#genuinely me when other trans people: 🥰

[uncanny-tranny]

I love love love when trans women* give advice to trans men* about """manly""" things and when trans men* return that kindness with advice about """womanly""" things. I love the intracommunity commitment to supporting each other <<3

[boytransmission]

havent been on much lately, logged on partly to check ur blog, and saw you just answered something horny i sent a while ago 🥰 genuinely in the most respectful non parasocial non creepy way possible i love you and smile when you post (and also jerk it sometimes..)

youre so attractive and also seem like such a lovely person.. i have been learning to feel less shame around attraction to/affection for people that arent explicitly personally asking me to express it to them (if that makes sense...) and its been nice to follow you and some other trans folks' blogs to encourage that in myself.

sooo long winded of me but. yeah :^) youre hot and im sappy and we should fuck nasty about it or something

I love the sap! Embrace it! Working on reducing that shame around attraction & affection is awesome, i struggle with the same tbh so i admire the effort. Also very glad you’re having fun on my blog hehe ;)

[royal-phoenix]

You look like the sort of person to make liking Elon Musk a personality because you haven't got one yourself. Were you dropped on your head as a baby? Were you left alone in front of the television for too long? Did your parents teach you that hating people would stop you thinking about how worthless your life is? These are all genuine questions I need to ask you. Do you honestly think that ignoring any kind and rational thought that couldn't entered your brain is going to stop you from hating yourself. Go get a therapist, please. Maybe get off social media for a while, it's obviously not doing you a world of good. Now don't even try and think up some sort of clever way to tell me that I'm an ignorant fool, we all know who you're really talking to. I mean, I can practically smell your insecurities from here. Do you wish you were born a different gender? Do you wish you could tell people who you loved/don't love? Because you kinda have made hating lgbtq+ you're whole thing at this point... I mean well done, you're so original... but anyway we all know everything we do is projecting on other people (don't understand? That's ok sweetie, didn't expect you too. Basically it means you hate yourself so much that instead of making that your internet personality, you try and pick apart the people who show similar traits to you.)

Or maybe I haven't got this quite right. Is it perhaps the classic: I know nothing about this and that makes me very frightened so I'm going to make their lives a misery...

Does that sound right?

Look I don't know about you, but having tantrums and calling people horrible words aren't going to win you anything.. didn't anyone ever tell you, you can't have everything. But then maybe that's why you're like this. Maybe you never got anything and get mad when incredibly beautiful, vulnerable groups, who have been incredibly brave, take a stand and are proud of themselves for once.

Now, I'm just making assumptions but you definitely don't sound mentally stable.. I would ask if you wanted to talk but I don't want to hear you whinging anymore than I've had to.

I hope you realise how silly you look.. how old are you? A greasy 30-40 year old man whose unemployed? A 13 year old boy with daddy issues? A 50 year old woman with karen energy and religious trauma? I mean how idiotic can we get.

To talk about cis the "slur", I mean I'm not going to take someone who calls people revolting words, seriously. I mean god if you would stop dividing cis people and trans people then we could all just be people 😭

Your. Logic. Isn't. Logic.

I mean happy pride month, I hope you have the day you deserve 😶

Don't even bother to reply, I don't want to see you pop up on my tumblr ever again just go kiss elon's ass or smth way less pg 🥰

HAHA HOW HILARIOUS YOU'VE COMPLETELY TAKEN AWAY THE ANONYMOUS THING BECAUSE YOU FEEL THE NEED TO STALK US. I mean god all you'll find on mine is some shit sketches and loads of batman reblogs 🤣 unlike you, I process my childhood trauma very differently.

Have a fucking day :)

And you sound like the sort of person who makes generalisations about people. Also, I have never seen such a long rant online - I think you need to seek mental help...as soon as you stop foaming at the mouth and pick your toys up. But thanks for making me laugh this morning - you sound so crazy and unhinged it made me chuckle thinking about you furiously typing your words whilst on the verge of a breakdown. Brilliant. Haha

You have literally just thrown a tantrum. Therefore you have no right to tell anyone else what to do. My advice: grow up, realise you are not special and don't forget to take those meds! Now off you run, mong child..

[ghoul-bonez]

HAPPY PRIDE MONTH 🥳 🎉 🎊🏳️‍🌈🏳️‍⚧️ I am so excited‼️

As my bio says I am a “Basket of Fruit” (bisexual to be specific) & I want to wish EVERYONE of every sexuality and gender a happy pride month! 🥰

Because of pride month I want to share a bit about my coming out story,

I was 12 years old and in 7th grade, and I had somehow formed a crush on a very pretty girl in the grade above me. I was confused and scared, why was I feeling like this? However, the scariest part was the other kids at my school.

I had seen my best friends get bullied for being gay or trans, and it was especially bad for my bisexual friend. I’ve found that a lot of straight people struggle to grasp the concept of being bi, and that’s exactly what was happening at my school, they didn’t understand so they bullied her.

Eventually with support from my friends I came out at school. I was surprised with the community I found throughout my school, even past my LGBT friends. People were still shitty, the boys especially. They would ask me “are you sure you’re gay?” in a way that suggested that because I still like men I couldn’t like women. They would tell me “being gay is a sin.” when they weren’t even really religious. They would ask me “are you into threesomes?” as if because I liked both I wanted both at once. We were in middle school, nobody should have been thinking about threesomes.

The first time I was called a faggot was by one of the boys at school, the sporty “popular” ones. It didn’t feel good, but I tried to not let it get to me. I didn’t really care about being called a fag myself, but I knew how it would affect some of my friends and other kids at my school, so I went to the very lesbian counselor (she was married to her wife and they had an adopted son). She straightened things out and they didn’t bother me anymore. I’m sure they bothered everyone else, but I think them getting punished for that somewhat made them see what they were doing was wrong.

Then I came out at home. I sent my parents “Gettin’ Bi” from Crazy Ex-Girlfriend. My parents were confused but called me into the tv room to talk to them. They also had no idea what bisexual was, but they did their best to understand and were very supportive, still are, and I’m so grateful they are because it’s so much worse for so many other LGBTQ+ people.

I came out to my parents the day after National Coming Out Day…

Throughout all of it I stood up for myself. I educated people and answered genuine questions I got. I helped people who were questioning understand that being bi isn’t bad and it’s valid. I taught my LGBT friends to stand up for themselves, good ways to respond to negativity. I’m proud of what I’ve done for myself and others.

Having said all that,

Being bi is valid!

Whatever you identify as is valid!

HAVE A GOOD PRIDE MONTH‼️🏳️‍🌈

[desertdxg]

man how did u find the hottest kinkiest ppl to play with teach me ur ways

im not sure if this was a rhetorical question or not BUT i'm gonna answer it seriously and in way too much detail anyway because i had some Thoughts (tm) while writing this

SO alright anon let me give ya the flowk1ng method to finding and getting the hottest kinkiest people to play with you (tho your mileage may vary):

Step 1: Download Grindr (or a similar hookup app, i really only use Grindr tho so this answer will be focussed on my experiences on there). You instantly have access to so many hot people who are probably pretty kinky just by doing this (but also- if you're trans like me anon, be careful because there are people on there who are chasers / creepy about it. The block button is your best friend!)

Step 2: Fill out your details, including kinks/things you're into, what you want out of experiences, if you can host or not, limits, etc. I am very direct in my Grindr bio. It doesn't stop the occasional dumbass from waltzing into my messages asking to eat my pussy, but it will let those hot kinky people know that you might be a good match for them

Step 3: Go message some people! Put yourself out there! I always chat people for a while before meeting up and make crystal clear what we want to happen in this encounter, what we're into, limits, establishing a safeword (if necessary). Usually your genuine creeps will reveal themselves pretty quickly, even if they don't mean to. It is insane how easily creeps tell on themselves and don't even know it. Never be desperate to meet up with someone- it's never ended well for me whenever i've done it. Good communication and transparency are key to making any good sexual/kinky relationship work. You'll find a lot of your best guys (like the ones i tend to talk about) this way, because they value those same things.

Pro Tips, some of these are lighthearted, others very serious:

1. The block button is your best friend! No really. It is. Get well acquainted with it. I have a very long Grindr blocklist because of someone who squicked me out, or was an asshole, and i've really only had like 2 bad Grindr experiences because of this.

2. Do not EVER compromise on your boundaries. EVER. If you're talking with someone, no matter how hot they seem, or how good they talk dirty and get ya goin, if they can't respect your boundaries and limits they need to kick rocks. I've compromised for a few guys and it's never been worth it.

3. Just because someone messages you does not mean they are entitled to a response from you. There are guys on all these apps, not just Grindr, who seem to think otherwise. This circles back to tip #1- the block button is your best friend.

4. A few red flags for Grindr usernames/bios i've come across:

- Capital Ts: if someone has a name like "👀 2 parTy" or something in that vein, they are typically into hard drugs, most specifically, crystal meth. If that's not your scene, avoid like the plague.

- 👀TS / TS only / 4 TS / etc.: Basically if someone has "TS" in their username, especially if they have "seeking" / "looking for" before the "TS", they're a trans chaser/fetishizer. These guys also tend to be super fucking weird. I've met no normal guy with "TS" in their username or bio.

- DL or str8: These guys aren't out of the closet or open about their sexuality, which is fine! That's not the part I have a problem with. I'm actually personally stealth in my normal day to day life. But because of that, a lot of these guys tend to be huge pricks and can get very aggressive in a not sexy way. I just tend to avoid them personally

5. I use a lot of little emojis (specifically these 3: 🥰🥵🥺) when texting guys. i also tend to type in all lowercases. i'll also reply with 'mmm' or 'fuck' a lot if they say something particularly hot. For some reason it works really well with those hot kinky types you're looking for.

6. A lot of this is honestly just trying things and seeing what sticks. You eventually find a rhythm for how you wanna dirty talk, or flirt, or just generally be when you're getting ready to have some fun. What I described in #5 is what works best for me, but that may not be the case for you and that's fine! If you've found a good one for you, it'll be pretty easy to find that flow and it'll almost come natural. And tbh bouncing ideas off each other and fantasizing together between sessions is honestly one of the most fun parts of having a long term sexual relationship with someone.

7. I only give out off-app contact info (like my phone #, for example) after I've met someone in person and gotten a good feel for how they are. And after I've seen if we actually have chemistry and if i could see myself hooking up with them again. I highly recommend doing the same, it's worked very well for me so far.

Also sorry that this got so long and got into kind of dark territory at times, I just really want ya to be safe, anon (and anyone else reading), in your quest to find your own hot kinky people to have fun with! I hope this helps, haha

Thanks a bunch for the ask!

[archiebaldo1414]

I know this is like, not a hot take at all, but I just find it mind boggling how performative heteronormativity is. More so tho how you don’t realize you are being performative when you practice it.

Like, my mom’s aunt sent over a family Christmas card. On the card are all three of their kids, two of which I have no memory of seeing as long as I have memories. However, I’ve heard endless shit about the oldest daughter. She’s (apparently) this attention seeking, lazy, manly, fake woman who is fooling no one, and her gender is soooo crazy that my family, despite their very best efforts, can’t seem to stop misgendering her! Why must she make things so difficult! Anyways I see the card and am honestly a bit confused for a second as to who the genuinely gorgeous, conventionally attractive woman is until it clicks. Oh right. They’re fucking delusional. So I can’t stop looking at this card every time I’m in the kitchen with the constant internal monologue of “oh god she’s so pretty. She transitioned and she’s gorgeous (I know this doesn’t really matter but still obviously people have goals and she definitely met those damn goals), her family loves and excepts her, and oh right. Mine never will.”

My brother, being the bigoted piece of shit he is, felt the need to come home today, shine a flashlight on the card and start going “hmm, is this a…man?” Trying to get everyone’s attention. He then quickly double checked that the other girl was in fact the cis one, before doubling down becuase obviously HE CAN’T FUCKING TELL. THEY CAN NEVER FUCKING TELL. Just fucking infuriating. He legit sounded like he was reading from a script tho. If any of you have seen that jubilee clip where the woman is like

Such awesome masculine energy in here today🥰😘😊

And then one of the guys was like, so I’m trans

And she immediately cut him off to be like “I’m sooo sorry, but I just don’t see you that way”

It was the same. He has to make sure he was talking about the right woman because lord knows he can’t tell. My sister will talk about how she went over their house for Christmas and suddenly remember herself and go “he she it” and then deadname her just to make sure we all know she doesn’t see her as a woman. Despite clearly referring to her as a woman the rest of the conversation out of instinct.

Again, like I know this is not a hot take, like, at all. There is a reason I read so much fucking fanfic about healing internalized homophobia and transphobia and so much fucking found family. But it’s just like, how the fuck are situations like these not caricatures? How is this over the top shit not a skit and the real stuff more subtle? like I genuinely don’t understand. And this is coming from someone who threw themselves into that awful performance for the first 17 years of my life. Every thought I had had to be justified and checked. Every opinion had to come from someone trusted. I was told the school system was evil and trying to brainwash me and I believed it. Like how is this something happening?

Sry for this I’m just fucking angry. I’m not out, I’m fully dependent on a transphobic and homophobic family due to disability so I won’t be coming out, and if I did I’d be treated like shit no matter what. I could fully transition and be a dad with a beard and I don’t think they’d see me as a man then. I’ll wear something feminine one time and they’ll use it as ‘proof’. I just want to be exposed to some different people man.

[bellsyafterdark]

Hi I hope you're having a good day! I just wanted to pop by and say I came across your blog about 2 days a go and I've been steadily reading your works. You're an amazing writer but mainly I just wanted to say how greatful I was too see someone writing ftm experience and doing it so well (I've found it really tricky to find anything that feels genuine and not trans fetish) and it just about has made my week so thankyou 💚

Aw this message made my evening, thank you! I'm glad you've enjoyed the works and also that you've been able to enjoy the depictions of Din as trans ftm. I wanted it to inform but not define his experience because it shouldn't. None of us are a single dimension and even when I'm writing porn-- or maybe especially-- I want to enjoy the characters as fully dimensional people with histories, wants, conflicts, and anxieties, etc.

Now, I am almost certain that one day somebody will arrive in my inbox with the impression I've fetishised Din as a trans man because it triggered something in them from their personal journey. Those feelings are valid and real, and I'm sorry they've suffered for it. Humans can be shitty and if there's anything I've learned these past few years from my trans friends, it's that it's a hugely diverse experience. Like any. You've all had different journeys and are un/comfortable with different things.

I hope to mitigate offence by, well, demonstrating that I have in fact fetishised my cast equally. 😂

Paz the breeding stud who gets lovingly bullied into admitting how much he also wants permission to lay down his responsibilities, occasionally reduced to how much he can fill Din up? Fennec the mega domme with a literal belly of steel and toy collection as wide as Paz's service kink, who is in complete denial of how much she wants to let herself be loved? Boba the Big Daddy who just wants to show others a better life than what he endured, who would happily live out his days with someone he loves sitting on his cock, if only he himself wasn't sitting on a throne with imposter syndrome?

If you're on this blog, there's an explicit understanding you proceed because you're over 18 and you understand I am writing porn. 🥰 It may be dressed up in soap opera drama but it is what it is. For anyone reading my ball and chain au esp, I hope you'd come away with the feeling that if you were also ftm who decide not to get bottom surgery, you deserve to be worshipped (destroyed?) as well as Din with his pack.

All bodies are hot af. Sorry, my pansexual side is showing. 🤣🤣🤣 Idc what other pans say, ever day we suffer and stray further from God lmao it's way too much fun.

My stories where Din is labelled trans, it has occured to me that so far they're all explicit works. And I'd like to vary that up because, to me, I think it's a problem. But it's also made me think-- in the stories where Din keeps his clothes on, we don't need the assumption that he is cis. But rather than backtrack and re-label them, I thought it would be disingenuous because I did have him in my head as cis through those stories. I'd like instead to add to the minority where trans characters keep their clothes on.

I read a lot of the dialogues exchanged between trans readers to do my best to write porn... respectfully? 😂😂 It doesn't matter who has what genitalia or equipment, these characters would all behave exactly the same.

In another timeline, I'm writing about the pack taking apart cis Din with his Jacob's ladder cock piercings, anal tunnel plug and milking his prostate until he's crying.... (No please nobody submit asks about that I already have a backlog 😅) I'm seriously tempted to return to my intersex Din headcanons so I can just give him all the equipment and destroy him in every possible way (e.g. my vampire Din story and this is how he looks after you series). But then I would worry about misstepping with my intersex readers, I know your experiences are way more complicated than that.

The truth is I am a Din Djarin fetishist in every possible iteration of him. I don't care how it happens or which genitalia he has at the time. It just needs to happen. I need that grumpy murder dilf with a heart of gold made to rest by people bigger, meaner yet incongruously sweeter than him. I need it loud, yearning and messy. And sometimes the soft, slowest burn. I'm so fucking greedy for it, I won't lie.

In my observations of trans readers arguing for or against trans depictions, it has absolutely driven home that what people do or do not find acceptable is subjective (like all art) so I've done my best to label and tag appropriately, enabling readers to make informed decisions to protect themselves and hopefully have posts they don't want automatically hidden from them.

If you ever see something that I could reasonably adjust, please do reach out to share your ideas with me. There are no perfect solutions because we're all so varied in our needs, but it's always worth considering to mitigate the damage. 💛

[rubyneo]

Making a new pinned post bc I lost my other one. Basic info can be found in my bio 🥰

I'm Cherry/Cj/Sage (they/them) and I'm your friendly local artist/writer/editor/general nuisance.

I post a lot about R/WBY, but you'll also be able to find posts about a lot of other stuff (S/PN, Ha/nnibal, 911, M/DZS, DC comics, etc)

I use tags for my mutuals and friends! Generally by name, but if I'm talking about multiple or in general I use the tag my internet mutual polycule is better than yours.

Bastardmance tag is for my wife Daisy/Rose moonedknights <3

I also have an untagged queue running with mainly aesthetic posts. (Sometimes I tag these, and you can find them under cj.aes, words, and poetry)

I tag vent-y/annoyed posts with cj.vent and salt tag, so you can filter those if you don't want to see those posts.

CHERRY BRANWYNS R/WBY FANDOM INDISCRETIONS:

if you're here because of the fallout between blaire tran/sjnpr and i last year: yes im still a big meanie who hates fun and popular ships, yes im still a nasty "panphobe" who thinks pansexuality and bisexuality are the SAME THING and pan people owe bi people $30 every time they say otherwise. here's my venmo for that :)

if you're here because of my past bmb/lb edits, posts, stories, headcanons, or the bee bible itself: im not a bee shipper anymore, though i can occasionally be convinced to make edits of them for friends or nice anons.

if you're here because you want to see if im a mean nasty little anti: bro i genuinely do not care anymore if i dont like you im gonna block and move on. if i dont like the content you produce im gonna block and move on. its very simple. dont bother me and im not gonna bother you. im 21 i dont care about pro v anti discourse anymore i just wanna make my blorbos kiss

if youre here because of ladybug: hiiii <3 please go pre-order the zine <3

if youre here because of the ECM weirdo freak post, yes i still think he is.

I DO unironically ship Qrow/Tyrian now. Cry about it <3

I think Sno/wfall is boring. It was cool at first but y'all had to make it a bland ass ship.

I've had this particular blog since November 2018, there's opinions on here that I don't hold anymore. I'm now a Cinder and Mercury fan, I think Cinder AND Salem are getting redeemed.

I still view Roman and Neo through a platonic lense and I don't take Roman Holiday as "canon" because of the stuff outlined in those linked posts.

Subsection of the above: I still think Neo is roughly the same age as the rest of the protagonists. (So 19-21)

I am a big meanie who hates popular ships. BB is boring, NND is interesting through a lense of Salem/Ozma's pattern being repeated and perhaps the issue of whether to bring Penny back or not giving the heroes sympathy for Salem's tragedy, FG was boring, WR is cool when my friends talk about it but too many of you are weird about it.

OTHER:

If you're here because of my donation post for my kitten: hi! Bumble went in for his surgery on 03/03/2022 and is healing at home. My mother loaned me $1k to pay it off and I'll be paying her back as I can.

I'm mainly a mobile user, so I may not notice if I've reblogged from someone nasty, so please feel free to send me an ask with a description of/link to the post and I'll happily delete it.

Trigger tagging: I TRY to remember to tag stuff, but I'm often using the fast reblog and queue functions so I'll probably miss things. Please let me know if you need something specific tagged.

Bi vs Pan discourse: I'm panphobic now.

Slurcourse: Stop trying to gatekeep slurs from people who are targeted by them 😭😭😭 Bi women are called the d slur, any flavor of gay person is called the f slur, cis people arent going to ask if im transfemme or transmasc before calling me the t slur when they find out i'm trans. The q slur is a slur as much as it's an identity.

Subset of the above: Use whatever identifier makes you feel comfortable, don't call ME q***r. Posts with it are tagged "q word" for blacklist usually.

Just...show respect and compassion for other people and don't call people slurs without their permission.

[pftones3482]

You know I'm glad I don't interact with the supergirl fandom (or most of the arrowverse fandom tbh) anymore

Cause I just went in the tag bc I was genuinely bummed about Williams death - I feel like his character deserved better, and his death was badly done (he had his phone in hand while he was dying and he DIDNT call Alex about her KIDNAPPED DAUGHTER? Very out of character for him).

But the whole tag is nothing but "I GUARANTEE supercorp will happen I know it 🥰" and I just....man ship what you want, but y'all better not be pissed when it doesn't happen, because I don't want to see you treat the cast and crew of this show the way you apparently treated Williams actor (seriously, you people disgust me. Just cause you don't like a character doesn't mean you be nasty to their actor)

Cause supercorp ISNT going to happen. There's already an interracial lesbian couple, and an inter...alien? couple featuring a trans woman, and we KNOW how the CW is. Can't have too much diversity 🙄

But man that's all the tag is and after that weirdness of an episode I was just hoping to find a couple posts about how the rest of the episode went. But instead it's all "oh well Williams dead no one likes him anyway," and "omg supercorp 😍" and basically nothing else.

Like I said, ship what you want. But after the grossness I saw in the supergirl tag towards William and his actor, I don't wanna hear a fucking word from y'all when your ship doesn't sail. His actor didn't deserve the hatred, and neither do any other cast and crew members.

[causticsunshine]

thanks for speaking up alex and i’m sorry you have to deal with all this absolute bullshit. you’re a genuine, honest, loving blog (at least that’s the vibe i’ve always had, not trying to be prescriptive). i just wanted to thank you and send you some love bc you clearly put a lot of love into your message about lmao literally just masking up and assholes just decided to willfully ignore all of the words on their screen. anyway hope you’re doing okay and that you get to find some joy and rest sometime soon. love ❤️❤️

thank you sm for this anon, really 🥺💗 i’ve been dealing with people nonstop sending me shit from ‘congrats to finally hating ugly ass mediocre louis’ to ‘wow i guess you really were a harrie all along, so glad you’re showing your true colors now’ and ‘stupid larrie finally seeing the light’ etc etc. just constant nitpicking at literally everything i said and how i said it and it’s been stressing me out all day 😔😔

really idk how many anons i’ve blocked and asks i’ve deleted due to people just straight up harassing me and being so angry for literally asking louis to wear a mask when he’s meeting fans and around people outside, because the US still has really bad numbers and i’d like him to be safe and shockingly don’t want him or anyone else to get sick??

it just comes to show how warped the fanbase and its micro-communities have become. you literally can’t praise H or L without people taking it as an insult to the other and vise versa. fans will get so angry at ANYTHING nowadays that they’ll tear apart everything and anything said just because, what, it reminds them these people they’re so overly obsessed with, and often times have no boundaries regarding, are actual human beings and should be treated as such, instead of untouchable gods that can do no wrong?

like my mind is just blown that me saying ‘hey louis, i Love and Care you, please be smart and wear a mask when you go meet people because you’re traveling for a tour that was already delayed and are currently in a country—where i live!—where i know the covid numbers still spike pretty often; i just don’t want you or someone you work with to get sick because you’re going around maskless, additionally considering a lot of fans aren’t wearing their masks either when they’re in the pit. just please be safe and take care and i’m really excited to see you in march 💗’ was taken as a message of hate, hypocrisy, overdramatized, etc etc. i literally wanted to avoid the simple act of calling out something that i thought should be addressed by putting a lot of love into that post and showing i care and still people took it as hate and that i’m not a real fan.

i literally dressed like louis for a year and a half when i was in high school, haircut and everything and he helped me realize i was trans through my rampant gender envy, but okay yeah i hate louis and i’m definitely a solo harrie as if they’re not also fucking awful just in their own unique way same soup just reheated lmao

again, thank you for the lovely message, i really appreciate your kindness 🥰🥰

and to everyone else being kind in their tags and supporting what i was trying to say, thank you to you as well 💗💗💗

[friendofflowersandfrogs]

just know that as a trans person who makes the token cis friend joke sometimes that when i do it i never mean it as exclusion-y towards someone Still in the community by being bi/gay/queer/aro/etc. sexuality labels cover more of the acronym than trans/gender ones anyway haha. u are 1000% an important part of the community and we love u!! i make em cuz cis ppl have privilege i like to joke about sometimes, not to make anyone actually feel bad. if ur with all/only trans ppl, ur being cis is probably gonna come up in some way and maybe that joke is one way they do it. if it genuinely feels bad u should talk to ur friends abt it, i'm sure they would understand. if not, they don't sound like great friends. i just don't want it to make u not like trans ppl or not like urself for being cis, u are great the way you are!!

Thank you for speaking up!! It’s nice to hear peoples thoughts and reassuring 🥰

I don’t mind being the token cis, not really. I actually find it funny. And I could never hate trans or nb people!! Im well aware that I have privileges as a cis person and it disgusts me and I hope one day gender won’t be a dividing line and everyone can accept each other for who they are, u know? Idk it seems most of the people I’ve met recently in the community are genderqueer in some way, as though one automatically meant the other, and of course the joke didn’t help my growing insecurity (although Ik it was a harmless joke and it is kinda funny and I totally get it! You gotta take the wins and humor where you can. You’ve more than earned it I mean come on all the shit y’all suffer through makes me wanna punch all the other cis ppl sometimes.) and my imposter syndrome kicked in…

but im working on getting rid of the notion of “not queer enough” and people like you are helping me a lot. Thank you for being so sweet this really warmed my heart. This is supposed to be a community and im glad there are people who will support each other despite their different experiences. 💖