#gwenna laithland

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(via Momma Cusses: A Field Guide to Responsive Parenting & Trying Not to Be the Reason Your Kid Needs Therapy by Gwenna Laithland)

This is a great book for parents but also for those of us who are childless. I found it funny and helpful and highly recommend. 

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I really like your posts about punitive justice being bad, do you have some about restorative justice being good?

I would argue that every post I make about punitive justice being bad is also a post about restorative justice being good. But if you want to read more specifically about restorative justice, I can recommend some sources!

Three Core Elements of Restorative Justice - Actually this whole website is a good read if you want a quick primer on what restorative justice can look like (one of the ways it can look; there are many!)

Accountability in Restorative Justice - This isn't a riveting read, necessarily, but its purpose was to address those who are concerned that a restorative process cannot truly offer justice. It's a review of the author's fieldwork on that topic, exploring several cases of restorative justice and their outcomes.

The Big Book of Restorative Justice - This is basically an omnibus of four major works on restorative justice.

Until We Reckon: Violence, Mass Incarceration, and the Road to Repair - This book delves specifically into the relationship between violent crime and mass incarceration in the U.S. and how restorative justice can provide a better path to addressing those problems. It's a good starting point for understanding why restorative justice is so important, why punitive justice isn't working, and how to talk to people who may not be fully on board about prison abolition.

I'd also recommend reading up on the prison system in Norway, and how restorative justice has given them one of the lowest crime and recidivism rates in the world!

Finally, for a more micro, personal view on restorative justice, I highly recommend looking into responsive parenting. I strongly believe that a more just world starts from birth for every child. Parents taking a responsive, restorative approach to parenting rather than a punitive one leads to more compassionate, emotionally intelligent humans who are less likely to do intentional harm, and more likely to take accountability for and initiate attempts to repair unintentional harm.

My favorite book on this topic is Momma Cusses by Gwenna Laithland, mom of three. She also does a podcast with fellow responsive parent Tori Phantom called Childproof, where they delve into various topics related to responsive parenting, especially how they handle it when it gets hard.

Happy reading!

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About~

📝 General Info

🔸 First joined tumblr I think around 2011/2012, left for a while, lurked around the internet for a bit, and came back about a year ago. I don't have other social media.

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🔎 About Me (no particular order)

✳️ Unitarian Universalist, pagan-ish

✳️ Antiauthoritarian Left-ish

✳️ Nonbinary lesbian

✳️ Married 10+ years to my lovely trans wife

✳️ Parents to an awesome elder gen alpha

✳️ Physically, mentally, and chronically disabled

✳️ white USAmerican

✳️ 30s

✳️ advocate for antiracism and intersectionality

✳️ working class, long-term housing/food insecure

✨📖 Currently reading: "A Wizard of Earthsea," by Ursula K Le Guin; "Momma Cusses," by Gwenna Laithland; "The Obelisk Gate," by N. K. Jemison; "Sourcery," by Terry Pratchett; "Fablehaven," by Brandon Mull (with kiddo)

✨📺 Currently watching: Outlander (rewatch), Xena Warrior Princess (hiatus, my source got nuked)

🔹📝 Annual Reading List (so far)

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🚫 engagement/rage bait

⚠️ Nothing against these, just for curating purposes (mostly just tags) : kink/bdsm, polyam/enm, porn/nsfw/mature

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"How you talk to your kids becomes their first inner voice" quote from Gwenna Laithland of the Childproof podcast. Highly recommend a listen especially if you're actively reparenting yourself

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Important note: There's a difference between someone who offers advice and funny stories about parenting that sometimes include their kid who wants to be in the video (Gwenna Laithland) and mommy influencers (Ilana Wiles)

When you call "influencers" what they are, freelance marketers, it makes the phrase "mommy/family influencer" sound just as dark as it is in reality.

They are using their children to sell you things. Some of these people intentionally have children solely in order to use them as marketing devices.

They aren't harmless or wholesome. They are expanding and normalizing new and different forms of familial abuse to a worldwide audience

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Momma Cusses by Gwenna Laithland

“I am not a perfect parent and that’s okay. I am doing my best and that’s enough. I am learning how to be a parent just like my kid is learning how to be a person.” Gwenna Laithland, Momma Cusses: A Field Guide to Responsive Parenting & Trying Not to Be the Reason Your Kid Needs Therapy From Goodreads: There are lots of experts out there who will tell you they have the magic recipe to raising…

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'Tell Me You Have Kids' TikTok Challenge Is Hilarious

https://tinyurl.com/ybcfnrck 'Tell Me You Have Kids' TikTok Challenge Is Hilarious - https://tinyurl.com/ybcfnrck Gwenna Laithland, momma of three, started a TikTok trend that is cracking up parents everywhere. It goes ...

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Momma Cusses: A Field Guide to Responsive Parenting & Trying Not to Be the Reason Your Kid Needs Therapy by Gwenna Laithland

⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐ Rating: 4.5 out of 5. 4.5 stars I’m not a parent, nor do I really plan on becoming one. Despite this, I really wanted to read Gwenna’s book. I follow her on TikTok, and I find her parenting techniques very interesting. She is also hilarious, so I just had to read her book. The thing is, this book was great, even for a childless person! I may not have children, but this book is very…

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Two of my favorite "gentle-parenting" creators, Gwenna Laithland and Tori Phantom, have a podcast called "Childproof". Even if you aren't a parent, I very much recommend it, because it has helped my relationship with myself so much.

I know, especially those of us who are already adults - you hear "gentle-parenting" and think of a saccharine baby talk voice and kids who are wild animals. This is not that. But they explain things to their kids, including why some rules exist.

Telling your kids "You have to obey me because I'm feeding and housing you" is just gonna train them to never ask for or accept help as adults because the attached strings just aren't worth it. I believe parents who say this also send their friends a bill when they pay for lunch.