#halia is a lot like her dad in how she approaches problems and work

[dandylion240]

The next few are for some of the kids and answered by the young adult selves. Some may change as their lives and circumstances change. It was rather enlightening.

The Orphan - Eli (poor boy is more like Ethan than he cares to admit)

Orphans are independent, self-reliant and are mistrustful of authority. Orphans, fearing exploitation, seek to regain the comfort of the womb and neonatal safety in the arms of loving parents. To fulfill their quest they must go through the agonies of the developmental stages they have missed. Their strength is the interdependence and pragmatic realism that they had to learn at an early age.

Shadow Side: The victim. This will manifest itself in your feelings of being victimized by others, and consequently blaming your incompetence, irresponsibility, or even predatory behavior on other people. You might also expect special treatment and exemption from life because you feel so fragile. When your Shadow Orphan takes control it can attack those who are trying to help you, harming these people and yourself simultaneously.

Life Goal: Regain safety

Fear: Exploitation

Response to Problem: Being victimized by it

Life Task: Process and feel pain fully

Personal Gifts: Independence, realism, resilience, empathy

Personal Pitfalls: Cynicism, tendency to be the victim or victimized, chronic complaining

The Destroyer (or Rebel) - Jolene (she will have a rebellious phase for a while)

The Destroyer embodies repressed rage about structures that no longer serve life even when these structures are still supported by society or by our conscious choices. Although this archetype can be ruthless, it weeds the garden in ways that allow for new growth. The Destroyer is a paradoxical character whose destructiveness reflects the instinctual death drive and the inner fear of annihilation. As a fighter, the Destroyer tends to be careless of their own safety, and can sometimes put others in unnecessary danger as well. Their quest is to use their passion in a balanced way that will sustain them.

Shadow Side: The self-destructor. This will manifest itself in your life as the tendency to be prone to addictions, compulsions, or activities that undermine intimacy, job success, or self-esteem. The shadow side of the Destroyer tends to motivate a lot of emotional and physical abuse (domestic violence, murder, rape, suicide, etc.) when completely out of control.

Life Goal: Metamorphosis

Fear: Death, annihilation

Response to Problem: Destroy it, be destroyed by it

Life Task: Letting go, acceptance of mortality

Personal Gifts: Humility, metamorphosis, revolution, capacity to let go

Personal Pitfalls: Doing harm to self/others, out of control anger, terrorist tactics

More under the cut. The next two we haven't really seen much of but we will start to see more of them.

The Caregiver - Josie (She's a lot like Evan in this regard)

The Caregiver is an altruist, moved by compassion, generosity and selflessness to help others. Although prone to martyrdom and enabling behaviors, the inner Caregiver helps us raise our children, aid those in need, and build structures to sustain life and health. Caregivers first seek to help others, which they do with compassion and generosity. A risk the Caregiver takes in their pursuit to help others is their tendency to harm themselves. They dislike selfishness, especially in themselves, and fear what it might make them do.

Shadow Side: The martyr. This will manifest itself in your desire to control others by making them feel guilty, e.g. “Look at all I sacrificed for you!” The martyr evidences itself in all manipulative or devouring behaviors, in which you use care-taking to control or smother others. It is also found in co-dependence; a compulsive need to take care of, or rescue others.

Life Goal: Help others through sacrifice

Fear: Selfishness, ingratitude

Response to Problem: Take care of those it harms

Life Task: Give without maiming self or others

Personal Gifts: Compassion, generosity, nurturing, community

Personal Pitfalls: Martyrdom, enabling others, co-dependence, guilt-tripping

The Creator - Halia (She is a mix of her parents)

The Creator archetype fosters all imaginative endeavors, from the highest art to the smallest innovation in lifestyle or work. Being adverse to inactivity, the Creator can sometimes cause overload in our lives with constant new projects that are never quite fulfilled. However, when properly channeled, the Creator archetype can help us to express ourselves in beautiful ways. Creators, fearing that all is an illusion, seek to prove reality outside of their minds. A critical part of their quest is to find and accept themselves, discovering their true identity in relation to the external world.

Shadow Side: Avoidance. This will manifest itself in your life by the tendency to fill your inner feelings of emptiness with many different inessential projects, challenges and new things to do. One variety of this habit is workaholism, in which you are constantly pushing yourself to create, produce and to do more.

Life Goal: Creation of new life (identity)

Fear: Abomination, failure (inauthenticity)

Response to Problem: Embrace it as part of the Self

Life Task: Self-creation, self-acceptance

Personal Gifts: Creativity, vision, individuality, aesthetics, imagination, skill, vocation

Personal Pitfalls: Self-indulgence, creating messes, prima donna behaviors