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[musings-of-half-ameriasians]

Paradise?  Think again....

It’s been almost 5 months since I made the move back to Hawaii from New York City.  I have been noticing the little things that irked at me in the past few months but I’d just tell myself that “It’s ok, it’s only been a few months.  Things will get better.”  But I think i had a mini break down this week.

Convenience -

In NYC, for all my doctor’s appointments, I was able to make them either before work or after work on a week day.  Ie. 7:30/8am appointments or 5:30/6pm appointments.  But here I have yet to be able to find any doctor’s app after 3pm or before 8am.  And it’d take at LEAST 2/3 MONTHS before i can actually schedule a doctor’s appointment.  In NYC, that’d just drive patients crazy.

Standards -

I recently went to get a haircut, this place has almost 90 4 star reviews.  I could NOT believe my eyes nor my hair cut experience.  The whole cut took less than 30 mins where 10 of those was for hair washing and another 10 for hair drying.  I wanted to have my long straight hair layered and trimmed by about 2″ and she was able to get that done with less than 15 swoosh of her scissors in under 10 mins.  The result?  Of course now my hair that was originally nicely layered is now some ragged uneven homeless person hair. =(

Food -

Almost every single restaurant that i’ve been to here are all SUPER overly salty.  Is it because all the food are imported hence they need to cover up the lack of freshness with seasoning?

Online dating -

I have never in my life met so many guys who put “Loves to travel” on their profile and yet either doesn’t have a passport or has one but never been used o_O” Basically they are 3rd/4th generation immigrants in Hawaii who’s NEVER left this rock.  HOW CAN YOU SAY YOU LOVE TO TRAVEL WHEN YOU HAVE NEVER GONE TRAVELING?!?!?!  

Can someone please help??? I think I’m going to go crazy soon!!!!  Mind you I have already joined as many groups as I can to try to meet more friends/people (since i have been away for the last 15 years, I really have no friends here).  Been to probably 7/8 churches by now, been to 2/3 small groups, joined a few hiking grps where I’d go at least once a month, and even joined the board of some non-profit so i can be more involved.  But it seems like the late 20s-early 30s age group is NONEXISTENT here!!!! I’m still going crazy with the boredom and lack of people on the same wavelength....hheelllppppp =( I don’t want to get depressed.  Any former New Yorkers here to help???? =....(