#having secret f/os is so stressful how do y'all do it

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Secret f/o's 👀 I cast upon thee, talk about 🌌

Does your F/O believe in astrology? Bonus: what does your astrology compatibility say about you and your F/Os signs?

Do you or your F/O believe in love at first sight? Do you believe in soulmates?

What’s an often overlooked or unknown trait about your F/O that you adore? What’s your special trait that they love?

How sentimental is your F/O? Do they keep every little gift you give them? Do they carry your picture around with them?

Does your F/O feel safe you be vulnerable around you? Do you feel comfortable doing the same around them?

What would the ideal dream date be for you? What would be your F/O’s ideal dream date?

What relationship tropes would you say best describe your relationship with your F/O?

I know it's a lot of questions from the ask game, so if you want to skip some of them, I totally understand 😅

oKAY let's do it!!! *kicks up my legs and gets comfy* My relationship with this f/o is a quirky one that involves nonsexual bdsm so consider it M-rated (16+), I guess! I only get into that under the 'readmore' though because this is a LONG answer thank you anon I adore you <3 <3

(ask game: i'm answering questions about my secret f/os and my slasher kiddos right now!!)

4. I guess I was inviting this question with the emoji I chose! A version of astrology is kind of baked into the in-universe magic system, so it's not really a matter of whether we believe in it? I don't think he has a canon birthday, but I'm assigning him Aquarius on aesthetic vibes. I don't do astrology so lemme do a quick google on that... "With Libra and Aquarius, you'll find a strong connection in friendship and love, and likely good sexual compatibility — though it may take some time to develop. Communication is one area where this duo can break down a little, and they may have to work harder than other couples to really make things stick."

I mean, that's not false!

38. He definitely does believe in love at first sight, he's.... an incurable romantic, it's one of the things I tease him about. I don't, I think that love is a lot of work and commitment that doesn't happen all at once. I don't think that either of us believe in soulmates, though. The world is too complicated for something like that.

11. An overlooked trait that I love about him... is that it's very hard to get him out of performance mode. He's always trying to project one character or another, and I think that it's easy to take him at face value, because he's flashy and impulsive and it's hard to pick apart where exactly the performance stops reflecting his reality. If that makes any sense at all. I love that my job is to break down that performance.

As for a trait he loves about me... I think it would probably be my attentiveness. I've got a good sense of when his mood shifts, but even more importantly I have a good sense of the people around us. It's not quite one of his skills, reading the room (an understatement), so we make a good team on that front.

27. On a scale of 1-10, he's an 11 on the sentimental scale. He struggles with getting rid of presents from people he's fallen out with. We're not a romantic relationship, so we don't have photos of each other, but he definitely keeps things that I give him. Once our relationship went from professional to friendship, he did give me some earrings with sentimental meaning and also some protection magic, and I wear those very often! I think I'm a healthy 6 or 7 on the sentimental scale.

34. The type of our relationship kind of demands that we have to be comfortable being vulnerable around each other! That said, from the start we have a lot of systems in place to protect both of us. As the relationship progresses, those systems start to fall away and get replaced by trust and experience.

15. What are our dream dates? Oh BOY, well. I think that's something that's definitely developed over the relationship. We've been trying to get a trio scene to work with his other partner for the last while, but the dynamics have made it difficult. I think his dream day would probably be something with the three of us, if we can get our shit figured out.

As for my dream day... I'd like a little coffee date where we catch up as friends and I can hear all the hot gossip, and then we go back to his house and do an age play scene where I get to be devastatingly considerate and he cries about it. That's the satisfying scenes for me, and it takes the most trust from him.

40. We're a relationship that it's hard to define by tropes, because it's not a very traditional one. We're not romantic but we're not quite platonic. We're nonsexual but that doesn't mean that sexuality doesn't play a role in our relationship. I feel like there are still tropes that are relevant to us but I can't put my finger on them when I try. Something about class travelling (highblood finds escape in lowblood circles), something about two damaged people with compatible coping strategies (one who needs control, one who likes to give it up).