#harmful behavior is all too often just kind of going “uhh. what the fuck lol. anyway...” and moving on. | Explore Tumblr posts and blogs

dr-gaytorius · 30 days ago

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i understand that the experience of feeling like a prey animal is very common on this website but i just am not very sure what you all mean. you're an apex predator? your body is a weapon. you can kill the vast majority of living creatures with you bare hands. what are you afraid of? i hope one day you realize how easy it is to make people blush

#i assume most of the fear revolves around “what if they get mad at me” or ultimately “what if they reject me” but the intensity of this fear #is broadly - i can't help but think - dependent on placing other people's judgement over your own. it also seems to be dependent on #having a skewed understanding of what is appropriate behavior. especially in terms of what is appropriately proportionate to a given #situation.#if you say “that actually hurt my feelings” and are met with blame or aggression.... you are seeing a red flag. instead of believing this #person is somehow right #the thing to do in this kind of situation is to think of what - objectively - would be a normal reaction. if you are having trouble parsing #what that might be #try outsourcing it from a level-headed friend. you can tell how level headed someone is by the lack of drama in their life.#this is all to say... i hope everyone who feels like prey on this website is able to learn how to see harmful behavior and think #“okay... anyway”#and move on. you don't need to blow up. you don't even need to bite back. you don't need to get revenge. genuinely the best response to #harmful behavior is all too often just kind of going “uhh. what the fuck lol. anyway...” and moving on.#also you CAN turn someone into a flustered blushing mess with a well placed laugh. that's part of the lesson. you'll understand one day

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