who got a lot of energy so he appreciates the way you're like him, hyping up your classmates in class or before a missions giving them a big dose of motivation. For you it's easy to have him as your teacher, you have a flexible relationship not only the classroom but also outside school. You often hang out together and enjoy teasing Megumi. He is very open-minded and as an ENFJ you're often expressive about your issues, so he plays his role well in giving you the right advice that would help you grow. Both of you turn the classroom into a lively space mixing serious studying with the humor. He urges his student to be like you. He puts you under a lot of tests and challenges, you're a precious student for him so he wants to make sure you're strong and independent enough to succeed in both your educational and social life. Rewards you a lot, he often treats you sweets.

Geto Suguru = Ex-boyfriend.

ENFJs are givers in relationships they always make sure their partner is loved and cared for, they prioritize their loved ones in everything and of course they expect the same. But it wasn't the case with Geto. Even though he loved you he didn't show it, and always put his goals and interests first, even before you, completely neglecting your emotional needs. Being open to discussion you expressed your feelings to him, standing by your opinion but he repeated this dismissiveness leading to frustration in your relationship that ended with a breakup.

Itadori Yuji = Partner in crime.

The dynamic duo, your friendship is the source of joy for both of you. You and Yuji have an adventurous spirit willing to explore new things together with full enthusiasm, not caring about the possible risks you may face. Energetic duo, feeding on each other's optimism to keep going. You do a lot of fun outdoor activities together. A lot of people think that you are dating. During tasks you merge your efforts and skills focusing on your shared goal. Your determination is fueled by your empathy towards others. You face challenges with open arms knowing that you've got each other's backs no matter how complicated the situation could be. You always succeed in your tasks looking at each other with the proud smiles creating lasting memories.

Thanks for reading, remember this piece of writing is just for entertainment purposes, also imo, so it's not necessarily accurate ꒰⁠⑅⁠ᵕ⁠༚⁠ᵕ⁠꒱⁠˖⁠♡

[reaperexe]

Coffee?

Summary : When a bad drink causes misunderstandings and sacrifices of taste buds.

warnings : tooth rotting fluff

He knew he was running late and to soften the blow of your anger he decided to grab a coffee. the new coffee shop across the street looked pricey but it was his best option if he didn't wanna be any more late to meet you.

As he walked into the unfamiliar place and stood in front of the bored barista he decided to just order the new launch coffee. the barista busied herself with the order as he pulled out his phone and texted you a quick sorry message and you quickly replying with a 'its ok get here safe' to which he visibly blushed.

The barista rang up his order with a bill that costed as much as his groceries for two days. he grabbed the two brown drinks and rushed to library.

He entered the library and looked around to see you quietly studying in the corner with your books splayed out. He felt guilty approaching you but as soon as your eyes fell on him, a familiar warmth spread through him at your smile.

"Here i got this for you" He says sliding a cup your way as he sat down next to you. "Coffee?" You question taking the warm cup in your hands.

He takes a sip from the mug the hot liquid, scalding, burning his tongue temporarily till the overly sweet taste settles on his tongue and he grimaces at the taste.

You too take a sip of the drink, the sweet taste making it hard for you to not visibly cringe as you turn to him to ask him the contents of the drink trying to sound as polite and nice as possible.

He holds back as you ask, assuming you liked the drink and tries his best to remember its contents, he curses himself for not being thrown off by the four pumps of vanilla while ordering.

He explains to you how it was a limited edition drink, the way he explains it makes you feel bad for disliking the drink thinking he had liked it and wanted you to try it.

"Like it?" He asks at the end and that sells it for you as you muster enough courage to take another sip and nod your head.

"Yep its good".

Seeing you like it was enough for him as he takes a sip too, struggling to not frown at the taste and focus on the task at hand.

After hours of hopeless flirting and small sips of the coffee that just didn't seem to end, your mutual friend decided to show up.

"What's up" He announces taking a seat across you two "Is that coffee?" He asks pointing to the drinks on the table which was followed by the shove of both drinks in his direction with a chorus of "Here you can have it".

"Ok never knew i had such nice friends" He says picking up a cup and gulping before pulling the cup away to a face of disgust "Ugh, what is this sugar in a cup? this sucks" He announces harshly.

You both look at each other expecting the other to be offended by the insult to the supposedly liked drink but neither actually care to defend the drink but rather defend their partners choices.

"You cant convince me this is good" Your friend drones on as you decide to finally stand up for him "Hey if he likes it then its fine" You say confidently.

He looks taken aback 'he likes it?' he thinks, do you think he likes it? but he thought you liked it "Wait i thought you liked it?" He voices his concern.

"I think its fine" You say trying to not hurt his feelings.

"Too sweet is what it is, its not fine" Your friend cuts you off, looking bored.

"Well yeah it is" You admit sheepishly and his brows furrow, "Wait a minute you don't like it either?" He asks.

"Either?.." You say

"Wait so you don't like it?" You ask

"Oh thank god i fucking hated that drink" he groans out loud earning a few shushes from others around the library as he mutters out a sorry.

"Yeah i never liked it either" You admit embarrassed.

"i thought you did-" You both say quickly before giggling at each other.

"I was gonna buy it again for you tomorrow" He admits "Oh god no" You groan.

"Uh thank you to you too" Your friend scoffs crossing his arms as you two laugh.

"Thank god that cleared up".

[meowssii]

i really cannot stand when people call chris redfield boring, stupid, or one dimensional as a character. it’s just not true! as a series mainstay his importance as a character is so profound and i think people just. miss it? he’s got a lot of aspects to his character, good and bad, that show that he IS interesting and people just misunderstand him

first of all he’s caring and kind and he loves sooo strongly. both his family AND his friends. he’s always incredibly loyal to his team and especially his various partners throughout the games. he’s willing to risk himself to protect them. he stands up for claire, sheva, and jill on numerous occasions, showing how passionate he can be about protecting those close to him. not only does he defend the people he cares about, but also others, which is why he’s such a passionate force in S.T.A.R.S. and the BSAA. he’s been shown to have immense drive for his various organizations, especially in the BSAA. his work is really important to him and he shows it by how committed he is to working within it for good.

not only that, but he’s not just a really good guy. he’s not a one-dimensional “perfect action hero”. he has flaws, many of them!! these flaws not only help to highlight his good aspects, but show a side of him that’s relatable. he’s not perfect at all. he has very real human flaws that connect him to a wider audience, the balance here makes him feel real.

obviously many people know that he can be disorganized and untidy, his desk and locker reflect that. (you can find a post here that has a page from a novel describing chris’s locker )

and he doesn’t like to follow orders a lot of the time; he’s stubborn. he likes to play by his own rules (and it gets him in trouble. A LOT) this is what got him retired from the air force and constantly in trouble in S.T.A.R.S., chiefs irons even disliked him for this. but despite this, he’s an extremely passionate worker :(

he is also not the greatest at communicating, especially when vital information is necessary, in re2 claire finds out that chris left for europe through marvin because he had gone no contact for months, and in re:village he neglected to inform ethan of anything actually going on. though, in both scenarios he eventually accounted for this error by fully explaining his reasoning for this, being that he did not want either of them to get involved because he knew how dangerous these situations were, so i think this fault is forgivable while still being a part of his character.

in every single game he’s in, chris is a loyal brother, friend, and comrade. this is something incredibly consistent from re1 with the S.T.A.R.S. team to re6 with his BSAA team there. when he’s part of a group, he’s incredibly dedicated to protecting and sticking up for them. in both games he steps in harms way to protect someone, and when he can’t, he’s incredibly hurt and holds himself responsible (think richard in re1, jill in lost in nightmares, and finn in re6)

in all three of these examples and more, when chris can’t save someone it’s incredibly personal to him. when he loses finn and his team he can’t even bare the pain of working and drinks his consciousness away in a bar. it’s EXTREMELY personal. when he can’t save jill in re5 lost in nightmares, he doubles down on protecting sheva (the cutscene at the end in the plane embodying this the most imo) and eben in re:village he displays anger and guilt over ethan when he sacrifices himself, even though ethan was already falling apart. he can’t stand the idea of losing someone, especially when that person is his partner or depending on him. this is once again a reflection of how deeply he cares for those around him (he’s such a sweetie like that)

i just hate seeing people call chris boring or stupid or a flat character; he’s not any of these things at all. not being as flashy or wise cracking or mysterious in nature as some of the other characters, does not demean his value and i think these aspects of his character balance him out from the others. he has a good heart and loyal personality and he doesn’t need sarcasm or one liners or an overly mysterious backstory to make him stand out. his passionate dedication to others and his career is what makes him so great.

[numberonetacostan]

hello kind tea bag I have the need to be autistic about tacomic in your inbox.

Hiya Kiara!!!!!^^ Welcome back, and thank you for sending in TACOMIC!!!! And for calling me tea bag I like that a whole lot!!!! X3 These thoughts are quite delicious!!!!

She does have so very many walls!!!! She doesn't let herself feel or think about her own feelings or regrets as much as she's able to block them out, there's no way in HELL she wants to talk about them to anyone, even Mic, and even as Mic becomes more important to her. But when Mic chooses to defend her despite Knife bringing Pickle into the conversation, it really means something to her!! And gets her thinking about the friend she lost as much as she tries to ignore those feelings, which contributes to her actions in episode 14!! She wants to prove to Mic that she's a good partner, that she's useful, she's helping, Mic can trust her, but in doing so she breaks Mic's trust and loses her too!!! And she ISN'T coping well afterwards!!!!!!! Sorry I feel like I'm just restating what you said, but like, your analysis is very good and correct I don't know what I should add.

I see it as Mic being a partner in Taco's eyes until around episode 13!! We see her using "Mic" instead of "Microphone" to refer to her here, this is the episode in which Mic defends Taco, and immediately following it in ep 14 they're joking about Taco betraying Mic (we see Taco handling stressful situations with humor prior to this, that's what I see her doing in this scene as well, playing off a notion that upsets her by joking about it). Even if Taco doesn't want to talk to Mic about her feelings, the care Mic is trying to show does mean something, yeah? And then they divorce. Meowch!!! Taco unintentionally betrays Mic's trust and Mic leaves her, hitting her right where it would hurt when they talk for what Taco believes is the last time, as Mic has been shown to do previously like when she lashes out at Cheesy (who also kinda deserved it with how he kept pushing when mic made her dislike and discomfort with his jokes very clear, but regardless she still does hit them where she knows it will hurt when she lashes out). When Taco finally sees someone as liking her for who she actually is rather than her facade, they leave her, and she falls apart. She had finally just started to really connect with someone for the first time, after the lies, the loneliness, everything, and just like that it's gone, and Mic hates her too.

But, yeah, while the minecart scene makes Taco feel closer to Mic, it makes Mic feel further from and more distrusting of Taco. Taco knows Mic, she's read her diary for cobs' sake, but Mic doesn't know Taco very well, and Taco won't open up to her. She truly does care about Taco, and likes her too!!! But between the seeds of doubt planted in episode 13, Taco's unwillingness to be emotionally honest/open/available, and her kidnapping Mepad, electrocuting Fan, and killing Test Tube after she brushed off promising not to hurt anyone, Mic can't do it anymore. Taco was trying to be genuine and be a good friend, but that involves not listening to Mic, which especially for Mic is a big deal, and proves to her that Taco really is just using her!!! Yes!!!!!!!! Sorry again for not adding much you're very spot on.

Misunderstandings, assumptions, miscommunication, and the push and pull of the trust between them. AAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAA *explodes for the second time today bc I love ii i love tacomic i love taco i love exploding too*

[bouquetface]

Hello! I'm loving your celebrity chart observations as I can learn from them for myself and my close ones! Can I ask a request for kpop boy band Riize member Wonbin? He doesn't have confirmed birth time, born at 2 March 2002 in Ulsan, South Korea. Thank you so much 💕

Hi here is a quick analysis but in cas edit is extremely difficult to find accuracy. His moon placement is unknown & Venus Aqua unaspected can be tricky to predict wo knowing house placement.

Wonbin Vedic Chart Analysis

Romantic Relationships:

His Aqua Venus in Purva Bhadrapada shows he’s attracted to someone taboo. And/or his marriage is unconventional. This can show up in many ways. It’s extremely hard to say without birth time. A few potential examples:

Spouse has a taboo style. Spouse is an eccentric personality. Spouse is from a different background. Wedding or married life is non conventional.

She’ll be independent. She will not like being told what to do. She’ll get him to challenge traditional norms and expectations. She may be strongly disliked for her behaviour or style/appearance. This doesn’t even have to be fans - it likely won’t since often people in the industry are super private. Instead it may be his parents, siblings or friends who dislike her. She may catch blame for “controlling” him. This is often the case with this Venus placement BUT wo birth time a lot of important information is lost. It’s impossible to say for sure. He is likely to encounter relationships with controversial women tho.

People in his life can make unfair assumptions about his partner - however, in some cases this isn’t unfair treatment as he may encounter toxic partners.

The spouse is dominating but not aggressive. She does seek control over the relationship. She is likely very social. She could feel strongly about certain causes & issues. She may be more scientific thinking than spiritual/religious. However this could easily change based on house placements, and 7th house & 7th house ruler. It’s nearly impossible to say without birth time.

Personality:

It is very difficult to make accurate predictions without Moon sign’s nakshatra. His Sun nakshatra is Shatabhisha. Pada 4 indicates he’s imaginative and artistic. Pada 4 of this nakshatra is considered the luckiest.

Aries Mars shows he’s willing to make bold moves. He is comfortable for standing up for himself and loved ones. If people do end up disliking his partner, that alone will not change his mind. He is assertive and not easily wavered by other’s opinions.

Synastry:

He would most likely get along with…

Sidereal Venus or Moon Aquarius (15-29 degrees). These placements could conjunct his Sun or Venus. This would indicate strong understanding of one another. The two simply know how one another’s minds work. It makes for a good long-term connection.

Sidereal Venus or Mercury or Moon Capricorn (20-29 degrees). This could conjunct his Mercury placements. This indicates conversation is easy. You are less likely to misunderstand one another. You can easily see the other’s perspective even when you don’t agree with them.

Sidereal Venus or Mercury or Moon Gemini (5-15 degrees). This could conjunct his Jupiter and trine his Sun. This shows an abundance of love and comfort. This placement can be very exciting and joyful. If Mercury is conjunct his Jupiter, the two can have very long and deeper discussions.

Sidereal Venus Aries (0-10 degrees). This would conjunct his Mars. This depending on entire synastry could show a strong pull or push. He could be extremely intrigued. It may potentially opposite his Moon depending on his birth time. In this case, there is some frustration involved with the attraction.

[milfclaren]

So intrigued what your version of the correct fic Lando is... (and if you have any examples of ones you like!)

howdy partner!! i probably have to write him myself to feel fully satisfied but. here are my thoughts anyways. i’m sorry i typed you a fucking Book in response.

i wanna start by saying i give a lot of leeway with how lando is written by others because his perspective is one i find Very Hard to write. for one, he leaves a lot of room for misinterpretation (i’ll expand) and for two, we’re very different people with very different experiences and i’ve never met him. alas, fic exists as the perfect space to explore your own interpretation of someone else’s personality — both inside and outside of their normal circumstances — and as a writer, you get a lot of creative choice within that. my usual complaint is that he’s cut to the bare bits of the public personality (sillygoofy, a bit bothersome, sometimes demanding and persnickety) OR he’s solely earnest and one-dimensional, in a way that reads as a subservient self-insert.

the version of lando in fic that feels correct for me balances all of these things — his goofier front, his prickly, cautionary act and his more sensitive side (and i do think he is Sensitive). this version acknowledges that his sensitivity is where his prickliness stems from at all. maybe that’s because he resents that about himself, maybe it’s something else entirely; that’s up for the author to decide. anyways, the most correct version of fic lando, to Me, also reconciles his dedication to honesty with his necessity to lie. for being so honest, lando is also a fucking liar, and i do think that. from what i have gathered, lando feels more at ease protected when he has some control over how you misunderstand him, because (from his perspective) no matter what he says or does, you are going to misunderstand him. i don’t think fic acknowledges/explores this Nearly enough. (astrology does, but his birth chart is another rant entirely)

he has said before he thinks it’s funny when people are wrong about him, but once again to me that says being misunderstood is the status quo. on some level he likes to mislead you. on some other level, it’s comfortable to maintain. i don’t blame him, i’m not judging him. in all regards, vulnerability is fucking terrifying. especially if you’re dismissed no matter how much genuine vulnerability you’re showing.

all this is not to say he isn’t headstrong or firm in the things he believes to be true about himself. but can you imagine how he might gain a stronger sense of control by playing with your perception of him? he gets to control what you dislike by controlling the version of him you see. if you dislike what you’re presented with, it doesn’t matter because it was an exaggerated facade anyways. there is a distance from that immediate rejection, because at best, it is a somewhat-false acceptance. that is not more satisfying, really. so maybe if you like that version, he plays into it harder. or maybe he starts to peel back his layers and show you a more authentic (or perhaps even more contradictory) version of himself.

tl:dr — a well fleshed out character showcases all their contradictions. the best landos in fic manage to capture his total aversion to being truly known and the way he needs it so furiously you can see him fighting it.

here are a few landos that stuck out to me, and since the og post was about porn, there’s lots of porn here:

[Explicit! heed all AO3 tags and warnings!] all of these are dando, landoscar or mando. there is no carlando, sorry, i know that’s crazy, because it is the most popular lando ship, but i only really like carlando in very specific circumstances <3

this is very short, but for some reason this lando interpretation kinda sticks out in my brain

fun landoscar here, i liked this exploration of lando a lot

pacrim fusion lando i think about so much

rule 63!dando - an interesting exploration, i liked it

another really good landoscar - this is a different lando than i usually see i think

this lando yearns so much, and he’s a little freak. no notes, that all seems plausible to me

i know what i said about carlando but this series is about dando. carlos is more of a lingering concept.

this little love sick lando lingering in the space of best friends to lovers

i would give you my life for more lando/george fic

some people who write or interpret his voice well in general

[animeyanderelover]

Stoic, quiet, calm, and aloof in general s/o with Kaede Manyuda, Claude Faustus, and Giyū Tomioka. Not to mention they don't like being around people and often sigh a lot. What are their reactions?

Holidays are almost up for me so you can expect slower updates from me from now on. Wish me good luck with another few months of studying🫠 .

Tw: Yandere themes, unhealthy mindset, unhealthy relationship, possessive behavior, obsession, stalking, manipulation, overprotective behavior, control, abduction

Hard to approach with that sigh

Claude Faustus

🕷️ You'd have never caught his attention if it wouldn't have been for the quite extraordinary aura of your soul. Your cold and distancing personality can't hide what a rarity your soul really is to Claude and he craves a taste of it. Honestly, he doesn't really care about your reserved personality. His current master is childish, bratty and loud so he enjoys that you're the complete opposite and have a more mature feeling on you. Claude does enjoy a bit of a hard play so it's somewhat entertaining to approach you and try to gain your attention. He stalks his darling when he has the time, it's helpful to know where they live since he figures out that they're more on a anti-social side. Considering their aloof personality it's likely that they don't have a large circle of friends anyways and Claude starts liking that a lot. He has started feeling weirdly possessive over you and since you don't like being around people a lot, he doesn't have to feel bothered. He has you basically for himself.

🕷️ When he realizes that you are his mate, the plan changes a bit. All of his attention is suddenly poured into courting and charming you. He can allow himself to consume your time since you don't spend much of it with others anyways. There's even a great sense of pride when you want him to spend time with you since you only grant few people that privilege. Whilst Claude still likes your maturity, he also wants to get more reactions out of you and tries to elicit it out of you. He gets definitely frustrated if he can't break through your shell though since he wants to be the only person you show your emotions to. He might take longer to completely abduct his darling though if they still become his partner. He has less reason to fall victim to jealousy since you prefer being alone with him anyways which satiates his possessive instincts enough to calm him a bit down. Abduction is bound to happen at one point though, the demon can't help himself in that aspect.

Manyuda Kaede

💴 If we're talking about Kaede in the student council, he enjoys the more mature and calm personality of his darling too. Especially in gambling your naturally stoic and calm nature might be from huge advantage since you never rash things, analyze and are hard to read since you rarely make the mistake of exposing your emotions. He might have from time to time a problem with your dislike to be under too many people. He certainly enjoys it when he wants some leisure time with you but he thinks it's also important to be able to be in a crowd of people, especially if it's an important event. So that's one expectation he has on his s/o, although he won't force them to be permanently under people, doesn't even want that either. Your habit to sigh often is something he chides you for too since people could misunderstand. The reputation of his darling is important to him after all, he doesn't want other people in power positions think that you're impolite or bored.

💴 After he loses against the Jabami girl, Manyuda cools down his previous expectations he had on you. There is even a certain time where he avoids you out of shame since he lost, is even a bit scared that you might look down on him. He manages to approach you again after the gamble with Itsuki and Yumeko that repaired his damaged pride enough for him to go on. He's still insecure from time to time so a sigh in the wrong moment or a calm yet sharp statement from you might hit a nerve in him which crumbles his composure for a bit. Manyuda lets you after away with more things since he has learned to accept the smaller flaws about you more. Although sometimes he can't help himself, his controlling streak still somewhere inside of him. Differently from before, he introduces you to Itsuki who has always wanted to meet you and even lets Yumeko meet you, cautiously that is since he still doesn't trust her fully. He interferes the moment Yumeko wants to gamble against you though.

Tomioka Giyu

🌊 Giyu isn't someone who easily shows his emotions either and he isn't the most social person either so he sees a lot of himself in his darling. That's why he never really tries to force them into going out to socialize more, he knows they'll do it when they know that it is necessary. You're very silent and keep most of the time a stoic mask but Giyu is perceptive and notices the smaller gestures you give him to show him your affection and he won't push you to show your love to him in more expressive ways, although he won't complain if you do. He's just silently happy that you are his s/o in the first place since he won't deny that he sort of struggled at first when he started loving you, mainly because he knew that you were the type that was hard to approach. The main love language between his darling and him are most likely acts of service, gift-giving and some quality time where both of you just enjoy having each other's presence next to you. You aren't that verbal but you don't need to be for Giyu to see that you care for him.

🌊 Something he might have struggled with especially during your fresher time of being a pair is your habit to sigh a lot. Giyu tends to feel insecure about himself which sometimes enhances in the relationship since he's worried that he isn't a good partner. So back then he often thought that he did something that annoyed you due to your constant sighing. He never told you though and instead swallowed everything back until he eventually noticed that you do it around everyone and finally understood that it's just a habit of yours. Giyu is a tad bit more protective about you since he knows that you're most likely the type to rarely tell others about your own problems too so whilst he doesn't want to be a pushover, he can't help but be concerned when he notices that something is bothering you. He also steps in when someone wants to force you into a situation that would make you uncomfortable. If you meet the other Hashira, he also stands protectively next to you since he understands that some of them can be quite overwhelming.

[tanadrin]

Ignoring the sex aspect, could you expand on what makes a preference neurotic or immature? You say “I disagree. I think it’s in fact pretty easy to separate neurotic/immature preferences from other kinds of preference. Like if you dislike the color red, that’s a normal preference. If you refuse to enter a room with any red objects in it, that’s probably something closer to a neurosis.”, which is just an example. What’s the actual principled distinction?

"Neurotic" and "immature" were possibly ill-advised words--maybe it would be better to describe them as preferences that seem to me to be fundamentally reasonable vs ones that, if I detected them in myself, I would feel motivated to ruminate on and dissolve if possible, or which seem in some way self-defeating or self-limiting.

I am not sure it is possible to give a set of criteria specific enough to distinguish, in every case, a preference of type 1 and a preference of type 2--and some of what we consider preferences of type 1 vs of type 2 is culturally contingent, to the point it may differ in different contexts. These are instrumental categories with a fair amount of overlap in the middle, so I don't know that I can adequately define this particular kind of preference with the specificity you seem to be seeking. It's a judgement call!

They may be easier to distinguish in the context of sex. In the specific case of sex, it seems to me that a lot of people have what we might think of as a ground-level sexual orientation, a pattern of desire/attraction that is basically unalterable, and on top of that we have a still-pretty-unconscious-but-much-more-contingent set of attitudes/credences/reflexes that may alter or limit the expression of the basic pattern of attraction/desire, but which is alterable. And the best example of this might be someone who is gay, but repressed because they were taught all their life it's disgusting to have gay sex. There definitely seems to be a large class of people who are, for instance, attracted to trans people, but who have a specific cultural attitude towards trans people (that they are disgusting or wrong) such that that attraction is also bound up with intense feelings of disgust. And that disgust can become quite paranoid, like with the people on twitter who secretly suspect every female celebrity of note of being trans.

But such attitudes can (and often are) confronted and even dissolved over time. Disgust can be unlearned! Which indicates to me that though these attitudes can seem quite deep-seated, they are fundamentally different in nature from people's deeper structures of desire, which do seem relatively fixed. Conversion therapy doesn't work; there doesn't seem to be a way to deliberately unlearn a paraphilia. You can't change someone else's or your own core sexuality very much.

This is not to say "genital preference is necessarily transphobia." It's also certainly not to say that even people who are transphobic don't have a right to select their partners. You do not have to have a good reason, or any reason at all, not to sleep with someone. So I want to head off that possible misunderstanding now. But it does seem to me that, insofar as complex preference sets like those that govern sexual attraction are composed of different kinds of preferences interacting, narrowly focused bodily preferences which operate more or less in a vacuum (e.g., "I find every single thing about this man attractive, except that he doesn't have a penis") are much more likely to be of the contingent, malleable sort rather than the ground, inflexible sort, unless they are the object of a kind of narrow sexual fixation that's so intense it's of the "I cannot have an orgasm unless I am licking a size 6 women's high-heeled shoe" variety, i.e., a really specific paraphilia.

[peapod20001]

33 37 38 43 for sebastion?

33. How do they greet someone they dislike / hate?

He’s very short in his responses to anyone he isn’t super close with. If he straight up doesn’t like you, he’ll just ignore you completely

37. What’s a secret they haven’t told serious romantic partners and don’t plan to tell?

That his, very much ex, ex wife had cheated on him multiple times and he kept going BACK to her. He hates reminiscing about it and he’s embarrassed and ashamed about it

38. What hobby are they good at in private, but bad at in front of others?

He doesn’t really have a hobby outside of his dance career, and he’s not bad at it by any means. He’s the notoriously “good at everything” guy. I will say tho he fucking SUCKS at any kind of game, skill based or luck

43. What do they constantly misinterpret because of their own upbringing / environment / biases? How do they respond when realizing the misunderstanding?

English is his second language and French is his first, so he tends to misunderstand English phrases or words he isn’t used to or doesn’t fully understand the meaning of. Another thing he doesn’t fully catch on to is when people are flirting with him. Even when he DOES catch the flirting he’s distrustful about it, he’s hard to break through to when it comes to love or new relationships

[bearofohu]

your tags on the lady layton anime poll tell me you didn't exactly enjoy watching it

Personally, i can only agree and i have my reasons for it, but I'm still curious as to why you dislike it?

I don't like it mainly because it's so... obviously made for little kids. In every part of it.

No culprit is actually bad, but rather 99% of them were doing a bad thing for a good reason, which is fine once in a while, but this is the case in literally every single episode, and it gets old quickly. They made a detective/mystery anime with no actual crimes depicted. I mean come on. On top of that, the episodes are so painfully formulaic. The mysteries themselves are interesting enough though, which is probably the only reason why i managed to suffer through it to the end. I also just generally dislike Layton becoming a father. I don't doubt he'd be good at it, but he just doesn't seem like the kind of person who would just adopt a whole ass child. I'm also generally not a fan of "popular character becomes a parent, so their child can continue their legacy". I just hate that trope in general. Children are not their parents and it's unrealistic to expect them to be.

And I'm also not a big fan of the main characters. I could probably write more if i seriously thought about it, but as a whole i can say that i just find them grating. Katrielle is supposedly an "english lady", but we rarely see her acting actually ladylike in the anime. Her interest in sweets is fine enough, but it's so overblown that it's just not believable anymore and instead turns into her only character trait, completely overshadowing her supposed interest in mysteries, which just seems like bad writing. And while the main plot, so to speak, of the whole show is her finding the professor, the only times that even comes up is in the episodes that are exclusively about that. Katrielle isn't really shown to be missing him at all, not even in private, which makes it seem more like she's searching for him out of obligation rather than because she actually wants to. The moments shown of Katrielle and Layton in the past are so few, it just seems like they wanted to do their own thing with the show, but had to slap the Layton brand name onto it for the brand recognition, and i wouldn't be surprised if that was the truth tbh.

Noah, or as the english subs called him, "Ernest" (for whatever reason), is probably my least favourite kind of character. I don't know, maybe it's his character design that makes me dislike him so much. I hate how he's such a huge scaredy cat and that being his one and only sole character trait. Seriously, what other character traits does he have? If you know any, please tell me, because i legit cannot think of any. Well, he does have this one other character trait of having a huge crush on Katrielle, but is unable or unwilling to actually ever act on it, which is a trope that I'm just so tired of. Like, either grow some balls and make a move instead of being passive aggressive to every other potential partner that approaches her, or give up on your crush and grow a personality! I don't care about how "realistic" this kind of thing is supposed to be, it makes for a terrible character. That coupled with his general demeanor just makes him boring as hell. If he was replaced by a lapdog that got carried around in a small purse, i doubt the anime would be much different. His only backstory we get is his two-episode backstory thing, but the whole thing hinges on an initial misunderstanding, or rather, it hinges on everyone else deliberately keeping Noah in the dark. He shows character traits in those episodes that could actually lead to him becoming interesting, but as soon as those are over, he's back to his normal, boring self, which is a huge shame.

Sherl the dog is the classic (and literal, in this case) example of "all bark, no bite". It's never explained why only Katrielle and Noah can understand him, and this fact doesn't matter either, because it's rarely, if ever, called out by other characters. He doesn't have the sense of smell like a typical dog, effectively making him useless. His role is the animal mascott of the agency and anime, the third character to make a trio, and to be the comic relief. That last one is a shame though, because he's not funny at all. Or maybe the whole "yelling at ridiculous character for being ridiculous" thing is just not my thing.

These are my main reasons. There are a few more things I don't like, but those are more nitpicks.

So I know why I don't the anime (and now so do you), but I'm curious as to why you don't like it. Same reasons as me? Completely different?

your reasons are really valid criticisms and i agree with most but mine are actually pretty different

my reasons are probably going to be more based on bias rather than the overall quality of the show bc to be completely honest with you i hate both mystery room & lady layton and think both attempts to “reboot” layton was lazy, uninspired and unnecessary

and if a lot of this makes me sound like an old ass man its bc i am when it comes to layton. my 7 year old ass was playing CV on its release week in the US. im an OG snob to the bone so honestly you should take my beef with LMDA with a grain of salt when it comes to presenting legit critique bc while i do hav legit critique, above all else i have “i just hate this shit”

hino ignored “if it ain’t broke don’t fix it” and for that i never intended to give either spin-off a chance and im not ashamed to admit that this point. i knew i wasnt going to like mystery room when it was announced, but it was so obviously a spin-off that it was very easy to ignore and safely assume it was just an AU type deal

but then shit got personal when i found out LMJ was going to be professor layton’s successor. back in the day when all that hoopla was occurring i always had to back up my complaints by emphasizing its not bc i don’t like the change, its bc of x and bc of y.

but the truth is there was nothing wrong with LMJ in regards to the game they were trying to make. LMJ and by extension LMDA is for kids, marketed towards kids. thats why the puzzles are piss easy. they’re not badly made, they’re for children. the plot isn’t sterile and corny and safe, its for kids.

if LMJ/LMDA were a spinoff i wouldnt have had such a problem with it. but it wasnt. it was supposed to be a successor to layton, but its not a successor, its a total replacement that fails its source material in every possible way

and thats my problem with it. professor layton didn’t need to be remade. it didn’t need to be remade for children. children could stomach the original perfectly fine. the unwound future trauma beat my 8 yr old ass and i came out just fine

there is nothing wrong with LMJ/LMDA if it stayed in its fucking lane. instead hino attempted to replace a franchise with it that was totally and utterly different in every aspect which totally alienated OG fans and completely failed to capture new ones

and i hate LMDA more strongly bc the relic stone arc is such a failure of a professor layton story. it steps all over hershel’s character and makes him such a prideful deadbeat who gladly sends himself and luke to their possible demise for NO fucking reason. if layton knew they were going to get captured by rufus aldebaran’s stupid cult then why the FUCK did he let luke come with him. jesus fucking christ. he would not let that boy walk to his death

..or maybe he would bc of what happened in azran legacy. fuck me. i swear to god everything thats wrong with LMDA i can trace back to azran legacys writing somehow

hershel aside it also shat on any of the impact that we would’ve gotten seeing luke’s growth. LMDA just throws a fucking eeeve stone at him and even then we learn almost fucking nothing about him or his wife or how they met. marina is the only character i found even a little bit interesting due to how fucking hardass it was that she indoctrinated herself into the cult that froze her man for 10 yrs JUST so she could one day save him. but ofc the fandom shat on her when LMDA was airing bc she wasnt luke’s husband (which she is btw. sorry some of u werent woke enough to see that)

hino obv knows by now that the reboot failed in nwos is any indication. and i don’t want to rip on hino bc at the end of the day after azran legacy blew fat stank ass in sales, he was just trying to bring bag back to professor layton. this just wasnt it and hopefully the hype around nwos has showed him the actual way forward for the franchise and if hes swagful enough he’ll just start giving LMJ the flora treatment

but yea this is such my brainshit of thoughts for why i personally hate LMJ/LMDA. hopefully it was even a little bit coherent and ty for giving me a chance to ramble and sharing your own thoughts 💖

[offurandfeathers]

WEIRDLY SPECIFIC BUT HELPFUL CHARACTER BUILDING QUESTIONS PART 2

What subject / topic do they know a lot about that’s completely useless to the direct plot? Botanics.

How would they respond to being fired by a good boss? Understand and accept without a word, then wonder what he could have done differently.

What’s the worst gift they ever received? How did they respond? I don't have an answer for that.

What do they tell people they want? What do they actually want? To be unburdened. To be free.

How do they respond when someone doesn’t believe them? He'll try to convince them. For a short while. Then he'll drop the topic. People are free to believe what they want.

When they make a mistake and feel bad, does the guilt differ when it’s personal versus when it’s professional? If it affects someone he deeply cares for, the guilt will be unbearable.

When do they feel the most guilt? How do they respond to it? When he unintentionally hurts someone he cares for.

If they committed one petty crime / misdemeanor, what would it be? Why? Streaking.

How do they greet someone they dislike / hate? Dislike: A curt nod. Hate: Doesn't acknowledge at all.

How do they greet someone they like / love? Friend: Forearm clasp Close friend: Hug Lover/partner: Warm hug and tender kiss

What is the smallest, morally questionable choice they’ve made? Hunt wolves to allow deer population to grow

Who do they keep in their life for professional gain? Is it for malicious intent? No one.

What’s a secret they haven’t told serious romantic partners and don’t plan to tell? That he would like to be caried to bed when he's tired, for once.

What hobby are they good at in private, but bad at in front of others? Why? Sketching. He often does during his research, to document. But whenever someone is looking, he becomes overly aware and most of the time the drawings look nothing like the subject does in reality.

Would they rather be invited to an event to feel included or be excluded from an event if they were not genuinely wanted there? Excluded. Halsin is all about honesty and being genune.

How do they respond to a loose handshake? What goes through their head? Handshakes? Forearm clasps are the way to go.

What phrases, pronunciations, or mannerisms did they pick up from someone / somewhere else? Forearm clasps. He picked it up in the Grove centuries ago.

If invited to a TED Talk, what topic would they present on? What would the title of their presentation be? Topic: The importance of foreplay for the well-being of the couple Title: Honeyed words and sweeter things

What do they commonly misinterpret because of their own upbringing / environment / biases? How do they respond when realizing the misunderstanding? Not really misunderstanding, but he has spent so much time away from civilization that a lot of societal norms are lost on him.

What language would be easiest for them to learn? Why? Easiest? I'm not so sure. But Githyanki sounds interesting.

What’s something unimportant / frivolous that they hate passionately? Good question.

Are they a listener or a talker? If they’re a listener, what makes them talk? If they’re a talker, what makes them listen? He's a bit of both, honestly. He'll mostly listen, but offer council when necessary/requested. He's that kind of friend that doesn't say much but enjoys themself all the same.

Who have they forgotten about that remembers them very well? Probably some Drow slaves in Menzoberranzan.

Who would they say ‘yes’ to if invited to do something they abhorred / strongly didn’t want to do? Silvanus. And probably his thiramin, if he ever find his.

Would they eat something they find gross to be polite? "One should cherish all of nature's bounty."

What belief / moral / personality trait do they stand by that you (mun) personally don’t agree with? I'd have to think about it _really_ hard.

What’s a phrase they say a lot? "Silvanus preserve you".

Do they act on their immediate emotions, or do they wait for the facts before acting? Wait. He's sometimes too patient for his own good.

Who would / do they believe without question? Silvanus.

What’s their instinct in a fight / flight / freeze / fawn situation? Fight. Especially if there's someone to protect.

What’s something they’re expected to enjoy based on their hobbies / profession that they actually dislike / hate? Leading. Archdruid as he might be, he's not comfortable being the one people turn to for every minor issue.

If they’re scared, who do they want comfort from? Does this answer change depending on the type of fear? Close friends. Always.

What’s a simple daily activity / motion that they mess up often? Cooking. He usually eats raw meat (Wildshaped) or foraged fruits and berries. He burns food, cuts himself with knives. He's just a menace in a kitchen.

How many hobbies have they attempted to have over their lifetime? Is there a common theme? Reading, writing, sketching, whittling. His hobbies are for his enjoyment, part of his much-needed alone time.

Part 1

[adam-raki]

[ I wanna have a quick rant about Adam (2009). Yes, there is a TL;DR at the end.

Now, I love this movie. It means a lot to me. It's probably very obvious due to the way that I've dedicated my whole account to it. Still, I think people tend to fundamentally misunderstand this movie - and I wanna talk about it.

Let me first say that it isn't perfect. A better movie would have, for example, employed an autistic actor (despite how much I adore Hugh Dancy's performance) and made various other changes that I will not be bothered to list. Is it a perfect representation of autism? No. But, is there a better representation out there? Personally, I don't think so. It's hard to define what 'good representation' is.

I've actually heard this reviewed as a 'bad' or even the 'worst' autism movie ever, which I think is an unworthy assessment.

A lot of criticism of this movie boils down to people just not relating to Adam's personal experience as an autistic adult - and that's fine. Having autism is such a diverse experience, and I can understand the frustration of the representation being almost exclusively cishet white men who like STEM (trust me, it infuriates me too). Still, some autistic people ARE like Adam, and that's also fine. Some of us don't find his character exaggerated at all (like me, who found the shot of his multiple boxes on cereal in the cupboard painfully relatable). A more varied set of autistic characters need to be seen in cinema... including ones like this.

But, the reason why I have a problem with this movie is also why I love it so much; it's uncomfortable. I haven't re-watched it in so long because it genuinely makes me upset. It's uncomfortable to watch Adam mistaken as a predator and watch the miscommunication between him and Beth (per the "were you excited?" scene and the fakeout where you think he's pestering her for sex, but he just wants to practice for his interview). It's uncomfortable to watch him continually shut down by the people around him. It's uncomfortable to watch him misunderstood, mistreated, and left on his own when his partner couldn't be bothered to understand him. It's raw and a little bit ugly.

Was this what the movie makers were going for? Honestly, I don't know. Maybe it really was meant to be a 'pity the autistic' movie for neurotypicals, but I think that would be reducing it to something that it isn't. Yes some of the scenes are jarring to watch. It's less so romantic and comedic than it is awkward and kind of heartbreaking. But maybe that's the point.

Adam 2009 is very much a product of its time. I mean, it's roughly 15 years old now so I wouldn't have expected much. Yet still, it manages to be nuanced, showing the flaws in both sides of Adam's and Beth's relationship and how it ultimately doesn't work out (literally, almost exclusively because of Beth, not Adam).

I'm not telling you if you should or shouldn't like this movie. I happen to really dislike a lot of movies that are praised by viewers and critics. I don't even particuarly find this movie to be all that impressive in the narrative sense - but it hits hard. At least to me, it's the most authetic experience of my own struggles as someone on the spectrum. I hate how accurate it is, and I hate how much I see of myself in Adam sometimes. It's difficult to watch. And I love it.

TL;DR for this - Adam 2009 is flawed as a movie, but many of its facets are misinterpreted as bad representation unduly. I think it's supposed to feel awkward and uncomfortable. Some of us on the spectrum relate to that and good representation can't possibly cover every single autistic experience.

Anyway - if anyone has thoughts on this, I would love to hear them! You don't have to agree with me. Just be nice (or I'll be upset). ]

[erielleee]

i dislike dreaming freedom with a passion because of the toxicity of siyun and jeongmin.

let’s start with siyun!

i think that since siyun is viewed as a handsome ML who cares deeply about jeongmin, many excuse the emotional and mental toll he’s had on her. he’s been selfish for 9/5ths of the story and though he seems to be making progress, it’s only happened after he’s gotten what he’s wanted: a clear declaration that jeongmin isn’t going to leave.

he’s in love with her because she’s the only person who hasn’t left.

but what if it had been a different person who told him that they weren’t going to leave??

I mean wouldn’t he act in the same manner?? In love where he uses violence and aggression to get what he wants??? In love to a point where they have to walk on eggshells in fear of making him mad over meeting people other than him??

His love is based on a concept, on a mindset he has : that those that don’t leave = deserve his love. which is fine and good!

I mean- when you love a person for who they are AND they say they won’t abandon you- who wouldn’t want to have a person like that as a partner

but I’m wondering just how deep his love actually goes for jeongmin as a person. Correct me if I’m wrong, but the only thing he’s talked about up to this point is that jeongmin had saved him because she didn’t leave him. that she is his light at the end of the tunnel and that he couldn’t live without her because she is all that he has.

okay.

what else do love about her?? does she have no other retaining qualities?? no other reason to be loved?? ( like he looked down on the fact that she would be concerned about a friend if they were hurt than be concerned about him first- rather than view her selflessness as admirable)

he is so focused on himself, on his desire to be loved, that he is blinded. he can’t see jeongmin as an individual to be loved, but rather- as an outlet to his own inner feelings of being wanted and loved.

i understand that he cares for her, but his care for her is based on his own selfish desires.

onto jeongmin!

jeongmin is also flawed in many ways as well. unfortunately, she is a victim of bullying and has developed a certain mindset in regards to care and love from seeing her father and mother interact.

she loves him, so she wants to fix him! seems noble right? and it is! but not to the point of excusing his actions towards herself and others under the thought that “ i need to stay by his side (to fix him)”

when you want to stay by someone’s side, you’ll do everything you can to make sure they are in a good place! Mentally, emotionally, morally, every -ly you can think of!

Staying by someone’s side means also helping them in every way possible- which means telling them when they are wrong.

but jeongmin has failed to do that- when he’s dead wrong,( which with the count of times he’s been dead wrong is astounding), she brushes it off because “ I’m all he has!” shouldn’t that make you want to MORESO give correction so that way the person stays away from bad and does good?? ( her mindset has lead to an even larger misunderstanding between her and siyun, namely that he mostly thinks his actions are okay- but only bad when they hurt her and not bad across the board)

she’s allowing her love for him to cross her boundaries and standards ( namely that she hates violence in every form because of having witnessed so much of it in her life) to allowing it to cross OTHERS boundaries too ( note that sora choi was uncomfortable and brought up that siyun was a little weird and wasn’t normal for reacting the way he did when A FRIEND touched her)

conclusion: i think both of them have a slightly twisted sense of love that needs to be delved into. and i think once they are delved into and fully understood as to how they intertwine- it will bring full circle as why this manwha is named “ dreaming freedom”