#gfd is not an inclusive space

[sweetbunnykook]

I'm a GFD and I've been around your blog for quite some time! You're the sweetest most precious bean and I really love your personality. I try to keep my gcs and spaces as inclusive as possible. I'm South Asian. If you want, you can talk to me, I'd like to be friends with you, could give you my snap as well, if your dms are open. Love 💜.

My DMs are always open but my snap is private so unfortunately that is unavailable. So happy to meet a fellow GFD, thank you for all these compliments!! :D  

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[domreaderrecs]

damn, i kind of agree with most of your takes. especially 8!💕💕not sure about 10, i wouldn’t mind. could you give some nuance on 6? (🍓-anon)

6. gfd is not inclusive

i am glad you asked for nuance for this lmao i could write a whole ass essay. this is a bit long so bear with me.

you’ve hopefully seen the post i make every month about the lack of poc (specifically black men) in gentle femdom and honestly kink spaces in general

for all the inclusivity and body positivity and breaking gender norms gfd talks about, there’s no representation of brown ppl in gfd. in all the gfd content i’ve seen, including videos, nsfw art, erotica and fanfics, I can count one one hand the number of times i’ve seen black men portrayed as submissive. I think in a lot of people’s minds there’s this stereotype of black men as ultra masculine and dominant and hyper sexual beings and it’s wack af imo.

I mean as a black woman i feel more represented than them, i actually know quite a few black female dommes/gfd content creators who write the dommes/main characters in their stories as black women, but out of all of them not a single one has ever drawn or written something where the submissive boy is black.

I can see why though. When I first realized I was into gfd my preferences started changing. Suddenly I was consuming all this gfd content that always depicted white boys or asian boys, never brown boys. I started to not be attracted to black men bc I just assumed they’d never fit in the context of my sexuality or kinks because I had never seen any content that depicted them in that way. This is something I still struggle with to this day.

And even then, in terms of nsfw art or comics or whatever there’s almost no depiction of black women. So I can’t even imagine how alienated or weird black and brown male subs must feel. They’ve got society telling them they’re these dominant hyper sexual ultra masculine creatures while the community that’s supposed to be for them and claims to be so inclusive never actually includes them in their media.

and it’s definitely a wider societal problem even outside of a kink or sexual context. The stereotypes and harsh generalizations and toxic masculinity they have to deal with even from a young age is connected to the fetishization of their bodies and ethnicities and how they aren’t allowed to exist in kink spaces. that’s part of the reason why it’s so hard to find representation of them in nsfw media bc you can’t find it unless you explicitly search for it but if you search for it, all that will come up is shit like BLACK SLAVE GETS DOMINATED BY WHITE MISTRESS or even worse, BLACK BULL BBC GETS USED BY WHITE SLUT or some stupid shit like that. the thing is, most gfd content doesn’t contain black ppl/black men, but any material that does is specifically focused around their blackness and fetishizing hit. it’s so stupid that i have to search black gfd to get any results (which usually aren’t gentle anyway) but i’ve never in my life had to search "white gfd".

and the craziest part about all of this is no one talks about it (at least not that i’ve seen).